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Hello, I had a similar perfectionist mother. Mine was a covert narcissist who secretly enjoyed pitting people against each other, but always under the guise of "kindness" and "what's best for her chil…

My arguments against manifestation — 1. **Maladaptive daydreaming proves that manifestation isn't real**; Manifestation doctrine teaches that what you focus on expands and manifests in your physical reality. Do not split hairs and try to…

Question to anxious/avoidant couples — I’m a dismissive avoidant in recovery I’ve been working on myself since October’23 I read a lot of self help books, went to therapy, watched youtube videos on attachment, listened to On Attachment,…

Reflections of my healing journey (avoidant) — I’m grateful I decided to work on myself I still consider myself a constant work in progress (I’m neurodivergent,communication and misunderstanding has always been an issue) I used a lot of self h…

Thank you — I'm in one of the healthiest relationships I've ever been in, and this subreddit—along with my therapist—has helped me in a big way. I still get triggered, but I'm better at self-soothing and have lea…

I astral projected last night.. — I astral projected last night... What was your first experience? Here's mine: We arrived in Tunisia yesterday, had some sleep, woke up, yawned, and my nose started bleeding, only mentioning this bec…

DA healing update: searching my true self, my inner child finally seen — Some of you may know me at this point. I'm (40M) dismissive avoidant, my wife fearful avoidant (41F), together 17 years, married 13 years, 3 children. I've been working on my attachment style for 5 mo…

Update: How can I(20F) tell my boyfriend (20M) about my sexual preferences when he has already expressed disgust over it? — Alright, so even though no one asked for it I’m back with an update. First of all, thank you to everyone that commented, I swear on everything that I read each and every single comment. Thank you for…

THE PHOENIX LIGHTS 29th ANNIVERSARY This is what I saw that night March 13, 1997. It was a totally solid piece of machinery not just lights. I could see the bottom of the UFO clearly by two light sources illuminating the bottom of the craft as it flew over my head — I posted this also in UFO sub. March 13, 1997 I was working in East Mesa, Arizona in a 10 bed Hospice inpatient unit as the Charge RN. We worked 12 hour shifts getting off at 7:30 PM but that night t…

Why do I struggle to form intense friendships/relationships? — Hi everyone Since young I’ve always had a bit of an insecurity about not having much intensity or overt vehemence to my personality and I think it’s affected my relationships with people for a while …

Is there something in my chart that explains attracting obsession that turns into betrayal — Hi everyone!!! ❤️ I’ve been noticing a recurring pattern in my relationships and wanted to ask if my chart might show anything about how I approach or experience them. A lot of my friendships start v…

Insane Similarities between Gateway Experiences and Vedic Hinduism — So I asked Claude to cross reference all the gateway documents and manuals I uploaded to it with Hindu Vedas, Upnishads, Puranas and Patanjali’s book on Yog and only limit itself to these sources. He…

Cure Avoidant Attachment by Watching TV — Can watching TV help treat a dismissing attachment pattern? In Dr. Dan Siegel’s book "Mindsight,” he presents a case study involving Stuart, a 92-year-old attorney with dismissing attachment. Stuart,…

My therapist made a sexually ambiguous joke that unsettled me, triggering a transference reaction in me. — I am a 21-year-old woman, and my therapist is 45. I had never been interested in him before, even though he is a good listener and an empathetic person. I tend to become interested in people who show …

Out of curiosity, do your parents even fit the "demanding in-law" stereotype?" — This is a reason often levied against AM for not wanting to date them, but the Asian generation I know who are 1.5 generation onwards are honestly very chill and easy going. And this is doubly true fo…

I Changed Myself and Got it All — Hello, I’ve been wanting to write this post for a very long time. Grab a snack and come along for the ride! **The Beginning: April - October 2022** I discovered Neville 4 years ago; after a year of …

How do I deal with a non-virtuous past that led to a good and comfortable present? — Hello everyone, In the past months I have been studying Stoicism (I have read the Discourses, Meditations, and now I’m on my way through the Seneca letters). I, however, wanted to have an opinion on s…

Self-Love: Self-Care, Self-Containment, Self-Possession — At some point I realized that I couldn't show up for a relationship with someone else until I could consistently show up for myself. 😁 I put this together in response to seeing discussions and posts…

Important research statistics on contact experiences — Many people aren’t aware of the research that has been done on contact experiences. People often seem at least somewhat familiar with a few of the big names from early on (Budd Hopkins, John E. Mack, …

The best things I did to stop me ruminating and wishing my ex would come back (After wishing she would for more than a year) — Hello Everyone At the beginning of 2025 I went through the type of breakup I would not wish on my worst enemy, I wont bore you with the details but I struggled with this for over a year. Here are …

Would you forgive this ? — (Ex’s name) I know we aren’t together anymore but since there are still feelings there and we are still present in each others lives I feel like you should know. Last night at the party I got really …

He broke up because of my anxious attachment, how can I Deal with This? — Hey. My ex boyfriend broke up with me 2 months ago. I am 26 years old and it was my first relationship. It only lasted for 3-4 months sadly, we knew each other for 6 months in total. We started textin…

Manifesting a visa on a time crunch — I've been a silent lurker here and I promised myself to share my success story once it's reflected in the 3D because they keep me going. I was supposed to go on a trip to China on Tuesday, but I have…

the veil dropped — So, I am in a new layer of integrating my dimi break through (3 months ago), and the experiences and lessons (hell) I had are revealing themselves to me in new ways, expansive ways, however there is e…

I have bare mummy issues from being raised by a boy mum — My dad is genuinely just a terrible person. A far far worse parent than my mum, but I think because of this my brain didn't even register him as a parent, just an abusive man that lived in my house. I…

It’s taken so long.. — I’ve finally had a deep realization about my breakup and it has helped me process a lot of lingering feelings. For the longest time, I blamed the other person for everything, imagining that they disca…

Huge Success. Actually shocking how EASY it is. (Guidance & Success) — # 3/29/26 First things first, I want to say that it all starts with you and the person that you believe you are. What you believe you are capable of achieving. I want you to remember that a belief is…

Consistency is KEY — I feel like one thing people struggle with while manifesting is staying consistent and PERSISTING. Most people give up after not seeing change in the 3D after a few days or a week. This is kind of e…

Should I apologize to my ex? and if so, is this a good way to do it? — About two weeks ago, my (18f) ex bf (18m) (we dated for a year) broke up with me for a variety of reasons, most of them being because he didn't have time anymore/was too busy/didn't have the emotional…

Spiritual experiences — I would like to share my perspective on a series of intense spiritual experiences I encountered during my Sadhana. ​My practice centered on the Japa of a specific Mantra consisting of a single Beej A…

Life is my movie & I’m the Director. — I manifested 2 SPs at the same time in 24 hours. I decided to rewrite my story when I realized SP1 manifested me! All the intrusive thoughts that didn’t always feel like my own & unfavorable circumsta…

Did I push reconciliation with my ex too quickly? (26M, 26F) — Hi all! Firstly, I want to thank you for all the comfort and support you give to everyone on this sub; it does not go unnoticed! I'm a 26M who ended things with his 27F partner of a year and a half i…

If you didn’t reach out to them today, be proud of yourself — If you made it through the day, although hard and almost impossible, be proud of yourself. If you did the things you needed to do today to take care of yourself, be proud of yourself. If you reflect…

Finally got the motivation to improve myself — I used to drag myself into a deep hole, full of self criticizm and avoidance. Due to a harsh childhood and several health problems and stress in university, I have made myself feel like the problem, w…

How can I be more authentic? I don‘t have a sense of self. — To offer an example, I often feel inauthentic whenever I am talking to people or expressing myself in any way. I feel empty and I lack a sense of self; it is not unusual for me to lie to make myself s…

The Power Of Awareness Notes — Consciousness is your concepts of self. “It is only by a change of consciousness, by actually changing your concept of yourself, that you can "build more stately mansions” - the manifestations of hi…

I built a soul mirror. It only works if you're honest with it. — try it here: [soulmirror.ai](http://soulmirror.ai) The idea is simple: you answer 4 open-ended questions honestly, and it mirrors back your wound, your mask, your gift, and an archetype. No multiple …

Waking up to a codependent marriage — M 35 married 12 years. 4 kids. We’ve hit a real rocky patch and a few weeks back came across codependency and it explained a lot of our dynamic. I didn’t realise I was only scratching the surface… …

I didn’t think it would hurt so much as the dumper. — Not because I didn’t care or because I knew it was coming but because I thought at least this time, getting hurt was on my own terms. They’re a good person and they treated me mostly well and I thin…

. — Even though I cannot see you I’m certain that your heart is here If you find that you miss me Always look at the sun that rises Or the moon that rises in the evening Whatever the time I will be …

Really don't want to date anyone else after my ex (first relationship). Kind of have a hope they will come back. — Hi, Broke up with my ex about a year ago. since the breakup we haven't spoke at all, I blocked her cause I needed space and was feeling overwhelmed by just talking to her post break up. One year later…

It's not about her. It's about the stability and security our meetings are giving me. — Hey there. About two hours ago I came back home from visiting my friend. The last week was pure horror because she hasn't replied to me for a week. She said she was very sorry and busy. So after thin…

How long it takes to rewire your brain after being emotionally neglected by your dad your entire life? — Hi, I'm 27yo female, I never had a proper relationship, all I been in is horrible situationships that only damaged me mentally to the point that I feel like I lost myself and I will never return to th…

Endless rumination and heartache over a relationship that was over 7 months ago. — I need some outside perspective because I’m still trying to make sense of a past relationship (M 30) , and it’s been 7 months and I genuinely can’t stop ruminating about it. I also haven’t been able t…

I will have to contact my ex today and will have to be in our apartment this weekend — I’m gonna move stuff from our shared apartment this weekend to my own place. Break up since 5 weeks, been NC for 4 weeks. I’ve been living with my parents since the break up. Me and my ex lived togeth…

Most beautiful view I ever seen in my life — I had an incredibly vivid lucid dream where I could control my flight. I was floating above a highway, lying in midair, completely weightless. Above me was a sky filled with an unbelievably dense fiel…

I feel emotionally constipated after therapy — I completed my second therapy appointment and I have a sort of discontented or uneasy/restless feeling? The last time I tried therapy I do remember feeling emotionally "hungover", which oddly I didn'…

Right now I feel extremely alone, emotionally exhausted, and unsure how to move forward. I’m hoping to connect with others who understand parentification, narcissistic abuse, or rebuilding after losing support systems. — TRIGGER WARNING: Emotional abuse, narcissistic abuse, sexual assault, relationship abuse It took me a long time to realize what had happened to me growing up and I’m still trying to understand. As …

I don't know how i will ever move on. i am desperate for anything right now — hi, i am 21 years old (f), and my boyfriend of 2.5 years (3 years knowing eachother). throughout our relationship we got along super well, but we also fought a lot, about the worlds most dumbest thi…

how would you interpret this message ? F/23 - M-29 — soo i got this text the other day from my situation-ship that i just met 4 weeks ago .👇🏽👇🏽 “ I appreciate the text and understanding where you're coming from but the way you just left with no com…

Narcs talking behind your back - covert signs? — It took me a very long time to realise that my covert narcissist mother was bad mouthing me behind my back.The signs were there, but not blindingly obvious at the time. My mother's behaviour was mai…

The very first paragraph really struck me. I haven’t learned how to copy text here yet since I’m new to Reddit. But “Non-intrusive and engaged curiosity from parents about what you were feeling and ex…

You guys always say this😅😅. Didn’t I point out that there are many instances where your “assumptions” are not reflected in your reality? I don’t think manifestation is real whatsoever. I’m not compl…

They can be self critical, but that's actually the opposite of being accountable and aware because typically it's just another way to ruminate. I also think that tendency in general is what drives the…

I am in the same boat. Had my FA (maybe DA? I never knew about attachment theory until her. She was extremely committed and IN. LOVE. for 2 years and was much more anxious and attached. Then she was j…

It absolutely can. Also can I just say all hats off to you, that is such a well reflected and intelligent post. Well done. I'm so proud of you how you kicked those people out. >Have any of you exp…

Seems like a person who got spooked and having escaped unscathed has calmed down, reflected, and realized that perhaps their anxiety was irrational. And that is a good indicator that when times get to…

The thing is the more I have aged and worked on myself getting higher self esteem and confidence, the more I have self reflected and become more aware of myself, the more I have slowly recognised the …

Yes, I edited, and yes, my comment contains some judgement (besides mostly description and perception, ie. judgement-free language). Non-violent, 100% judgemental-free Rosenberg communication, to me…

Ugh so much this too. He always justified intentions and could never hold or truly understand the impact He could say the words “action matters. Impact is what matters in the end. I am going to show…

Well, it is a book that essentially expands on attachment and shifts the focus to behavior patterns instead of 'styles.' It acknowledges that people use attachment behavior strategies towards attached…

So I (37F) apparently still have anxious attachment. I thought I had managed to get past it 😅 so I started talking to a younger colleague (29M) at work. A couple weeks ago we admitted we liked each o…

I reflected on my future because I finally realized I don't want to spend the rest of my life in a distant marriage. Before that, for many years I guess I lived in some sort of fantasy world where the…

This isn't necessarily true in your situation, but you might know the saying that is something like "If you walk into a room and smell shit, leave. If you smell shit in every room you walk into, check…

My life has been fast and furious for most of it. I haven’t had much time to reflect but recently I got let go from my job so I’ve more bandwidth to reflect and ive been feeling lonely cuz it’s the ho…

Hey everyone, I really need some perspective on my situation. My ex and I recently broke up after almost 3 years together, about 8 days ago. The breakup was reportedly over “values” — but from my pers…

Insecure attachment + insecure attachment = insecurity. Two anxiously attached people do not make a healthy relationship. Most often one of them will flip to the avoidant side. Because having their in…

That makes a lot of sense. What you’re describing doesn’t mean you don’t have feelings. It sounds like a nervous system shutdown when you’re pushed to go inward. When the body tenses and wants to run,…

Thank you very much. I believe you are right - I need to communicate to him in some way how I feel... that for me connection and intimacy comes from conversations. Tbh, now that I reflected on it - I …

I met a new person at a social gathering and she made me feel ill. I'm totally projecting a lot on her here but it's been helpful at recognizing my own patterns and what makes me switch off and become…

I met my wife on Hinge and when we started to get to know each other she told me that she had never been in love before. I was nervous about that but I really enjoyed our conversations and I felt lik…

Random telenovela shower thoughts: Over the past couple of weeks I have been catching up on my fave telenovela, La Reina del Flow. And what I have been noodling on is the male characters and how they…

You are beautiful, unequivocally. I can't imagine you have a hard time getting matches and if you do, it has to be because most guys think you're "out of their league" (and lbr, you are for most of th…

I am very similar, have been single mostly all my life. Yet, I know what I like and want in life. I think people are too hard on themselves, you sound like a reflected person. I think you may be more …

Hm, found an interesting article related to heroin chic of 1990s and 19th century romanticising tuberculosis. >*The connections between romanticizing tuberculosis and fashion have shifted to encompa…

I’d swear this was him because of the contents, but I know it’s not because of the style/texting format. First; UNHEALTHY does not equal toxic. Second; unhealthy does not equal you have no reason to…

Thank you for saying this. It really centered with me. I’ve recently been going through what feels like a divorce (5 year off/on relationship) and my partner left me for someone else instead of seeing…

Yeah I can see that, and now I’ve reflected… why would he prioritise someone he’s met twice. Initially I was a bit bothered but really, I’m not important right now compared to what he came here for.

Not really. My mom saw me as an extension of her that reflected on her. If I looked poorly kept, it would reflect badly on her. I guess I was lucky in a way, but not fully. Because the fact that I wa…

I had a wonderful spouse too, but without doing into details we were sexually incompatible. We also had a long distance relationship pre marriage and didn't have sex before marriage and I feel like th…

because your chart ruler is in the 12th house, squared by Mars. Mars is the ruler of 12th house, so the impact of 12th house is doubled up on you. 12th house means to hide, to stay behind the scene.…

after she ended things it took me 4 months to actually get out of bed and start talking to people again. I wasn't afraid of rejection or expectations so I mainly started off just for shits and giggles…

Great job pushing on and pushing through. Glad you realized and reflected on the willingness to sacrifice dignity, self esteem and self respect for someone who broke your heart and your trust.

Look at it this way - if this is the way you learn the lesson to respect other people's bodily autonomy, then you learned a valuable one without harming anyone else or doing anything that even require…

The more we carry the unresolved or unconscious baggage with us, like a backpack filled with the rocks of our past, sometimes many of not even ours in the first place placed in there, though we know i…

freeloaders end up last. anything worth its salt in this world is never for free.... u will keep suffering at manifestation... sorry but i wish u become wise and remember you get what you give to univ…

This is partly true. When the mind imagines something, it is unreal. When the imagination is reflected in the outer world as an event, it is also unreal. Life becomes a game instead of a struggle. I'v…

This is very sweet and you should consider telling the other person UNLESS, you have not looked at yourself to understand why things fell apart and are willing to make changes TOGETHER so that you can…

He sent a reddit link to a meme he wanted to show me and I guess it was connected to his account? I don’t rlly use reddit much so I’m not sure if upvoted and saved is reflected on public accounts or i…

You are love itself. Think about your body, it heals your cuts unconditionally, it supplies you with oxygen without your effort, it is fighting of any infections that may arise. It's working tirelessl…

The positive attribute of the relationship with your father is reflected by the dispositorship of Saturn.

Talking about him is a (typical and twisted) treachery trap. “He knew” and “decided to” are REALLY REALLY big words and talk about your own pettiness and ignorance. You don’t really know. And he did …

Ok, first time telling this story online. Fall 1996, a buddy and I were cruising through town after getting off work. It was just starting to go from dusk to night. We see a car pulled over at the sid…

Yeah. Was always the most tensed up when we as friends did massages to ech toher. I didnt think of anything. When i was adult, and had once in a ehile a masage (i dont go often, because a) its weird…

I get it. I also have reflected deeply and realized that I simply repeat trying to "fix" things that happened in my childhood, with respective partners. It is an unconscious thing that I have been pro…

I am in the same boat born ‘72. The 70’s and 80’s had dark underbellies but it wasn’t mainstream broadcasted. It was however reflected in the arts.

💯 agree with this & I never thought about that way being reflected in the arts but your totally right. The dark underbelly is a great way to describe it. 

I can completely understand why that would be tiring for you! You still need him to take care of himself enough to be able to show up for you. We all have a responsibility to do the best within our …

That’s funny, I was going to say next time tell her what you love about her that has nothing to do with you — her personal positive traits. Like she is so kind and thoughtful she always puts everyone’…

It is interesting when that happens. Sometimes you see the same insight reflected through different people at the same time. When you start thinking about things from the perspective that creation is …