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you may relate, but your religious mythology has nothing to do with physical touch, and stop insinuating that it does. Me pointing out the manipulative tactics you are using to exploit peoples vulnera…

I think I'm in the process of healing, but it hurts so much. Feeling very forgotten and abandoned tonight — I truly recognize and see how much I've grown and how far I've come. I have so much self awareness, gotten good at soothing myself, talking to myself, even managing anxiety attacks. It's not always pe…

Is it just me or is "date secure people" a bad idea? — To be specific, people who were born into families that fostered secure attachment. Not earned secures. I think the latter is exactly what I need but there's no stat on how much of the population is e…

A lot more people are hurt/traumatized than evil — A lot more people are traumatized/ in pain than are evil. And I won’t say that evil people simply don’t exist, they do, but there’s fewer truly evil people than there are hurt/traumatized people who d…

Want to hurt a covert narcissist? Tell people the truth (but be smart about it) — **DISCLAIMER:** Only do this if you are physically, financially, emotionally, and psychologically separated and safe from a narcissist. The following will probably not be applicable if you have to mai…

Is meditation good for sharpening the mind — I'm not the best at articulating this stuff but I'll try my best, hopefully it's understandable. I have a problem where my mind is very chaotic, a lot of the stuff is happening at the same time in t…

Ex confronted me, then broke down. — About a month ago, my ex broke up with me because she said she was "confused." I immediately went No Contact. didn’t beg, didn’t text, just started focusing on myself and moving on. Last night, we bo…

Spring Cleaning and Change — Currently, the biggest benefit for me since the new year has been discarding items. I've gotten into a bad habit of stockpiling possessions in one room and eventually thinking I would take action on t…

Anyone just become.. angry? — I find my so sick of not being listened to and ignored, that all my anxiety and sadness has just become anger. Everything annoys me, I’m bitter, and I just feel done with the world. I don’t have the e…

How do you deal with resentment toward a parent who “did their best”? — I’m in my 30s and just now fully realizing I was emotionally neglected growing up, and it’s honestly messing with me. I was raised by a single mother. I know she loves me, but love wasn’t enough. I d…

Does everyone really think APs are deliberately trying to control and harm them, rather than having a really crappy communication and parenting skills? — I read a lot of posts where people are so angry, bitter and resentful. Sure they're venting etc. and not to minimize their experiences or feelings but it's not often that parents deliberately try to h…

I Stayed For WAY Too Long — I just found this sub (after watching the Ben Affleck movie *Deep Water*, which was super triggering), so I thought I'd tell you my story. Maybe someone here can relate. My ex-wife struggled with a …

Does anyone have experience with Mexican dream herb? Trip report. — I met with 2g of tea brewed in 2 cups of boiling water, steeped for 7 minutes. I wasn’t able to fall asleep, not really, but I didn’t dream, either. What the tea showed me was a lucid, waking dream. …

Feels like black magic — Post leaving narc I thought I was free. Tech I've had for YEARS suddenly started breaking. I've never had skin issues but I got these black marks all over my body. I felt I was possessed. I forgot I w…

Admitted to Stanford but at the cost of my childhood — I am a high school senior who has spent the past 18 years growing up in a middle-class Asian family in the Bay Area. My parents constantly complain that they have no money, no connections, and no adva…

Sad energy — Hey guys, i really want to raise my vibrations only because im tired of being in this energy where i have a lot of bitterness inside of me. I want to change that so i can be happy within myself and ca…

My therapist says she can’t see me after I graduate, and our session turned into this chaotic, bittersweet back-and-forth. — ​I’ve been spiraling a bit because graduation is coming up, which means I might lose my school counselor. We had this long, intense exchange today and I’m still trying to process her attitude. I wante…

How to deal with resentment. It is making me bitter and angry — Been wronged a lot in my life. Ig I had poor boundaries and my locus of control was outwards. I've this resentment and anger that I'm waking up with everyday and it is costing me peace. Everyday I'm d…

My (32M) wife’s (29F) jealousy is getting worse and is affecting my friendships and work. What should I do to help her get real help without losing myself? — My wife (29F) and I (32M) have been together almost 5 years and married for 1. I love her, I am committed to this marriage, and I do not want to leave. What I want is for her to get real help for this…

Why are koreans so class/status conscious? — \*\* here, 'koreans' mean korean-koreans or first gen korean immigrants, not korean americans who tend to be more chill in my experience. I'm a first gen immigrant. I'm posting it here in a hope to ge…

It’s finally over — I’m sitting at a closed bar at 10am with a beer in my hand both celebrating and grieving at the same time. I (26m) spent two years with a woman (24f) I thought was the love of my life. Everything abo…

I can't tell if it's maturity, cynicism, or apathy — If someone isn't into me? Fine. It doesn't even really sting anymore. I don't feel any type of way about it. Not even "Well I'm glad they told me now" (even tho I guess I am). It doesn't even really r…

It’s taken so long.. — I’ve finally had a deep realization about my breakup and it has helped me process a lot of lingering feelings. For the longest time, I blamed the other person for everything, imagining that they disca…

I’m intensely triggered by my partner’s younger sister and I hate what it brings out in me — I need to say something ugly and I’m hoping someone here will understand rather than just tell me to “work on my self-esteem.” My boyfriend has younger sisters, and one of them especially triggers so…

Wish I could say I was surprised at this response — To keep the story short I sent my mom a text highlighting all of things that I’ve been blamed for and ways I’ve been hurt through the years and asked her to please not reach out to me again unless it…

Seeing these hopeless people — I keep seeing posts from people who have been broken up with for 1,2,3 weeks making posts wondering how and what sometimes also posts wondering if it's normal to still miss them after 3 weeks etc... I…

“THE EARTH - A LIVING CREATURE!” This is the message of a brief video created from NASA satellite imagery. — I was a contact team coordinator for the CE-5 Initiative in Los Angeles from 1992 to 1998. “She is alive. She is awake and She loves us.” is the message that I received during of a kind of channel…

Why am I jealous of those couples that can keep getting back together and breaking up. — He won’t get back with me. Not even for sex he says it’s unhealthy. But isn’t breaking my heart also not healthy. Why don’t I get a second chance? I absolutely can promise I have changed and becom…

My experience losing the love of my life — Sorry for the long post, I usually just read everyone else’s posts, but I felt like I wanted to share my story. I feel like I just had this realization the other day that everything would be alright …

What do you do after someone declines a date? — I heard from a coworker just this evening that someone I had asked out (different department) is "disappointed that I don't talk to him anymore". I was really into him. He wasn't into me. Or not dati…

Blah — Panorama Marble. I don't know why this stuck with me. I've done a lot of out of character things since the breakup. I bought a basketball, I went barhopping, I avoid LA like the plague now, and Ive …

Unsent letter — I'm sure there are plenty of unsent letters on this sub, but here's my version: STBXW, I know you, and who you really are. You're a vindictive, spiteful, jealous and manipulative person. You're a l…

Have you regretted not exposing the person who left you for someone else? — It has been over 14 months already, and there are moments of bitterness for me. There are days were I feel like I should have went public about this. It does pain me still knowing that the relationshi…

Dear parents, why are you even here — For context, my parents immigrated from their home country of China to a western country, Canada. But I’m pretty sure they hate it here. They constantly complain about how everything is worse here, ho…

Is it normal to feel resentment towards my mother for asking me to get therapy? — I (F17) have been asking my mother to get me into therapy since I was 11, because of some issues I have been going through, both because of my parents and because of peers and personal issues. Each ti…

My boyfriend hasn’t had a job in months and I’m now the sole provider. That’s just part of it. — Chase (35M) and I(30F) have been dating for close to two years. For the first several months, we had a great sex life and honestly moved way too fast–I moved in with him after only dating for six mont…

My mother set me up and got policemen and EMR to aggressively restrain me and put me in the ambulance when I least expected — I am mortified. The whole scene was scandalous, never had I ever felt so humiliated. It happened last Friday when I was just about to take a shower before I continued packing my belongings to move o…

Should I just leave my father and move back to my home country with my mom? — Tl.dr Should I(17f) just leave my dad(40sM) and and move back to my home country with my mom(40sF) (who isn’t in this country btw) bcz things are really messed up. My mom is thinking of getting a divo…

The letter I will never send. — # I'm not looking for sympathy, I just need to get this out there. I’ve spent countless hours sitting, pacing the house, going for late night walks and drives, pondering my thoughts, feeling stuck, …

I don't like my boyfriend but I don't know how to break up with him 23F 22M 8m long relationship — Where do I start? I had a crush on this guy in highschool and basically we remained friends throughout college. One day he got kicked out of his mom's house because he went to jail for beating up hi…

Does no money mean no value in Asian culture? — ever since losing my mother, I've learned a lot about how relationships work. like bitter truth I've learned from observing others is that no money means no value for yourself. it's like no matter how…

I [M23] am facing a decision that might cost me what I think is the love of my life [23F] — TL;DR: After a wonderful but complex 4.5 years, me and my partner separeted. We then kept spending a lot of time with each other and stayed exclusive, before completely ending our contact for a few mo…

Literally Threw Up at Work — I no longer know what to do. I admit that I am at my wit’s end. My ex (35f) requested a break with me (33m) in January after nearly 3 years together. We were just talking about getting married, mergin…

i had a dream of my ex getting a girlfriend and i feel sick — for like some background information, I broke up with my ex almost 6 months ago. i’d like to believe that I got over him because I don’t think about him as much as I did he’s the last thing I ever thi…

Those who were cheated on, did you keep it to yourself? — I'm not talking about telling the kids - that's probably a no. I'm also not talking about tell my close friends and relatives - that's a yes. But there are a bunch of people who are more like mutual …

maybe texting my ex? — Me and my ex have been broken up for almost 4 years. We stayed quite close friends for a while and then just seen each other every so often from mutual friends. we have been in fully no contact for ab…

Divorce? — I am a SAHM (F33) of two kids (2.5 and 1 year old) since last 1.5 years. We live in Ireland and our families are in India. I had a well paid job and only left to take care of my kids as we have no sup…

What have I become? — I am nearing the end of my divorce (we're just waiting for the court to finalize/sign off on the stipulated judgement). Not long ago, I was watching as the spacecraft carrying the Artemis II astro…

How to stop being jealous/bitter over rich people? — So I'm trying to manifest wealth but I have sort of a "block". I'm really bitter whenever I see someone my age on social media or irl going to trips, concerts, etc. just stuff I wasn't able to do due …

How to stop being jealous/bitter over rich people?

Helplessly lonely and bitter — Helplessly lonely and bitter Hi reddit! I’ve been around on reddit for a while now with different accounts, now made a throwaway to contact humans in some form and if not ask for help, at least dare…

Yeah, this is not true and not really good advice. In fact, it’s mental bullshit that feeds the ego of a person. People are bitter and want their ex to feel bad and regretful because it makes them fee…

I don’t find people here often that have that mindset and I agree! People on this sub are so bitter, but if someone left because it’s what they thought was best, how can we hate them for that? Realizi…

I agree. And a perspective from someone who’s sort of finally on the other side of heartbreak recently - it might not. I have no evidence that my ex even misses me. We just don’t talk anymore. Hones…

My ex broke up with me, I only sent him one message and link discussing ED. Stated "read it or don't". After that I muted all possible ways he'd contact. Had fair share of bitter tears and lost weight…

Absolutely wrong name for that sub. I read a few random posts with comments and what do we have here: affirmations, sublimals, self-love and mental diet.  So they are not criticizing Neville's teach…

Yes. It’s a very bitter pill to swallow. AND, you can manifest it gone.

Oh, no. Sorry, that's what I thought I was responding to is what DAs say about AAs. My (admittedly still in my hurt/bitter phase) take is that AAs say "please consider my needs I've told you about" …

It’s been a year (yesterday) since my ex cruelly and coldly discarded me by text (after 18 months of dating… and lots of life experiences).. “I can’t see you anymore, I wish you well”.. It was massive…

Orrrrrrrr.... In the early thaw of spring, when frost still clung stubbornly to the edges of the earth, the apology remained unsent. It lingered like a letter never mailed. Its seal unbroken, its tru…

I'm am an exceptionally cynical person but that's by nature, and what I have noticed is that most cynical people are embittered and jaded romantics who have been let down too often and proceed to then…

>Whatever the actual proportion is, I bet there is definitely a rise in non-secure attachment overall.  Yeah, agreed. People keep citing these dated and dubious "statistics" that 50% of the populati…

Some of the OP's old posts have either been deleted by mods or by himself. OP has often shown bitterness and attacked avoidants in the past and that's the context the person you're talking to is refer…

Well said. OP talks eloquently about using a painful experience as a catalyst for personal growth instead of using it to justify bitterness or to focus on blaming and shaming. That's a huge sign of p…

It's crazy that you are still looking for a fight with me here. We literally had an amazing date yesterday. The people who weren't bitter gave me advice that helped. I don't know why you’re reading th…

Text of original post by u/bleepbloooopity: I truly recognize and see how much I've grown and how far I've come. I have so much self awareness, gotten good at soothing myself, talking to myself, even …

Yeah, this is the best advice. It's brilliant. Unfortunately, it's also bitter medicine.

Yes, I relate. I have to admit something...I would probably be real kealous and insecure. Not just because of me wanting it for myself, but also because I compare myself to them and I would feel inade…

Stop doing oppression olympics. It’s not a competition. It doesn’t matter who “has it worse.” Suffering is suffering. Everyone, regardless of gender, suffers under the patriarchy or kyriarchy or whate…

It was just an ad hominem. This user thinks that my my acknowledgement of sexual dimorphism and differences in gender constructs and societal expectations is an endorsement or that I'm somehow using t…

I've been so hard on myself. I have such an amazing life and yet I think my life sucks bc I am 29m and still single and have been single my entire life but I am so tired of being so bitter and being s…

I think a lot of people are in denial about that bitter and frustrated energy being noticeable by the opposite sex. Finding ways to overcome that negative thought loop will probably help you out with …

No I'm picking up on some bitter vibes tbh. On the other hand he pursues me pretty heavily. He even crafted me a gift. I'll see it through and keep talking to others. I feel bad taking to others but I…

I also think it's a completely different bag of worms to apply attachment theory to yourself as a tool to help guide self-growth (even if it's misinterpreted), versus using it to diagnose others just …

> I'm frustrated and I don't know what or how I need to change to build the connection. Trying to change yourself into someone else's ideal will drive you crazy. Because everyone has their own speci…

Ooof about the money….. a year or so back my mom gifted me really nice pots and pans and I think it was an early “wedding gift” because I wouldn’t otherwise get nice pots and pans. Thoughtful but bitt…

Oh girl, seems you have really cool people around. What is the field of the second one? The post-doctorate period is bittersweet, you are so happy because you are done, and, at the same time, struggli…

I got a similarly worded text too (in the middle of my work day - so that wasn't nice to read) after he was the one pursuing and arranging dates which confused me. I feel that I was myself, even encou…

I think it's okay and probably even healthy to set boundaries by saying you aren't comfortable meeting friends/family yet. If you constantly capitulate to another other person's desires without making…

No, I cannot honestly say I’m completely over her. I still have to remind myself that we weren’t right for each other and consciously shelve my bitterness. I guess the sting I picked up in your commen…

I know the expectation is different for men from women who want to be pursued but I truly think we're getting too old to be dealing with this shit. Totally normal for women to expect the man to sugges…

In fairness I’m a single mum that let him completely and utterly take the piss out of me for months cooking him dinners and paying for dates etc - I’d hope she’d award damages 😂 but yeah I get it, I’…

I’m still bitter about belongings exes have kept after a breakup. It’s been almost 10 years and I still think about the pillow and satin pillowcase one of them kept. Others may see it as a “cheap, eas…

I get where you’re coming from but it has nothing to do with the ex or the breakup. I thought about the pillow just a couple days ago because the loft was perfect and I could really use that exact sup…

Idk but let’s hope it doesn’t turn into something similar to the well-established trend where bitter, lonely men complain about what women do on the internet. That trend is mad lame.

4 months is way too far in the past for her to be so bitter. It sounds like she is not interested in being friends with you after all.

Women also hate bitter dudes who are hung up on their height, and people who over generalize and treat groups of people as monoliths.

2 weeks post breakup from a 7 month relationship. It sucks. We weren’t compatible, but it was mostly due to her and her issues. She had some major trauma. Is extremely bitter and angry but refuses t…

Seriously? Making a conversation interesting is too much effort for you? If your already resentful about doing all the work before you've even met a woman, maybe you're right and you should just be …

She left the US team in 2019 when she was 16 years old and basically unknown, her old team wished her well. She didn't win big until three years after and by now it's been seven years. If people are b…

Every single day. It's hard not to be bitter.

She's sent me really weird birthday gifts two years in a row. The first time she sent me stuff from abroad so I ended up having to pay more than the cost of the gifts in customs fees. This year I got …

I am bitter, angry and resentful about it. I just try to think of gratitude and all the love that exists in my life. It can eat away at you as you get older. So learn acceptance and as much peace as y…

I have siblings who grew up with other family members, in another country, in a big loving supportive family. They think I was the lucky one because I grew up in a rich country... But I grew up with n…

After reading the excerpt you shared a couple of times, it sounds to me like Marcus has explored and witnessed the depths of both good and evil acts. He knows that we all possess the same capabilities…

Yes, especially when my mother keeps bringing up other children’s successes or their attending good unis. That could’ve been me if i wasn’t robbed of a healthy childhood. Ugh. As an adult, I’m trying …

And yet they met at his car where he has wine ready for a date?? They had time for that?. OP.. bitter truth learned by others is that cheaters need very little time to consumate their affair...

That’s the feeling I’m dealing with. For me this grief is a huge sign of progress, but it’s bittersweet I never want to go back to denial, because being in pain and confused was the worst torture, b…

Yes, definitely bittersweet. Before I woke up I was confident I was healthier than most folks (bwahahaha!) and smart enough to figure out the secret one day. Obviously, I was delusional, but the blind…

I think there’s a strong tendency for some people to mischaracterize how forgiveness works. As I understand it, forgiveness is a protection against becoming bitter. It never excuses the abuse or the a…