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reporting him is ultimately up to you. I know how difficult of a mind-F it can be to be groomed and I know that your pre existing trauma may have you feel like "you're responsible for seducing" him bu…

ROAST my design before I end up in the streets — Hey everyone, I recently launched a small SaaS project and while I’m getting some traffic, the conversion rate is sooo low. I’m trying to figure out if the design is part of the problem — or the prob…

Being kind isn't just nice...it's smart...b/c we live in an environment made of each other. — Think of it like a fish swimming in an ocean made of other fish. Everything we do as we move through this world...for our little bit of time here...relies on other people helping us, often in ways we…

Would you stay in a relationship with someone like this? — I’m in my first relationship post-divorce after 20 years of marriage. We’ve dated for a year and I love and care deeply for this man, but I’m struggling with whether I’m ignoring red flags. The good:…

People Pleasers Make the Worst Partners — I'm a Codepedent in Recovery. My partner is also a Codependent (Severe) and he's refusing healing and is a Chronic People pleaser. Being in a relationship with a people pleaser is exhausting. You sl…

I finally stopped begging my toxic Mom. Her "Extinction Burst" over my sister's wedding is insane. Has anyone else experienced this? — Hi everyone. I (M) and my two sisters have spent our entire lives tiptoeing around our emotionally immature, highly controlling mother. She uses guilt, silent treatments, and the "I'm a terrible mothe…

Talk about fresh beginnings. — You read it in the title, new beginnings. In simple text: I was able to start over and a kick start at my new life as I literally entered my 30s. Long story: female late 20s/Early 30. Definitely s…

So what do i do now? — i'm thankful and eternally blissed and happy over acchieving love in my life and she's a 7 figure earner, a god bless in disguise a millionaire wife, i'm so eternally blessed over how generouse she is…

Overarching Energy of the Libra Full Moon on April 1st, 2026 — This Full Moon is all about our responsibility when it comes to our relationships. We are reminded to balance what is external, creating harmony without sacrificing self. The solution isn’t  about “we…

What's something your parents did to you that YOU had to apologize to them for that still makes you angry? — As in, situations where despite you being the victim, you were forced to be the one apologizing. I know mine too well, unfortunately. I've told this in comments before, but now I'll tell it here. So…

Need help — Why do people always say that when I want to manifest a wealthy partner, wealthy people only want someone like them, or that they aren’t good people, or that he will look down on me? I’m not even ask…

he broke nc on a burner acc, called him out on it and he deactivated right away — i’m just going to rant, ghosting me in the first place, then you coming back and me giving you a second chance was generous enough. he “wasn’t ready” for a relationship so i went NC for my own sake. …

Mom acts tacky at church. — It's Easter Sunday so I took my mom to Korean church which is rare for me. But the church is very welcoming and inclusive. Everyone is humble and kind and generous there. Many of the Korean aunties g…

Am I the crazy one? — First Reddit post like, ever. My mom and I just got into a blow out fight. We live on opposite coasts and don’t see each other one on one very often anymore. Parents are divorced and although we’re o…

Feeling uneasy about the near future — Me \[23m\] and my girlfriend \[26f\] have been in an online relationship for almost 8 months now. We’ve never met face to face, she lives abroad. We met on Bumble and got into the relationship quite…

My Cousin (37F) believes her unborn baby is the reincarnation of MY (26f) father — I (26F) lost my dad (58M) a few months back. It has been hard. My dad and I had a rocky relationship. He was never appreciative of us, always complaining and comparing us with others. Always angry and…

Maybe biased because past experience, but I can't see even ASKING if I want/don't want something I bought for myself as anything but "Don't you know how to use a trash can?" any more. — Or as a suggestion that it's perfectly logical to assume I'll spend my money for the sole purpose of wasting it. Yeah, sure, sometimes I'll find out I don't like whatever, or I'll take too long to eat…

Why do I have so much luck despite "difficult" placements, especially with strangers being generous with me? — I'm new to astrology and from what I understand I have a lot of "difficult" placements; venus virgo, north node virgo in the 8th house, sun libra, moon in scorpio, aqua rising, mars in 7th house. I se…

Day 3 of Break Up — Day 0 I felt relieved Day 1 I woke up feeling incredibly guilty. Saw that he deleted me off everything. Cried a good amount Day 2 I was in a "fuck him" mode and validated all the reasons I left …

My family pressured me to drop out of school so they could make me their personal ATM — title says it all I've (19f) always drawn since I was a kid and my family thought it was a useless hobby but relatively harmless. When I turned 16, my phone broke completely and I had no phone for a …

I (36F) like this guy (42M) and think I messed up my chance, if I had one to begin with. — I've been going to this bar for a while with my best friend. Over the last several months, the bartender and I have developed this flirty dynamic that is giving me so much happiness. coming out of a r…

How do you deal with the virtue signaling? — I wrote this in another narc sub the other day but I’ll try here as well: My cluster B ex (his SD-3 score is 3.9 machiavellinism, 3.8 narcissism, 3.2 psychopathy if that helps) has a habit of using h…

Completely mindfucked and heartbroken after a relationship with a highly intelligent covert narcissist — This is going to be a very long post, but if you want to know how a relationship with a highly intelligent covert narcissist looks like, you might be interested to read this. I've seen so much shit i…

For anyone who moved away, did your parent suddenly become weirdly nationalist? — Literally just rolling my eyes right now and wondering if anyone else’s parents do this. I moved out of my home city at 18 for university and never looked back. Later I moved out of the country (…

Extreme Selfishness and delusion — Since I’ve been dealing/ dealt with other narcissists in my life, I’ve started wondering whether this person might also have been a narcissist - which is why I’m posting this and asking for perspectiv…

Not sure what to do — I don’t even know how to organize this, but I’m trying to think through possible divorce + relocation and feel really stuck. I’m sorry it’s so long. I’m 34 F married to my husband, 42, with 3 kids 13…

Am I 40/f expecting too much from boyfriend 38/m? — Been dating 7 months. I noticed emotional regulation and outburst issues at Christmas time (4ish months) he agreed to go to therapy with me started end of January. I told him I believe he needed to wo…

Me (31F) can't get my husband (32m) to love me even after 4 years marriage — Some background on our relationship Been engaged for a year before getting married only to find out through all this time he is still communicating with his ex. (tragic love story that didn't work ou…

Some perspective — I F (33) was only with my bf M (35) for a few months and things got serious very quickly. We never argued we never fought and he was never a social media person so that was irrelevant in our relations…

Th dichotomy of narcissism — Does anyone else have a narcissistic parent who around other people and to you at times can come across as very kind and generous? A lot of this is fake when it comes to other people and they are als…

Cloudflare offers a really generous free tier, then a very cheap tier that is good for even quite large applications. You only start paying big money on enterprise plans. I'm pretty sure that alone e…

Agree with these. With mine, there was just a general lack of sweetness or playfulness. Anytime anything veered to something romantic, he’d say something casual and offputting to change the moment to …

I don't want to go to those other spaces and have to wade through the slog, but could someone explain why we are lumped in with narcissists? Most of my family members are avoidant attatchers (it runs …

I'm like you. I think for APs a few embarrassing collisions and losses are necessary to wake up to the fact that life can't be lived this way. My parents are both extremely anxious people and my mothe…

>There's a good chance she might have a kickback dismissive avoidant response when things get real and she has to "choose you". That'll start off a progression of fault-finding. You're not going to th…

>One FA said something to me about herself early on, in some conversation or another, that seemed innocent at the time because I was infatuated: "That doesn't make you want to run?" My preferred resp…

I am a 65 year old professional man, happily married to another man 25 years. Recently I started reaching out to make more straight "bro" friends because I really don't like the gay scene, (gay men ta…

Be generous to yourself. Anxious attachment is extremely painful.

It’s not really about the relationship but my own security. I am autistic, chronically sick and can’t work, we lost 2 homes because they made me ill. If it wasn’t for my partner idk where I’d be. I th…

>She won't look at me, she gets short with me, sometimes she's mean to me. And then moment I leave suddenly she starts doing the exact same intense hovering, monitoring my mood, and offering "help and…

DA here. Have a work friend that was easily the most generous, consistent, positive force in my life (only dethroned a hair by my husband). I would find myself pre-emptively grieving him and evaluat…

I don't think there is any reason to not have met within the first week or two of messaging. And two weeks is being rather generous with the pace. I think it's wonderfully empathetic that you're taki…

Well Thankyou. I did actually challenge him at the beginning and questioned whether he was lovebombimg me… yes he said he was which I now see was a quiet irony. When one partner isn’t in on the know…

Up to a week. That's probably too generous, but I understand that life gets in the way, plus I don't expect timely responses from complete strangers.

You’re being really generous with your read of barf’s comment lmao

A man who apparently saw my Bumble profile decided that it was appropriate to email me at my work address to request to meet. I searched his name and he appears to be outside of my already generous ag…

My ex was very selfish in bed and not very affectionate in general. Months after our breakup, I got back on the apps and hooked up with the most generous, sensual, amazing-in-bed guy. I was laying nex…

Sounds like you are coming off something bad. You treat people how you want to be treated and you are generous, so I tend to agree that you have some control here and can probably choose better partne…

I know this is an old post but here’s my FA take.. I have idealized romantic partners in the past. Yes. I don’t do it anymore since I’m married now, older and have a lot more awareness of my patterns…

I think you're being overly generous... Breaking boundaries during sex is not something that should happen *three times*. Depending on what it was, maybe once could be talked through and moved past, b…

Is this love or just the comfort of being chosen? I'm 23M working in Bangalore and have always been the type who never dated or had much experience with girls. To change that, I started attending soc…

No one will be perfect but you need to find someone who can give love in the way you need it. Not getting that is starving your emotional needs. I’ve been with someone like your partner and all it did…

It is pretty bad. I might be being too generous. I guess it also depends a little on whether the example incident is a dramatic outlier or pretty much par for the course.

For a number of years I had a friend who I helped during a tough time in his life. He probably has undiagnosed autism or some other issue, but I was happy to assist him. I gave him a job, spent time…

"Go take a course to meet people to date" is advice that I see commonly given, but do a meaningful amount of people actually get dates this way? Like a given class will have what, a dozen, two dozen …

On paper, I am doing great. I have a great job, live in a nice apartment downtown, hang out with my friends on the weekends and talk to this beautiful girl. But the reality is that I dread my job (onl…

Close to 11 years, 8 if being generous with the definition of relationship.

I’ve dated a bunch of well off men who are incredibly cheap - which sucks because I’m well off and I’m pretty generous and like to indulge. My last bf came from a family of billionaires and I didn’t k…

I had an absolutely amazing date on Monday and haven't stopped thinking about this woman since then. We've been chatting on the app for almost two weeks now. A few questions because I'm absolutely ter…

you're asking the right question, and it's the one most Jupiter in Aquarius write-ups skip. the traditional framework helps here: Jupiter in Aquarius is in its detriment (opposite Leo). not because i…

That's a great thing—gratitude. I'm curious to know how you've been "practicing SATS", and how you feel afterwards. Thanks for sharing your story and being generous with your time. 🙏🏼🤗💙

Honestly, I’ve just split up with my girlfriend I adore her She’s the best thing that’s ever happened to me And I’ve got two children from the past relationship. I can still say that she is witho…

I’m kind of at this level now, it’s wild. I go in and out of phases where I confidently and generously manifest in front of others, since demonstration is the best teacher. It’s amazing. I like the …

I gave my ndad a gift for Christmas which he then regifted to me. For the same Christmas. He then complained that no one ever gets him anything, eventhough he is so, so, SOOO generous.

Just a subtle thank(fk) you very much gesture... Make sure you make everyone know how generous the grooms parents are. Before and definitely during the wedding. Go big with this" wedding wouldn't be p…

I keep getting stuck on your word "irritated." Not to sound like Dr. Phil here, but you sound like you are really stifling your emotions with such a minor word. What you are describing is not "irritat…

Your parents are certainly not being generous but you aren’t entitled to their money. I’d argue that most parents in their situation would do more to help their kids but you aren’t entitled to what wa…

You're the same age as my LDR partner, who I met on this sub. We've been together for 14 months. We've definitely had those ups and downs regarding the afterlife of our respective ended marriages. Ou…

Your new partner is not a replacement for your ex wife. The fact that you love her and she's amazing is not mutually exclusive with the fact that you lost the wife you built all these hopes and dreams…

Thanks for your clarification. It wasn't that long ago when I felt nobody could possibly understand what I was going through. I can't tell you where I found people who understand what this feels lik…

this is one of the most honest questions ive seen on here and i respect you for asking it heres what i think after going through something really similar being kind is never the proble…

1. This is a filter, If they go straight to sex talk, they have disqualified themselves. They did you a favor by not wasting your time. 2. Being authentic will be important for the one that will be a…

Original copy of post by u/howulikemenow5678: I’m in my first relationship post-divorce after 20 years of marriage. We’ve dated for a year and I love and care deeply for this man, but I’m struggling …

You say he’s smart, communicates well, and is generous with his time, but based on my interpretation of the rest of your post, he’s only selectively these things. He’s not emotionally or fiscally inte…

Same. I was with my SO for nearly 20 years before he died. We had a ceremony but weren’t legally married. While we were best friends, and I enjoyed the family get togethers we hosted and the happy …

I think that you're right, but I think that a less generous and more correct way to phrase this is that a lot of resistance to hearing out complaints comes from the unconscious desire to maintain a re…

I also dated a hat man. On the first date the hat kind of made sense because we were outside and there was some sun. But then he kept the hat on when we went into the bar and wore it all night. I thou…

I really like someone. I am trying not to come off as a love bomber, but I am very generous by nature. I love giving gifts, dropping off flowers, sending good morning texts. Deep breaths. The fu…

Generous offer, that.

Thank you for your support. Yes, I should. It actually bothers me why I want to "save him" and am so delusional. It must be coming from some trauma, not from kindness.  And yes, I agree, I don't see h…