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When you stop centering your whole life around a relationship (or lack thereof), it is a good idea to find something else to put your energy into that feeds your soul. I think "the thing" that you fo…
Start Here: Essential Resources & FAQs — The idea for this post came up in [this thread](https://www.reddit.com/r/Wordpress/comments/1cpme25/mods_can_this_subreddit_implement_a_minimum_karma/) by wiz to avoid the number of similar questions …
Why do so many websites of major companies suck? — I just went on [sephora.fr](http://sephora.fr) for the first time in years (I don't really shop there anymore, or I go in person). The website not only looks like it was designed 15 years ago and has …
Anyone up to date about what's happening with TikTok? — I recently started a new venture (media publishing company) that would be a perfect fit for promoting content on TikTok. The MVP is almost finished and I’m looking to start posting and funneling my a…
Should I try to learn SEO or just hire someone? — My family just opened a small pet supplies business. I used to be into web design and tech stuff years ago so I was able to throw together a simple website. The thing is, I have no clue about SEO. I …
Okay so marketing deadlines are just the worst right? — Okay so marketing deadlines are just the worst right? It's like you plan everything out, content calendar looking solid, then BAM design bottlenecks. Anyone else feel like waiting on graphics is alw…
I cannot figure out why Google Search Console keeps indicating "Couldn't fetch" — I'm looking over a client's website and one of the things I found was their sitemap doesn't report being crawled since last September. I resubmitted the exact map that was crawled (happens to be plura…
SEO vets - what actually works for ranking nowadays? — Hey, So I’ve been diving into SEO for a bit now — took a dozen free courses (Semrush, Hubspot), read some articles by people like Brian Dean, etc. Thought I was starting to get the hang of it. But a…
Equity with new cofounder and fundraising. I will not promote — I'm starting a tech startup company. Currently outsourcing the tech team to build the app - every tech person I met wanted to be paid cash and wanted to take up to a year to get the platform up and ru…
What to do with LLMs taking over? I'm LOST. — So we are in the era of AI and LLM, I got it. I've invested 20 years of my life into coding and information technology. (I've got a degree and such, I even have a personal blog with programming stuff…
What do I do with an empty property? — A little background on me first. I’m a dentist, I already own my own practice which I’m not looking to relocate. Next to my practice my there is a 2800 square foot property with a small garden at th…
Duolingo leader throws shade at r/UXDesign — You all might remember this thread a few months ago, [debating Duolingo renaming UX to “Product Experience.”](https://www.reddit.com/r/UXDesign/comments/1j3hvkw/duolingo_renames_ux/) The VP Mig announ…
Have you managed to avoid making your brand into your ego identity? — One of the things I find most distasteful about entrepreneurship is the idea of enmeshing oneself with the brand they are pushing. This is one of the biggest reasons I got out of real estate. Have you…
Approached by a big box retailer what should I know/do? — I need some help/advice. I sell a physical product on my Shopify and on some other platforms, and sell around 200-600 units a day. Well I guess big box retailers caught on and now im getting contacte…
Turns out I needed a "middleman" to have a successful relationship with a DA — Now the title may sound wild, but stick with me. # The Story So I (26M) have been dating someone (24F) who, as I came to realize, is a dismissive avoidant. It's been about a year now - though truthf…
Starting over — Heya, I don’t want this to be a negative thread— looking for some positivity and hope maybe? I (34F) am recently out of a one year relationship. It was my first secure relationship in my entire adult…
Help me to recognise my attachment style please! — I (26F) am struggling with this a lot, since my patterns of romantic behavior don’t seem to fit neatly into any of the four categories (AA, FA, DA, SA). On the one hand, I clearly crave intimacy and…
Sp related question — I have been try to manifest ex sp for a while now . Which is 2 months to be precise And we have been friends in the whole process. Selectively calling but texting twice daily for random catching ups…
How do you get over the need to be asked/the other person to initiate to prove you are wanted? — I think sometimes I get too fixated on people not being the one to initiate something I want with them which makes me feel they probably don't really wanna do it with me. Like asking to hang out, play…
How to be comfortable in new, developing relationships without devaluing them for not being as deep as a past relationship (phantom ex?) — After many months of thinking, I've come to the conclusion that one of the things that made my past relationship so special is the fact that it was the first time I had ever been in touch with someone…
Working on becoming secure has made me more susceptible to toxic relationships — I think. Here's the thing, I'm fearful avoidant, and before I was aware of attachment styles at all the moment a person I was interested in made me feel at all rejected in the slightest (took too lo…
How do you tell whether you need to push through the avoidance or if you just don’t like them as a partner — I feel silly asking this but I’m in my first serious long term relationship and I’m struggling so hard. I get very paranoid that it’s not meant to be because I feel so insanely avoidant. Like what if …
Please help me understand this feeling — So..I need some help with this. Everynow and then i get this feeling where my heart emotionally hearts. Physically there is nothing wrong with me, but my heart, it's like it's racing like to the poin…
A letter to my FA Ex — I don’t even know why I’m writing anymore. I don’t know why I still pour my feelings onto paper when the person they’re meant for has emotionally switched off. Maybe this isn’t for you. Maybe it’s jus…
Dismissive - Anxious dynamic catch 22, how could we make it work? — I'm having issues with a relationship that's really important to me. It's someone who I dated last year for 6 months. We have very intense and wonderful attraction and connection in a way that is rare…
Considering to quit therapy — I have been with my therapist for a little over a year. Up until now, he was very comfortable and not confronting me. Last session, he started to point out the various ways I push people away, and th…
Deactivation or undisclosed breakup? — I'm a FA woman...in a relationship with a dismissive avoidant....all was good, until past Christmas holidays , his bday and all situations when they deactivated.. he was the one who planned being wit…
Bf of 14 months hasn’t said I love you — My bf (35M) and I (33F) met December 2024 on a dating app and became exclusive immediately after our first date. On our first few dates he asked what I was looking for and I said I was looking for som…
I'm so tired of people. — For reference, a couple of years ago, I was in an abusive relationship that kinda changed who I am. I won't go into too much detail, but let's just say that I used to be outgoing and fun, but also I h…
Should I meet up with my ex? — Back in November 2024, I went on a couple of dates with a guy from my friend group, “Frank” (41M now). Looking back, it’s obvious to me that he was a rebound, but I genuinely didn’t realize it at the …
I'm not sure about my attachment style but I want to discover it right now 'cause I want to start healing!!!!!! — Sorry for the long text, I want to be thorough. So, I just ended my first ever relationship. I'm 20, I'm a lesbian from a conservative background and had a lot of internalized homophobia and religiou…
Are pre-birthday discards the norm? — I’m trying to understand this through attachment theory because I genuinely don’t know what just happened. We’re both women. I was 23 with a grad degree, she was 38 and just got her culinary degree w…
Getting over approach anxiety — A few days ago, I went to a local restaurant by myself to have supper. This cute woman with a pom pom on her toque was sitting in a booth across the way, with a couple guys that looked like they coul…
Is there a way to manifest myself to STOP being attracted to someone? — I’m curious if anyone here has used manifestation or LOA techniques to intentionally lose attraction or romantic interest in someone. There’s a guy in one of my classes that I find really attractive.…
My friend felt stuck for years - in session we found a core belief that life is only suffering — I did a quantum healing session for my friend Ramona and honestly what came up was intense. She has felt stuck for a long time. Putting things off, hard to get moving, hard to create, hard to do even…
My friend felt stuck for years - in session we found a core belief that life is only suffering — I did a quantum healing session for my friend Ramona and honestly what came up was intense. She has felt stuck for a long time. Putting things off, hard to get moving, hard to create, hard to do even…
Why Manifestation can FEEL Forced and Unrealistic (Success & Guidance) — Today I came upon a realization that many people do not have for most of their lives. It was the realization that our feelings and the meanings that we attach to them are also affirmations. Right no…
Life's expectancy for life & love — Unfortunately, I think for the rest of my time on this planet, I will carry a quiet fear. Even in the midst of real, full-blown love, I may never truly trust that one day I won’t be lied to, cheated o…
My boyfriend and I had an argument over his marriage demands, and now he claims he means none of it... — Tl:dr: My boyfriend of two years has a list of requirements from me after we get married, and after our argument over it, which lead us to break up-- he said he didn't mean any of it and wants to go …
A lot more people are hurt/traumatized than evil — A lot more people are traumatized/ in pain than are evil. And I won’t say that evil people simply don’t exist, they do, but there’s fewer truly evil people than there are hurt/traumatized people who d…
Parents spending all of their inheritance — This might come off as entitled, but essentially our family has always been relatively poor. About 5 years ago, a relative died and left my parents and their siblings $5m each. The relative had save…
DA healing update: searching my true self, my inner child finally seen — Some of you may know me at this point. I'm (40M) dismissive avoidant, my wife fearful avoidant (41F), together 17 years, married 13 years, 3 children. I've been working on my attachment style for 5 mo…
Read! if you were anxious ! — I am going to write this with neville goddard lectures quotes. I know it will help some of you :) **Feel the wish fullfilled :** I know some people can't generate the feeling of wish fullfilled and b…
"You can shorten the interval by intensity." — **"You can shorten the interval by intensity. Like boiling water…I can put on a pot of water in the morning and think I turned up the entire flame and I didn’t. So I wonder when I finish reading my pa…
Am I crazy? I feel like a stalker. — I (26F) don’t understand how my ex (31M) switched on me overnight, and I’m struggling to cope. We dated for almost a year. At first, he was obsessed with me. He talked constantly about our future mar…
My boyfriend (M35) and I (F27) have not said i love you, over a year of dating — TLDR; My boyfriend (M35) and I (f27) have been together for over a year, he hasn’t said I love you despite having talked about marriage, kids, future together. In a conversation he said he was apprehe…
What s month it's been — The title says it all. Confronted my wife last month on the 7th last month at 1 am and learned that she cheated on me and was talking with someone. This was after an emotional affair that I discovered…
Getting rid of nihilism/pessimism — I (24M) am a pessimistic person, it is a really bad thing and i'm struggling to get rid of this thing. A lot of things happened these last years that chopped my illusions about life, such as losing my…
My first week with the Gateway Tapes — I am so grateful that I have been able to experience what I have already and I wanted to share. I’ve been doing guided meditations for astral projection for some time now with limited results. Last w…
I feel like no one talks about parental co-dependency… — My mother and I are thick as thieves and have been ever since I was born. I grew up in a household full of boys and men, my mother being the only consistent woman in my life. I had many ups and dow…
AM silent treatment is HELL — For context- two days ago AM asked me (19F) and my sister (17F) why our cousin and our close friends are scared or intimidated by her. We started making fun of her for the things she used to do or say…
Hello I just had the weirdest dream and I don't know how to look up my specific type of dream and was so shocked I decided to come here and write. I remember going to sleep around 12:30pm after wakin…
So my husband turned me on to the idea that my weird dreams are something called lucid dreaming and showed me this sub. Pumped to be here! So periodically I will experience DILD and take control of …
It took me 2 days of thinking on this post to finally internally understand The Law of Belief vs acting as if. A person can get caught up in trying to take surface actions of acting as if, but still u…
So you do SH until you obtain the thing you want? What if it’s just a feeling, for example what if I just want the experience of feeling like everything works out for me. When my reality starts to re…
Just a few questions Mr Moonbeam. If you are so against the “act/live as if” what do you have to say about Dr. Joe Dispenza, Gregg Braden and Dr. Bruce Liptons, Napoleon Hill, Jim Rohn, Eckhart Toll…
The very first paragraph really struck me. I haven’t learned how to copy text here yet since I’m new to Reddit. But “Non-intrusive and engaged curiosity from parents about what you were feeling and ex…
I’ve read all Nevilles books several times over, but I’ll check out the lecture you’re referring to. About my successes, I manifested more money than I had ever seen before. Prior to that, I thought…
>About my successes, I manifested more money than I had ever seen before. Prior to that, I thought I’d always be broke. I even had to take a screenshot of my bank balance to remind myself of that amaz…
Hi everyone . Ive looked through your techniques for oobe and the thing for me is i can't see any ropes or any hand its all just blackness when i close my eyes.. What could i do ?
How many of you have Time Travelled In LD? Is that surprising?.. I don't think so.. The LD is limited till our imaginations... So the things that only we think or (things in our knowledge is only appl…
Feels ! Definitely my goal. Im so motivated and determined to do all the things he made me believe I'd never achieve without him 💯
Another ex messaged me today. The thing was I'm better off alone. I'm contemplating whether to reply or not. I've been left with no contact for months. 🤷🏼♀️
Me and my ex was together 2 years, really amazing time but she changed My ex left me for someone else and moved 3000 miles to be with him. She said to her friends she’s so lonely because he’s at work…
Hey, I am an overconfident twat that lacks any real creativity. I tend to just jump in on anything to feel included . Sometimes it's confusing cause I don't even understand what I'm trying to shit on.…
This all hit me so much, even 2 years after this post. Jesus there's so much wrong, so much broken in me. How could I possibly fix all the things done to me???
Getting your medicine right will make a big change. It didn’t cure my sadness and grief and fear and all the things that came with my new circumstances but when I finally got on the right dose of the …
You have the right to your truth! And accountability is needed at times for you and for them. I think there is such a thing as loving through high expectations. Avoiding the hard truth of things means…
Ive had female friends who can dettach and drop a guy as easy as theyre changing clothes and would always tell me to be like them so I dont get hurt, but the thing is I would rather be hurt than hurt …
>Work on becoming the best version of yourself Not on my agenda but I will keep going NC. I can prosper or rot, it doesn't really matter, the thing is my ex doesn't deserve to know how I am doing.
From my experience the way he described it was the confusing part, especially considering the dozen translations there are of this book. Personally I think that a few things he is not right about w…
Think of all the things you don't want but still get and vice versa. It's a really bad lane to go down if you think what you conciously beleive or 'assume' is facts.
You put yourself in the mindset to take inspired action and you achieved your goals. Sounds like manifestation to me. This sub encourages action. As for SP...I might get banned for saying this b…
The thing I’m noticing is that you guys take one thing someone said and run with it but there are layers to the teachings. It’s not simply that Neville says to imagine and it comes to pass, he mention…
You’re the only one I ever see mentioning coffee 😂I get you’re trying to be cute but I haven’t heard it once. I’m asking about *you*. Not anything thing in any sub. There are dozens of success storie…
I’ll take a crack at it Point 1: The answer is sm vs cm thought. Daydreaming is not focused with intent, the mind often wonders and you still feel it’s not true in the end or with emotions that are …
We are manifesting all the time, every day! We manifest the things we experience by focusing on them. When you are focusing on something consistently you bring it into your experience. If you looked a…
I am securely attached, and I usually don't communicate a lot after i have met up with someone. This "withdrawal" has nothing to do with my dating partner. I myself enjoy a lot of alone time, so usual…
I think it really depends on the partner and how willing they are to communicate. In my last relationship I was avoidant leaning secure and my partner was preoccupied. There were certain things I thou…
Yes, that's precisely my message! And that's why I started treating myself for my issues so aggressively since my late teens (now mid/late 20s). I didn't want to keep passing on the cycle, and this go…
Simply get back to the things that give me joy in life. Nature, cycling, career progression, healthy cooking, travel, caving, gym, movie buff, research, etc. Never abandon my identity ever again when …
You might want to look into relationship attachment styles, love bombing, and whether you're mistaking the slow burn as boring because it's stable and consistent. The excitement ppl often feel is actu…
This is where "and" is super effective. You can feel both opposing emotions! "I miss the person I fell in love with ANDi know that person no longer exists!" I miss the things we used to do AND I kn…
Bester Username 😂🤍 your reply filled me with so much pride and joy 🥺😩❣️🫂 you are doing the work. I am soo happy and glad to hear that 🤍🤍🤍 And YES! Thank you, very well worded. Your ex's *acti…
The thing is, with certain types of people you cannot afford to feel empathy because it will just be used against you. The same person begging on their knees for you not to leave them can be the same …
What would you make of an avoidant who, when unable to fully avoid, resorted to behaviors that can really only be described as hurtful? So deeply so that they nearly certainly must come from a place o…
But that’s the thing - I (thought) I could spot an avoidant person and he truly never showed any signs of that. He was so communicative and able to handle conflict, he said he wanted a relationship, t…
What a wise comment, thank you for this! This is reframing things for me. I’ve been hard on myself for falling for these types after thinking I should have spotted them better, but you’re right. They …
As a man who has been on both sides of the coin… bear with me cause this is a long read but it has relevance I promise. I’ve been the anxious wreck begging and pleading. Saying stuff like “you don’t…
The thing is everybody has feelings, you don't need to see it to know that. Part of why I was attracted to people with DA tendencies is they could recognize that. I've been called cold, robotic, emoti…
I think you answered your own questions. You crossed an unspoken boundary. Most likely something trust related? This is a deep core wound for DAs as trusting someone with emotional vulnerability isn’t…
"Bare metal" is a term that older than k8s. Its meaning is derived from virtualization. A bare metal server is a server that runs directly on the physical hardware, as opposed to a virtual server whic…
Echoing what everyone else said. Any time you're walking into a situation to make an organization or team devopsy when they weren't before, you're going to get opposition. Small changes will make peop…
Man, this post hits SO hard. Running a business is absolutely brutal, and I think we need more honesty about the real toll it takes on founders. I've gone through some of these exact same experiences…
Always, always try to show business impact. Estimate it if you can't derive it precisely, but whenever you can craft something consistent and useful for showing the value of your work, you gain tremen…
You don’t have to be great at the thing, just good at solving the problem and finding the right people. Most people start with what they can do themselves, hustle hard, then hire once money’s coming …
A DA i became close to talked about having it used against him and I’ve seen men in other male-centric forums/subredds talk about that. It’s so shocking to me, mainly because I’m not wired that way, t…
Dismissive Avoidant. It's an attachment "style", and very challenging to be in a relationship with(as all insecure styles can be,) as many of the things that build connection in a normal relationship…
Thanks. Part of me thinks it’s my effort that was the real solution and not the thing on our phones.
What does your therapist say to this question? The thing is, there's always some risk involved in learning to know someone, especially as people's attachment styles are not fixed and can fluctuate f…
The thing about alcohol/drugs is a good point. A lot of avoidants (myself included at times) will rely on substances to express or even feel their feelings at all.