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I understand. I hate how much I understand. My ex was the greatest love I had ever known, I would have protected him with my life. Then after he slept with me and told me he wanted to spend the rest o…
Am I overreacting or is it time to call it quits? — My partner of 10+ years and I are on a “let’s try again” phase after a they had broken up with me a few days ago and I begged to give it another go. When things are good, they are pretty amazing, and…
I dont know what to do now after breaking up with someone I truly loved for once and she left me — For context, my ex and I broke up a little over a month ago. The main reason was that I was emotionally unavailable, which caused a lot of friction in our communication. The relationship did not end o…
CA Divorce - Using Spouse's expected inheritance as context for non 50/50 settlement. Enforceable? — Burner account. Background: I'm initiating a divorce after 14 years of marriage in California. I'm the primary earner by a significant margin — I've generated roughly 70% of our household income thr…
I (19M) Told my Friend (18F) “Did You Think I Had Feelings For You All of These Years?” — Ok, so this happened a few months back and I just got reminded of it and I am just as bewildered now as I was then. Let me give some background info to help paint the full picture. I have this friend,…
Does anyone else feel trapped in a life where every problem hooks into another one? — I’m sorry I have no idea what flair to use :( posting here because this feels a lot more trauma-shaped than “just stressed” or “just heartbroken,” and I’m running out of moves. I’m a fighter. I’ve b…
a) law of assumption, not law of belief. And where did you get the other descriptions from? I've been on Neville sub for a while, literally noone describes the law in those words or speak in a spiritu…
The lol is more of dark humor - all of those relationships happened over a 10 year period. Only on the recent 6 month one did I really start to see the full picture. With women that didn’t draw the an…
This is definitely not true. You can still get attracted to them. Especially avoidants tend to be very charming, successful and if the person is smart or you share a lot of common interests, until the…
This would be very valid if the relational baseline and emotional part objectively didn’t shift as much when compared to how it was before for months. This was just for the context which is not the fu…
Attachment is a spectrum so I wouldn't suggest having strangers labeling you! We also don't have a full picture (not for us to know) but I definitely recommend therapy!
Please don't take these comments serious, it's so dangerous, the whole charts together, specially aspects, planets in houses IA your only way to judge, yes there are res flags and green flags, b…
It’s hard to piece together a full picture of what happened via text/reddit; but I think overall it just sounds like maybe yall are incompatible and there’s nothing you could have done to make it bett…
It wasn't an act, it just wasn't sustainable. He loved you I'm sure– to the extent he was capable of. Unfortunately, love cannot survive the psyche of a shame avoidant person. A way of thinking that…
Because you're focusing too much on the sign of the Ascendant and missing the full picture. Your Ascendant ruler is Leo Mars in the 10th house- Leo is not guarded, closed off, dark, or mysterious. And…
Yes. Sometimes I feel like "halfway to enlightened" is worse than "ignorance is bliss." I don't mean halfway to enlightened literally, of course, but I mean transitions can be rough. Change is uneven,…
I can't answer this properly without basically detailing her personal life atm and I'm not gonna do that out of respect for her privacy. Bottom line is I have no reason to believe that even IF she's …
It's always those who are the stupidest, think they know everything. The ego, narcissism and pride get them in the end. I feel the same way about my family. They come from surviving the Vietnam war an…
I can’t imagine the pain you are in but I am confused here. Did you date other people during this time? You make it sound like you would go months without talking to him at all. I guess I’m not get…
It feels that now is better for sure, but I would love to see some stats, studies etc. to see the full picture.
I believe the results furnished from those capable of observing their own conscious lens is valuable insight. However, it's not a traditionally understood physics concept to incorporate a full definit…
I can relate to a lot of what you're describing. I've been married over 30 years and had something surface about 20 years ago that I never really processed at the time. Like you, what stuck with me wa…
Bro she has 4 kids.. and as u say shes unstabile and plays around/has her ex still. A good partner will not make u feel like a trainwreck and make u degrade urself. Praise yourself lucky that u hopef…
I’ll start by saying there is nothing wrong with having preferences, but the way this is being framed is not a preference it is negging. As a man, this is not loving behavior. I’ll give home boy a …
Wow, thank you for sharing this. Most people only show their wins, but you showed the full picture, and that takes courage. This is a real reminder that the worst chapters don't end your story, they r…
Everyone keeps telling you he sucks and asking how you couldn't see that blah blah blah - all of that is completely besides the point. You see a full picture now and the love no longer outshines the s…
You're actually on the right track with this. In Eastern astrology systems like the Chinese birth chart, there's no concept of a single "sign" at all — your chart has multiple elements interacting, an…
I think accountability goes both ways. The hard part about relationships is that it can feel like you’re either constantly apologizing or constantly forgiving, and I don’t know if I have it in me to d…
Sun sign compatibility alone is pretty surface level in my experience, like yeah there's something to it but it's too broad to be meaningful on its own The most accurate read I've gotten on a relatio…
Therapist here - I have a very similar list. The substance abuse is just basically identifying that you use caffeine and marijuana more than “normal” but don’t take it personally. When we have to fill…
Yes, my brain is stubborn in a similar way. But, with persistence, I think it is very possible to correct our ''logic.'' For example, reminding ourselves that our perceptions are likely to be at least…
Yeah, I think that’s definitely true and the hard part. It’s very hard to understand unless you have these episodes (or abilities) — I just seem crazy to people 😮💨. It’s either you’ve experienced t…
For sure, when my breakup happened I was a total wreck, I told everyone and anyone how it was all my fault and I did this, that, this, etc. But quite quickly my friends and therapist said that's pro…
I am not sure exactly who you met whether it was the "angel of death" or something else, but I have had very similar experiences. I believe them to be demons/unclean spirits and I know how that sounds…
Could be she's uncomfortable with full pictures because of all the AI and identification stuff going around these days. Could be any number of reasons.
Sometimes, we are too emotionally involved to see the full picture. Which is why, it’s important to take a step back and detach. What they do, to you or others, says more about them and not you. Som…
She said she doesn’t like breaks and doesn’t believe in them because if we took a break, she said she would just avoid me altogether. We’ve already discussed options besides breaking up, including tak…
breakups are supposed to feel exactly the way your describing. 1.) There should be a part of you, given what you explained about your sense of the relationship, that acknowledges “it was the right …
I had to look it up because I had no idea what it means. But from what I can see (and I may not have the full picture here) this is a dehumanizing term that basically implies that you're *like* a huma…
I connect Neville and Joseph Murphy. Personally as a student of Both you get the full picture. But we are here to talk about Neville.
I think it's normal to have superficial perspectives of other cultures. Like my perspective of Brazilians is that they're all crazy friendly people who will invite you to a barbecue next weekend the f…
That's fair, man. It's good to hear what others have to say in order to gain some insight. And I only said it because I can see you're coming at this very level-headed and solution-based. The answer y…
The chart absolutely covers this, and it goes deeper than just Mercury. Mercury shows how you naturally process and express ideas, but it is the delivery vehicle, not the full picture. For career com…
Right. That's one mechanism. What I'm warning against is a mischaracterisation of OCD as being an issue that's rooted in poor concentration on a meditation sub-reddit, as not only does this not give …
I have had the memory of existing before this life from the earliest memories I can remember. Edit: since this seems like a place for it. I have a continuous memory of existing before this life tha…
Good responses imo. The response held a boundary while staying honest and not cruel. That's actually harder than it looks. What stands out is the moment where you named the actual issues clearly. The…
same, i often struggle in a similar way where i can be slow to process my true feels because i often *do* have multiple reasons for feeling multiple ways about certain things. it's all true, but not t…
There’s a lot you didn’t include that would really help paint the full picture: like how long you’ve known him, how long you’ve been together, and whether you’ve lived together. I hate to be the one t…
i hear what you're saying about therapy being crucial - definitely agree that meds alone aren't the full picture. though for some people going through divorce, the meds can be what makes it possible t…
Humans can hold a solid facade in person for a few months, but online/long distance that facade can last almost indefinitely. Long distance/online dating is fantasyland. It rarely translates to anythi…
I disagree. Another word for "weight" used here could be "responsibility." You can only respond with what you know or don't know. Experiencers have a knowledge set that is vast and varied about the …
I don't really know what you want with them, but reflecting upon whatever that is might be helpful for you? Perhaps they haven't noticed you yet or maybe they're hesitating for some reason? Maybe you'…
I am an only child so I had 2 roles. Golden Child and a Scapegoat Very true. I have a similar situation, but I'm 29 and only recently realized the full picture about my parents and CPTSD. Before that…
No I haven’t experienced this exact type of behaviour, it does sound very creepy like you say, seeing as it was 7 years apart. I have experienced other creepy behaviours though, I remember my Mother c…
I just want to point out that tracking the statistics of the conversation is a good idea but NOT because it'll actually help with communication or helping OP fix the relationship. The value in this wo…