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Toxic Parents
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Hello, I had a similar perfectionist mother. Mine was a covert narcissist who secretly enjoyed pitting people against each other, but always under the guise of "kindness" and "what's best for her chil…
Have we reached a tipping point with generational trauma? — So many people are just… so traumatized man. I’ve met way too many people over the years that are obviously stuck in a 4F response. I can’t imagine it was this bad when my parents grew up. Maybe it wa…
Did becoming a parent yourself retraumatize you? — Experiencing that deep intense loving bond with my child is when I really realized what I'd never had from my toxic parents. What I feel for my child... they never felt for me. They're monsters. Ener…
27F feeling angry, stressed, and trapped — — can I actually escape my abusive/controlling parents in France with only $6k, no work visa, and no jobs yet without ending up homeless? I (27F) feel like a failure though I know this isn’t my fault. …
Toxic parents turning hyper religious all of sudden — The hypocrisy is driving me crazy. First they fuck up my mental health, disregard me as an individual and then lecture me about "satisfaction and forgiveness". Like nothing really happened. Who needs …
Struggling to start healing: keep invalidating myself because I feel like I have not suffered as much as my perpetrators — Hi guys, I am neurodivergent. I grew up with toxic parents, one who chronically invalidates all of their children's life choices, preferences, ideas and beliefs, and another who is emotionally absent…
Recently went no contact with abusive parents! Has anyone had similar experience? What’s your story? — I am 36, live in the US. Right now I am going through a big transition phase where I went no contact with extremely abusive toxic parents who have been that way all my life and abused my love and care…
Vietnamese proverbs - a tool used by our toxic parents — I met a local street vendor the other days. She saw a daughter of a family misbehaved at the table. To then she quickly refered to the proverb "Thương cho roi cho vọt, ghét cho ngọt cho bùi" which mea…
To me it seems an ideology that'll backfire - often enough we rebuild our self esteem in the face of failure by saying we tried our best. Toxic parents exploit this recovery method by pretending they …
I’m 41,(Woman) married with 3 kids. As someone with what I describe as extremely toxic parents, I understand you. I grew up the same as you, afraid to let them in my life because they never listened, …
One of the less celebrated perks of being poor, or from a poor family is not having to give a shit what your parents think. They have to behave of they want to see you and vice versa. My mum was s…
When I was 16-17 a psychiatrist recommended I read “Toxic Parents” by Craig Buck and Susan Forward. But a real wake up came when my then BF took me to visit his parents and watching their family dynam…
FYI it’s just regular old misogyny when men are the source. It’s only internalized when it’s women perpetuating it against themselves and other women. Also his toxic parents don’t give him the right …
I understand. I am tired of the "go-to-therapy" robots too. A lot of therapists don't GAF about toxic parents...they will always side with the parent regardless. People say you "HaVe To FiNd thE RyGhT…
Nobody forced you to go back and have sex with her. I feel sorry for the kids in this with highly toxic parents. Their lives must be hell at the moment
I hear how much pain you’re in, and I want to tell you a few things clearly: You are a hero to your sister. In a moment of literal violence and abuse, your priority was her mental health. You protec…
Ever notice how complaints about red flag Asian parents always name Asian *mothers*\-in-law foremost? Even Asian women ultimately admit it's other Asian women making things difficult, the matriarchal …
Just for a weekend?!?! They won’t even look into getting a doctor’s appointment to see if you need medicine or therapy 😳? If so then I’m so soo sorry. Shaming is an incredibly toxic parenting tech…
Vietnamese food is good, but boy my mom keep talking about how suffering her country is. Abuse, toxic parents, hookers, woman are lesser, poor quality of life etc.
First off, my deepest condolences on the loss of your brother. Losing mine was so painful. I can only imagine your grief. Having said that, hold your own memorial. Invite all his friends. Place your…
Not everyone has a great relationship with their parents. Some people have very complicated relationships with their parents. Some people have very toxic parents that they just can't bring themselves …
Love is not enough. Love is a term that gets thrown around a lot, but isn’t actually properly demonstrated. Some people say they feel love but actually conflate other feelings with love. Once again al…
You are not garbage. You are actually better than your toxic parents and Golden Child brother. Unfortunately, you are the scapegoat and get all the abuse, gaslighting, manipulation and everything to …
Why would you want to save it? She sounds awful. I got away from my shitty toxic parents when I was seventeen.
Agreed about the tactic. But damn, how did you manage to move out so young? I'm older and still can't do that (although it's mostly because I had to spent my savings on the uni and docs _due_ to my …
Its not easy. I never had healthy relationships with my family growing up and went no contact over a decade ago. No siblings or chosen family. No support is hard and painful. Most people have some for…