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Why does it take years to realize you’re traumatized? And why does "standard" therapy often miss the point?

Great writeup and self awareness.  I believe that it's because our lived experiences, particularly during childhood, define our sense of what is normal. We don't even question why things are the w…

r/CPTSDcomment3/24/2026
PSA: Posts to RBN must be about your parent(s) and/or primary caregiver(s).

PSA: Posts to RBN must be about your parent(s) and/or primary caregiver(s). — Folks, For a while now, we've been getting a steadily increasing amount of posts that we consider to be off-topic. As our subreddit name suggests, submissions must be centred around your parent(s) or…

r/raisedbynarcissistspost1/10/2026
Has astrology ever helped you understand your energy levels, not just your personality?

Has astrology ever helped you understand your energy levels, not just your personality? — I've noticed the most useful part of astrology for me hasn't been personality traits. It's been noticing that my energy, focus, and even social openness seem to shift in patterns. Some days I can ma…

r/AskAstrologerspost3/15/2026
Unable to understand what people mean when they say “libra moons are scared of being alone”.

Unable to understand what people mean when they say “libra moons are scared of being alone”. — Hey y’all! I‘m a bit confused about what people mean when they say that Libra moons have a “fear of being alone”. As a Libra moon I don’t relate to that sentiment at all, and I really love my solitude…

r/AskAstrologerspost3/20/2026
26[M] and my 23[F] me and her just recently cut things off.

26[M] and my 23[F] me and her just recently cut things off. — Things were going really good in the beginning, she was sweet and nice but I realized she was a very different and strange. Like maturity wise, she had so many issues she was very controlling when I’d…

r/BreakUpspost3/29/2026
Needing reassurance

Needing reassurance — I need someone, anyone, to please tell me that I’m doing the right thing by going no contact (praying that it’s for good) with this parasite of three years. It’s the day before my birthday and I’m fee…

r/NarcissisticAbusepost3/31/2026
What’s a subtle pattern you only noticed after dating multiple people, and now won’t ignore?me I’m 29m her 30f

What’s a subtle pattern you only noticed after dating multiple people, and now won’t ignore?me I’m 29m her 30f — Over the years of dating, many of us have gone through experiences that taught us what *doesn’t* work in a partner, or even in ourselves. What are some behaviors, patterns, or personality traits you …

r/relationship_advicepost4/5/2026
Please give me some advice on this

Please give me some advice on this — This is gonna be a long story, so bear with me. I will add some background to make things as clear as possible for you guys. I'm in my late 20s now, my first and last serious relationship which laste…

r/relationshipspost4/6/2026
I’m scared I’m becoming like my dad and aunt, and I don’t want to be. How do I stop this?

I’m scared I’m becoming like my dad and aunt, and I don’t want to be. How do I stop this? — I’m 25F and lately I’ve been noticing traits in myself that remind me of my dad and his sister. And it’s honestly freaking me out a bit. My dad is a good person overall, but there are certain behavio…

r/DecidingToBeBetterpost4/6/2026
did i make the right choice?

did i make the right choice? — i broke up with my boyfriend of 5, almost 6 months a few days ago. it was genuinely one of the most difficult things i’ve had to do, because i didn’t have a concrete reason or and nothing necessarily …

r/BreakUpspost4/8/2026
Like clockwork

Like clockwork — I’m about a week away from my period. The hormone fluctuations seem to intensify the operations that go on in the back of my mind. How I feel is valid. AND What I’m thinking may not be accurate t…

r/CPTSDpost4/13/2026
After about a month of breakup, anyone goes through the phase where you actually realize how incompatible you two were and you'd probably resented him/her if ended up staying together?

After about a month of breakup, anyone goes through the phase where you actually realize how incompatible you two were and you'd probably resented him/her if ended up staying together? — I think I started resenting my partner well before the breakup happened due to his extreme frugality, even though I wanted to fix it while in it. Every fight he made me feel so shitty about myself ju…

r/BreakUpspost4/13/2026
Even as an FA the one thing I'll never understand about avoidants is how they can hate someone they cared about a week ago.

I don't think it's hate, it's just a 'ok that's done now' door close moved on. Heidi Priebe on YT (video: avoidant blindspot) talks about the idea in her videos about avoidant behavior of having the …

r/attachment_theorycomment4/18/2025
Learning to take space, self regulate and set boundaries as an AP earning secure

on the surface here, it seems you two argue too much to be together, FA/AP aside secondly, i use to always think i was secure, then met an FA woman than made me feel AP, so i questioned myself. aft…

r/attachment_theorycomment8/4/2025
How do i stop the cycle of freaking out when im away from my partner?

What’s actually happening (in plain language) Roughly, your system is doing this: 1. Distance = danger. When you don’t see him (or replies slow down), your body reads it as “I’m about to be abando…

r/AnxiousAttachmentcomment11/20/2025
What's your experience been with an activity on a first date ?

Depends on the activity. Museum, gallery, or mini golf sort of thing offer plenty of opportunity for talk and for assessing a number of personality traits of the other person. Honestly I think a nic…

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/23/2026
How honest are securely attached people?

Heey :). Earned secure, formerly FA here. \- sorry, this got very long :P <3 I relate to this behaviour so much. I can really understand how difficult saying no, setting boundaries and advocate fo…

r/attachment_theorycomment3/4/2026
I find this insane they don't love their children

Yes I understand that it is seen as mental illness, but it is not all mental illness. It is a personality trait. Other personality traits are not seen as mental illness. She is happy and perky, it …

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/10/2026
Something I noticed about emotional safety while dating

I think that emotional safety is more a measure of a relationship than anything. It is not a personality trait of one person, but the way two people come together and meet each other's needs in a vuln…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/10/2026
Can You Change How Your Moon Sign Expresses Through Conscious Behavior?

The planets do not express mere personality traits, and if they did yes you could possibly (spend every minute focused and possibly succeed) but the fact of a planet/house/sign combination is not like…

r/astrologycomment3/10/2026
Men having rigid body type preferences

I have a type but honestly at my age, I’m attracted to personality traits and behaviors as much as I am physical attributes.

r/datingoverfortycomment3/11/2026
Why do I not resonate at all with my ascendant sign?

It might just be the description of scorpio not really being completely accurate all the time. They make it seem as if all Scorpio risings are intense and mysterious and leave their mark anywhere they…

r/AskAstrologerscomment3/12/2026
Specific question about reading empty houses

That is so interesting! I’ve never heard that history regarding the houses and sign rulership. I’ll have to dig into that more, especially since my chart is essentially flipped from the “traditional” …

r/astrologycomment3/12/2026
Why is casual sex so hard?

Be relieved. Humans are not typically able to separate feelings and sexual activity over long durations of time for complex evolutionary reasons. So congratulations, your totally human reaction means …

r/datingoverfortycomment3/12/2026
Could having pisces rising "erase" my capricorn sun?

Astrology is a very ancient wisdom and because of that very plural in interpretive methods. One commonly overlooked historical aspect of it is the fact that only recently people started to worry abou…

r/AskAstrologerscomment3/12/2026
Men having rigid body type preferences

so what a woman looks like doesn't matter at all to you, just her personality traits?

r/datingoverfortycomment3/13/2026
The trauma bond is wild

I definitely agree that narcissists have a large sense of entitlement, but I think that is what is on the surface. I think that shame is what drives that entitlement and they may not even be aware eno…

r/NarcissisticAbusecomment3/14/2026
Anyone else have a parent with an undiagnosed mental illness?

Same here. Mom has Cluster B personality traits that are undiagnosed. Probably has Dissociative Personality Disorder too since I think she has separate personalities. When she’s sweet, she seems carin…

r/EmotionalNeglectcomment3/16/2026
Potentially unpopular opinion re: Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents

I can see what you mean about villainizing the traits rather than the people, and I think that’s a fair judgement. But I also think there’s an issue with villainizing any trait that the author is also…

r/EmotionalNeglectcomment3/17/2026
Dating in your 40s changed what I look for - and not in the way I expected

After years of trial and error, I factor the following: * Do they care about anything beyond themselves (e.g., animals, other people)? * Do they actually show compassion and volunteer, or just talk a…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/18/2026
Potentially unpopular opinion re: Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents

Yeah. I've read several books on trauma, epigenetics and the like included. As an internalizer, you described that feeling for me particularly when I read Adult Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers. I th…

r/EmotionalNeglectcomment3/18/2026
39M 34F. Partner of 18 months says unless I propose with a 40k real diamond, don't propose at all?

End the relationship. She has some serious personality traits that is unflattering and plain stupid.

r/relationship_advicecomment3/18/2026
I feel mentally chaotic and lost. What has actually helped you find clarity?

Your mental health and physical health are more related than you think. The more healthy your body, the more easy your mental wellbeing will be to be managed. Besides that theres a real benefit of und…

r/DecidingToBeBettercomment3/19/2026
I accidentally shifted to a parallel Earth today

True, I suppose if you didn’t want to switch timelines and it randomly happens, it could be kind of jarring, but as someone who has had little shifts like this too into different timelines where one l…

r/realityshiftingcomment3/23/2026
Cobblestones

You talk as if you're 100% wholly convinced of what you're speaking. It's a unique thing to hear someone speak with the conviction that you do. I would describe it as "peaceful" because you're clearly…

r/experiencerscomment3/23/2026
Why does it take years to realize you’re traumatized? And why does "standard" therapy often miss the point?

A couple big things I can say, as a trauma therapist, I’m happy that some people pointed out the fact that knowledge of trauma is still very new, which means that knowledge of generational trauma is s…

r/CPTSDcomment3/23/2026
You can manifest anything, literally

Yes I manifest them directly. I may have changed personality traits and etc but it’s still the same person I wanted. They even looked how I expected them to look

r/Manifestationcomment3/23/2026
Why does it take years to realize you’re traumatized? And why does "standard" therapy often miss the point?

I had this feeling that I was stuck. I couldn't move forward with my life and my career because of this feeling. And I was always angry. The pandemic forced my depression out. I did 12 measly CBT sess…

r/CPTSDcomment3/24/2026
People with CPTSD what are things that people just don’t get about it?

Certain things about my behavior \*aren't\* personality traits, they're trauma responses, but people find them endearing, even though I'm trying to stop being that way. (the thing that comes to mind i…

r/CPTSDcomment3/26/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 26, 2026

I'm trying a different tactic for online dating. I've been on and off the apps (Bumble, Hinge, FB Dating) for years, and each guy that I've met through an app hasn't worked out. I tend to go for the g…

r/datingoverthirtycomment3/26/2026
r/AsianMasculinitycomment3/29/2026
Am I invisible to men as a woman in mid 40s? I'm not dealing with aging well.

Seems like you got a deep bond with him if you still love him despite all that. If he were to ask you back; would you? Also: would you say personality traits become more important to you with age vs l…

r/datingoverfortycomment4/3/2026
Do you believe in dating leagues?

Dating leagues fall apart pretty fast when you consider different people are looking for different things and find different physical and personality traits attractive. Also, I’ve regretted it anyti…

r/datingoverfortycomment4/5/2026
My friend and neighbor (39F) assaulted my husband (34m) and I am livid. How would you handle the situation?

There definitely could be, but also I think she may have a slight personality disorder or something else going on. When she is sober she has this very lovable quirky personality that is very lovey a…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/5/2026
How do you move past genuinely anxiety provoking stimuli

I'm not sure faking it works. It does help to ask yourself honestly whats appropriate or inappropriate. You learned in your formative years that reaching out was a reliable way to get care from a care…

r/AnxiousAttachmentcomment4/6/2026
So is it now "ableist" to talk about Narcissistic Abuse?

Similar upbringing here. ADHD and family with undiagnosed ADHD, narcissism and at least one with strong antisocial personality traits. There’s a trend lately of people saying talking about narcissisti…

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment4/6/2026
Dating over 40 in NYC, am I a unicorn or jackass? (Still deciding.)

I find it that men prioritize looks over personality traits or common interests. Do you have hobbies and friends outside of work . My best advice is to get out and about, look happy and approachabl…

r/datingoverfortycomment4/6/2026
How to stop being envious and jealous of people

I often find that this kind of overwhelming envy comes from a few things, one important one is a sense that you could never have those things for yourself no matter how hard you try. The belief that y…

r/DecidingToBeBettercomment4/7/2026
Why is finding the right guy getting so tough for me ?? 20f

Because of Manglik Dosha, you must have an aggressive, impulsive and dominating personality. In Males POV, you look as a Female warrior rather than a romantic partner. Try controlling anger and do…

r/vedicastrologycomment4/8/2026
How do I (F24) nip my boyfriend’s (M26) weaponized incompetence in the bud?

he KNOWS. thats what makes it weaponized incompetence. the only way you can possibly hope to “nip it in the bud” is by calling it out, very clearly, immediately. never once entertain it, because then …

r/relationship_advicecomment4/9/2026
What’s your ex’s zodiac sign?

Dear Ok-Issue5184, It's truly heartening to see you exploring new arenas of knowledge and curiosity such as astrology, especially during a time that might be challenging. Your interest in the univers…

r/ExNoContactcomment4/9/2026
Are all signs considered "equal" in terms of good and bad traits. Or are there any signs that tend to be more successful/powerful/accomplished or others that tend to be meek/lazy/etc?

I don't mind the answer "it depends" so long as there is a "what" it depends on. It doesn't bug me that, the answer to the recipe to bake a cake is "it depends, there are many kinds of cake, in some c…

r/astrologycomment4/9/2026
I dont want to talk to on the phone every single day

That’s one of the most repelling personality traits for me in a woman.

r/datingoverfortycomment4/9/2026
What are most men like when they are upset? I (42F) am considering leaving my husband (46M) over how he acts when upset.

Hmmm that’s interesting. I definitely wondered about all the possibilities for years, including this. I’ve come to the conclusion that he is very dismissive avoidant, plus has certain strong traits of…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/10/2026
What are most men like when they are upset? I (42F) am considering leaving my husband (46M) over how he acts when upset.

It’s weird because yes and no. I feel like we were all a bit scared of crossing our Dads, they are just more gruff than Moms usually. But sometimes he makes my older son really sad because he is just …

r/relationship_advicecomment4/10/2026
How do you deal with the virtue signaling?

You need to think hard and deep about why you feel the need to maintain a connection with him. Because checking his socials is a way for you to stay connected to him. What’s the deeper wound or patter…

r/NarcissisticAbusecomment4/11/2026
Am I, 43F, being ridiculous or is he, 45M?

100%. I posted something to Reddit my own narcissistic ex husband & I were debating, many years ago. Of course it wasn’t a real debate - just me trying to feel any sense of validation for my feeling…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/11/2026
why are angry victims less likely to receive sympathy?

Because society mostly has an image of people who are the "victim" that is based on weaknes, submissiveness, quiet and shy personality traits. A victim that's angry, loud and stands up for themselves…

r/CPTSDcomment4/11/2026
Who am I, if not my trauma?

I'm only a short way through my EMDR journey. But you don't disappear, or become a void! You'll start to notice all these other personality traits that may have been submerged under the intensity of t…

r/CPTSDcomment4/12/2026