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My 71 year old mother escalated to throwing objects at me tonight because I started vacation from work — Quick intro: I'm a 49-year-old man earning \~$225K/year, living with my 71-year-old mother in a house that's fully paid off. I'm planning to move out within the next few weeks. You can see the post hi…
Snyk/Bitbucket? — Anyone here have practical experience using the Snyk integration on Bitbucket? We're pursuing SOC 2 compliance and one of the checks requires CVE scanning of code during CI/CD. Other major CI/CD pla…
Why hold out hope for other people to meet my needs when it feels more productive and ultimately better to want nothing from other people? — I try my best to be the most attentive friend I can be no matter my internal state. I don't mind doing this for the people I value, and it makes me feel better to be helpful to other people, although …
I have become obsessed with finding someone. — After my breakup in winter of last year, I went through a long period of mourning and not knowing what to do or how to move forward. Now, over the past 2-3 months, I have become obsessed with finding …
A letter to my fearful avoidant ex — 31st December 2025 So here we are. Another night, another thought. It’s been nearly 25 days since Eddie left me. Recently, so many emotions have been running through my mind. I never thought I would…
Mom is being kicked out — Parentified eldest daughter here. haven’t spoken to my recovering alcoholic mother in years. Doing so always sends me into a spiral. She puts herself in awful, high-risk situations, never chooses her …
The Exhaustion of Being Someone — Most people think they are tired because life is hard. But there is another kind of exhaustion that sleep does not fix. It comes from maintaining a self. All day we manage an image: explaining ours…
Revision is where it's at. — People say that revision works faster and this is my experience as well. I'm a fairly good manifestor but there were a few things I was stuck on, namely my height. I carried a bit of disappointment …
I think I’m falling out of love with my boyfriend — I’m 21 F and my boyfriend is 23 M, we’ve been together for three and a half years. Hoping to get some advice, but I know it’s a really complicated situation, I just don’t know how to wrap my head arou…
SPICY Shifting Tarot Pull (collective message)? 𓆩༺✧༻𓆪 — Hey friends, I am a tarot reader (for myself and others) and I just did a tarot reading for myself in regards to some blockages I have to shifting to my DR specifically. I wanted to preface by saying …
Just feel so disappointed in myself all the time — I just can't help being so disappointed and sad about myself all the time. I constantly feel like I've been a disappointment, and that no matter what I do, I won't be able to escape that, and I'll end…
How do I get my mom to like me more — My mom doesn't really like the fact I'm queer and a atheist, how do I stop being queer and become religious again I really want her to love me again,I'm only 15 years old and I really need to become n…
I got into medical school but my mother is still ashamed. — I (24f, Filipino) recently got accepted to medical school away from home. For context, I had a conditional acceptance for my local medical school that did not work out in the end. After 3 cycles and 4…
Dating Apps Make Me Feel Super Lonely — Hello all. I'm a 45 (M). I rely far too heavily on dating apps because my current job (which I'm seeking to leave) is pretty isolating with respect to meeting new women. I also pretty much have no fr…
IF YOU ARE 30+ USING NC — If you’re 30+ using the “no contact” method as a means to “Get your ex back”, DON’T. This is long. I just met up with my ex for the first time in 3 months. I was nervous, worried & genuinely conce…
Breaks are as important as the attempt - from an experienced shifter ⋆˚꩜.ᐟ — hi gorgeous souls! I have seen some posts about people feeling demotivated after a lot of failed shifting attempts and I wanted to give a bit of advice on how to navigate this as somebody who used t…
I (21M) have survived two decades of severe physical, emotional, and financial abuse from my Indian parents. I'm finally exhausted and need to tell my story. I am not free yet. — # TL;DR: I'm a 20-year-old only child in India who has endured severe physical, verbal, emotional, and financial abuse from my parents since toddlerhood. They have beaten me, medically neglected me, …
She turned sunlight into homework. I left her house years ago. My mind still hasn't. — The sun came out today. And the first thing I felt wasn't warmth. It was guilt. A full-body, immediate, almost chemical reaction: *you should be outside. You should be using this. You're wasting it.*…
Tips for staying motivated after disappointment? — Diagnosed ADHD, currently on medication. I have a YouTube channel (promise this is relevant, not advertisement). I spent years deciding whether I wanted to start one and ultimately said yes, I do. I …
Got what I wanted !! Again !! — Hi everyone, **Context** So I made a post called “7 Seeds - 1 Harvest” and mentioned there would be upcoming posts since writing about each desire that came true would’ve made the post way too long.…
I 33F confused on whether to terminate pregnancy with 33M ex? — I 33F was with my ex 33M for 7 years. We discussed having a break in our relationship however did not actively do this. He often became depressed and was suffocating me at times I could not wait until…
Overnight success — Okay, so today something really wonderful happened. Where I live, universities are usually 3 years long. Sadly, I lost a family member in my second year. I closed myself off, didn’t study, and didn’t …
Law of Attraction a Psychological SCAM or LEGITIMATE — Hello every one, i was wondering Law of attraction is a very good psychological concept but the question is does it worked every time ? Law of attraction means thinking positively and creating an i…
UPDATE: I found out my fiancé slept with his ex a year into our relationship 3 years ago — [Here is a link to my original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/survivinginfidelity/s/2ArIlwSYpf) A while back I posted about a relationship filled with betrayal- sexual, financial, and emotional. We t…
How do I better control my frustrated reactions? — Ask anyone who knows me and they'll tell you I'm a positive person. Cheerful, fun, love to laugh and empathetic. But my attitude has slowly shifted. A year ago I got laid off from a job I loved.. fo…
Channeled message - this is why you’re not shifting༄˖°.🍂.ೃ࿔*:･ — Hi sweet shifting peeps, this is a collective message for you. \~ I specifically asked the deck, the crystals and the sound cleansing that I did it to help me pick out the card that would be most rele…
I thought I finally found someone. — Hi! This morning I got a text from a guy that I’m seeing that he doesn’t want a romantic relationship. He said with anyone but that I was perfect, kind, sweet and I’d make the perfect gf/wife. I fell …
Bless Another—Bless Yourself — Hi everyone, So today I'd like to talk about a nice situation I manifested for someone else. **Context** For a long time, my mom's husband has tried to build his own business and also to purchase o…
The more efficiently and the longer I mediate at night, the higher the likelihood of me dreaming that I'm in love — There seems to be a correlation. I dream that I meet someone and experience feelings of romantic love. Then I wake up and feel disappointment as if I have experienced a break-up. Does anyone else expe…
Update: My (26M) girlfriend (28F) went to a friend's wedding (whom she hadn't met in 4 years) instead of accompanying me to my first chemotherapy session. She didn't even offer to accompany me to the hospital. Is breaking up the only option now as I only feel resentment for her now. — Link to previous post: [https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/s/3nqdNtTv9f](https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/s/3nqdNtTv9f) I finally expressed my disappointment to her, and her reply was that …
I'm about to lose everything and having panic attack all day — I (24M) really need some advice. I am having the worst day of my life today. So, basically, I'm in college studying engineering. It's my fifth year. It is normally a four-year program, but I basically…
Being offended,resentment,disappointment — I am gonna share my specific experience and hopefully try to gather information around it. Its 5 close people rather than 50 friends.Its the desire for deep connection.And this set me up for a lot of…
how long were you single before you started dating again? — my last relationship was six years ago. i didn't become open to dating until 5.5 years later. i recently got into a new relationship only to feel neglect, betrayal & disappointment again. not sure how…
the one i couldn’t keep — it’s 3:11am and i’ve spent the last hour with my finger on the unfollow button. i still haven’t pressed it. i don’t think i can. there’s a 1975 song playing. it’s not helping. i keep thinking about …
I visited my mom after months, and she stayed in her room the whole time — The title sums it up. I visited my mom yesterday after not seeing her for months. When I walked into her house, she didn’t even greet me. I had to find her in her room just to hug her. After that, she…
I visited my mom after months and she stayed in her room the whole time — The title sums it up. I visited my mom yesterday after not seeing her for months. When I walked into her house, she didn’t even greet me. I had to find her in her room just to hug her. After that, she…
I (19M) need advice about sticky situationship with best friend (21M) — I (21M) am in a situationship with my best friend (23M) and it's starting to hurt. He has told me that he might be depressed and autistic, and I can definitely see that. He constantly makes self-depre…
I (21M) need help with a sticky situationship with my best friend (23M) — TLDR Depressed gay best friend rarely texts me after I ask whether we could date, and now I cant cut off this situationship because I will be too sad and we already planned an expensive trip together …
growing up, did anyone else have paddling in their school and have constant flashbacks to it? — (TW please read with caution, i mention childhood experiences of physical punishment) it hasn't effected me as much until recent years. because of this an other instances i've always been uncomf…
Spouse needs help but believes they are extremely emotionally intelligent — I (39) have been in and out of therapy nearly my entire life. I was a victim of child abuse at a very young age by my alcoholic father and dealt with severe alcoholism and drug addiction myself in my …
Spouse needs help but believes they are extremely emotionally intelligent — I (39) have been in and out of therapy nearly my entire life. I was a victim of child abuse at a very young age by my alcoholic father and dealt with severe alcoholism and drug addiction myself in my …
Being pushed down my throat femininity and my parents basically bullying me — (trigger warning Mention of suicide and child abuse this talk has just reminded me of some memories from my childhood. Sorry for this skip if this triggers you )My mom has always nagged me even in fro…
I (22F) feel incredible guilt about having a past sexual relationship before being with new (23m) partner — This is a stupid thing to be guilty about I know, life isn’t a romcom where you find your true love right off the bat. But I can’t shake this guilt and disappointment I have in myself about it Basica…
How can I 26F be supportive for my husband 29M while I'm sorting through my own issues? — My (26f) husband (29m) received a promotion that we were both up for at our company, while I was told that it's off the table for now. How can I best show my support and happiness for his milestone w…
Im stuck on how to move on F 23 M 22 — Hello everyone :). So just recently on Friday, i went on a date with someone I had met on the dating app, Hinge. Me and the guy sparked greatly. We both had tons of things in common. We enjoyed comics…
My husband (32M) thinks a photo I (30F) posted is weird and I felt hurt — I've had to go on work trips throughout January - March which included overnight stays at hotels and dinners at fancy restaurants with my boss (43F). I posted a series of 8 photos on Instagram contain…
I am confused as to what to do — English is not my first language so please forgive me for errors. So, I was a topper when i was in high school, emphasizing on 'was'. Now i am in university and it the first time for me , i faile…
I think my mum is a narcissist? — I was fostered by my foster mum at age of 9. She was incredibly controlling and strict all my life and I always accepted it as she's trying to protect/look after me. Now at 24 I've come to realise th…
What happened to me when I stayed. — I’m not here to tell anyone what to do. I’m just going to tell you what it actually feels like on the other side when you decide to stay. Try to forgive. Try to reconcile. If you’re thinking about …
You’re thinking “if only they would do/say X” — Year 1 / wife / 20 years / 2 teens / coworker / 4 months Thus far, I’ve encountered so many people in various support groups who really wish their betraying partner would say/do X… show empathy, own…
Maybe (as an FA) I can offer some insight… I was raised by a narcissist. In spite of my best efforts (15 years in therapy), I still have a high risk of ending up in a relationship with one. The mom…
I relate mostly to being anxiously attached or AP and tend usually to score most in that category. But I really relate to everything you described still despite not being DA so perhaps it’s a sign of …
Mostly secure but with some DA tendencies. Ugh yes this is SO relatable. I remember an ex of mine saying how cynical I was, and it was depressing that I always felt like people were going to disappoin…
Sorry I don't have advice but I've been feeling this exact thing lately. It really gets exhausting after a while doesn't it...like people are just one disappointment after another
I am so sorry you're going through this. Ugh, I totally get the hurt and frustration. I am 1-year NC with my ex. It's been a rough go. The first 3-months were unbearable. She went with the dismissive…
Text of original post by u/nintendonaut: After my breakup in winter of last year, I went through a long period of mourning and not knowing what to do or how to move forward. Now, over the past 2-3 mon…
I can relate to you, I think people don't talk often enough about how dark and suffering it feels to be at the other end of the spectrum. People tend to only discuss the aftermath of how you should pi…
https://youtu.be/9l5ALCPEBkc?si=i3VKUlg3rHPJem1n She’s got tons of fantastic talks on everything around this topic. Also: knowing you can give it to yourself. For some reason, realizing that I was t…
what’s funny is watching her videos is exactly what led me to ask this question!! Her videos were very revelatory for me. But you make such a good point about leaning on yourself to comfort yourself,…
This sounds like progress to me. basically now you’re ready to learn more about how to be secure and create and find secure relationships. I know it hurts and sucks but this is part of it - you put yo…
i think you're getting triggered by these times when your primary attachment figure is hurt/not caring for themselves more for a couple reasons. for 1, it is genuinely concerning, and can be a red fl…
Thank you for responding to me. Making this post was incredibly embarrassing for me because this entire situation feels absurd and the fact that it’s making me spiral so much has been really confusing…
Your feelings and inner experiences matter. Just because you understand how he functions as a DA, it doesn’t mean you have to self-abandon and lower your expectation to brace for disappointment. Just …
You know how you (a secure person) speak with direct communication? DAs and FAs speak in a language of projection. Admitting that they feel close to someone scares the shit out of them, as they see it…
If I were to enjoy the anticipation more than the act, I'd consider that a disappointment. It's happened to me before and it's not 100% disqualifying, but it's negative. It's good to give it a couple …
With a partner who is very emotionally self aware and through this I’ve very recently discovered I am terribly avoidant. (I knew I was avoidant but not to this extent). The problem is my maladaptive …
But you never really got truly started in the first place… it’s just a few weeks in. You are way too invested in a very short time. He will probably do this again. 1 hour is not that easy to do. But m…
That’s fine. You can handle disappointment and still be ok. Just feel what you’re feeling and then you’ll be ready to move one.
What are you doing for Valentines Day? I was kind of anticipating disappointment, wondering if my bf was going to plan something special or show much effort. He had asked me the other weekend what I w…
I think this is very true. I also think we tend to have unreasonable expectations for intimacy, especially when paired with Avoidant partners. This sets us up for disappointment and resentment.
I’m pretty sure I read it on this sub but I could be wrong. But I’m 3 months into my first relationship in six years and have anxious attachment style I actively work on healing in therapy, but someo…
That must be so frustrating and exhausting! I'm sorry to hear it. I think a lot of people are just tired from dating. It feels like everyone is trying to protect themselves from rejection and disappo…
Well…I have a date planned for Saturday. My birthday lol we are going duck bowling. And I’m really excited, but right now I feel kinda guarded and feeling anticipatory rejection. I know this isn…
# 7 months in, is it okay to want excitement about the future? After 7 months in a wonderful relationship, I (30F) am excited about a future with my girlfriend (35F), hoping she’ll be the love of my …
Meet sooner. It’s still a fantasy. Do not set yourselves up for disappointment.
I just had a convo with my friend who is in his mid 40s, and he goes to a lot of single mixer events with his roommates and friends that are also mid 40s. He remains wildly optimistic while the rest o…
Im starting to get a feeling that I am not mentally ready to go out dating for now. Went to a matchmaking singles event and by the end of it I was met with disappointment and tiredness from talking…
I'd cancel the date, you're just setting him up with unrealistic expectations and the both of you for disappointment. Stability and the spark are a dichotomy to you. If you go through it with, you're…
Oh love, I am so sorry. Disappointment compounded by VDay expectations and emotions.
I’m a little confused about what you’re feeling is one-sided/hurtful about his behavior? I guess what I’m getting is that you wanted him to express more disappointment that a ‘special’ weekend (not a …
I don't want to jinx it, but I'm in a similar boat and just within the past two years... I stopped crying. I still get a little obsessive over texts and waiting to hear back, and I definitely feel a p…
I agree, I don’t think he’s done anything wrong and he’s shown he cares about my health throughout the weekend. The disappointment for me was that he didn’t realize I had made all these arrangements f…
> I'd cope if he were everything I wanted in a fun sized container. 😂 The disappointment is palpable. I'm sorry he was a dud!
Someone not giving you a straightforward answer is not amicable. Someone walking out with limited explanation is not amicable. I can tell you have a big heart, but just because it wasn’t a verbally …
I really think l hit the lotto. He's the 15th guy l had dated post divorce. After so many heartbreaks and numerous disappointments l found him. He's so steady, consistent and he has moved the relation…
So I think I've hit a stage of dating where I no longer am dating in the hopes of finding "the one" or even a life partner. I am still selective and am refining my standards to the height I would like…
Yes! I don't love this mindset but it has helped free me of so much disappointment and I just enjoy getting to know people more now.
This is lovely! I will definitely try yours. I've just come out of a breakup and a big feeling I've been battling is one of disappointment - mainly at myself for minimising my own wants to make the r…
Well today was fun. Before Christmas my OBGYN referred me and my now ex to a fertility specialist. Well, we just got scheduled for an appointment next month. Pity we broke up in January. How brutall…
My life is so much better when I'm not using the apps. Way less screen time, way less anxiety, way less disappointment, much happier.
Hey everyone, I’m a 34M with anxious tendencies. I broke up with my 29F girlfriend (likely fearful-avoidant) 2 months ago during an argument over feeling ignored. We’ve been in strict no contact sinc…
I think you are underestimating the experiences of women here. I can’t think of too many times where I have felt comfortable about someone knowing where I live on date 3. And even then you could get…
No advice, but just want to commiserate with you. I'm over 30, just ended a 3 year engagement a few months go. Went out to a show and saw an absolutely gorgeous girl putting out the vibe, clearly wa…
Got some discouraging news today. Turns out I can’t move closer to the city, because my workplace won’t approve it. I honestly never even considered they’d have a say in where I live. Yes, they cover…
I recently moved to a new country for work. I met someone through a dating app who is 8 years older than me. In terms of career, I had just graduated and was at the very beginning of my professional j…
He told you what was up on the second date. Continuing to see him after he explicitly said that his desires were not at all what you wanted was a guarantee for disappointment.
I mean, it’s okay for him to be disappointed so long as he’s not guilt tripping or anything. Disappointment is normal. I still don’t think you need to tell him your best friend is MORE important, just…
It’s not a double standard, it’s that everyone sucks at talking. I mean, look at the folks here that spend their time telling the long posters that they didn’t read the long post and that they shouldn…
Something that was helpful for me was understanding that it's not about giving your inner child what they want it's about taking care of them. Internal family systems is a helpful reference point for …
I've been reading through your responses and it sounds like you've went through quite the ordeal! If I may ask, after being on and off for so long, why was the line drawn this time? Was it the coll…