Window of Tolerance

I can share all of them if you like, the process started about 1 year before the nex discard: \- My psych did a assessment of core childhood wounds (schemas) with me and then started on the ones that…

I went to a Physical Therapy intake appointment today, and part of the protocol was asking "Do you Feel Safe at Home?"...........and apparently I said "no', but had no Conscious memory of saying that. OMFG. — I f'ing hate trauma bullshit CPTSD so f'ing much. I thought I was doing fine, wore my best workout outfit to my First PT apointment, so I didnt look like the hot mess that I feel like inside. I…

how do I get closure from being essentially ghosted?should I reach out myself? — hi, I've posted here before about this situation and I'm back because I genuinely need some outside perspective. I'll try to give enough context for this to make sense. I'm 20F, this was my first ev…

Therapist here, look for a therapist that use a person-centered approach and is trauma informed. It’s not our job to push meds on you, it’s our job to reflect your experiences back to you so you gain …

You both have to develop more metacognition. That’s the first step. Then, you need boundaries — DBT will help you do the opposite. Then do the body work with the nervous system while cognitively restr…

Anxious-preoccupied attachment patterns are distinct from an anxiety disorder, but there's definitely some overlapping gray areas. Questions to ask yourself: do you have underlying anxiety that af…

Sounds like you’re confusing fighting with conflict. I will happily engage in conflict and conflict resolution in the form of talking it out. I will not do that when someone is yelling and screaming a…

Yes, for 4 months, these improvements sound remarkable. And it looks like this also already has positive effects on your relationship since you said you recently had 3 very good days until it got too …

Yes. My window of tolerance is so small. It takes SO MUCH for me to do things normal people do so easily. I’m tired of being told I just need to develop better coping skills, as if you could deep brea…

Thanks! It's a very valid point. Over time, I flipped on this question several times. Even now, I feel safer not having to talk about myself. On the other hand, the fact that she doesn't ask about me,…

Forgive yourself for having the urge to run. It is just one of the four F's/ Fight, flight, freeze, fawn. They are survival mechanisms. Write out on paper: I feel like running Write out: what wi…

Yeah, I've been "doing it scared" for 30+ years, still scared. Don't have advice but can definitely relate. I found it interesting, having adopted a dog with separation anxiety, when I went to train…

Hmm, that sounds tough! I like what someone else said about top down vs bottom up therapy. I find myself being a little too analytical and in my head when trying to "fix" my trauma responses. I am a v…

This sounds like dissociation when emotions become too challenging. Try and learn some basic emotional processing and somatic skills to teach your body to stay within its window of tolerance during ch…

This is unsufferable, but Ill one up you: Im 50 and still dealing with the consequences of a fucked up life. I hope you find some normal-ish people you can emulate, or who are so kind to you that your…

First of all, I’m so sorry you’re going through this. Being caught in a panic loop can feel so isolating, not to mention terrifying beyond words. The good news is that all your test from the ER came b…

Can only speak from my experience. I wish my mom took better care of herself so she was more within her window of tolerance and wouldn’t take all the stress out on us. She was so proud of how she gave…

The two most effective treatments I've done to retrain my brain are: [deep brain reorienting](https://deepbrainreorienting.com/) - which has basically disarmed all my triggers, and [infra slow fluct…

Traditional talk therapy is not very effective for avoidant ppl because awareness and processing aren’t enough to rewire the nervous system and subconscious. The way to do that is to act secure while …

Yes I realized this and it’s changed a lot about how I viewed our fraught relationships and how I want to move forward with things. As I work to better support my own neurodivergence, I am also engagi…

Thanks. Your post reminded me of Dan Siegel's Window of tolerance model. I was told that with a mental state outside the window of tolerance learning can be difficult like a sponge that's stressed a…

You can get out of it by using reactivation techniques, but the fastest way out of it is to regulate your nervous system. Eventually you’ll have to learn to feel your feelings in your body, so that yo…

okay this is the most helpful comment i've gotten and i feel like i finally understand what happened to me yesterday. the window of tolerance thing makes so much sense. i was forcing myself into some…

I relate to this a lot. Going to go straight into it… * **Cultivating mindfulness attitudes** such as patience, non-striving, compassion, etc. Sometimes we need to approach life and our practices wit…

You have a very full and fulling life ahead of you with equally as fulfilling relationships. Unfortunately, you have to do some work to be able to have fulfilling relationships, that’s not your fault …

Thanks, feels good to not be all alone when the emotional flashbacks hit. Realistically only #2 can happen and that’s the only thing freaking me out, they are too old to travel across continents. …

C-PTSD/Autistic/adhd here. Maintaining and holding boundaries is very hard when you are consistently emotioanlly dysregulated and accidentally cross others by oversharing. I have been recently retraum…

Oooh, I hear that. Are these therapists you've seen experienced in working with CPTSD? If not, you might find a specialist more helpful. It's also worth telling them explicitly what kind of feedback…

I’m sorry to hear how much difficulty you’re having at the moment. Disorganized attachment is rough. I remember my FA ex absolutely crashing out because he didn’t tell me he needed to be picked up for…