normies

i'm not upset at you and i'm sorry my tone in that reply came off that way. i'm more so upset at the situation as a whole. i do understand the need for communities and resources for other people with …

I really dislike normies aversion to intensity, life IS intense. — I feel like people with CPTSD in a way, are people who experience ACTUAL REALITY. As in, were experiencing something raw/relentless/shapeless/uncertain. Our lives aren't incubated by fabricated comfor…

Regret from leading my younger life based on nparents distorted world view — Like some stories I’ve seen here, my parents weren’t 100% monsters. It’s not hard to recall good things they did, but they are massively overshadow by the horrible narc things. I knew something wasn’…

Lightbulb moment this week — I realized this week something big: our lives our not to be ENDURED. For me, growing up with abusive parents that I could not escape, it was all about enduring, navigating, adjusting & developing cop…

Discussing LOB with normies is generally a kiss of death, from what I have experienced... we want to share this material, but we may be casting our pearls before swine, and a lot of the swine want to …

I think it's more a difference between people who are musicians or have very deep feelings about music vs. people who just listen to whatever's popular or don't have a deep connection to music. I don'…

I am not sure if it would translate the same with opposite genders. They're normies, I'm both perpetually online yet also self aware about it and sociable IRL, so I kind of have a good feel in fo…

Raves/DJ shows, music festivals, spiritual retreats are all environments you’re likely to come across people who partake. But I would just remain open and you will find your person one way or another.…

i catch myself counting how many years too, about once every 3 years or so. it’s always mind blowing and i feel the damage that has been done is how much it warped my sense of time. i can remember whe…

Thats a good one, it is universal now so may sit better with the normies. I actually used to say medical leave but then it opened a whole thing. I might just start saying nonsense like "peanut butter …

Everybody seems normal until you get to know them . I my dealing with normies all “we” can do is watch and wait for them to want help . Between my own trust issues and hazy discernment and not being…

I agree. It's more about female gaze vs male gaze. I think the ultimate winner is who gets more girls. Leon from Re9 wehn full female gaze but nobody talking about how feminine of him because he has l…

Before my CPTSD was diagnosed, in hind sight, all my misfit friends from age 13 up had undiagnosed PTSD in some form or another. We were all acting out and self medicating. Half of them are gone and w…

100%. I think so much of this ENM thing is absolute bullshit but it gets twisted to make the rest of us normies look like uncultured rubes. Can’t eye roll enough. It is highly overrepresented on the a…

Like the ethical thought experiment where there's two tracks, one with five people tied down and one with one person tied down. Do you switch the track to kill the one person to save the five? And the…

Flashbacks. They can happen ANYTIME. ANYWHERE. The panic attack and shut downs and dissociation isn’t fun for me, either, Normies! Employers REALLY don’t understand when I can’t work - not even from…

The loneliness! The normies around me don't seem to experience it to the same degree often. I have very few friends and it's hard to be close because I fear abandonment. It's like there's a glass wall…

Some normies like to tell the story that two people experience the same trauma and one “overcomes” it and the other is deeply affected by it. So it must just be their choice to get over it or not. In …

Firstly stop telling people you have millions especially those closest to you - they can turn out to be the slimiest snakes. Privacy is Protection. She lied, deceived and betrayed I'd get out ASAP T…

I’m ready to just chill and whatever happens, happens. Easier said than done. But I think that things are so bad in America, that material conditions decaying a bit more will actually be liberating. T…

I'm 41 and somehow feel right in the middle? I'm not a thriver, I didn't turn a corner and blossom into someone with their life together. I did manage to maintain something that, if you squint, looks …

Regardless of your doctors opinion, they can't admit they believe it. That would be malpractice and could them kicked out of their professional associations and have their licenses revoked. If the t…

We need to remember we are not entitled to trauma dump on civilians. It’s unfair to expect normies to understand or even have the emotional energy to respond the way we need. I found group and indiv…

I don’t talk about it with anyone who doesn’t need to know (outside of ya’ll familiar types). Kinda like war vets, nobody can understand what they went through except other soldiers and their therapis…

I had a similar awakening in the last few years. Long story skipped entirely, I read about attachment styles and fawning and their relation to trauma. Basically, experiencing trauma determines to a …

So you know you act. Ppl can smell that shit, especially normies (neurotypicals)

I find keeping busy helps. Sometimes we even strive under high intensity situations that normies find stressful. I don't necessarily want to promote numbing agents such as drugs or medication but I'…

I don't think it's a scam, but I think we burn out if we've been at it for so long. After 20 years i am not in the least bit interested in talking about this shit anymore with any therapist. I'd rat…

I've came to a similar realization years ago. its the main reason I stopped dating about 4 years ago. I just couldn't handle getting attached to people (after a single fucking date sometimes) then the…

Yup, they are invisible conditions so people just don't take it seriously. I have to keep reminding people "No, I can't go out to that restaurant. It's insanely loud and has no acoustics", "No, I c…

In my experience most therapists are normies with some sympathy for troubled people, but have no idea how f’ed up life can be even for children. It’s sad and I feel better reading posts in this subred…

I’d personally phrase it as knowing the - *edges* - of reality, whereas “normies” (most people) still know “actual” reality, just a lot less intense. That’s because while I have experienced *homicide…

I really dislike the term "normies". That assumes a lot of other people. Simply you dont know the life they lead and mask

I am so done with normies. I do everything in my power to avoid them now lol.

As a normie who leans toward intensity, I agree 100 percent. Most normies choose to be fragile, coddled, and unwilling to face hard truths. People with C PTSD on the healing path don't have a choice…

Honestly yeah, I see where you're coming from. From personal experience? I never thought my trauma made me stronger, in fact I always thought that *I* was the weak one because I had "small things" e…

Hmm you would be surprised at how many normies have experienced trauma though. I think I come off as extremely normie unless you know me well, and I don't think that's a bad thing. I've come pretty fa…

I used to think this way. As I've been healing in therapy the word "normies" totally fell out of my vocabulary. Because I finally understood that other people aren't averse to intensity or discomfort …

Lol. The references..maybe...l get that you were trying to be a little cheeky 🙂but because it came across as an informative post . With so much confusion in the sub at times...the references made it…

Yes absolutely, like I don’t want to be so gatekeepy that nobody else is allowed to learn, but at the same time I want to keep it secret enough that the normies don’t find out 😭