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The two most effective treatments I've done to retrain my brain are: [deep brain reorienting](https://deepbrainreorienting.com/) - which has basically disarmed all my triggers, and [infra slow fluct…
REMINDER: be kind to yourself. This is hard, and you’re handling it with grace and strength. — I know of what I speak. I held so much guilt, sadness, anger, and regret for so long. I hated myself for failing to make my marriage work. That mindset was getting me nowhere good. Do the little thing…
Manifesting New Skills and Knowledge with the Law of Belief– Is It Possible? — Hi everyone! I’m reaching out to this amazing community because I’m diving deep into the Law of Belief and want to explore how powerful it can truly be.🙏❤️ I keep wondering—can this law actually he…
Even as an FA the one thing I'll never understand about avoidants is how they can hate someone they cared about a week ago. — I was reflecting and journaling on my past relationships, and taking full responsibility for past mistakes. I'm an FA so there were times when I thought I needed external validation to feel whole, and…
Cannot stay attracted to dating app matches — I've never been in a relationship but I've been working on myself a lot and trying to put myself out there to find love. And I've just noticed a pattern of mine. But I just keep losing interest or ge…
Looking for solid affiliates (not random IG girls) — We run a women’s journaling brand with a strong psychology/wellness angle. Our affiliate program’s been live for a while, but most signups so far have been low-quality and not serious. We offer 30% c…
I’ve decided to go all in on my mental health tech startup — how do I fully shift from side project mindset to founder mindset? - i will not promote — Hi, I run a platform with digital tools to help people build mental strength and emotional resilience. Until now, I’ve treated it like a serious side project, but starting today, I’m committing to it…
Aspiring Dance Studio Owner - First Steps? — ~ TL;DR: Aspiring dance studio owner (currently in school). Active in the dance community and planning ahead. Looking for first-step advice, financial tips, and mindset guidance from other small busi…
Services which don't quite mesh with devops — Hey folks, Do you have stories about teams or products which don't quite fit into devops? - for any reason. How did your org or you approached these? - At my current org (midsized insurance enterpr…
Is there sometimes no hope? — Good afternoon, DevOps people of Reddit. I want to know if anyone else is feeling this. I have been brought on a project to help this company achieve DevOps practices. My main issue is that I am getti…
Finding Like Minded Business People — **TL/DR :** Looking for people who are stuck with unsure with what business they want to pursue and end up learning a little bit about all of them; that want to partner up to stay focused with each …
ELI5: What is TDD and BDD? Also, TDD vs BDD? — I wrote this short article about TDD vs BDD because I couldn't find a concise one. It contains code examples in every common dev language. Maybe it helps one of you :-) Here is the repo: https://githu…
Does anyone else go through phrases where they feel cynical about people easily? — I kinda feel like I’m in one of those now. I'm a DA. It usually happens if I feel like I’m trying to make plans with people, but they’re not responding or declining. Usually I’m okay with it, but when…
This situation is too messed up — Hi everyone, I (20F) really need some guidance about my SP (19M). We’ve been on and off for the past 2.5 years, and our relationship has always been very messy constant fights, unnecessary arguments, …
Does this have to do with my attachment style or is it normal? — I used to score as anxiously attached when I was in my last relationship. I feel like I still have some anxious tendencies in my relationship now but I also sometimes feel avoidant and for the most pa…
For those hurting, advice for your 2026 and my story — Hello everyone, **Preface** I am an anxious attacher, so my experience by-and-large is with dismissive avoidants and fearful avoidants. It is not my intent to villainize these attachment styles; thi…
Is there a way to manifest myself to STOP being attracted to someone? — I’m curious if anyone here has used manifestation or LOA techniques to intentionally lose attraction or romantic interest in someone. There’s a guy in one of my classes that I find really attractive.…
Can someone tell me how to shift??? (Successfully shifters only pls) — No methods. No LOA. no assume you’re in your dr bs. Tell me HOW. how does it work??? How to get from point A (laying in bed) to point B (in my dr). Six years of trying every single method, every sin…
If Reality Is Manifested, What Role Does Astrology Actually Play? — I’ve been thinking about the relationship between astrology and manifestation, and I’m curious how people in this community see it. Astrology suggests that certain events, phases, or tendencies in ou…
Recommend podcasts / videos about healthy male roles and positive masculinity — Early thirties male and I feel my brain needs some intel on being a better male role model. Emphasis on role model. Things I never learned or observed growing up. Can you recommend a podcast host or …
Six Months of Dating in Europe as an East Asian Guy — Honestly Better Than I Expected — Today marks my sixth month living in Europe. Looking back at the past half year and all the European girls I’ve interacted with, I thought it would be fun to do a little reflection—what I did well, wh…
„Did you forgive them yet?“ — I stood my ground and said NO. — I opened up about my abuse to a 'spiritual friend'. His first question was: „Have you managed to forgive them yet?“ I said NO. And it's NOT my duty to forgive. He said „But forgiveness causes healin…
Why Manifesting From Desire Creates Anxiety — I had a realization while trying to manifest a new job. I noticed that every time I get a notification or an email, I feel a wave of anxiety. Which is strange, because I’ve already done the “work.” I…
DO NOT GIVE UP — DO NOT GIVE UP!!!!! I have so much to say. But ima try to keep it short ish. I just wanted to make a quick post about my journey. I’ve been “manifesting” for five years. I actually have not. Those f…
read this if you are confused — Yes I have shifted, here is the mindset that brought me to this point. If this does not resonate with you move on. For those who follow the Law of Assumption, non duality etc I intend this will make …
Defuq? Just started to practice seriously and got a raise within 3 days??? — What the hell is going on? I swear I am a skeptic when reading success stories, but started to take the practice more seriously just because I didn't like my general mindset at all. So I started exp…
Need help manifesting good health, I’m crying while writing this — For the past 5 years I’ve been dealing with constant health problems and it never seems to get better. I had pulmonary tuberculosis for about one and a half years, and after that I developed severe an…
Do romantic relationships ever work with enmeshed parenting? — When my ex and I broke up I told him that his mom was going to make his marriage miserable. She disapproved of/disrespected me and we could see it wasn't going to work out. I don't hate him, but I'm o…
If you're reading this, you're gonna make it. — Hey, you. yeah YOU. I know what you're going through. Nobody is on this sub because they're having a good time of it. I know that, because 4 years ago I was in the exact same place. Any advice you rea…
how do I stop being codependent with my bestfriend? — I think I might be dealing with codependency and I want to work on it before it damages my friendship. I have a bestfriend who I’m extremely close with. We’ve built a really deep emotional bond and …
Beware of taking back the ex that broke up with you and wanted to rekindle with you — Let this be your testimony that you are much better without them. My ex of 7 years and I rekindled after a couple months of no contact. She broke up with me cause she said she relied on me too much an…
Understanding Infidelity — Last year, I (25M) broke up with my now ex girlfriend (26F). We were together for 3 years and were living together at the time, but I discovered that she was cheating on me with a coworker of hers for…
I almost shifted in CLASS🥀 story time — Now, there were very special conditions that will probably never happen again. We were working on a worksheet all period, and the sub was quiet. No one was talking, absolute silence. I whispered to so…
Why am i so average — I've put effort in everything I do, and yet everything I do leads to just an average outcome. How do other people try a lot less and do much better? Is life only successful if I have raw talent and we…
(trip report) Telepathic communication through high doses of psilocybin — Dose: 8g (Myself), 5g (Brayden, first time), others 3–4g Setting: Friend’s house, nearby park, neighborhood walk Time: 3:00 PM – 9:00 PM Participants: 5 friends So a couple years ago me and my …
My mom always expects the best from me when I don’t get as much in return. — I am a 27 Korean American female. My parents divorced when I was really young and ever since, my mom has taken care of me as a single mother who can’t speak English in the US for 25 years. We were fi…
The manifestation routine that unexpectedly changed my life — Over the past year I’ve been diving deeper into manifestation and I’m curious if anyone else has experienced something similar. Recently I read Reality Transurfing, watched Sam Ovens’ Mindset course,…
I finally figured out how to manifest — For context I’ve been manifesting for a really long time. I’ve taken this lifestyle up for over 5 years. But it used to be tough to know exactly what I’ll get and when I’ll get it in the past. I usual…
Small succes story - it worked! — Hey guys! I kind of have a small success story. A few weeks ago I posted here saying that I needed at least 800 euros to pay a debt this month and was in the middle of changing of my mindset. But, I …
things that have worked for me as a sensitive person — 1- mental diet is more important than anything else. I know people say this all the time, but what really made it click for me was realizing I can be gentle with it. I found that framing it as “old st…
Are They Cloaked… or Are We Just Unable to Perceive Them? — They may not actually be “cloaked” at all. It’s possible we simply can’t perceive them. One idea that comes up in discussions about encounters is that some beings may operate at a much higher vibr…
The true meaning why you were told to never bottle up your emotions — I remember years ago I was very young and in primary school… I would always see on posters around me. “Don’t bottle up your emotions.” And of I went on YouTube at the time or I heard from fam…
THINGS TOXIC "SHIFTERS" SAY/DO (they are more normalized than you think) — Soo days back I made a post voicing frustrations about my shifting experience and mentioning a few a of my roadblocks. Two days ago I shifted successfully to the Odyssey and when I came back to my cr…
When They Hate You or not contacting youu, You’ve Started Living-You are not easy prey now — Rock is hard as so the more hard you became by NO the hate you or not contacting you because you are no-more an easy Honey(So they verbally abuse you to melt hard mind of you)- LOVE IT. Their freque…
Knowledege of Parasites — Hi, I am currently experiencing some disorganization in money. I've been told from an experience Shaman that I am here to break my family Generational curse specifically around money. I can feel the s…
Potentially unpopular opinion re: Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents — Just finished “Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents” by Lindsay Gibson after seeing several recommendations for it on subreddits like these. I thought the book had some good info, and I’ll a…
How do you take your power back or create it? — I had all the time this passive role in determining my reality .things are happening to me rather than me choosing them.This victim mentality but stemmin from feeling powerless and defenseless. I know…
I feel mentally chaotic and lost. What has actually helped you find clarity? — My mind feels chaotic almost constantly. I struggle to know what I want, what I need, or even what direction to move in. I drift between ideas, feelings, and moods without much grounding. And undernea…
Trying to find the ""reset"" button when life feels like a treadmill — This month has really been more of a rollercoaster feeling for me, sometimes I feel like I’m just reacting to things instead of actually living. You know that feeling where your brain has twenty tabs …
Stop being a fixer, and get the relationship you truly want! — The biggest lesson I've learned in love is that it's ok to be selfish. People come on this subreddit because they want to learn how to walk perfectly on eggshells so their sisuationship won't end. I'm…
Manifested all four things using a list method (With Proof) — I have shared about my February list manifestation here, too. This is for between March 10-20. The interview offer was the most insane one because I hadn't gotten to hear from them for two weeks, and …
If you're already fast asleep, then you *should* be able to exit. Usually there's not that much of a special trick to exiting the body, simply just 'get up'. However if you might be well adjusted to a…
Came here to say this, it's not coming from a truly wanting to move on mindset, because you're still concerned the effect it has on them
I don’t find people here often that have that mindset and I agree! People on this sub are so bitter, but if someone left because it’s what they thought was best, how can we hate them for that? Realizi…
If you’re suicidal, you need to seek immediate help. Listening to I Wish I Knew This Before My Divorce. It’s on Audible and is helpful in reframing your thought process and mindset. It comes with a wo…
Wonderful information in the introduction. I would love to get some personal insight from people who are familiar with Astal Projection. I'll keep it as short as possible. I have recently discovered t…
I think its more about your relationship to it, like personally and privately. Before you bring your caregiver into the conversation. If you hurt your child by ignoring their feelings when they were c…
I feel like they should be on this subreddit due to the mindset and so forth People who post as such may need it the most
1. That is why it’s called maladaptive daydreaming. The person does so to escape their current reality. They are not making actual changes, thinking different thoughts, reconditioning the subconscious…
You put yourself in the mindset to take inspired action and you achieved your goals. Sounds like manifestation to me. This sub encourages action. As for SP...I might get banned for saying this b…
Agreed. The best and healthiest relationships to pursue as someone recovering from a disorganized attachment style is a slow burn. Recognizing everything you have in yourself is a tremendous accompl…
That’s selfish, and people with that mindset should stay single.
Thanks for posting this. It's been 6 months post break up and I have been having random peroids of ruminating on the good times even though I know they treated me badly for a couple of months leading…
Thank you that has been my experience. I guess I adopted that mindset to keep myself from getting hurt
Yes. I’m a lot better than I used to be. I had a secure boyfriend, and he has grounded me so much. I actually think I’m like 50% changed since five years ago. Still a long ways to go. He’s on the si…
I think you answered your own questions. You crossed an unspoken boundary. Most likely something trust related? This is a deep core wound for DAs as trusting someone with emotional vulnerability isn’t…
By ‘phantom ex,’ I mean that the most recent crush is serving as an idealized image of someone they can never have, which makes it easier to compare others to this unrealistic standard. It’s common in…
I recognize this disorder because I suffer from it myself! :-) It's commonly known as controlfreakism. Don't worry, though. You can use it to your advantage. The good news is there's a way out. Much…
That's an inspiring mindset! I'm also a solo founder, and i am working on a student-focused idea. It's a mobile app that aggregates verified discounts (like Apple, Nike) and campus services (scholarsh…
This is backwards. First, you need healthy self esteem. Boundaries are a natural effect. You need to trust yourself so when the red flags go up, you will do right by you. If you do not value yourself,…
I'm definitely not a philosopher by any means, but here are my thoughts. The article references previous research by Monroe & Malle (2009), where it's said that people's concept of free will consists …
What else would you suggest based on the knowledge you have gathered? Self-love and self compassion, being able to organize all the feelings alone, have a mindset that you are good enough, but also ha…
I think it's cause anxious attachers (and I say it as a former anxious attacher) tend to go after us a lot, and are very sensitive for rejection. "They don't want me, so they must be deeply fucked up"…
Some of us are adults and not teenagers. Sounds like you are a teenager or have the mindset of a teenager.
No offense but you guys have the most unromantic mindset. I dont want my partner to fix my problems. I want her to give a fuck about my well being because I care about hers. I just think this confir…
You nailed it, western culture isn’t just “about freedom,” it’s engineered for hyper-independence and maximum consumption. That’s why divorce, loneliness, and relational burnout are the norm, not the …
Yeah… I had a rough time with my DA ex but he never suggested sleeping with anyone while we took some time apart. As for how long, it depends on the person. He usually didn’t need more than a week b…
Yes. I’m disorganized attachment, and I think I’m broken. I show affection one second. But then I get scared because I think I’m being too clingy. Sometimes I read posts here about how others have f…
Check his post history lol just two days ago he was lecturing women on how to date.i think he was ranting about a dating show but the mindset is the same victim mentality bullshit. “Dont kick a man wh…
You‘re so right - we tend to downplay or forget how far we’ve come, when in fact learning about our attachment issues and everything that goes along with that and making the decision to grow and do be…
"Sometimes it takes this one relationship that broke us completely to get to that level of self awareness and change of mindset that we most likely wouldn’t have been able to reach without that painfu…
Sounds very fearful avoidant. I’m an FA, and I now understand that the fear of getting too close to someone emotionally (being vulnerable) and the inability to take accountability is actually a fear o…
Truly incredible. Your outlook on life and on yourself is amazing. I’m inspired by the work you’ve put in to creating the life and the mindset you want. Thank you for sharing!!
Yes, this part needs to be addressed. However, it is so good that she isn’t spiraling about it. She can think about it in a calmer mindset and decide if it’s ok with her and their relationship or not.…
There is no way to postpone the trip. It's for study abroad and I've already paid non-refundable tuition. I'm actually really excited to go and hoping that while still staying in contact with my suppo…
*Hm, but I thought FA would distance when they feel too much of closeness?* It's like this. FAs will distance but then softly test for intimacy. They aren't afraid of being too close; they're afraid …
In order to overcome my anxious attachment, I wouldn’t say I’m fully healed yet, but I’m so much better compared to earlier this year. One thing I want you to understand is that there’s nothing wrong …
In order to overcome my anxious attachment, I wouldn’t say I’m fully healed yet, but I’m so much better compared to earlier this year. One thing I want you to understand is that there’s nothing wrong …
In order to overcome my anxious attachment, I wouldn’t say I’m fully healed yet, but I’m so much better compared to earlier this year. One thing I want you to understand is that there’s nothing wrong …
As a female, I struggled with this too. One day I had a mindset shift, and realized that the energy of wanting to find someone doesn’t bode well. You’re still in the sphere of anxiety. My advice w…
In order to overcome my anxious attachment, I wouldn’t say I’m fully healed yet, but I’m so much better compared to earlier this year. One thing I want you to understand is that there’s nothing wrong …
This is actually such a huge win! You’re learning to catch yourself mid-anxious spiral and reframe the story you’re telling yourself. That’s not silly at all, that’s real growth. The fact that you wen…
Let me give it to you straight and this is what comes up for me as a 34 single F. Do you think you might have the wrong mindset/attitude about dating right now? I think the process of dating can rea…
I can relate to you, I think people don't talk often enough about how dark and suffering it feels to be at the other end of the spectrum. People tend to only discuss the aftermath of how you should pi…
I’m working on this too and find it helpful to tell them you feel like they’re not interested if they don’t initiate and to ask them to be more proactive if they are. I also work on being more comfo…
Yes! Wow! Beautiful said, thank you for that! I certainly agree with you. In dating this time around (and I still am dating, technically), my approach was to make friends. I didn't push anyone away, b…
This is pure bullshit to the tenth power and weak minds will eat this up and wonder why their life is fucked lmao. Thoughts don’t magically bend reality but your beliefs, focus and mindset shape how y…
I’ve been reading and thinking a lot about the anxious–avoidant cycle — the pull of closeness vs. the need for space, the constant push and pull. It’s easy to spot the pattern, but what I’m really cu…
You are right to expect action from a life partner in situations like this. I think most people here are young and have a warped view on this from therapy culture making everyone only responsible for …
>my libido was high and I was always slept with him when we spent time together, sometimes multiple times. I guess it was how I felt most connected to him since the relationship never really progresse…
It sounds like we are definitely in similar patterns of mindset. I'm sorry about your struggles and loss and hope that you can heal in a way that you need to