savior

When you stop centering your whole life around a relationship (or lack thereof), it is a good idea to find something else to put your energy into that feeds your soul. I think "the thing" that you fo…

I just realized my desperate craving for love was actually "Emotional Hunger" from childhood neglect. Now I feel free, but empty. — Why does nobody tell us that an intense, almost obsessive longing for love and containment often stems from deep-rooted psychological issues? I’ve recently had a grounding realization: my lifelong th…

Overarching Energy of the Libra Full Moon on April 1st, 2026 — This Full Moon is all about our responsibility when it comes to our relationships. We are reminded to balance what is external, creating harmony without sacrificing self. The solution isn’t  about “we…

DMT While on LSD-Trip Report — Close to 10 years ago, I tried DMT (specifically, changa) while on LSD. I began to vibrate like a Tibetan brass bowl & the air turned bright purple around me. I closed my eyes & some language/code/sym…

I miss my ex like crazy even tho they where not good for me how do I get over them ? — I’m (16) (F) and I don’t know if he even was my ex i didn’t even know his name and he only gave me his spam account never his main account…. maybe it was this savior complex I had or a hard time say…

how to forgive yourself for past mistakes as a teen? — hi, 23F here. i grew up in a hypersexual, mentally and physically abusive household. in middle school and highschool school, i had a phase where id make fake accounts, bother people then swoop in as t…

I feel like I'm too much for for my best friend and I don’t know if I should step back or try to fix it (31F / 29F) — I’m trying to understand if this is an attachment mismatch or if I’m just… fundamentally too heavy for people. I’m 31, she’s 29, and we’ve known each other for over 10 years. She’s not a casual frien…

I feel like I'll never find someone who I can truly feel safe with — I just want to be seen, held, and understood by someone. I would happily give that to someone else, but I can't find the right person. My person. The people I've met who understand my struggles are to…

Hi?! — Howdy. I hope this finds you all well. Anyways. I'm in a dark place as a human. Like I'm in the dark. You ever seen that movie with the blind guy? IM IN THE DARK CHARLIE. I FELT THAT. I felt that sh…

My best friend just had a baby with a man who I think is a narcissist pervert. — Hi everyone. Sorry in advance for the lengthy post but I'm not sure who to turn to. I don't want to ask you guys to do any diagnostic over the internet, but I'm curious is any of this rings a bell w…

I am in burnout and all I wish is that I had a family who loved me — It would take a lot to tell my whole story but I will try to be concise. I have Complex PTSD, from a extremely difficult childhood. I have a family that I am not close to, even though that is the on…

Exhausted by my asian parents — \*Wall of text that goes off on a tangent\* I'm a grown ass fucking adult that still feels so infantilised by my interactions with my APs. I'm 25 but when I'm dealing with them, I still feel like a c…

PLEASE READ IF YOUR LOOKING INTO ASTRAL PROJECTING. About 2 months ago I was looking extremely deep into astral projecting, once I seen what it was I was instantly drawn to it and thought it was inter…

I did what you did.. except correctly 🫨 Not every one is drinking the koolaid. You’re attributing a few things you’ve seen on REDDIT OF ALL PLACES to a whole group of people. The silliness. There’s …

Honestly? It's mostly up to her to resolve that issue, not on you. But somethings you can do to help is tell her you like when people are being real, it doesn't matter if that's a bit imperfect. I al…

Is that where you imagine a completely different parent or a savior figure?

Hey! I'm sorry you are going through this and I'm happy for you that you have been working on your attachment patterns but there are a few things that stood out to me from your post: 1) Maybe I under…

I got engaged, the answer is no. There were signs (every ex was “crazy/mean/narcissistic” and he was always the victim.) They’re extremely manipulative and if you are an empath you can fall victim to …

"At first, he was obsessed with me. He talked constantly about our future marriage, moving in together, and kids. He introduced me to his family, his friends, and even his coworkers. Everyone told me …

Thank you. Couldn’t have said it better. At the end of the day, I am not her savior. There was a point where her bank account was overdrafted every week and I had to pick up her slack. It’s my fault f…

My nmom was the opposite in these situations. She lived to be the “savior and glorious helper.” She got so much ncredit for putting her life on hold to help me. She was the martyr type. Sure it was…

This is called savior complex. It makes you feel needed. Fixing someone else’s problems and regulating their emotions is codependent nature. It’s what you were conditioned to do to survive and feel sa…

This realization is such a mind fuck. For me, my dad was the abuser and my mom was the enabler. I spent so much of my adult life thinking about how "we" survived family violence. How "we" had this dee…

Talking about him is a (typical and twisted) treachery trap. “He knew” and “decided to” are REALLY REALLY big words and talk about your own pettiness and ignorance. You don’t really know. And he did …

You're classic Moon energy, with Rahu occupying your Lagna. Your savior will be her almighty Raj Rajeshwari Goddess Durga. * **Stabilizing the Mind:** Chant 32 names of maa Durga everyday, She will …

I went back so many times. And accepted them many times. And everytime we got back together, it was worse than the last time. I have been raised by narcs. And fixing the problem has always been my ins…

That could be the case. With Venus-Neptune, they often have a hard time seeing the reality of people, or only see the best, and overlook some glaringly obvious red flags. They also often attract the u…

1. Turning everything about you into something about them. Always in a one-upping way. Good or bad stuff. I had a baby. “Well when I gave birth to you it was terrible and I had no support!” Etc etc. l…

I’m an Asian woman (used to live in an enclave before I moved to a white area), and when I first came across discussions of this topic years ago, my reaction was very similar to yours. Especially sinc…

When you get to college, there is this temptation to join with others in some kind of collective fight.  I was like, “that sounds important, but not more important than studying.”  So, the Asian kids …

Without therapy and the tools it provides, a relationship like that can become self reinforcing. But therapy, including couples therapy, can help both people understand themselves and each other, and …

Well said. I agree. Glad you made it happen! Any tips?? I can relate to everyone’s posts here, big time. I got abruptly dumped by my last partner when our kid was a newborn. I occasionally went out …

1. Dated a narc coworker (I know I know terrible decision) she was inquiring about hanging out outside of work March 2024 while she still was in a relationship she labeled abusive. That was my first…

I felt this one on the child hood trauma part. My ex also had a lot of trauma in her past but wasn’t working on it. So a lot of things dragged through into our relationship and I was trying to be the …

Exactly! It doesn’t matter what you do, NOTHING is ever enough… NOTHING!!!! They expect you to solve their issues or be their savior and expect you to read their minds. It’s exhausting!!!  I told hi…

White savior symptom

Stay away. Savior syndrome is not a good thing

No. Proper intention is virtue. “What if I feel incapable of escaping these other motives” I take this as “What if I can’t escape wanting to get rich or cure a family through pure love of Jesus?” …

Savior complex. Got delivered from the trauma and realized that I had it, unnaturally, and have been “let them” ever since, stopped giving af about having “empathy” for everyone and everything… found …

See, I do. I'm in healthcare. I've seen too many permutations of the awful alternatives. If I got a diagnosis that was terminal, or saw an inevitable decline that would lead to me losing my independen…

As someone who grew up very sheltered and kept in an "infantile"-esque state for survival, this will damage him as an adult. But, getting through to him will be all but impossible. Mom has created a f…

I feel that you really read my post and addressed every point I made. Thank you for reading my post, I really needed it. I just want to give him another chance, because he was different after our usu…

Your comment is unfair and hurtful. My stepmom has been through a shit ton of pain in her life -- more than most people I know. My father can be "sweet" on the surface and is about as charming as they…

Nah, there are actual Asians who believe in the white male savior and adopted the Orientalist mindset. "The white man represents modernity and is inherently more egalitarian. The POC is a product of…

They sold us a story, a narrative that they wanted to believe. I think mine is forever trapped in that story cycle of looking for his savior angel who’ll take him out of his hell. And she has to be im…

I totally understand what you're saying, and that this message that Asians are perpetual foreigners is highly problematic and insulting I get the "where are you from" here and there too; it's usually…

Oversharing, constant apologizing, savior complex

First, they want to emasculate, dehumanize, and demonize Asian men. It's the white male savior syndrome: demonize the men, and "save" the women. It's systemic. Second, the idea of masculinity is a c…

Please girl, get your own head right. It’s not “dating” if you haven’t seen your kinky sex hookup match in person. It’s not dating if someone you never met before starts sending you money. At most you…

You have unpleasant comedowns from mushrooms and want MDMA to be the tail end of the experience? Just so different from any hippie flip ive ever done. I eat mushrooms and then like an hr goes by and t…

Japanese and Korean cultures got boosted by white savior type racism/fetishization after US actions in WW2 and the Korean Conflict. If you look back and look deeper, it's the basis for the "model mino…

Then it’s the same fetishistic/white savior kind of boost we’re all talking about here.

Mine did the following - 1. Lovebombing - Within a month of dating, he helped me move, called me everyday, early pet names - lovely, darling, sunshine. He wanted to see me constantly, said he was he…

I was using the same word the commenter I was replying to was. They both have white savior/fetishism underlying the popularity. Like this character in Paper Tigers. There had to be a sincere effort to…

I met a guy, he is a friend of a friend, very shy, charming, beautiful and I saw all the red flags there. At the same time, I felt some impulse to "save" him. I'm so glad that I can see now, not only…

Obsessive bargaining and rumination, trying to make sense of the abuse or the abuser, are very common trauma responses. The key is recognizing those “analysis loops” for what they are. In the end, th…

That's cool that you did a deep dive on this! Omg the sundown towns and lived experiences with gangs is crazyyyy. Did people try to recruit? Was it common to be in gangs? Did ppl get in trouble with …

I’ve had to tell a white liberal friend to stop victimizing me multiple times. She’s your typical internet warrior, nonbinary, self diagnosed neurodivergent, upper middle class white person. She tried…

OMG, I hate that! I am an adult who can speak for myself. I don’t need your paternalistic white savior crap. They think they’re being so righteous, but instead are grouping all Asians into one tiny st…

I actually wondered in how far I would or should consider myself (still) Christian - it mostly feels like a cage and burden to me and something I never officially signed up for but it's definitely par…

Exactly. Many Asians have a strong drive for higher education and the higher paying jobs that go with that. We compete with white people and a subset of us outdo them. Therefore they need to push us d…