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Emotional Blackmail
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Hello, I had a similar perfectionist mother. Mine was a covert narcissist who secretly enjoyed pitting people against each other, but always under the guise of "kindness" and "what's best for her chil…
Choosing myself feels like betraying my family, but staying feels like losing my life — I’m 21F, Bengali, and coming from a strict Muslim family who are very traditional where marrying outside the culture is almost unheard of. All of my siblings had arranged marriages, and my parents hav…
My parents are forcing the marriage talk only one month after my breakup. How do I handle this? — I (31F) have been living in Germany for the last 8 years, but my Indian parents’ expectations haven't changed with the distance. I’m currently at a breaking point and need to vent/get some perspective…
Your anxiety is stemming from the fact that you are abandoning yourself in this relationship. It’s also why you self sabotaged. Clearly the relationship has been struggling before this even happened. …
Wow, okay. Does the counselor know the friend of your parents touched you inappropriately and got your boyfriend drunk to get to you? I would submit a police report. If your parents are withholding…
You are still making the fundermental mistake of thinking logically when trying to work out a Narc, it doesn't work that way. It's all a defense mechanism, its not based on rational thought. The prima…
I have a friend in exactly the same situation. Exactly the same. And his wife uses the same arguments, too. All I can say is that I just love modern (pseudo)feminist order of things. Full on, trendy…
I mean, your fiance is gaining advantage on you, but you are clearly on board with it and are already an adult with adult money, so what the hell, better to bet the money on love than in a cassino. …
You basically grew up in a cult (all dysfunctional families are cults, but especially the crazy religious ones). It's okay to feel all your feelings about that. It's okay to cut off your abusers. You…
I think it's a huge waste of your time, energy, attention, and effort. Abusers don't change, they just learn better ways to manipulate. Cut them off and set yourself, your partner, and your child fre…
Agree with Sea Turtles. This is a classic narc move. The best way to handle this emotional blackmail is to call their local police department and request a wellbeing check. Do this every time the thre…
Do NOT go back or respond. That's emotional blackmail. Call the cops in their city and tell them she's threatening suicide. Let them deal with them. They'll get the wrong kind of attention and hopef…
Stick to your guts and heart brother. You deserve better, someone who reciprocates the love you give out. Don't let emotional blackmail from your family persuade you to stay and be miserable. 🙂
You have your text conversations go back through & screenshot the emotional blackmail, meltdowns & hissy fits, you can't have record of her in person abuse & her self harming behaviour unless uve reco…
Two things: 1. It was not a harmless question, it was manipulation. If she brought up opening up your relationship, then she does not love or respect you and thought that she had you wound so tight ar…
If you’re doing everything on your own and aren’t tied to them in any way that would force you to play their game. That’s really good. Because they can’t use that to force you to cater to their choice…
Manipulation and emotional blackmail
Yes OP, all of this. He's using emotional blackmail to get his way and that really sucks and indicates the type of person he truly is. I realize it's a hard thing to face, but he said what you wanted …
The way you've described it here, then no one will have any sympathy with this guy. He sounds dreadful, manipulative and an emotional blackmailer. I wouldn't stay in a relationship like that. But onl…
They voted for an abuser bc he represents them. Links on their dysfunction: [authoritarian follower personality](https://www.issendai.com/psychology/estrangement/summary.html#authoritarian) (mini di…
Dude this relationship is dead. And more than that, it's *been* dead. For literal years. You and your ex didn't resurrect it so much as you dug up the rotting corpse and put a pair of sunglasses on it…
Good question! I'd say.. Bad reaction to my vulnerabilities. I now share my vulnerabilities early on and observe the reaction especially when they're later used against me in an argument. Noticing i…
The threats and being hyper vigilant, absolutely. Happens in every environment. Seemingly. Yes, lets take an example, usually at family parties. I know 3-4 people will be insanely self centred and ma…
No. You entered into a monogamous relationship and marriage. Her wanting to rewrite the rules now is cruel. >She says she may never be able to shake that feeling and always be in the back of her mi…
This is possibly just my view, having been in a relationship that sounds similar, but he’s manipulating you into thinking HIS feelings and happiness are YOUR responsibility. It’s insidious because it…
"There's nothing wrong. It's all in your head, so stop thinking about it" whenever I brought up anything: my depression, my sister's continuous physical and verbal abuse, my mother's emotional blackma…
The easiest and quickest way to solve your problem is to start looking now for your own place, or else decide to stay put and start the search for a new roommate if you can't afford the rent on your o…
When someone asks you for a divorce, you give it to them. Period. The moment someone utters the word divorce in a marriage, it's over. Your marriage has already entered a death spiral. Before I shar…
I want to suggest something counterintuitive. I want you to start by giving yourself massive credit for where you are You were in emotional turmoil, and your brain was telling you there was danger a…