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Afraid of everything - What you think i could do? — If i was going to use archetypes, im a child of a devouring mother and an absent father. **Most of my attitude in life is a combination of flight-freeze but also some fawn.** Anima, Animus and Shadow …

DevSecOps / AI CTF today - Ctf.punksecurity.co.uk — Our CTF runs today, with entry level and difficult challenges across DevSecOps and AI. No cost to play, some prizes for the best teams. CTFs are little competitive puzzle based games designed to exp…

Passive FTP into Kubernetes ? Sounds cursed. Works great. — “talk about forcing some ancient tech into some very new tech wow... surely there's a better way” said a VMware admin watching my counter FTP strategy😅 **Challenge accepted** I recently needed to r…

Title tags for product landing pages vs the actual products — I have a niche information architecture problem that I'd like to hear your views on. The website that I help to manage basically has 2 halves: product landing pages, and the actual, sign in-only prod…

Being a parent exposed everything bad about running a small business — Before kids, I founded and ran a small food delivery business for 5 years. It was locally loved, I had a steady stream of orders, and from the outside, it looked like freedom. But then I had my first…

Dating someone with a fearful-avoidant style has been unexpectedly… gentle? — I wanted to share a relationship experience that’s been genuinely interesting and surprisingly positive, especially for FAs and anyone curious about FA dynamics. If you are not interested in some per…

The monster jar theory of FA or avoidant attachment. — So I was talking to a friend of mine and supporting her and my own feelings of shame and I was reiterating somethjng that isn’t anything new at all but hit on an analogy that really worked for both of…

I finally realized my fear of closeness is really a fear of being known — I've been working to understand myself better as a DA, in part with the help of Reddit. I now feel the last puzzle pieces fell into place and I finally have a coherent story of why I am the way I am. …

Specific Person (SP) Manifestation: No Magic, No Supernatural Forces. Just Proven Science — Hi everyone, It’s been a long time since I last posted, and honestly it was overdue. I keep seeing the same recycled LOA bullshit everywhere. Endless manifestation porn, more unqualified people calli…

How do you think this Total Lunar Eclipse on march 3 might interact with an already high-activation zodiac year? — With the Total Lunar Eclipse on March 3 coming up, I’ve been thinking about how eclipses function when they occur during a year that’s traditionally considered fast-moving or catalytic within the 60-y…

I have done absolutely horrible things. I might be the worst human being to ever live. — 20M. This might be the longest post you'll ever read. I believe I have OCD and do nothing but ruminate 24/7 about my past. I have been in isolation for the last 3 years. It started as a fear of adult…

Recommend podcasts / videos about healthy male roles and positive masculinity — Early thirties male and I feel my brain needs some intel on being a better male role model. Emphasis on role model. Things I never learned or observed growing up. Can you recommend a podcast host or …

My husband cheated and is now the meanest person I’ve ever met — I really just need to rant because I feel like I’m going to lose my mind. So my (30F) husband (38M) cheated on me 4 days after my 30th birthday. To go into more detail, he snuck out of our house while…

Does anyone else find that exposure therapy and putting yourself in social situations literally fries your brain instead of making you stronger? — People often say things like "just work for a month and it'll get easier," "don't give in to your avoidance," "go where it scares you." I really tried to follow this advice, and it didn't get easier.…

The "Manosphere" — Last night my wife and I watched the new Netflix documentary on the Manosphere. It was entertaining and informative, but also quite sad. My first reaction, honestly, was that with the exception of th…

Solar Return Chart: Breakup? — Hi! I'm looking for some opinions on if this solar return chart shows a strong likelihood for a breakup this year. For some context (not looking for any advice, this is purely context), cheating in th…

Did anyone else find an odd sense of peace when COVID hit and we all had to self isolate? — Small confession: when the pandemic hit and we all had to self isolate, I found an odd sense of.. happiness? You wouldn't believe - (well maybe you guys would) how hard it is to explain my symptoms …

How do you deal with resentment toward a parent who “did their best”? — I’m in my 30s and just now fully realizing I was emotionally neglected growing up, and it’s honestly messing with me. I was raised by a single mother. I know she loves me, but love wasn’t enough. I d…

How can I build a personal life that doesn’t depend on other people? — Hi Reddit!! I really need an outside perspective on my situation, because I feel like I’m completely lost in where I’m going and what I actually want from my life… Maybe people who have learned to man…

How to stop the myths. (Please read) — Abstract- Sorry for the long post, but I hope you read it all! This post is to explain how these myths are spread and how to stop the spread. Dream myths have been known to stop people from lucid dre…

30 Years in "Functional Freeze": How I mistook Survival for Personality — For three decades, I lived in a state of high-functioning freeze. I was the "perfect" and reliable son, but internally, I felt like a total fraud. I grew up with a mother who used the Silent Treatment…

Asian-Americans say they are still seen as foreign, study finds — Survey shows more than half face ‘perpetual foreigner’ bias, with higher stress levels and exclusion across daily life **Like many Asian-Americans**, US-born Tiffany Chin has faced her share of sligh…

Out of a delusional episode and have quit drugs, but evidence of something "wrong" with saying it was delusional has emerged today... — First off do me a favor plz, google for "what is the electrical phenomenon some stipulate is needed for a timeline shift?" yourself and tell me if it throws in the answers anything about a change in S…

My friend and I are kids of the gateway. — I made an earlier post with a typo hopefully this one takes. I was exposed to the gateway tapes as a kid in gifted and talented. my best friend was also exposed to them . id love to meet other people …

Does anyone else with CPTSD feel like they’ve become really hard to be around? — I feel awful even writing this, but lately I keep feeling like I’m just… miserable to be around. When I lived alone, I think I managed my CPTSD “better” because I could isolate, regulate, put on a fa…

Therapist gets frustrated when i freeze. Am I in the wrong? — Hey all I'm working with my third therapist and have been seeing her weekly for about 5 months. Largely it has been very insightful. She is jungian so we have been working a lot with dreams, which h…

If you're sick of fades/tapers, try a down perm — This really just goes for the Asian bros with the typical 2A, flat, pin-stright hair that sticks straight out from the side and back. The ones who don't have this problem, I envy you. Even if it's re…

My dads been exposed by three siblings and my mom still has done nothing — I was the first to say something. It took me over ten years only to find out my youngest sister had told my mom about him showing her “videos.” Now at 12 a.m. in the morning, the police are in my hous…

Uncomfortable being seen — I think the reason therapy or even having a friend group feels uncomfortable to me isn’t just social anxiety it’s deeper than that. It’s like those situations force me to actually be present in myself…

Decidedly Single? — Have any of you found that it’s just better to be single and to not get romantically involved with anyone? I (34f) recently ended things with the last guy I was talking to for over a year and with wh…

I cheated on my husband (online) and want to leave this behind me. — Hi everyone, I’m really struggling and could use some perspective and support. I’m married and recently got caught up in multiple online conversations with men (mostly Snapchat). It started as flirti…

my bf let his sister come in while we were being intimate (19F, 20M) — my boyfriend and I both (20M and 19F) were being intimate. his sister who is a year younger than me and her friend who is the same age knock on his door to ask him something which i ended up finding d…

Feeling stagnant in my life — I am feeling stagnant and like I'm not growing in my life. I don't feel happy most of the time. Currently, I don't have a lot of money so I can't really have new experiences. Are there any YouTube vid…

Deep Regret of How I Handled Things in the Latter Parts of the Relationship — at the latter end of the toxic 3-year relationship, I snapped and lashed out several times. Calling them degrading names several times. In those 3 years, I tried to be patient, forgiving and unconditi…

The impact of Mother / Daughter SA - People don’t talk about it — People don’t talk about MDSA (mother daughter sexual abuse) much. They do more than they used to though. There’s also Janette McCurdys Memoir *I’m Glad my Mom Died*, which discusses this type of abuse…

32 years old, 4.5 years into the healing journey I've literally JUST realized I was sheltered — I can't believe this has only just hit me. I'm 32 years of age. THIRTY-TWO! It's literally just in the past hour hit me that I was extremely sheltered growing up and it's lead to me lacking the skills…

Purgatoryyyyyy — I have no interest to interact or get back at all I’m finally 20/20. It’s just that I’m not ready to visually see him move on yet. I’m glad there’s no harassment so far but I get a little comfort at t…

Sibling abuse is not the same as sibling rivalry. — My older sister was extremely abusive to me growing up. It was like she didn’t see me as a person, just a punching bag to take out her feelings on or an obstacle preventing her from being the most imp…

Disability discrimination at Goenka retreats — I recently attended a 10-day Vipassana course at Dhamma Dipa (UK). I’m neurodivergent (ADHD, Sensory Processing Disorder, awaiting autism assessment) and rely on earplugs as a medically necessary sens…

I 20m love her 19f and feel peace with her, but I’m unsure if I’m ready for this life or holding myself back from a version of life I haven’t lived yet. met 2024 oct — I’m really stuck and I’m trying to explain everything as honestly as I can because I genuinely don’t understand what’s going on with me anymore. I’m 20, and my past has a big role in all of this. I wa…

I still love him after he cheated - should I stay or give him a chance? — I’m having a hard time processing my breakup. My ex and I were together for three years, and it ended because he cheated. He never became physical with anyone else, but he talked to people on a dating…

Avoiding Your Real Work Is Costing You More Than You Think — # Avoiding Your Real Work: The Hidden Cost of Staying Busy Without Progress ***“I’ve been noticing this pattern in myself lately and wanted to share it here because I’m curious if others deal with th…

The fact that someone as terrible and disgusting as me has been allowed to live this long is the world's worst joke. — **(This is a repost of a post I made a while ago, which I am reposting because I'm back in a slump again. There aren't any major changes other than the ending bit.)** 20M. This might be the longest p…

I need to clean my instagram — I’m in a period of change and taking action. I’m past the period of just analysing and pondering about my life and my path and my daily mindset. I know that instagram has a huge impact on my mentali…

Conflict about 3rd kid after an affair (36M/36F) — TLDR I 36M and my ex wife 36F (reconciliation after an affair) are fighting a lot because of an unexpected pregnancy (3rd child). She wants to keep it, I want her to abort. So I (36M) and my girlfrie…

My mother set me up and got policemen and EMR to aggressively restrain me and put me in the ambulance when I least expected — I am mortified. The whole scene was scandalous, never had I ever felt so humiliated. It happened last Friday when I was just about to take a shower before I continued packing my belongings to move o…

Emotional incest: What are your symptoms as an adult — Hey guys, I can’t let this topic go because I can’t find a real answer anywhere, but I know 100% that I was a victim of emotional incest by my BPD mother. I’m wondering if it’s possible to develop t…

Why you should not check their social media - 4 scenarios — There are basically four scenarios that could play out when you check their social media: **Scenario 1:** Nothing has changed. They haven't posted anything, shared anything, etc. You get a tempora…

My Mother Who Turned My Mistakes Into My Identity — So I'm fully aware of the kind of person I'm and the kind of person I was and today I feel like sharing it because I had a bad fight with my mother & I'm feeling heavy on my chest. Basically I'm the…

Suspect fiance is cheating …need advice where to check for proof — My Fiance (63M) and I (F62) have serious suspicions but he always lies and is VERY smart. All I have is his shared Google account (timeline off) He communicates via WA I suspect or SMS. I have tried e…

My (42F) husband (41M) grew a mustache that triggers my childhood trauma. He says I should get over it so he can do what he wants with his face. Am I being unfair in asking him to remove it? — I’ve been with my husband for thirteen years, and for most of that time, he has been clean-shaven. Recently, he decided he wants to try growing out a mustache "for a little while." The problem is not…

I just need to vent: 10 years wasted would’ve been our 11th in a few weeks. We broke up last week due to an argument that we had. We were supposed to go to a concert together. She asked me “what time…

No problem, being vulnerable on here makes me feel uncomfortable, but I'm trying to expose myself to these feelings, so I can get over the unease. Just know you’re not in the struggle alone.

There's a million different opportunities. Most are viable. At 18 you basically have no experience. There's nothing wrong with that, and even a few advantages. But you also don't know what you don't …

I disagree. Some avoidants will be good at hiding yes, and that's because in their avoidance + arrested emotional development, the initial playful energy will cause you to mirror and stop noticing the…

Wanting to help others improve as a person isnt exclusively a secure trait and avoidants get awkward revealing their past if it makes them feel exposed or vulnerable, at least for FAs.

Yea, but I understand how that itself is such a scary thing to do right. It activates the avoidance and discard instantly because they start feeling vulnerable, safe and almost exposed. Vulnerability,…

Ahhh, I'm sorry to hear that. Thanks for your sympathy : ) How did you handle no contact? I found the short, sharp disconnect (after something that had initially seemed so promising) extremely diff…

Make a YouTube video and expose her...

Seems like a person who got spooked and having escaped unscathed has calmed down, reflected, and realized that perhaps their anxiety was irrational. And that is a good indicator that when times get to…

Yeah, I think this is definitely one of the challenges of healing. The vast majority of people are simply not that self aware about this sort of thing because these psychological concepts aren't that…

Honestly? It's mostly up to her to resolve that issue, not on you. But somethings you can do to help is tell her you like when people are being real, it doesn't matter if that's a bit imperfect. I al…

Fairly common and explains the reason behind anxious behavior strategies in your attachment system. As I’m sure many of you struggle with fully letting go of the past and probably struggle with emoti…

You have posted before about this and have gotten some great advice. I think you are being too hard on yourself. Progression is not linear. It takes time and practice. There are a lot of layers to hea…

I've wondered occasionally if FA was a kind of BPD-lite situation and DA was NPD-lite. It's like they're on the same spectrum just more towards the middle. The reasons: \- BPD people are responding t…

Avoidants typically harshly assert distance when their subconscious feelings are coming the closest to being exposed though. They will also often keep people they have genuine feelings for in their or…

I think the problem is not *how* you reassure her, it's that: * As a person with chronic pain with periods of flare-ups/exhaustion + being more introverted in general, your friend's anxious attachmen…

okay so I actually think I lean more towards anxious preoccupied attachment now… not that ChatGPT is always right but I used it not too long ago when I questioned my attachment style tbh and it made s…

Surely there's a few adjacent hobbies to mine that could be an overlap? I'm just trying to think of anything that could expose me to more nerdy women if that makes sense. I just worry that I'll take …

I am sorry…his words… Ask yourself - was this really out of the blue and over this relatively minor incident. Did you just not go to the party.  Okay, whatever you do - do not contact him. Do not exp…

I guess you're not entirely wrong; maybe different risks, since I rarely see him (once a week, and not always indoors), but I'm often home exposed to housemates (and their visitors) 24/7, sharing comm…

I had a specific type when I was younger and it was just what I was influenced by through the media I was exposed to and consumed growing up. Once I realized, I was way more open to different types of…

My boyfriend and I had a pause moment last night on the phone because we have a difference in worldviews - now that's a legitimate concern, and in response I made sure we just got off the phone. But o…

I know lots of single folks who are not on apps. Myself included. Broad strokes is that we didn’t get the engagement we wanted on apps. And often we were what I would call the wrong type for where w…

Because everyone tells you to go out and do things. What people forget is that there is a lot of luck involved in these things. There’s a chance you might meet someone the more exposed you are to othe…

It was irrational to follow up care with care? (This is asked genuinely, in case tone fails to convey. I do wholeheartedly appreciate your perspective.) I don’t particularly get many chances to like a…

Look, you don’t want your children exposed to bad stuff. I am very anti block. He sounds like a coward. I think it is cruel to block someone who is not harassing you.

big question, but the historical pattern is clear enough to sketch. **what's already happened:** - **pluto in capricorn (2008-2024)**: global financial crisis, rise of authoritarianism, surveillance…

No, they hate intimacy because they know deep down they lack that stuff and are afraid they'll be exposed.

You're friend sounds like a typical story of someone who recoiled from a bad trip. If you are of stable mind going into it then common psychedelics by themselves should not cause you to do anything to…

3 out of 5 people carry hsv2. It is considered more of a skin thing that happens on different areas of the body depending on 1 vs 2, than it is an STI and this is why standard STI panels don’t include…

Various studies say over half of people have herpes, over half of people who have it don’t know they have it, have you recently been blood igg tested for it? I would ask him to get on antivirals if yo…

Any report like this only uses reported cases. In the US the CDC literally does not recommend testing for hsv1/2 bc of the stigma and known higher rate. Why there is still such a stigma around hsv 2…

Has he had testing to determine which herpes he has? HSV-1 typically causes outbreaks on the mouth. HSV2 typically causes outbreaks on the genitals. Either one can appear in either location, or even m…

I have not said that I agree that 3/5 people have it I have simply provided why the numbers are low. I find it interesting that this post in general has become about fear mongering instead of actual …

The layering you are describing is real and this eclipse was a big one for exactly the reasons you named. A total lunar eclipse in Virgo opposing a Pisces Sun, while Saturn and Neptune are conjunct at…

Thank you so much! I also commend you for your bravery! Nobody likes to be the bearer of bad news or a “downer” but the only way that we can fix this is by facing it. The New Age (and all religions…

As someone who couldn’t stop once they’ve started, no matter what my SO said or what plans I might have had the next day, he is not going to change until he wants to. No amount of pleading or begging …

FWIW, having it does not mean you engage in casual sex or have a lot of partners. I have never engaged in casual or slept around but was exposed through a non-consensual act. Many people get it from t…

You're a byproduct of your environment. You must be exposed to more Asian culture nowadays.

The honestly is a great sign. If you’re in the dating world, you’re going to be exposed to people who have herpes who don’t even know and/or don’t tell you. His honesty is a green flag here and for th…

Correct and the vagina is an exposed mucus membrane.

The issue is that condoms only cover the penis. All the surrounding genitalia isn’t covered, so that whole area is still exposed to STI transmission. If you read the stats on it, while condoms do re…

Many people get HSV-1 from parents or grandparents as infants, or through exposure at daycare. HSV-1 is cold sores. If you didn't get it before you could talk, you can get it from anyone you kiss, or …

With the lens of emotional neglect, I have a whole new perspective. When I meet people and spend time with them, I can quickly see if they are a fellow sufferer. The opposite is also true. I didn’t f…

This is also something ive been going through, 6 years with somebody I grew up with for almost 20 years. Close family and friends, unfortunately the respect ive given to her was not enough for a recip…

Some people are like cockroaches. They live comfortably in the dark. When the light of truth shines, they start to panic and scatter. And the person who brings the light automatically becomes their…

Good job! These toxic positivity, spiritually bypassing people need to shut up with their invalidating and victim blaming BS. Some of this shit is taught by abusers themselves in order to gaslight the…

My money is on: he's having an affair and the affair partner is sending the messages. Most people, if presented with this from a partner, would react with initial confusion, but if they truly were n…

I exposed my narc. I wasn’t at all concerned about appearing bitter. After what I went through, I don’t care one little bit what people think about me. He absolutely lost his mind. He accused me of r…

Hi! OP pointed out that I may have accidentally replied to my own comment when I mean’t to reply to you. Did you get my reply in your inbox? It was this.. Thank you so much! I also commend you fo…