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Please read my post from a few days ago [Linked here](https://www.reddit.com/r/NarcissisticAbuse/s/9a9dquaqSh) A couple of months ago I was still in the same place you are, things changes in a matte…

23 and feel stuck with no direction — I’m 23 and feel really lost and stuck in life. I’m in a good relationship and I’m grateful for that, but mentally I’ve struggled since I was a kid. I had really bad anxiety starting around age 8–9 an…

Beware of taking back the ex that broke up with you and wanted to rekindle with you — Let this be your testimony that you are much better without them. My ex of 7 years and I rekindled after a couple months of no contact. She broke up with me cause she said she relied on me too much an…

Does it get better?? :( — I’m so tired. I’ve struggled with anxiety for years I’m almost 20. It’s gotten to a point where it has taking over my life. I got diagnosed during the pandemic and then I didn’t do anything about it, …

First post here, don't normally do this but I need help. 27M — Gday all, firstly just want to say hi to all who come across this post, and also forgive me if my grammar is bad. I was never really good at it... What is mentioned in here could be quite triggering …

Rescuing vs. Responsibility to Child — I am new the concepts of codependency so please bear with me. My son has struggled with chemical dependency for a couple of years now. He dropped out of school and cant keep a job and has no desire t…

codependency quiz wrecked me - turns out my "helping" was actually controlling — I took a codependency quiz last week on taro's tarot and i genuinely feel like the floor dropped out from under me. I've always been the person everyone comes to. The fixer. The one who drops everythi…

the narcissist catchphrase bingo list — edit 1: jesus christ my initial 32 I wrote already look like they arent a lot lmao (the comments in total added 45 UNIQUE PHRASES HOLY JESUS) , okay heres the updated list (most of the updates will be…

37/m. 3 months ago, I committed an act of domestic violence on my ex partner and I am trying to make sure the version of me that did that stays in the past. — In December I physically attacked my now ex gf of 4 years. It is the single worst thing I have ever done in my life, to the person I loved more than I have ever loved anyone before. I moved out immedi…

Loneliness is a major part of my depression, and I need help finding friends — Hey everyone. I am 28 and have had no friends all my life. I need help. I'm frustrated by the typical advice as I feel I've tried most of it, so I'd like to list what I do, and see if there are specif…

I want to send an apology letter to my ex from 10 years ago — Long story short, he was my first love, first kiss, first \*everything\*; we met in high school and dated for a little under a year, but we had a somewhat complicated 3-year friendship prior to that. …

Loneliness is a major part of my depression, and I need help finding friends — Hey everyone. I am 28 and have had no friends all my life. I need help. I'm frustrated by the typical advice as I feel I've tried most of it, so I'd like to list what I do, and see if there are specif…

post breakup book rec / advice — I am a 23 year old - about to be 24 year old - senior in college ( took me a bit but i got there) about to graduate in a month. i just broke up with my boyfriend of 3 years, been friends since we were…

Anyone else wish they were adopted by decent people? I dropped out of high school due to mental illness when I got older I asked why they didn't care they said my education something I was suppose to care about, mind you they dont believe in mental illness. — Im in my 20s and its so painful knowing I have to grind the school system out for many years to even begin making above poverty money. Much of my life was straight up wasted. I also got brain damage…

I want to give medication a try to improve my mental health and so i can be safer. — I'm currently at a crossroads and could really use some perspective from others who "masked" their way into a high-stakes career before hitting a total systemic collapse. On paper, I look like I have…

Loneliness is a major part of my depression, and I need help finding friends — Hey everyone. I am 28 and have had no friends all my life. I need help. I'm frustrated by the typical advice as I feel I've tried most of it, so I'd like to list what I do, and see if there are specif…

Re-learning everything — I am trying to re-learn everything from school. I have no degree, I dropped out of uni but I am a curious person. I lost so much due to my abuse. I feel that I could have achieved better grades so I a…

My mom girlfriend (19F) and I (19F) might break up in about 2 weeks. I’m not sure if it is reasonable or not? — so we’ve been together for 2 years, about. our 2 year is in 9 days. when we met we were in our final 2ish months of highschool. we both weren’t looking for a relationship at the time but i fell for he…

How can I stop my downward spiral? — Hello everyone. Six years ago I developed my first bipolar mixed (manic depressive) episode. During this time, I told my psychiatrist I was feeling extremely agitated and suicidal and my psychiatrist …

I [M23] am facing a decision that might cost me what I think is the love of my life [23F] — TL;DR: After a wonderful but complex 4.5 years, me and my partner separeted. We then kept spending a lot of time with each other and stayed exclusive, before completely ending our contact for a few mo…

My best friend f25 ended our relationship with explaining why NB24 — Throwaway because mutual friends use Reddit. For context I '23NB' had a close friend I'll call Sage '24F' who I'd known for about two years. We were best friends and roommates for roughly a year. Sa…

I need some advice and I need a good one, I don't want to say that I'm a special case but based on every person I have ever met, I don't think what I'm going through is normal. I can vent about so many things but i'm probably gonna go nowhere with what I'll say. — I have come to the conclusion that I can't change, and that I keep getting reminded of that, that I can't get long-term friends, that I'm probably will be laughed at by 95% of everyone behind my back,…

Loneliness is a major part of my depression, and I need help finding friends — Hey everyone. I am 28 and have had no friends all my life. I need help. I'm frustrated by the typical advice as I feel I've tried most of it, so I'd like to list what I do, and see if there are specif…

20f what does my career and education path look like? — (turning 21 in 2 months) took 2 gap years, dropped out of college after finishing 1st year, that’s 3 years down the drain. planning on going back to college for bachelors this year (family pressure) b…

After 29 years, I'm Finally Going NC With My Narcissistic Mother — Last June, I was supposed to be celebrating my wedding. Instead, I was fighting a multi-front war with my own family. ​It started when both of my sisters dropped out of my wedding because they claime…

I figured it out — I've known about emotional neglect for a while now, but despite knowing this I've been stuck in this deep dark pit for a decade. I've been living at home with my parents ever since I dropped out of co…

got into 2 ivies, but the way my parents treat me u would think i dropped out of school or something — Told them i got into brown, columbia, and northwestern. My dad goes “congrats” and then immediately starts yelling at me for leaving a yogurt bowl out 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 they literally don’t care. …

Feeling stuck in my marriage. Need advice! — Hi Reddit, Throwaway for obvious reasons. I (36M) feel completely overwhelmed and don’t know how to move forward, so I’m hoping for some perspective. My wife (33F) and I have been together for 7 yea…

Will i be able to complete my education or be forced to marry? — I've dropped out school once and out of college twice due to mental health issues ( I'm on medication right now ). I've severe inconsistency issues. now my parents have given me an ultimatum, that …

My friend (18F) relies on me (21F) for everything — Hi all, I’m just here to rant/ask for next steps since I’ve been in this situation for years and I’m over it. My friend and I met through work a couple years ago, I had to train her in retail etc. S…

Was anyone else "homeschooled" by their parent/parents? — It's only recently occurred to me how incredibly neglected I was as a kid when it came to education. Especially as the eldest child. Handing a handful of questionable and not at all up to date "textbo…

i feel like im breaking and idk where to say this all — maybe there is a better more specific to what im saying kind of subreddit to put this on but i dont really know much abt reddits or what exactly im allowed to say where so: **tw: abuse, neglect, vio…

Should I accept my narcissistic parents’ job offer as a scaffold out of financial dependence? — TLDR; My wealthy parents have a sordid and calculated history of financial abuse, but are offering me to pay me to help manage their investments. I am disabled, possibly for life, and don’t know if I …

burnout gifted kid guilt, from resurfaced trauma — I used to be a really smart kid. In my childhood, I was in many gifted programs, and I even got into a very nice high school for a biomedical science scholarship. I had a 4.0, I constantly did extra c…

Another relationship lost to codependency — This just happened last night, and I haven't even slept, so it's more of a venty ramble than anything but I just need to get it out. I started the work, went to CoDA for a while, started working the s…

I [F18] am watching the man [20] who saved my life slowly losing his own — TL DR : The same person who helped me improve my life is now ruining his own, and I don’t know what to do to stop it. We have been together for 2 years. I had dropped out of school because of family …

Loneliness is a major part of my depression, and I need help finding friends — Hope this is appropriate for this forum. I am in a lot of pain every day. I have been completely alone for many years. I have no friends at all, for over ten years but more generally all of my life. I…

I've been lying to my parents about school for years — I (29yo Male) have felt terrible about school pretty much my entire adult life. I was considered smart back in highschool but not anything crazy like earnings awards or such. So My first experiences w…

Deleting pictures? — Hello, I am curious if anyone deleted all the pictures of their ex? Did you find the results (emotionally/recovery-wise) to be good or bad? My breakup was several months ago now. I’m doing pretty we…

I manifested the man of my dreams and he turned out to be a cheater. Help — So my life has been super weird for the past two years. Everything that could go wrong went wrong. In my career, love life and my social life. But I recovered. Just this feb/march I reached a state of…

I manifested the man of my dreams but he turned out to be a cheater. Help — So my life has been super weird for the past two years. Everything that could go wrong went wrong. In my career, love life and my social life. But I recovered. Just this feb/march I reached a state of…

My family pressured me to drop out of school so they could make me their personal ATM — title says it all I've (19f) always drawn since I was a kid and my family thought it was a useless hobby but relatively harmless. When I turned 16, my phone broke completely and I had no phone for a …

Bed bound as a young adult in diff country - mom not connecting at all with me — Hey guys so I learned about emotional intelligence/neglect fairly recently. I'm a young adult and sadly become very sick after moving from my home country to be with my partner. My dad is a covert na…

Loneliness is a major part of my depression, and I need help finding friends — Hope this is appropriate for this forum. I am in a lot of pain every day. I have been completely alone for many years. I have no friends at all, for over ten years but more generally all of my life. I…

Partner wants a neat, easy separation so I can “shape up” — At some point my partner realized that I would never change. That I would likely always struggle to be “high functioning”. We’ve been together for 25 years. Married for 15. We took in my some of my pa…

I'm so confused :( — My partner broke up with me 8 days ago, completely on his own decision. We had been together for about 4 years and had plans for the future. The past few months had been somewhat unstable, but we were…

Need advice for next level of therapy — Hi All! I hope this is ok to post here. I am a child of a narcissist. I have had some counseling and I am grateful for it. I was doing good for a while and now it is obvious I need a new or the ne…

I still have trouble calling what I went through abuse, hoping for some perspectives — I’m a 23 year old south asian man, born and raised in the US. I’ve compiled this list of the specific events of abuse I remember at the hands of my parents for catharsis. I’ve never spoken to anyone a…

She said she needed space and my brain basically threw itself down a flight of stairs — Is "I need space" the new " I've got a headache"? This happened like two weeks ago but it’s still bouncing around in my head like a loose screw so whatever, I’ll just dump it here. Maybe it’ll stop r…

Secure here. I still do learn and learn to accept that a lot of people cant express themself and selfreflect. Long distance friend of mine and, probably DA, got into arguments with me via whatsapp. …

I use whole sign houses so this will all line up. Scorpio rising at 12°01’ conjunct Mars at 9°20’ and Pluto at 11°16’. I mention this because my chart ruler in both traditional and modern astrology i…

Had 7 Hinge matches late January, without premium or anything. I had reworked my profile and uploaded new photos. Felt like I had this worked out. 2 Ghosted once I started making concrete plans to m…

Sigh... I'm stupid. Delusional even. I guess with my 33rd birthday fast approaching, I'm naturally in a morose state thinking about my utter lack of success with romance. And somehow mulling about mis…

When my dad died, we had to go through a bunch of photos from his life. First for the obituary, then for a slideshow to play at the reception hour following his memorial service. My mom wanted his o…

Nope. T5 University, College Athlete, nearly killed myself "looksmaxxing" and with an ED until I was very attractive my society's standards, worked on my personality until I had tons of friends. I go…

Is the EMI Loan in her name? I too come from an immigrant family, the great things about my family is that they will catch me, and have caught me, even when I became a crappy human during my teenage y…

Yes, but it isn’t as cut and dry as many people make it out to be. And that’s not what you’re REALLY asking, right? I don’t know for a fact most people believe leagues exist to at least some extent, …

Right??!! I'm 30 and I'm still constantly discouraged from moving out and talked to like it's perfectly fine that I haven't done more with my life because I live with my mom and she cannot handle the …

Mood. I’m not yet 30 but soon. I’m living with my parents at a dead end job with teens for coworkers and a miserable boss. I failed out of college. I’m AuDHD. As a kid I always thought I’d be some so…

I followed the exact same path as you but didn't get my degree and dropped out. I realized that I'm not this STEM science-y guy that my father molded me to be. Now, I'm learning the guitar and makin…

Change your schedule. Work when she’s off. Do whatever you can to make it to where the 2 of you don’t have the availability to do this all the time! I had a girlfriend who did this too many years ago…

1. Gemini ascendant 2. Leo Saturn 2 degrees third house (my sun and Lilith are also cazimi at 11 degrees, Mercury are also here at 15) 3. Capricorn 8th house (Chiron at 29) Aquarius 9th (Neptune at 16…

My daughters are 2 and 6. We're not planning to send them to international school. They will have a normal Chinese education like everyone else. I dropped out of college the first time round but got a…

Hello, I'm from France, I'm a kid (18 y.o). I went through severe depression and I'm also pretty anxious. I used to hate school, in fact, I still do...I did some research about education, its origins …

“I’m not abusive, I provide for you, keep a roof over your head.” when I have never used the word abuse in front of them. There’s also “You’re hiding things from me”, “You’ve never worked a REAL job”,…

You chose to go to a school four hours away for reasons. You chose not to be local to her. And that's perfectly fine! In my experience, this almost always means she has cheated already or plans to. O…

I responded to OP, but saw your post: educate yourself. Learn a new skill in something that even remotely interests you. Painting, magic tricks, lock picking, learning how to do that loud whistle with…

I'm in "the south". That's as specific as I'll get because I'm really not trying to hate. And I do plan to move in the next year or so, because this city just isn't a fit for me.  Not that I'm wealt…

Yup. It’s happened to me TWICE! I’m an actor (have been one for over 20 years) and a few years ago I decided to quit after I was mistreated by a production. Told my agent to stop submitting me for au…

As an Asian in the creative arts, I'll tell you that the "waste of time" feeling comes and goes. If you pursue this it should be because you genuinely enjoy doing it. I know many a colleague who dropp…

CBT therapy was intense and i dropped out of it 3-4 weeks into a 12 week program. i took away some great things from it but regular therapy is working just fine.

My mum hid my ADHD assessment from me and didn't get me any support. I dropped out of university and am too unwell to work.

43f here. I feel exactly the same way. I started an academic career but dropped out at PhD level and now I'm back to working in an office same as I was before I went to uni. Sure I've got the master's…

I'm a trauma survivor my whole life. Decades passed in a blink mostly spent in isolation and disengaging from the world. My two younger siblings are trauma thrivers and they're much younger than me (6…

Just leave. I’m not trying to be ignorant when saying so, but we all know how this plays out. They will try and guilt trip or whatever the case may be. Leave leave leave. It’s scary trust me. I did th…

Do not confront. If you want to do a "no drama" note of, "Hey, I dropped out of school. I'm leaving". and leave it clipped to their bathroom mirror, that's a small peace to you of less guilt. But know…

My parents are twisted angry people. I was a year ahead, then remedial, then gifted, then dropped out. Now I understand the indifference of my upbringing. The attacks on my lack of accomplishments rin…

Congratulations! Why not is exactly right! You owe them nothing. Literally nothing. Don't write a note, don't tell them you dropped out, unless you just want the satisfaction of seeing the reaction on…

If it helps, I think the people who were successful are a lot louder. Being healthier, happier, richer and more influential gives them more communication opportunities and visibility opportunities. F…

Don’t tell them you dropped out! Don’t tell them you are leaving. Just disappear.

>The system of metaphysics enunciated by Advaita Vedanta, which is a pinnacle teaching of Hinduism, turned out to come closest to the spiritual truths that were imparted to me in my very early childho…

Yes. I had reasons to think that. Maybe I'm also a bad person. But when I met her she was failing classes, I pushed her through and encouranged her, she dropped out to be a bartender, but I encouraged…

My dad used to call me from my room upstairs to hand him the remote 2ft away. He expected this of me up until I left for college. When he had surgery he left rehab facility early so I could empty his …

Yes, as soon as I worked on boundaries, all my closest friends and family dropped out. I haven't found the answer yet and it was one of the most intense things I've gone through to date. It became jus…

I just for out of a 2 1/2 year relationship with someone I lived with. Regardless of how good or bad the relationship is or the terms you both ended on, breakups suck and they hurt. I also know that p…

This was me when I (M) was 13 and my parents put me on conversion therapy because I was messaging men on kik and sending them nudes. I was the problem and then actually became the problem later in my …

Well, you’ve identified your job as a major stressor. If your parents knew how much you were struggling, would they be supportive of you cutting back your hours or giving you more support in some way…

I have debilitating depression. Two years ago, I dropped out of college because it was so bad. I was a husk, with terrible quality of life. This might sound stupid. But genuinely, the thing that sav…

oh i feel this all the time.. i feel like what helps is when i'm just outright bold with my stuff. like especially how i didn't graduate - i pretend like its the most normal thing in the world and it …

Things started to fall apart for me during early high school, but I was on a pretty great trajectory. Was considered for full ride scholarships to some of the best boarding schools in the country, alr…

Yeah, I almost never actually feel like I'm "part" of a friend group. Between my autism generally making it more difficult to navigate social interactions, and the fact that said friend group usually …

i relate heavy on that, i dropped out of school and the only friend i had sa'd me for years and manipulated me i dropped out at16 and i havnt left the house till 22 i just turned 23

I've gotten a lot better. Last year I was at the lowest point of my life. I went on multiple meds that failed and made me even more depressed. I almost dropped out of college. Now I'm on lexapro and i…

No. my dad dropped out of uni because he didn't like it (his family is rich so I guess it didn't matter to them). My mom attend college at 15 so that she could get a decent job as soon as possible.

Biiig hug OP, you did such brave work here. You're safe now, and you got out. You're justified in blocking her and never interacting with her again, if that's what you need to be ok. You can explain t…

If school or computer science isn’t for you, that’s okay, it doesn’t have to be. I dropped out at 22 and hid it from my mom for two years until the lie finally unraveled when I was 24. I started at a …

I made it to mid 30s being fairly successful professionally and having a great friend circle and I used to think that maybe what happened did not affect me. I had seen people who were struggling due t…

I was late almost every day of middle school and high school, because my BPD nmom would turn off my alarm clock, scream at me while eating breakfast, let my brother out of the house first, and then bl…