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The Gift of Fear
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If you haven't read "The Gift of Fear" by Gavin de Becker, you absolutely should. I'm a man in my 30s and the first few chapters had me shedding tears. One of the most important books I have ever read…
The Gift of Fear by Gavin De Becker — I love this book and this quote by him "Avoid being in the presence of someone you feel might do you harm." This is how I interpret that - Avoid being in the presence of someone you feel might harm …
I recommend two books/audiobooks (traumatized people sometimes have a hard time focusing on the page during spirals, these audiobooks are available for free on the Libby app that connects to your loca…
The gift of fear has been on my list to check out for a while now, will do. Thank you!
There's every chance things AREN'T going well and she was outside your apartment trying to get the nerve to talk to you to ask if what he's doing to her, did he do that to you. OP let's pause, take 1…
“I often feel like I’m walking on eggshells around him. He can be very strict and when he gets angry he sometimes gives silent treatment or holds things over me for a long time.” It probably doesn’t …
Good for you. It isn't easy to trust your gut. We are conditioned to ignore it and "rationalize " ourselves out of leaving. Try reading The Gift of Fear by Gavin De Becker. Google the title and pdf an…
A book for "anyone who has kids" (or anyone who has adults in their lives) book that I love is "Hunt, Gather, Parent" by Michaeleen Doucleff. It was eye opening how ... infantilizing western society …
Interesting. Nice to have data-backed things here. I learned recently about the work of Mary D. Salter Ainsworth. She did the field work on attachment, but Bowlby gets all the credit. She went into …
Something that has helped me immensely is identifying my core values so I can approach my actions and interactions from a place of personal integrity (instead of muscle memory from previous trauma) I…
check out the book the gift of fear; trust your instincts!
Because of your comment I want to recommend the book 'the gift of fear' and also the website by that name which has masterclasses for when you have finished the books. Those classes (interviews) go de…
Knowledge is power and these book suggestions are powerful. I will add one more; The Gift of Fear by Gavin de Becker. This book teaches us to recognize and act on our intuition with real life examples…
Sadly, u/aurum_argentium17 is 100% correct. Therapy isn't going to work bc this is manipulative abuse/coercive control used by someone who is behaviorally narcissistic in his relationship style (I'm …
If you are able to, please read or listen to the audiobook “ Why Does He Do That” by Lundy Bancroft and “ The Gift of Fear” By Gavin De Becker. It will help you gain perspective into what’s actually h…
Perhaps starting with Jess Hill’s *See What You Made Me Do* would be a better fit for you, OP. You can always come back to Bancroft later. Also given your high empathy, I wonder if you’ve already read…
Read “Why Does He Do That” by Lundy Bancroft, and “The Gift Of Fear” by Gavin DeBecker. They help provide clarity, you’ll have a perspective of reality as it is (not what the narcissist tried to show …
Thanks for this! I also have The Gift Of Fear. I’ve not read See What You Made Me Do. I’m also being mentored by an intuitive on getting in touch with my own intuition, in addition to therapy.
please read The Gift of Fear. your conditioning as a female is the ONLY thing telling you to hear him out. that’s your brain overriding your body’s total rejection of this man’s behavior. girl he …
Hm, I think it’s important to manage your expectations about what Emma can realistically provide. You already know your wife lied about not really loving her ex, you just commented as much. But if yo…
So proud of you for moving on. You are doing the right thing for yourself. I know it sucks right now & you feel all the feels (rightfully so). If you have the chance, please read and or listen to audi…
I know it sucks right now & you feel all the feels (rightfully so). If you have the chance, please read and or listen to audiobook “Why Does He Do That” By Lundy Bancroft, and “The Gift Of Fear” by Ga…
I believe I *won't* be scammed, not that I *cannot* be scammed. That's the difference. Because I believe I *can* be scammed, I expend effort to continually learn how to prevent it, and that's why I wo…
I will add, I did also say elsewhere in these comments that drunk or high – or, as someone else pointed out, grieving – I'm vulnerable, and I actually wouldn't be judging OP so harshly if there had be…
I’ll add another recommendation; this helped me after reading Bancroft’s book: *The Gift of Fear* by Gavin de Becker. This book shares Pre-Incident Indicators (PINs) and explains how to trust your gut…