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My 71 year old mother escalated to throwing objects at me tonight because I started vacation from work

My 71 year old mother escalated to throwing objects at me tonight because I started vacation from work — Quick intro: I'm a 49-year-old man earning \~$225K/year, living with my 71-year-old mother in a house that's fully paid off. I'm planning to move out within the next few weeks. You can see the post hi…

r/raisedbynarcissistspost4/2/2026
My mother sent my childhood abuser to my home, after I have been successful at making sure he never knows where I live.

My mother sent my childhood abuser to my home, after I have been successful at making sure he never knows where I live. — Conversation is below. I have been very careful making sure my brother never knows where I live, as he beat me as a child so much police intervened and I was such a mess I was mandated to go to thera…

r/raisedbynarcissistspost3/15/2026
Even after all these years this still hurts

Even after all these years this still hurts — I’m 28 now full grown man in great shape going to get married soon to the love of my life. I did eight years in the Marine Corps. deployed three times. Combat zones. Jungles. Desserts. Icy mountains.…

r/EmotionalNeglectpost3/30/2026
What's something your parents did to you that YOU had to apologize to them for that still makes you angry?

What's something your parents did to you that YOU had to apologize to them for that still makes you angry? — As in, situations where despite you being the victim, you were forced to be the one apologizing. I know mine too well, unfortunately. I've told this in comments before, but now I'll tell it here. So…

r/EmotionalNeglectpost4/2/2026
I wish I had a different mom

I wish I had a different mom — Other moms: baked cookies, cared about your day, loved you unconditionally, calls you and lets you vent. My mom: sees me lose 70 pounds and says “you lost some of your boobs, right? Last time you we…

r/CPTSDpost4/5/2026
Anyone can relate...

Anyone can relate... — Me: Can you stop yelling... Mom: You think you're the one who's wronged here?! I'm more wronged than you! You brought all this on yourself! Both of us: \*arguing\* Dad: \*sighs\* \*scolds the mothe…

r/raisedbynarcissistspost4/5/2026
Mom is Bound and Determined to Make My Entire Vacation Miserable

Mom is Bound and Determined to Make My Entire Vacation Miserable — Especially my last day. That's fine. My realtor is working for me. But just in the first hour of this morning since I woke up at 7:30 a.m.: I need several minutes to wake up. She can't give me that.…

r/raisedbynarcissistspost4/6/2026
The moment I chose peace

The moment I chose peace — My cellphone rang. Mom. I hesitated to answer, so I let it ring. “If it’s important, she will call again,” I told myself. A moment later, a WhatsApp notification appeared on my screen. Mom: Pl…

r/raisedbynarcissistspost4/8/2026
I would be cutting contact with my parents THIS JULY!!

I would be cutting contact with my parents THIS JULY!! — As said in the title, I 20F would be cutting contact with my parents soon (I'll be going away for my masters) but I can't help but post stuff that happened to me because I feel like there is something…

r/raisedbynarcissistspost4/8/2026
Proud of myself

Proud of myself — Hello people. I never thought I'd share this with you but... I actually feel proud of myself. For the first time in... I don't even know how long, I stood up for myself. It was nothing tbh, but I sti…

r/EmotionalNeglectpost4/10/2026
Do yours not know how old you are?

Do yours not know how old you are? — I started talking about how when I turn 50 maybe I’ll start thinking about lifestyle changes because I’m not sticking around the USA to be broke over medical issues because I have epilepsy and medicat…

r/raisedbynarcissistspost4/12/2026
"You should be grateful you have such a patient mom."

Mom:” I wish I never had kids…” You: “As your child, I also wish you never had kids.” That comment reminds me of that narcissistic mom on YouTube who talked about how parenting can bring you to your…

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/17/2026
I’m scared I’m the kind of mom people talk about here, even though I’m trying so hard not to be…

I think just the fact that you are here shows you care. My mom would never have admitted she wasn’t the best mom ever so she wasn’t seeking advice or education. I’ll give you one example that encapsul…

r/EmotionalNeglectcomment3/21/2026
My friend died, my mom made it about herself.

I'm so sorry about your friend, it really breaks my heart... About your nmom: my own nmom has always claimed to be a clairvoyant or psychic of sorts, and she does the exact same shit. Also she would …

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/26/2026
18F. Forgot to pack a small biscuit and ended with him wishing I don't pass my dream University

You WILL get in your dream university and you can stay far away from his toxic ass. 🤞 Seriously I know this too well, my mom was the same way. I’m in my 30s now and I don’t share anything with her. …

r/AsianParentStoriescomment3/26/2026
Whats the most hurtful thing a parent/caretaker has said to you?

When I was 19 I confronted my nmom. Here’s how the conversation went: Me: Why do you hate me? Nmom: I always dreamed of having a little girl that I could dress in pretty dresses and put ribbons in he…

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/28/2026
Whats the most hurtful thing a parent/caretaker has said to you?

From my mom: "I wish you had died instead of your brother." My dad and brother died when I was fourteen. From my dad, around 13: "Don't you ever speak about your mother that way." accompanied by hitt…

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/28/2026
I just can’t believe my parents didn’t invest anything into my adulthood.

My mom also hypes up my much older brother over nothing lol. She paid everything for him while I got nothing, she did not even let me go to a doctor. She paid for my brothers rent and everything else…

r/EmotionalNeglectcomment3/29/2026
r/EmotionalNeglectcomment3/30/2026
my mom is coming through my town briefly and wants to stay the night in my apartment and i don’t know how to tell her no

You don't owe her an explanation. You don't have to get her to agree with you. She can be upset and that's okay. "I'm sorry, it's not going to work for you to stay here." Mom:"why not?" You: "That's w…

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment4/3/2026
My mom is withholding my legal documents

Holy hell you have been through hell. I hate saying it, but regarding your mom: what a f\*\*\*ing b\*tch she is. When I execute my move my mom is likely to do that exact same thing - she has already g…

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment4/5/2026
Why do narcissistic parents think time passing = an apology?

So true for my nmom: has fallen out with people and not talked to them for decades (it was all their fault anyway), but expects me to sweep under the carpet everything (attacks, insults, etc.) she thr…

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment4/7/2026
How tall are you all and how tall are your parents?

Mom: 5’3”, Dad: 5’6” Me: 5’7”, my older sister: 4’11” LOL

r/AsianParentStoriescomment4/8/2026
The moment I chose peace

> Mom: Please call me. It’s urgent. It’s about your brother. […] “It’s about your brother! He had a fight with his wife. I told him not to marry her. She is—” I *literally* rolled my eyes irl the mom…

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment4/8/2026
How tall are you all and how tall are your parents?

Mom: 4’11”, dad: 5’2” My older and younger sisters: 5’2”, me: 4’7” I just stopped growing at 11 (maybe had something to do with drinking 2 cans of Pepsi a day 🤷‍♀️😆).

r/AsianParentStoriescomment4/8/2026
What did your parent(s) tell you about relationships and marriage?

My mom: That having a boyfriend in high school was bad news because “mistakes could happen” and it was a waste of time. Not to let a boy touch me. Basically encouraged me and my siblings to hide any r…

r/EmotionalNeglectcomment4/8/2026
What did your parent(s) tell you about relationships and marriage?

my parents never told me and sibling anything about relationships or marriage. they were so ate up with their own incompatibility that alone was enough to show us what NOT to become. as for our (immi…

r/EmotionalNeglectcomment4/8/2026
What did your parent(s) tell you about relationships and marriage?

Mom: Don't marry for love. Love is for idiots. Marry a man who has money, who can take care of you. Dad: I'll never divorce your mother. Divorce is wrong. It's the coward's way out. If you make a mis…

r/EmotionalNeglectcomment4/8/2026
What is the one comment that you’ll never forget?

"That's the most riDICulous thing I've ever heard! You're making that up!" I'm neurodivergent. I've always loved to a) learn things and b) share what I've learned because it's COOL and I think people…

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment4/8/2026
What is the one comment that you’ll never forget?

You wanna KYS? Do do it on the front lawn *handed me a knife* You look like the devil (while he was beating and dragging me across the floor) And my fav from mom: R U FUCKING? *threw water in my f…

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment4/8/2026
What did your parent(s) tell you about relationships and marriage?

From my mother, who suffered from eating disorders: Don't get fat because you'll never be loved if you're fat. From my father: marry someone who loves all of you, good and bad. Settle in your life be…

r/EmotionalNeglectcomment4/8/2026
What is the one comment that you’ll never forget?

Mom locked me out of the house on Easter when I was 9. She found me walking around town looking for a payphone. Mom: *driving erratically in her Pathfinder* "get in the car" Me: "I'm not getting in …

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment4/8/2026
What is the one comment that you’ll never forget?

nMom: "...You know, when you were only 3mo old, I almost killed myself while your Dad was deployed. Had a noose around my neck and everything." Me: "Where was I at this time?" nMom: "you were nappi…

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment4/9/2026
What is the one comment that you’ll never forget?

From my Nmom: "You don't need privacy - you don't have anything I haven't seen before." (When I'd get upset at her for just walking in my room any time she felt like it.) "What did YOU do to make t…

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment4/9/2026
What is the one comment that you’ll never forget?

8 years old, shy, I told my Mom "I got 10 out of 10 on my test yesterday." Mom: "You're not as smart as you think you are."

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment4/9/2026
What are some double binds you remember from growing up?

A super mild and funny one to lighten the mood that happened just last weekend: Mom: Here, have some chocolate. My goodness, my friend keeps just giving them to me and I’ve been eating so many. Have …

r/EmotionalNeglectcomment4/10/2026
What are some double binds you remember from growing up?

N-mom when I graduated during COVID in another state and was trying to secure a job while coming back from being out of state: “you need to find a job, you can’t just be lazy and do nothing.” Also n…

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment4/10/2026
How do I (28M) - with an extremely clouded memory due to medication - tell my mom (40F) that I might be a father - without making her feel like I have been lying for years?

This is so simple. Mom: “I’ve been having some doubts on the timing for X’s pregnancy. So I’m ordering a dna test. Just wanted to give you a heads up and I’ll keep you posted. Response will take XX …

r/relationship_advicecomment4/13/2026