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Please hear me out. I feel invisible. — I wrote a novel about my life story and it's sitting in my drafts because honestly it's too much to digest. I have so much I want to vent about, so much on my mind, and it's festering in my chest. I f…
Being a parent exposed everything bad about running a small business — Before kids, I founded and ran a small food delivery business for 5 years. It was locally loved, I had a steady stream of orders, and from the outside, it looked like freedom. But then I had my first…
Divorce isn’t all it’s cracked up to be — I miss coming home and kissing my wife. I miss coming up behind her and hugging her, kissing her neck, caressing her breasts. I miss her laying beside me in bed at night. I miss the conversations bef…
Choosing myself feels like betraying my family, but staying feels like losing my life — I’m 21F, Bengali, and coming from a strict Muslim family who are very traditional where marrying outside the culture is almost unheard of. All of my siblings had arranged marriages, and my parents hav…
Is my relationship doomed? I love him, but I’m so alone. — Hey everyone, I’m Lucy (F, late 20s) and I’ve been with my husband, Rick (M, late 20s) for about 8 years, married for 2. I know he cares about me and our family, and I see that he loves us. But latel…
Buffalo Boys(2018) and Grisse (2018): about Indonesian resistance to Dutch colonizers — WARNING SPOILERS!!!! Buffalo Boys is an Indonesian movie about two brothers who return from working on the American transcontinental railroad to overthrow a Dutch colonizer who killed their father an…
After 30 years of being a people pleasing, peace-keeping, manipulative, caretaking, dysregulated, codependency "addict," I've finally reached a point where I have enough control to simply STOP. In a very short amount of time, my whole entire life has changed. It's nearly impossible to describe. — The first part of this post is just context, and you can skip it all by scrolling down to **The Proof** I'm not going to go into much detail, but just for context: I experienced some pretty major chi…
Energy Exchange: How We Give, Take, and Protect Our Vital Force — Energy exchange is, essentially, communication. The energy a person generates is given outward. But, in accordance with the laws of conservation of energy, a person must receive energy from outside. …
Admitted to Stanford but at the cost of my childhood — I am a high school senior who has spent the past 18 years growing up in a middle-class Asian family in the Bay Area. My parents constantly complain that they have no money, no connections, and no adva…
The western treatment of Korea's feminism in hindsight. — A Korean feminist's post that I encountered on twitter made a good analogy. If a group labels itself a disability rights or working class organization, it doesn't tell you about their full political l…
Pushed into open marriage? Sorry, just some unsorted thoughts — My wife and I first talked about an open marriage during our vacation in the Maldives in 2025. At first, I didn't think the idea was that bad. However, I have no desire for another woman. I told her i…
My Mother Who Turned My Mistakes Into My Identity — So I'm fully aware of the kind of person I'm and the kind of person I was and today I feel like sharing it because I had a bad fight with my mother & I'm feeling heavy on my chest. Basically I'm the…
From when I was younger, my mother ruined my life and turned my into an ungrateful bastard. — ​ the peak of everything is my mother, where she has always been the one trying to hold everything together, (and didnt accomplish. So, its all her fault.) She works at a shoe store. From whe…
From when I was younger, my mother ruined my life and turned my into an ungrateful bastard. — ​ the peak of everything is my mother, where she has always been the one trying to hold everything together, (and didnt accomplish. So, its all her fault.) She works at a shoe store. From whe…
I feel stuck — Hey hey, Im 25m, autistic and have experienced trauma my whole life. I struggle greatly with appreciating the amount of work and success I have achieved in the past, to still keep on going. Every li…
Feeling guilty about ex's future. — Hey everyone, I've been divorced for 3 years (separated 2 years prior to that). Everything was and is amicable, however the agreement basically left me in financial hardship which she has relativel…
From when I was younger, my mother ruined my life and turned me into an ungrateful bastard. — ​ the peak of everything is my mother, where she has always been the one trying to hold everything together, (and didnt accomplish. So, its all her fault.) From when I was really small, she’d…
How do I stop being critical of myself? — I’ve always had a bad habit of thinking I’m wasting my time. A sense that if I’m doing one thing, I should actually be doing something else. Even though I assume this is common, it feels terrible no…
I’ve 23F been with my bf 25M for 10yrs and idk how to leave — Me 23F and my bf 25M have been together off and on for 10years (together the past 5 years straight) and I don’t know what to do anymore. We have been through everything together but I feel like we’ve …
How to move forward after a traumatic relationship? — TW: SA, emotional abuse I know this might be a long post, but this has been weighing on my mind for the past year and a half and I just found this community and thought someone may have some advice. …
I'm finally free — I heard from someone this afternoon letting me know, the NC narcmother died last night. No one is willing to call me and tell me. the info was passed to me confidently. idk why no one wants to tell …
Strict dad doesn’t allow me (19F) to date until after university. I’m scared of telling him about my long-term boyfriend (19M). — I’m 19F, a uni student living at home, and my dad has always been extremely strict about dating. He’s said multiple times that he doesn’t want me dating until I graduate university. Meanwhile, my brot…
Return to I AM — the infinite awareness. — I am currently writing this as I had the biggest click and realisation of my entire life. Transition into the state of infinite awareness — I AM. Where infinite possibilities, knowledge, information,…
This is a TEST: Did You Change Yourself Yet? — I posted about a month ago on revision work and how it changes everything. It truly IS so beneficial because it allows you to realize how much control you have over EVERYTHING. This brings me to the r…
Parents are threatening to kick me out over my hair — Hey y'all, I don't even want to be making this post, but unfortunately I've been put in this position. I'm 19 and AMAB and living in the Middle East, with Indian parents. Over all these years, my par…
Parents are threatening to kick me out over my hair — Hey y'all, I don't even want to be making this post, but unfortunately I've been put in this position. I'm 19 and AMAB and living in the Middle East, with Indian parents. Over all these years, my par…
Can an "Awakened" path coexist with a partner in "Survival Mode"? 2 years ended, and I need perspective. — **The Context:** I’ve been in a relationship for 2 years with a man I deeply care about. I’ll be honest: I don’t know much about the "Awakened" world or high-frequency living. I'm posting here because…
Can an "Awakened" path coexist with a partner in "Survival Mode"? 2 years ended, and I need perspective. — **The Context:** I’ve been in a relationship for 2 years with a man I deeply care about. I’ll be honest: I don’t know much about the "Awakened" world or high-frequency living. I'm posting here because…
From when I was younger, my mother ruined my life and turned me into an ungrateful bastard. — ​ the peak of everything is my mother, where she has always been the one trying to hold everything together, (and didnt accomplish. So, its all her fault.) From when I was really small, she’d…
My [32F] husband [37M] asked for naked pics from another woman [37F] — Reposted from 2022 to include update. I (f32) have been married to my husband (37) for 6 years, together for 7. The last year has been a rough patch for marital and life problems. About mid Aug 2022…
It was so normalized that I didn't realize until I was standing in the bedroom section of an IKEA that I wasn't really allowed to touch things growing up — I don't know how to start this. I remember going to IKEA before and being incredibly uncomfortable (angry even) in more customizable areas like the bedrooms, but I was still a teen and so I think I ju…
You’ve been very helpful, thank you so much again. I’m going to carry on with the training every day to impress my subconscious with ideas of health and freedom.
It’s good that you’re reflecting on past relationships - that’s what transforms them from painful failures into learning experiences. 1) In confronting your deep sense of unworthiness (which I totall…
>*In order to move on, you need to not only stop feeling sorry for yourself,* *but also stop feeling sorry for the world.* *That is forgiveness in its essence.* *To give up a certain lens to see…
Great for you to have this realization! It isn't easy! I sat on my decision the evening before ending it for many hours, cycling through the data and seeking support. It will be unfamiliar at first wh…
An incredible poem — thank you for sharing. Here's a contribution. Vibe is a little more optimistic, perhaps speaking of the moment before beginning healing. Everything is Waiting for You David Why…
You say you do not want validation but your questions at the end show that is what you are hoping for. You are trying to interpret her behavior so you can set expectations for the outcome. In order to…
My time writing that? It literally took 3 seconds… your pleasantries and performative formalities are going to hold you back from the self discovery that leads to freedom.
Don’t stress what you can’t control. I would encourage you to start with the process of mourning the parents you never had and never will. You can move past it in a healthy manner and, should you c…
I divorced at 46, I’m almost 51 now, I’ve been saying no to men for the past almost 5 years because I wanted to be single and wanted my freedom. I was sort of hoping for invisibility/stealth mode but …
I think it can be Challenging for sure. Ironically, the hardest thing is the world’s attitude to trauma survivors. For me (57 soon) I still grieve not having a partner and kids/family because of the t…
I always feel like people who get mad at others for not acting or a certain way about their life choice or milestones are the ones that actually need affirmation that they’re doing the right thing. Th…
Yes, the micro-skill you’ve been practicing on the meditation cushion has started to generalise into life. And in that gap between stimulus and response lies freedom. You’re sharing an important obs…
Your mom is most likely bluffing about the divorce and is just using her "last resort" threat. Clearly every time she has threatened it in the past she ether didn't go thru with it or got what she wan…
I think it’s a normal milestone you both are navigating together, first you met in HS, you got on, you developed love feelings, maybe you got intimate, it’s new love and then there’s college and adult…
Yes I can relate. I was codependent on my mother as well. Then it showed up with other people. What I needed to do, once things got really yucky & hard was to get a sponsor & work a 12 step program th…
I see what your friend is trying to say. I’ve heard the saying that “forgiveness is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die”. I think over time I’ve learned that forgiveness looks l…
Not at all and regret never entered the picture. I didn’t celebrate when they died, as I’d pictured before, but I eventually felt relief and freedom. There was a mess of anger, resentment, obligatio…
I'm sorry you're going thru this self doubt due to the emotional abuse. I can't wait for you to feel relief and peace when you're away from that! My ex-wife legit lost the "stress" weight she had …
In my experience as a chronic codependent I too felt this way about close friends. I could see the jealousy i had was unfounded, but it was there nonetheless. Knowing what i know now, i could not be a…
I've never lived alone either. It's actually something my therapist asked "is there a time you've ever felt free?" I realized the answer was no. That was in Oct, and ever since I just got more and mor…
That’s an interesting perspective. The Milgram experiment was one of those things humans created and tested on others and it also inspired me while writing my trilogy about solitude, silence, and free…
No problem! I think that's what this is for, making us all feel a little less alone, and it's so helpful to see the patterns that other people have experienced to from their shitty spouses. Sounds lik…
He’s going to try to get you back and then throw you away again. He’s going to destroy your reputation, friendships, and self confidence. Believe them the first time they show you who they really are.…
No contact doesn’t always work. Sometimes the person who left simply wants to move on, and we have to accept that. But if they did love you at one time and depending on the circumstances of the breaku…
So I still haven’t replied to that voice note of the guy I was seeing. I don’t know why it’s so difficult for me to cut all off. But honestly after all his silence and inconsistent and minimal commun…
Because if they didn’t fuck over your life, you’d have freedom. And if you had freedom, they wouldn’t be able to control it. And if they can’t control it, they can’t guarantee that they’ll benefit fro…
Marriage is never ONLY about love. It is a lifelong partnership. Money is important, so is freedom. You seem to want a different kind of life than he does. It’s time to move on.
I wouldn't like your words either, but he doesn't sounds like a catch. You shouldn't have to walk around eggshells. A partner should complement you, that is you should feel better with your partner an…
My partner and I sometimes both miss being single. There’s freedom in it. Doesn’t mean we don’t love the life we created or that we aren’t happy. I think it’s normal to think about what you don’t have…
Honestly - at your ages a person should be capable of a nuanced thought. Perhaps the exact wording might have been couched differently. but we almost always grieve (a little bit) of what was. As an …
Yes. That feeling of sometimes missing being single is understandable, and it’s likely that most people in relationships occasionally miss that feeling of freedom. Nothing wrong with sharing that. Th…
Enjoy your freedom. Do not circle back. Change your number and locks.
This. I hope OP takes what your said to heart. The walking on eggshells is a major stressor that you should not feel in a safe, healthy environment/relationship. The silent treatment also is a major s…
You are currently prioritizing a financial "30k bump" over your wife’s mental survival. For her, work isn't just a paycheck; it is her identity. By encouraging her to take a role she hated for the mon…
Echoing this. You're 41? I was 36 when I had my hysterectomy for very similar reasons. I flunked all the other kinds of birth control. Seriously look into getting one, it's the ultimate freedom.
I would probably do the same thing. Just not at the moment. Maybe a month after your birthday. Why would i want to stay with someone who misses "freedom". It's a relationship you should always think a…
A good relationship doesn't feel like an infringement on your freedom. You might love him but he's not the one.
It is part of a difficult growing phase and parents seem to be making it more difficult because they not talking to you or letting you express yourself. You being self aware is a very good sign, thoug…
Good for you two. He realized you were not ready for commitment and decided not to waist each others time. Enjoy your freedom.
People who have narcissistic traits/are controlling hate when you hold up a mirror to them. It sounds like you exposed an insecurity he actually knows makes sense - he limits your freedom. You have to…
Way too many people here are knee-jerk reacting and writing villain stories about the boyfriend, and in the process, trying to resolve her of responsibility. These are two separate issues. I'm only go…
You feel a lack of freedom for a reason. A healthy relationship with mutual respect and care shouldn’t feel like you’re walking on eggshells, or that you can’t have freedom. Your gut is telling you …
Being at a place where you can move out is liberating, I hope it all works out for you and never look back. Don't let them drag you down anymore, experience freedom.
I'm sorry this happened to you brother. Sit with it, feel everything, but as soon as you can, get up and do something, go to work, hit the gym, go for a walk. Just don't stop moving forward. Leave her…
Transiting Pluto will be opposing the progressed Leo moon at some point in the second half of the year which will likely be intensely emotionally challenging; could be a time where you enter therapy o…
TW: brief mention of DV I remember feeling incredibly relieved and lighter. It was like, finally, I didn't have to justify not having the capacity or desire for employment. For once I wasn't carrying…
Im 31. The first ti.e my ex said she was too drunk to remember is having sex was the last time I slept with her. This shit can ruin your life. Now I wont date heavy drinkers. If that means I'll die al…
This reminds me of mine. I kept thinking, if you desired her sooooo much and loved me, then how could you? Mine shared his phone… all the good stuff. Come to find out they were using work texts to…
I don't want to say no. But based on my personal experience as well as many others it seems. For as long as they are incapable of self reflecting. Don't expect an apology. It's a heavy weight that wil…
One day we’re all going to die, and none of this will matter. Maybe I have thirty more winters, thirty more summers, and only a handful of chances left to see my parents. Realizing that has been the m…