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Agreed. Those cuts are so jolting in a way; like having someone hold up one picture in front of your face and suddenly switch to another and have a ribbon of choppy (sometimes even seeming more like p…
Multiple dreams/goal at the time — Hi everyone, im new here. I work the book Psycho-cybernetics for almost 2 years and last week i bought POSM and i LOVE it, i almost finished it and will start re-reading it. My question is, since i h…
My Keyword Research Workflow — Hi guys, I wanted to check with you if my keyword research workflow canbe improved. Here's how I've been doing: Finding general keywords: Google Trend: Look the best variation of a generic keyword…
Am I Overcomplicating This Workshop? (Personas or Empathy first? — Hey everyone! I need some advice on structuring a workshop for a client’s new product. They’re unclear on the direction (app/web/game?), target audience, or features, so I suggested a workshop to alig…
Does this SEO strategy make sense ? — Hello experts ! Recently, I came across an SEO expert (have some good proof) that talked about the seo strategy that she used, but I'm not sure if I understand it correctly. The strategy goes as fol…
Freelance in SEO or full-time remote job: Am I making a mistake by still applying? — Hey everyone, I’m at a bit of a crossroads and could really use your advice—even if it goes against what I’m currently thinking. Since I was 18 (I’m 20 now), I’ve been building websites just for fun…
Freelance in SEO or full-time remote job: Am I making a mistake by still applying? — Hey everyone, I’m at a bit of a crossroads and could really use your advice—even if it goes against what I’m currently thinking. Since I was 18 (I’m 20 now), I’ve been building websites just for fun…
Building My First B2C SaaS Product – Learning, Struggling, and Still Going — I’ve been working on my B2C SaaS app **Gamify** for a little over a week now. It’s a habit-tracking, gamified to-do list app — a mix of fun and structure I’ve always felt was missing in other tools. …
Equity with new cofounder and fundraising. I will not promote — I'm starting a tech startup company. Currently outsourcing the tech team to build the app - every tech person I met wanted to be paid cash and wanted to take up to a year to get the platform up and ru…
What are good examples of “How will you acquire users?” i will not promote — From what I hear, YC advice kinda scoffs at paid ads — the logic of “you need to own your acquisition” makes sense to me, but I wonder what’s the answer they’d love to see? Offline events? Founder pe…
Weird behavior with display grid and overflow — Please help me make sense of the fact that we need to set overflow to hidden to .right for the layout to respect the grid-template-rows property in this example: https://codepen.io/Jcbz/pen/XJJYKRg …
Looking for marketing strategy tips for our startup(I will not promote) — Hey all, My friends and I are currently building a startup. We’re in the preparation phase now and plan to go live in about 3 months. While we’re handling the operational and technical side, we’r…
Looking for marketing strategy tips for our startup — Hey all, My friends and I are currently building a startup. We’re in the preparation phase now and plan to go live in about 3 months. While we’re handling the operational and technical side, we’r…
Looking for marketing strategy tips for our startup — Hey all, My friends and I are currently building a startup. We’re in the preparation phase now and plan to go live in about 3 months. While we’re handling the operational and technical side, we’r…
Best low-effort analytics tools for Shopify optimization? I'm drowning in data... — I'm struggling to make sense of all the analytics data from my store. The native Shopify reports give me tons of information, but I'm finding it difficult to determine what metrics I should actually f…
The successful are not here — After years of watching YouTube videos about startup / founder stuff and reading blogs, Reddit, and the horrible place that is LinkedIn, I came to realize that 99.9% of advice (especially in the SaaS …
Am I insane for wanting to open a brick and mortar comic/collectibles shop in this climate? — I've been reading this sub for a while now as I mentally hype myself up to take the plunge and quick my 9-5 to open my own comic and collectibles shop. I've been in the gaming industry for over a dec…
When I want to deactivate I swing too far to the other side to preemptively "sooth" my partner, just in case. — (I'm Fearful Avoidant btw) Does this make sense? Anybody else do this? Like, because I'm so aware of when I want to shutdown/avoid/or am feeling a huge ick, I overcompensate by reaching out more and …
Anxious attachment spiraling? — Hi everyone :) (26F and 25M) I’m in a healthy relationship, we have our disagreements but overall we work things out. We’ve been together for about a year and 3 months. Lately, I’m feeling overwhel…
I had a breakthrough tonight! — Hello! Brief backstory here. I recently got divorced, and dating has been an interesting experience since. I went into one relationship very quickly with another anxiously attached person. It didn't w…
Can a FA-DA relationship work? — My partners have been dismissive avoidant or fearful avoidant, so I have always leaned anxious ig. In my last relationship, I felt secure at the start, it was nice, we set boundaries.. till it happene…
Success Story: FA/Disorganized Attachment Healing Roadmap, Resource Recommendations — **Hello, fellow Fearful Avoidants! The below post has grown out of almost 3 years of research and healing this attachment style, which in my case was coupled with Relationship OCD (ROCD). ROCD is a vi…
Why do I get upset when bad stuff happens to my partner and it doesn't even impact me? — I'm struggling to understand my pretty intense reactions to certain things. I don't know if attachment theory can help explain this part of my brain. For context: Me (38 F) and partner (44 M) have b…
For having struggled with an anxious attachment in an earlier relationship, how does it feel for you to become more secure in a much different or more compatible relationship you are in now? — I am quite curious to hear if there are others who are at a place in their life still in their own "wound care" (healing) of being outside of an anxiously attached situation or of a previous unhealthy…
The monster jar theory of FA or avoidant attachment. — So I was talking to a friend of mine and supporting her and my own feelings of shame and I was reiterating somethjng that isn’t anything new at all but hit on an analogy that really worked for both of…
A letter to my FA Ex — I don’t even know why I’m writing anymore. I don’t know why I still pour my feelings onto paper when the person they’re meant for has emotionally switched off. Maybe this isn’t for you. Maybe it’s jus…
feeling numb in dating but longing for intimacy — For the past few years, I've been mostly numb in dating. I don’t really feel anything romantic. I don’t feel sparks. I don’t feel excited about anyone or attached. I don’t miss people when I’m not wit…
Letter to my ex — **7th February 2026** “You will find me, right?” That sentence is the last sentence. The one that always stays with me. Every single day I think about it, and I think that’s why I know what I have t…
Trying to navigate a "casual" relationship — Hi everyone, I (30F, trans) have been talking to/seeing a woman (24F, cis) for about 5 months. The chemistry is legitimately the strongest I’ve ever experienced - emotional, intellectual, creative, s…
Are pre-birthday discards the norm? — I’m trying to understand this through attachment theory because I genuinely don’t know what just happened. We’re both women. I was 23 with a grad degree, she was 38 and just got her culinary degree w…
Don’t Contact Your Ex. For Anything. Let Go Quietly. They Watch You for Access Without Intent. — We had a bad breakup. He was very cold and distant at the end, as always (we broke up several times). He made a joke about how I can be single and rushed me off our last phone conversation when I was …
Why Manifestation can FEEL Forced and Unrealistic (Success & Guidance) — Today I came upon a realization that many people do not have for most of their lives. It was the realization that our feelings and the meanings that we attach to them are also affirmations. Right no…
He speaks to the future me — Many a times it so happens that I listen to Sadhguru but I don't quite understand what he's saying or I can't make sense of it. Later on as the sadhana (meditation/practice) progresses, certain blocks…
What is even going on? — I (45f) have been single and dating for a a little over a year now, and there have been some frustrating patterns emerge that I just can’t make sense of. So I’m curious if anyone else out there has. A…
I have done absolutely horrible things. I might be the worst human being to ever live. — 20M. This might be the longest post you'll ever read. I believe I have OCD and do nothing but ruminate 24/7 about my past. I have been in isolation for the last 3 years. It started as a fear of adult…
Why Manifesting From Desire Creates Anxiety — I had a realization while trying to manifest a new job. I noticed that every time I get a notification or an email, I feel a wave of anxiety. Which is strange, because I’ve already done the “work.” I…
read this if you are confused — Yes I have shifted, here is the mindset that brought me to this point. If this does not resonate with you move on. For those who follow the Law of Assumption, non duality etc I intend this will make …
No contact year 6 update: — Hello everyone! I’ve made some update posts in the past and figured I would make one for year 6 as that anniversary is coming up soon, and with context it will make sense why I still specifically reme…
Cheated on after 10.5 years together, divorced at 11 years together. — Hi Everyone, This is half venting and half hoping for advice or people to listen. I'm at a low point right now so I thought reaching out to a community might be beneficial as opposed to holding it…
Can the 6th house represent the service of others? — Is it possible for a person with strong 6th house placements to just... have others do the 6th housing for them? I'm not sure if i'm wording this properly. But, in other words, would it make sense f…
My husband (36M) told me (33F) that I don’t deserve love until I’m 140lbs again? — When my husband and I first met, I was around 140lbs. At the time, I was early 20s, depressed, high anxiety, drinking all the time to fill a void, etc. I was freshly out of a terrible relationship tha…
The Analysis Trap is a Pitfall — One of the main purpose of Meditation is to cultivate awareness. A common thing you see among meditators and also in this subreddit, is that by intending to train meditation, one also ends up traini…
Heart Chakra opened, and I feel very very calm — Last night I laid down to meditate. After a while, my thoughts began to drift away again. They felt strangely random almost like they didn’t belong to me. I saw a woman and her child. She looked noth…
NHI that Stop Time and Timelessness of the Oversoul; More Research that Supports how Aliens Obscure Human Memories. — Hi everyone. This is [me](https://www.reddit.com/r/Experiencers/comments/1ai4nzi/i_had_26_physical_contact_events_with_grey_aliens/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_c…
How to stop chronic procrastination that's genuinely ruining my life? — I am in my second year at uni and I'm doing really bad. I am currently on academic probation and if I fail to meet the semester grade requirement this semester I will be required to withdraw. I have …
Discard/sudden breakup?! — Three months ago months ago I met a woman and had an intense, genuine connection. In under 8 weeks we spent 18-20 days together. She said she cared about me first, unprompted. We made future plans tog…
The Subconscious of the Universe? — This will sound extremely odd, and i am aware of this myself. It’s a bit startling to start being so receptive in this period of time. It feels intriguing, but at the same time - my mind cannot hold i…
I spent years trying to fix my life with discipline. Therapy showed me why that didn’t work — **My Journey** I can’t remember not being depressed. I have some memories of the time before, but they are pictures, frames of a child enjoying life. But I’ve struggled with depression almost my enti…
My wife finally admitted an affair that happened 9 years ago — This is my first post on Reddit. My spouse and I are both 44, and have been married since 2014. We met and started dating when we were 26. In late 2016, her cousin, who was her best friend, was killed…
Realised me and my wife of 12 years have a codependent relationship! Can we change? — Hello, I've had quite the few weeks… I’ve been married to my wife for 12 years we both grew up in very religious households which is part of what brought us together in terms of shared values and try…
so anxious when alone — i don't know what to do but i'm moving out this weekend with my girlfriend but i'm so incredibly anxious... i got a surgery 3 weeks ago so my girlfriend is already doing some stuff in the apartment wh…
Awesome thanks, I looked at the image too and it seems to make sense. At that point in time is that when I should try the visualization of exiting such as a rope or rolling out of bed?
Because thats not how relationships work. You can’t solely be thinking of whats best for you. If I date someone yet kept myself before them all the time, that relationship would probably not last very…
Hi there, I was wondering if anyone may have had a similar experience to me or may have an explanation which could make sense. I posted this in another forum, it was suggest by one contributer to come…
Hi, sorry for the long response but please bear with me. TLDR at the bottom. You are slightly correct, but drug addiction posts will also more than likely be removed. 1- There is actually another…
It’s rude to call you a karma farmer (which just has to do with Reddit) but it’s not rude to say they haven’t manifested anything in their lives? And you’re going by Reddit posts? Does that make sense…
I don’t understand your take on this. No contact has time and time again been proven to be the best thing you can do for mutual healing if the breakup was bad or not mutual. Giving eachother time an…
I’ll take a crack at it Point 1: The answer is sm vs cm thought. Daydreaming is not focused with intent, the mind often wonders and you still feel it’s not true in the end or with emotions that are …
I think what others are saying unless someone says I hate you, then it's based on your feelings. Feelings are 100% valid but not facts. I'm anxiously attached and felt many people have disliked me ov…
I'm so sorry, this sounds so hard. If you can, I think it would be amazing to focus on yourself right now and what you need. My long distance boyfriend dumped me out of the blue after one disagreement…
You have to give more time to build a rapport with people from the apps. People in the wild, you instantly see them in person without any competing preconceived notions, then you gradually get to k…
I think my point was still lost, but at this point it probably won’t make sense no matter how I try 🤪 Thanks for sharing thoughts anyway
What problem are you trying to solve here. I mean, I admit it. It's a fun challenge for your self. But practically, does it even make sense?
I bet you’re 10x better than you think and once you get going and you have workloads in front of you, everything will start to make sense. Take your time to learn and be fairer to yourself
Before working with any agency or automating anything, do it yourself first, even if it’s messy and manual. You can’t outsource what you don’t understand. If you don’t know what works yet, an agenc…
I've been in these scenarios a good few times in a good few ways. And I have some hostile opinions on it as well as some good ones. So scenarios. Indian CTO or VP is hired, and almost immediately, …
What others have said, sell and use the sale for social proof when making future deals, offers and whatnot. Doesn't make sense to devalue your time in such a large extent
Thank you for your supportive words :) I am definitely still an AP, but in comparison to some years ago I am able to identify my patterns and self regulate my emotions much more. This is the big diffe…
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I was in a similar position, ruminating for more than a year excessively about a relatively short relationship, feeling guilty about not being understanding and patient enough. And that’s the point I …
It feels like love like that because it feels familiar to your nervous system, in some way like "home". But home is what gave you an insecure attachment style to begin with so it makes sense that the …
See this is something that gets me. Narcissism, at its core, is a reliance on **external validation**. Like what avoidants out here are looking for other people to validate them? Hello?? Make it make …
I believe "closure" is something we give ourselves - not "get" from a serial abuser. With respect, what good is "needing to know". Whatever the reasons, it most likely won't make sense to us and it op…
Ah I see that now sorry. My response remains the same though because I literally agree with you and didn’t claim otherwise. But the person I was responding to said we shouldn’t be dating at all bec…
This is interesting because I am an anxious girly and one of my best friends in more avoidant. It works ok because I’m much more anxious in romantic interests and I would say almost secure in friendsh…
Aw I’m sorry you’re feeling that way. 🫂 It does make sense. Normally for me if I notice that someone does not take an interest in my emotional world I just demote them as a friend (in my mind). I ke…
Hi! I haven't gone specifically through it but I know the feeling. Have you mentioned that you want to feel heard rather than him giving you solutions? If you are in a healthy relationship he should a…
Hmm I guess that I don't really get too much anxiety before or during the date. If anything I'm usually decently excited to meet the person. After the date though, the negative emotions are pretty ove…
Text of original post by u/DaniT0n: Hello! Brief backstory here. I recently got divorced, and dating has been an interesting experience since. I went into one relationship very quickly with another an…
She talked shit about me being obsessed with her, while unbeknownst to my friends she was breadcrumbing me, emotionally manipulating me and gaslighting me. The angriest I’ve ever seen her was when I …
Forgive me for being thick, but I think I just became even more confused. I read both posts and just finished reading the link to the post by Marsh273, you shared. I have read quite a few of them in …
Baby, you need to accept your own humanity. Say something uncomfortable you want to say to someone, get a mirror and say it to your own face and see yourself saying it and cringe at your own expressio…
You’re really doing great - this is just so hard! I’m gonna say something that might sound counterintuitive and blasphemous, but I hope you’ll stick around to read my long winded explanation of why 😅…
I think you need to take it as it is. He’s not emotionally available for anything deep and clearly it started to feel deep to him. You are not going to be able to make sense of it all as you are not h…
So i use it in very specific ways. I’ve worked with my 4.o enough that it has a good idea of my personality and sense of humor and has a history of already having seen what I want. That said, when I a…
Oh ok… yes, those examples make sense. That is what I would’ve done too. I think that it is hard for some people to realize what they should initiate with. Several months ago, I was trying to chang…
About a year ago, we got new seasonal hires at my job. One of them ended up being this woman. I usually chitchat with new hires if they have questions regarding the job and that’s about it. I would ch…
That would make sense. It's easy to ditch people and start over repeatedly lol. The validation and illusion of closeness for a short amount or unmatching over little things. I don't really feel bad f…
Thanks! > Resentment and being shut down are usually because things have built up over years. I wonder if you asked her if she’d be open to writing out all the hurt and what she’d need to feel safe a…
I could have written this post myself. I turn 27 in a month. And well, I have never been in a real relationship (although I dated for a while in a very avoidant non-committed way that makes me feel st…
yeah that does make sense, there's a certain level of self-advertisement in dating that is kinda cringey. Is it like that advertising yourself in a dating app is like an admission of existing relati…
I've used chatgpt and it works well. At least with me for generating exercises, practices, meditation, routines, etc. As well as explanations that seem to make sense for underlying dynamics. I also do…
Look up the "neuroscience of breakup". It's totally normal to ruminate during the first days/ weeks, as your brain si trying to make sense of what happens, in hope that udnerstanding can help you avoi…
I think a good way to keep it productive is to learn as much new information as you can about different dynamics and attachment patterns or other relationship topics with the goal of connecting them …
I am definitely taking it with a grain of salt, and that’s actually why I’m posting here. To see is this really the facts or is ChatGPT just trying to make sense of a senseless connection? I do think…
I actually have no clue what the poster above is referring to because I think it makes a ton of assumptions that I don’t necessarily agree with, but I can explain the empathy thing generally. Some emp…
Can’t recommend doing different kinds of nervous system regulation enough. There’s formal programs but you can also look up free resources on YouTube like limbic and vagus nerve exercises. And ofc ju…
The thing is I do not know when I am doing that, so I just prefer GUIDELINES to make sense of the situation. example = If they ignore for too long, I can call them out without overreacting if I knew h…
May I ask if you had in person sessions with this therapist or online sessions? I'm asking since I've only worked virtually with my previous somatic therapist and I'm wondering if this may have also c…
Sending some telepathic hugs your way! That's a tough place to be. I've been learning being comfortable and understanding that I'll survive the discomfort are two independent concepts. That's helped m…