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you may relate, but your religious mythology has nothing to do with physical touch, and stop insinuating that it does. Me pointing out the manipulative tactics you are using to exploit peoples vulnera…

What to Say When You’re Not the Cheapest Option (And Someone Pushes Back on Price) — I will not promote. This is a best practice I've found in my own works.So, you’re having a great conversation with a potential client and then you get hit with that line: “I know someone who can do it…

The brutal truth about content marketing no one tells you (until you burn out) — The brutal truth about content marketing no one tells you (until you burn out) You can publish 3 blog posts a week, schedule a dozen tweets, crank out a newsletter, and still feel like you're screami…

ROAST my design before I end up in the streets — Hey everyone, I recently launched a small SaaS project and while I’m getting some traffic, the conversion rate is sooo low. I’m trying to figure out if the design is part of the problem — or the prob…

I have failed. More than once. (i will not promote) — Been 10 years since I started my professional journey. I have failed. More than once. I have also succeeded and still doubted myself through it. I have risked time, energy, money, relationships. S…

I made $32 after 16 months of coding. Was it all a waste of time? — Over the last 16 months, I’ve done something that sounds cooler than it really is: I built a SaaS. In my free time, at night, on weekends, while everyone else was at the beach or watching Netflix, I …

Are you running Exit surveys? — When your wife asks, “Does my bum look big in this?” Do you give the honest answer? Or do you say “no” to keep the peace? The truth might sting. But the people who tell you what you need to hear are …

We all have this problem, what's your solution? (i will not promote) — I'll cut straight to the chase, do you **focus your marketing on**: 1. **The benefits of your product** (which other solutions similarly provide) 2. **The novel way those benefits are delivered** (wh…

The successful are not here — After years of watching YouTube videos about startup / founder stuff and reading blogs, Reddit, and the horrible place that is LinkedIn, I came to realize that 99.9% of advice (especially in the SaaS …

Turns out I needed a "middleman" to have a successful relationship with a DA — Now the title may sound wild, but stick with me. # The Story So I (26M) have been dating someone (24F) who, as I came to realize, is a dismissive avoidant. It's been about a year now - though truthf…

Seeking self-closure — To give a brief overview. Had a multi year situationship with someone I had fallen for, a fearful avoidant. Much pulling and pushing until it ended by her pushing everything away. A year later she st…

I think I'm in the process of healing, but it hurts so much. Feeling very forgotten and abandoned tonight — I truly recognize and see how much I've grown and how far I've come. I have so much self awareness, gotten good at soothing myself, talking to myself, even managing anxiety attacks. It's not always pe…

How to soothe myself when they say they aren't upset. — I am very fortunate to have consistent, attentive, loving people in my adulthood. I haven't conquered my unhealthy habits that come from my attachment system, however. My husband is wonderful. He st…

Success Story: FA/Disorganized Attachment Healing Roadmap, Resource Recommendations — **Hello, fellow Fearful Avoidants! The below post has grown out of almost 3 years of research and healing this attachment style, which in my case was coupled with Relationship OCD (ROCD). ROCD is a vi…

Weekly Rant/Vent Thread — This is a thread for AVOIDANT ATTACHERS ONLY. A rant/vent, by nature, is one sided, can be strongly worded, and is a way for someone to get something off their chest. It is by no means a universal t…

Weekly Rant/Vent Thread — This is a thread for AVOIDANT ATTACHERS ONLY. A rant/vent, by nature, is one sided, can be strongly worded, and is a way for someone to get something off their chest. It is by no means a universal t…

Weekly Rant/Vent Thread — This is a thread for AVOIDANT ATTACHERS ONLY. A rant/vent, by nature, is one sided, can be strongly worded, and is a way for someone to get something off their chest. It is by no means a universal t…

Weekly Rant/Vent Thread — This is a thread for AVOIDANT ATTACHERS ONLY. A rant/vent, by nature, is one sided, can be strongly worded, and is a way for someone to get something off their chest. It is by no means a universal t…

Weekly Rant/Vent Thread — This is a thread for AVOIDANT ATTACHERS ONLY. A rant/vent, by nature, is one sided, can be strongly worded, and is a way for someone to get something off their chest. It is by no means a universal t…

Weekly Rant/Vent Thread — This is a thread for AVOIDANT ATTACHERS ONLY. A rant/vent, by nature, is one sided, can be strongly worded, and is a way for someone to get something off their chest. It is by no means a universal t…

What is my core wound when I don't worry what others think about me, I'm not afraid of being alone, but still no boundaries with closest people — I want to heal my wounds and spot and correct the false truths that I have about myself and others, but I'm finding it quite difficult. It is because it seems to me that I lack some essential traits o…

A letter to my FA Ex — I don’t even know why I’m writing anymore. I don’t know why I still pour my feelings onto paper when the person they’re meant for has emotionally switched off. Maybe this isn’t for you. Maybe it’s jus…

Weekly Rant/Vent Thread — This is a thread for AVOIDANT ATTACHERS ONLY. A rant/vent, by nature, is one sided, can be strongly worded, and is a way for someone to get something off their chest. It is by no means a universal t…

a song about longing for something that never was - disorganized attachment style edition — lyrics: Who am I without wanting you? A shadow tracing something true There's a part of me that still holds onto you tight To every place you touched in my life I can't tell where you end, and I b…

a song about longing for something that never was - disorganized attachment style edition (cathartic release) — Lyrics: I’m standing at a wishing well, One coin trembling in my hand, A promise pressed against my palm, A truth I barely understand. They told me I was unworthy, Long before I learned my name,…

i feel safe with being almost loved | disorganized attachment style anthem | i want love but i'm scared | (cathartic release) — Lyrics: Love, for me, is just a hallway, Soft light, shadows drifting slow. I see a silhouette approaching Then I turn before my heart can get too close. Sometimes I feel a brush of something ten…

Weekly Rant/Vent Thread — This is a thread for AVOIDANT ATTACHERS ONLY. A rant/vent, by nature, is one sided, can be strongly worded, and is a way for someone to get something off their chest. It is by no means a universal t…

A letter to my fearful avoidant ex — 31st December 2025 So here we are. Another night, another thought. It’s been nearly 25 days since Eddie left me. Recently, so many emotions have been running through my mind. I never thought I would…

Weekly Rant/Vent Thread — This is a thread for AVOIDANT ATTACHERS ONLY. A rant/vent, by nature, is one sided, can be strongly worded, and is a way for someone to get something off their chest. It is by no means a universal t…

Weekly Rant/Vent Thread — This is a thread for AVOIDANT ATTACHERS ONLY. A rant/vent, by nature, is one sided, can be strongly worded, and is a way for someone to get something off their chest. It is by no means a universal t…

I'm not sure about my attachment style but I want to discover it right now 'cause I want to start healing!!!!!! — Sorry for the long text, I want to be thorough. So, I just ended my first ever relationship. I'm 20, I'm a lesbian from a conservative background and had a lot of internalized homophobia and religiou…

Weekly Rant/Vent Thread — This is a thread for AVOIDANT ATTACHERS ONLY. A rant/vent, by nature, is one sided, can be strongly worded, and is a way for someone to get something off their chest. It is by no means a universal t…

March 2026 Astrology: Transits, Key Dates, and More — **Last month’s write-up, I ended with this,** *“Let’s just say we end the month in a chaotic state of energy. Nothing seems real while at the same time, there is a sense of urgency that something need…

Weekly Rant/Vent Thread — This is a thread for AVOIDANT ATTACHERS ONLY. A rant/vent, by nature, is one sided, can be strongly worded, and is a way for someone to get something off their chest. It is by no means a universal t…

Update: My mom actually showed up at my friend's home to get my therapist's contact info. — First post: https://old.reddit.com/r/raisedbynarcissists/comments/1qgkzxj/mom_threatened_to_go_to_friends_house_to_find_my/ A month ago she threatened to do it, at which point I told her the truth: n…

Growing my inner child feels like murdering my soul — So now my relationships,my desires in life,wants ,needs basically evolve around the little guy in me.And if I were to give up on them and tell him that its not a dream or a game anymore,we are adult n…

Media fear-mongering or truth? — Back when my dad was around 17 he did shrooms 5 or 6 times. Just picked them and ate them with his mates. Had no knowledge of psychedelics and didn’t weigh any particular dose. Said it was great every…

F**CKKKKKKKKK — I don’t really have anywhere to say this, so I’m just putting it here. I was with someone for a long time who I truly believed was my person. From the beginning, there was just something about her th…

DDay - 2/19/2026 - Online Emotional Affair Led to Full Blown Infidelity — I found out my wife was going on “solo” concert trips, but was also using them as a way to vacation with a guy she had been talking to online for years. Seventeen years together and seven years marri…

I have done absolutely horrible things. I might be the worst human being to ever live. — 20M. This might be the longest post you'll ever read. I believe I have OCD and do nothing but ruminate 24/7 about my past. I have been in isolation for the last 3 years. It started as a fear of adult…

Stuck In My Head After Affair — So 3 years ago, I found through phone bills that my wife was texting a coworker more than anyone else. I confronted her as she had also been very distant. After trickle truthing she admitted to having…

I recently found out my close friend slept with my girlfriend while we were together. I'm struggling with how to process it. — I’m a 22-year-old Japanese guy and I recently learned something that completely changed how I see a lot of people in my life. About a year and a half ago I was in a serious relationship. We lived tog…

Day 47 of no contact. Here's what nobody tells you about what happens to your brain. — I didn't plan to go no contact. I just got to a point where I realized every time I reached out I felt worse for three days afterward. So I stopped. Day 1–7 was the worst week of my life. Worse than …

Want to hurt a covert narcissist? Tell people the truth (but be smart about it) — **DISCLAIMER:** Only do this if you are physically, financially, emotionally, and psychologically separated and safe from a narcissist. The following will probably not be applicable if you have to mai…

Energy healing. How it works and what does the “patient” have to do so it is successful!! — My main technique when performing energy healing is that I don’t “put” some other energy or mine into patients body. I work with their energy since I believe they have all energy they might need for a…

Covert narcissists are drawn to people with a strong instinct to help and care. — I grew up early. Owning Responsibilities that weren't mine. I learned that love was earned through being useful, stable, and selfless. I became the person people brought their chaos to. The one who a…

Gateway tapes and life changes — I began the tapes around the end of December last year. I’ve spent a lot of time on each tape, sitting with them for a while so I can absorb as much as I can from each one. I’ve been alternating betwe…

My (26/M) Girlfriend (26/F) Of 6.5 Years Emotionally Cheated and I Don’t Know What To Do — My (26/M) girlfriend (26/F) and I met our first year of college and started dating shortly after. We went through Covid together, graduated together, and started living together about 2 years ago. We…

How honest should I be with my new psychiatrist? — The last 2ish months I have been having a lot of issues with both my anxiety and depression and I think I need to change or adjust my meds. I have been “self medicating” aka smoking hella weed… not my…

My dad (56M) cut me off (21) for sleeping over at my boyfriend’s house. Now he’s blowing up at me and ruining our relationship beyond repair. — \-Sorry had to repost due to not having line breaks. I’ve always had a complicated relationship with my dad. He’s very controlling and has always been a “helicopter” parent when I was growing up. I a…

For Those Struggling With REBAL Build — [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mhyR\_YzKMe0&list=LL&index=104](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mhyR_YzKMe0&list=LL&index=104) Hey all! I wanted to share a meditation I use to form my REBAL. I thoug…

Agreed. I just checked out this sub because I was interested, but the putting down of Neville has turned me off. Studying and implementing Nevilles teachings for the past few years has made me a new w…

Moonbeam I appreciate your subreddit To tell you the truth I got distracted by Goddard's hype. He seemed to try imbue it with mystery. The truth is there is God, but why the pretense of all that. You…

>you said that lucid dreaming is an internal experience while AP is a real and tangible one I said this, however that is not the total truth - the opposite can also be true, check out the video under…

a) law of assumption, not law of belief. And where did you get the other descriptions from? I've been on Neville sub for a while, literally noone describes the law in those words or speak in a spiritu…

I've asked two different entities, and they gave me partly conflicting answers. The self-proclaimed deity said most humans and all animals go to an enormous astral...warehouse waiting room thingy. Th…

I had to add this: (In situations where they have intentionally/willingly hurt you) If your tears/pleads didn’t eat them up then your silence won’t either. They don’t give a fuck about you & That’s …

This!! Same man. I want to use my trauma as an excuse but the truth is when I was with her I only knew my own toxic coping skills taught by my manipulative dysfunctional family

Thanks. I like the last part, let go or be dragged. Ain’t it the truth.

So I just wrote a comment today on another post that might help too: You’re being too hard on yourself. Your divorce is completely fresh and you need to give yourself grace and allow yourself to feel…

You have the right to your truth! And accountability is needed at times for you and for them. I think there is such a thing as loving through high expectations. Avoiding the hard truth of things means…

What does that look like??? Find a new hobby. Anything. Try learning to knit. Learn to build robots. Take a class in 17th century blacksmithing. Join a woodworkers guild. Join an improve troupe. Volu…

I think its more about your relationship to it, like personally and privately. Before you bring your caregiver into the conversation. If you hurt your child by ignoring their feelings when they were c…

1. That is why it’s called maladaptive daydreaming. The person does so to escape their current reality. They are not making actual changes, thinking different thoughts, reconditioning the subconscious…

Love these arguments. Point 1: There is a difference between hypnosis (true authentic feelings of experience of here and now of the desired outcome) and daydreaming. When you give your mind and your…

You’re getting your results yet you’re crying and spazzing out about your SP every two days? I’m not trying to be rude, I’m just pointing out the truth. You’re not getting everything you want and you’…

Hey I understand what you are saying. I’m with you. It’s a battle of who is more damaged. I look at it this way. No matter what the DA or AA has done, both attachment styles are insecure. Digging to f…

I was literally just discussing this with my therapist yesterday. The balancing act of navigating knowing two truths can exist at the same time is hard af. But it does help so much processing emotions…

Sure! Some happen in conversation Let's take the example of a simple question to which you can answer with a yes or a no Example 1: Question : - " Do you want to go to the movies tonight? " ( You…

It doesn’t always mean that though? The hard truth is it is a coping mechanism on both sides.. Using someone to satiate loneliness as well as villainizing someone to allow yourself to detach. They bot…

I am a sincere person. The most truthful version of what you are suggesting I could muster would be: “I had great hopes for a relationship with the person you pretended to be at first. I really wish…

I just finished reading “Attached”, and it gave me such a better understanding of attachment styles and myself. One of the ways my anxious attachment style has been manifesting post-break up with an a…

Truth hurts, does it downvoters???

*”It shifts your worldview to think that some people can love and care about you, but still feel nothing about hurting you. It’s a type of coldness that feels evil and makes it hard to navigate the w…

I think the statement "it doesn't take much" is both true and a simplification. The truth is, there's probably a greater part of them that still wants to see you than a part that pushes you away. They…

You're describing dialetical thinking, which is a really important tool when you are trying to move past black-and-white thinking. Being able to hold two truths at the same time is really important, e…

God, I relate to this SO much. Meeting people in person leads to me idealizing that person but anytime I match with someone online, I get the ick and ghost (not proud of it but that's the truth). Do …

It's actually not uncommon for stalkers to follow their targets when they move. It's advised to stay/move near support systems. This all happened to me 20 years ago and I did 13 years of therapy, whic…

GitOps presents an idea of reconciliation from the single source of truth: Git to paint the definition in Git repositoryto the external entity. Tool for implenting GitOps pattern for Kubernetes is Arg…

There is no single right way to do it. The right way is deciding which tools work for your workflow, and provide the least administrative overhead. Whatever helps you not copy and paste things all the…

Umm.. I think your % is off and there are way more lurkers here and some real people out there. I thought about doing posts, a podcast, or a book as an entrepreneur about how hard it was for years ru…

The first question is, why does the drugs trigger you? What are you imagining or feeling when they talk about it. Logically, it's just part of their past. If it was something that could happen again o…

Yes my own experiences, but also if you read comments/posts not just from Reddit, you will find very common themes across the board with relationships with avoidants, the truth is it’s very difficult …

it's not necessary, but it does have an impact to quicken the process especially during SH or even when you're affirming since it can help your subconscious to think believe it as the truth.

I totally felt the same, like he loved me but had contempt anytime I had a need or comment that somehow threatened him. Like “yeah, so” turns completely cold::: and just sooo many easy ways out, shots…

Something along the lines of, "oh we *just* broke up recently, but our relationship has been dead for over a year." Basically make it sound like he's been processing it for a long time, but the truth …

I feel for you, I’m in a similar position at the moment. I’m caught up on what was a relatively short lived but very intense connection I shared with a guy late last year. It ended with him ghosting m…

Aw mate. No, it doesn't seem pathetic at all. Makes sense why it's still in your head after 2 years, then. That sounds really difficult. I feel for you. Your solution is a good one... but can I add…

Orrrrrrrr.... In the early thaw of spring, when frost still clung stubbornly to the edges of the earth, the apology remained unsent. It lingered like a letter never mailed. Its seal unbroken, its tru…

For sure you should,I think a lot of us sometimes think that co-reg,and co dependency are the same thing! My partner believes that.also she think that any family cannot be part of a support system. Sh…

I’m going tomorrow, seems like your picking thing I wrote ,and letting me know they are not the total truth! ?im no expert,I’d like to be able to vent and share. Thanks for your input. How you doing?i…

I couldn't agree with you more. Also sorry that you had to explain that to people via DMs. I know it's something you kinda get used to as a more self-aware avoidant on reddit but that doesn't ma…

That's so funny, I actually wrote "I envy that level of delulu" and changed it to confidence. >It's funny that you mention confidence because that's what this person said. That DAs don't have the con…

also, if your encounter was as brief as you say, I would urge you to challenge the belief that you got close to actual genuine love with her... obviously, I was not there so I can't say for sure, but …

Thanks for your kind & helpful comment(s). I wouldn't say she loved me and I don't think I ever claimed that. You are right that I need to get over this. I am trying. In my previous posts on this s…

\> "anxious individuals have a lack of self control, don't respect boundaries, and and don't realize how much damage they do because they just don't care" That would be basically correct, that's why …

Hi! Yeah! Now that should just feel like a truth to you that you are in a wonderful relationship. Let go of the fear and doubt and let in peace. Trust all that you want is on the way or your already. …

I think this is actually protest behavior and low key self abandonment? I did this too, interpreting things I saw and drawing to the conclusion that “we’re better as friends we’re not looking for the …

Ha, I could have written this. I spent a year with someone as I worked through my issues and we both didn’t immediately realize he was avoidant. Part of your healing should also be disengaging from s…

No, it’s not normal to ask for that much space. The idea that dismissive avoidants “need space” gets thrown around a lot, but here’s the truth: that need for space usually comes from emotional overwhe…

Truth is, I think I already see it more clearly, hence today she told me that she doesn't really want to meet with me in nearest time because she's feeling too much tension and guilt; as for talking s…