distraction

You mentioned coming to terms with your gender identity, well my ex is also a trans woman, she came out in 2014, not even one full year into our marriage. But it was triggered by her dad's sudden deat…

Warning: Aggressive Tactics from Paperstack – A Cautionary Tale for Store owners seeking funding — Hey fellow builders, I want to share our recent experience with [Paperstack](https://paperstack.ai/), an e-commerce financing provider, to caution others who might be considering their services. We …

Anyone here navigating entrepreneurship with ADHD? How do you manage focus, procrastination, and distractions? — Hey everyone, I wanted to reach out to the community to see how many of you might relate. I've been wondering lately if I might have ADHD — I haven’t been officially diagnosed, but I know a lot of pe…

Success Story: FA/Disorganized Attachment Healing Roadmap, Resource Recommendations — **Hello, fellow Fearful Avoidants! The below post has grown out of almost 3 years of research and healing this attachment style, which in my case was coupled with Relationship OCD (ROCD). ROCD is a vi…

A letter to my FA Ex — I don’t even know why I’m writing anymore. I don’t know why I still pour my feelings onto paper when the person they’re meant for has emotionally switched off. Maybe this isn’t for you. Maybe it’s jus…

Specific Person (SP) Manifestation: No Magic, No Supernatural Forces. Just Proven Science — Hi everyone, It’s been a long time since I last posted, and honestly it was overdue. I keep seeing the same recycled LOA bullshit everywhere. Endless manifestation porn, more unqualified people calli…

Break up + no contact update (post 4 months) — I thought I’d give an update into my healing progress since my breakup, in hopes to shed a little light on the small positives that can come from heartbreak. For context, my ex and I broke up in Octob…

First Acid Trip (2 tabs) — This happened like a month ago and sorry if it comes off corny: At first, I was just lying in my bed, nervous. My roommate wasn’t back yet, and the walls slowly started to breathe and layer with col…

Why does my body feel anxious at night even when my day was fine? — I’ve been noticing a pattern with my anxiety that confuses me. During the day I usually function pretty normally. I can work, talk to people, stay busy, and things feel relatively manageable. But on…

What's an anxiety hack that has changed your life? — okay 11 years of anxiety. here's what actually works for me. no bs. the biggest thing first I named my anxiety. we call it Lisa. when my brain spirals I literally say "Lisa stop, none of this makes …

People today have forgotten how to be alone — Lately I’ve been noticing people more and more, how restless they become in silence. The moment things get quiet, we reach for our phones. Music, scrolling, notifications, something constantly and en…

Do quiet baths count as a form of meditation? — I’m curious about this. I don’t always sit down and do formal meditation, but sometimes when I’m in a quiet bath with no phone and no noise, my mind finally slows down. It almost feels like a form o…

Has anyone else been paralyzed by extreme avoidance to the point of near delusion? I mean at one point I wouldn’t even get up to brush my teeth I would just be on my phone all day distracting myself from reality — And the irony is the more I avoided reality the worse my life got so the more I needed to escape reality. Addiction 101. My phone provided pleasure and took away pain. As my life got worse from chroni…

Despite every effort, I'm developing feelings for my boss. Am I cooked? — I know. Yikes. I usually have a protocol for these things - find out they have a partner or find the worst possible photo of them on the internet and change their contact photo to that. Unfortunately …

Is it possible to be too grounded? — Like, my whole life I lived in my head. Fantasizing, philosophizing, theorizing, imagining, visualizing. Feeling my body and my surroundings always was a struggle. But I was very mental. Thanks to t…

Sitting with emotions. — one of my biggest challenges in life has been sitting with uncomfortable feelings. I've done everything to avoid them pretty much all my life. I've looked for distractions in drugs, people, and work. …

April 2026 Astrology: Key Dates, Weekly Forecast and Mundane Astrology World Events — April is one of the most active months we’ve seen. Not one planet is in retrograde. Aries fire and cardinal energy sets the stage for initiation, assertion and spontaneous energy. There is a bit of na…

Is darkness rising? Or have a fallen into a trap or something? — I understand that the future is uncertain and can change and is probably being manipulated as well, but I am having trouble seeing light. I see darkness on the rise everywhere now. Have I lost it . …

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Disability *does* make manifestation harder, and I think that’s the point. — I’m sure this won’t be revelatory for a lot of people. I’m new to this stuff and more than open to being wrong, but… I was moderately disabled (not that that has any standardised meaning but whatever…

I cant focus on school work for more than ten minutes at a time — I try to focus with certain techniques but times don't do anything, fidgets are distractions, having a friend working close by ends in talking, small chunks I still get distracted on and overall I wou…

I know checking their profile will hurt me… and I still do it anyway — I don’t even want to do it anymore… but I still do. It’s like my brain just takes over for a second. I’ll be fine, doing something else, and then suddenly I’m typing their name without even thinking…

I ignored my self-critic for a full week and boy was it exhausting — A week ago I decided that since behavioural activation therapy, CBT, other therapies, and trying to find ways to be productive or find meaning with others or by myself, and even low pressure advice we…

How do you get over the dread, and obsessive thoughts — I just got out of my first long-term relationship (3 years, I was dumped, from ages 17 to 20) and I feel completely lost. It’s only been 6 days, but anxiety, regret, and fear hit me constantly. I am a…

Beginning to practice, hoping to find peace and awareness or something — I have depression, a sleep disorder, likely adhd, perfectionism, I’m exhausted and overwhelmed and postpartum, either working 12 hour shifts or with my 2 kids. It is what it is. The many competing pri…

entered MABA and stopped breathing? — i’ve been practicing focus 10 with the gateway tapes. today was my fastest successful attempt. i reached MABA pretty quickly, i think during the counting after 1 2 and 3, maybe around 4 and 5. but on…

27 M my first gf left me for another man. — I don’t have my first relationship until I was 24. I met her (let’s call her Ashley) while working fast food after I stopped going to college due to Covid & tuition. She was a typical alternative type…

Ex and I broke up due to mental health but now we’re considering FWB… is this a bad idea? — My ex (18M) and I (17F) are both in Year 12 and were together for about 3 months. Our relationship was honestly really healthy — we communicated well, weren’t toxic or codependent, and the feelings ne…

How to disconnect from sensory distractions, transforming external noise as preparation for AP — I want to share a perspective on sound and "noise" that might fundamentally shift how you approach the vibratory stage and the meditative stillness required for projection. Often, we view external sou…

My 5-year-old keeps asking "is the divorce my fault?" every night at bedtime. What finally worked for us — We tried everything. Long explanations. Books. Distraction. Nothing stopped the nightly question. Then I came across something about how kids this age actually process information and it changed ever…

My Asian parents demanded I (19f) break up with my bf — So I went to the UK to get my undergraduate degree and in my second year I met the sweetest guy and started dating him. My mom had always been supportive of the idea of me dating, and so I looped her …

year 1 anniversary of affair milestones — End of this month will be when my wife met her AP at work and began her multi-month affair, 1 year ago. I intentionally “lost” the timeline I created recently, so I’m not agonizing over every single …

Bless Another—Bless Yourself — Hi everyone, So today I'd like to talk about a nice situation I manifested for someone else. **Context** For a long time, my mom's husband has tried to build his own business and also to purchase o…

anxious when excited? (36nb) — it's something I just realized recently and wanted to explore a little before addressing it properly with my therapist in a couple weeks for decades, like for as long as I can remember, I have always…

Meditation with OCD — I wanted to share something about my experience with OCD and meditation, because I feel like it is often portrayed in a very one-sided way A lot of people talk about meditation as something calming a…

25M, Ex-situationship keeps breaking no contact, advice needed — Hi I’m 25M, Bi and live in London, UK. I met “Tony” (same age and also Bi - might I add we’re both discreet/DL) in 2022 via Snapchat (lol). This “situationship” (I don’t even know if I can call it t…

Once, I called the child helpline number. I was stopped mid-call—my breathing became painful, and it felt like I couldn’t breathe anymore. On the call, he kept saying, “Hello? Hello?” and eventually hung up. I finally accepted that I am all alone. These are just temporary distractions. — Once, I called the child helpline number. I was stopped mid-call—my breathing became painful, and it felt like I couldn’t breathe anymore. On the call, he kept saying, “Hello? Hello?” and eventually h…

My Experience as a Beginner — I was introduced to meditation as a teen, when I went through a productivity phase. Just starting university, was going through some stuff, and I wanted to find a "better" version of myself, whatever …

Seeking companionship/friendship, temporary or long term — Just want to chat only, try to get my mind off of the negative trauma, a distraction. i don't want to vent or talk about the infidelity situation, yours or mine, I need a distraction, something posit…

How can I do better — My Story — A Journal Entry Where It All Began I grew up in a joint family — grandparents, cousins, relatives all around. On the surface, there was warmth and togetherness. But my immediate family wa…

Awkward feelings from blocked out past — Hello, I need your help, you ever just get the feeling that there is some form of inappropriate sexual contact during childhood with a parent? Likely between ages 2-4, and severe beltings and spankin…

He said he wasn’t ready for anyone… 6 days later he’s liking other girls’ posts — I (F) just got out of a 5-year relationship, and I’m honestly struggling to make sense of what’s happening. The last 2 months were rough between us, but I was still willing to fight for it and try to…

Your honest opinion - Adding and unfollowing women’s — Hi, I’m looking for some honest perspectives. My ex (M31) and I (F33) broke up about 2 weeks ago after being together for a year and a half. The relationship was complicated — he was quite controllin…

Is it normal to lose all motivation and ambition after a breakup? — I went through a breakup almost 3 months ago, and I’m wondering if what I’m experiencing is normal. Some days I feel mostly okay. But then there are entire weeks when I barely want to leave my apartm…

I (m23) have a crush on my good friend and lab partner (f26) — tldr: I have a crush on my friend and lab partner, but I dont want to ruin the friendship and/or the research. I met this girl in uni, and we have been great friends. We like the same things, finish …

Lost — we understand where we are and where we must go, but we're just lost. we feel isolated, yet we are surrounded by people. the constant distractions don't help anymore. it lost its purpose of being a…

Is it normal to lose all motivation and ambition after a breakup? — I went through a breakup almost 3 months ago, and I’m wondering if what I’m experiencing is normal. Some days I feel mostly okay. But then there are entire weeks when I barely want to leave my apartm…

I M/27 care about my girlfriend 21/F, but I’m struggling with how I see her past — I’m 27 and my girlfriend is 21. We met on a random chat app. At first we only talked for a few nights, then I removed her because I was going through a bad time mentally and also had an upcoming surge…

I (33M) felt triggered by my partner’s (43F) response to a message from a past situationship — unsure how to handle it — **Yes I used chatgbt to help write this out. My thoughts were too scattered and it helped break it down.** **TL;DR:** My partner (43F) got a reflective message from a past emotionally complicated par…

I (26f) have been suffering through withdrawal since break up with 34m — It felt serious (met friends, future talk, families knew about each other), but there were repeated trust issues because I kept finding him active on dating apps, and I had posted on here before (whic…

; — I consulted 7 therapists in the last 3 years, and 6 of them diagnosed me with chronic severe depression, only one said it might be grief, but I did not talk to her honestly about my suicidal thoughts.…

>Correction: Neville taught to “feel as if”. There were many New Thought authors that taught their students to “act as if”, but Neville primarily taught how to impress your subconscious mind using sle…

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Much better at dealing with my emotions. I think of her every hour and it's been 11 months. My birthday was 2 days back and she didn't wish me. Sucks how easily replaceable/forgettable iam ,did I not…

Fortunately I've taken my separation (and inevitable divorce) as an opportunity to quit drinking and make healthy lifestyle choices. I've been working really hard to practice mindfulness and radical …

Omg twins. Hi! Yeah I hadn’t been in a romantic relationship at all for six years before I finally tried with this FA guy. In my last real relationship I was targeted by a psychopath and it fucked me …

The mire you deny your emotions and feel they are wrong the worse it gets. Once I just started telling my partner how I feel without making it their problem to solve, the less I felt those ways. I got…

Oh man, I feel this post in my bones! As someone with ADHD who built a whole business helping other ADHD entrepreneurs (Scattermind), I can tell you you're definitely not alone. The "100 ideas but ca…

Hey thanks for posting this. I started my entrepreneurship journey around an year back and the struggle to focus and manage distractions is so real. I have not been diagnosed officially but have read …

Oh man, I feel this post in my bones! As someone with ADHD who built a whole business helping other ADHD entrepreneurs (Scattermind), I can tell you you're definitely not alone. The "100 ideas but ca…

Every two weeks for nine months sounds more like a red flag to me. You need to protect yourself from these fallouts and give him a lot of space without asking questions or prodding. My partner is th…

Your brain is craving the dopamine rush that you get when she approaches and wants to hop back on that roller coaster ride of a relationship. Don’t do it. Instead, ask yourself what’s really bothering…

Yeah, we are now fully no contact. It’s been a bit over a week and I’ve moved far away so we’re now officially severed. I just want to call him all the time, he really was my safe space and now the gr…

My two cents! 1. You say you’re in the state of “I could get up, but I do not want to.” This means you’re not fully relaxed or in the alpha state. If you’re really in alpha, you will struggle to even…

Hey, thanks for the reply. I'll do my best to answer as precisely as possible > 1. You say you’re in the state of “I could get up, but I do not want to.” This means you’re not fully relaxed or in th…

Cardio exercise is a big one for me. Joining a gym where they basically kicked my ass for a while 2-3 times a week did wonders for my mood, both because of the exercise and the other people being ther…

He was amazing, thoughtful, and genuine… until he vanished (I think?). Help me stay zen while I wait. --- So… I (35F) matched with this guy (43M) mid-July, and honestly, he’s been kind of wonderful.…

when someone can *ignore* you, but you can’t even *breathe* without them - that’s not love, that’s nervous system hijack until therapy starts, treat your brain like a toddler with scissors. don’t rea…

It sounds like you have other stuff to process from before she came around. And likely it was a distraction and in turn gave you purpose. It is typical for anxious attachment to try to earn love. Howe…

I just got out of a 10yr relationship, we still talk and have talked since we broke up. We broke up due to distance and needing to become our own people after having been in a relationship for so long…

I'm not a texter, and I keep my phone on silent if I'm not expecting a call or in the middle of a text conversation. I reply to messages when I see them, it might be within minutes or a few hours if I…

Yeah the anxious spiral can be brutal. Treat this like a breakup almost. There's grieving involved in a chapter of your friendship ending and another one beginning. Allow yourself and make space for…

I do a lot of masking at work (black, female, young, autistic) and I feel like my very being is not aligned with what profressionalism demands. Even the natural hair I'm born with is not seen as work …

Yeah, let’s talk about that. I am speaking from my own experiences only, and Im sure there are many types of children with temperaments that I havent yet encountered. From my experiences, I don’t thin…

I can’t help myself if I have a new connection I will see it through. I don’t really get over heartbreak I just date new people and find distractions in the meantime. I usually make friends with a…

A tool for "Digital Hypomnemata" I’ve been practicing Stoicism for a few years, but my biggest struggle has always been the gap between reading The Enchiridion in the morning and actually applying it…

The point of dating is for both people to get to know each other and see if they like each other. Ideally both people would understand this and not have overly high expectations. If you want my advice…

I recently became single due to my anxious attachment which I was aware of but didn't understand how unhealed I was. I was in a relationship since January and things took a turn around August which I…

I try to figure out what am actually looking for: Venting Distraction Keeping busy Some physical contact like a hug And then go from there. Being vulnerable is hard but brave. I tend to check wha…

Ok chiming in as earned secure: I don’t think secure attachment automatically means “no casual sex,” but I also don’t think casual sex is some kind of requirement or proof of security either. In my …

- for obsessive thinking to stop asap, you have to make sure there are as few memory triggers as possible. Also, you have to consciously stop yourself when you feel ready. Find distractions, hang out …

Still not over my breakup back in December, usually I’m mostly recovered in a couple weeks so idk what’s up with me. I went out with one guy on a whim but I wasn’t feeling it romantically. The apps ar…

You need a distraction to stop spinning out!

Yeah it's just hard to tell what's me and what's him! 🙃 I think I was doing an anxious thing of using him as a bit of a distraction. He's planned a date for tonight and planned our last date so I fee…

First and foremost,let me say it takes courage to do what your about to do. I feel your anxiousness and the lump in the throat but also the butterflies that start when you see the other person. You me…

Same here haha. I was conditioned in my 20’s to try and go for people who appeared to have similar tastes in music as I do for the sake of having a concert buddy as well a partner. Now I don’t really …

Yeah. I understand. Thank you. I’ll try not to be hard on myself. I just want a distraction

I’m 1.5 years removed from a tough break up. I’ve kept so absurdly busy in all non-romantic aspects of my life that I can now reflect on quite a few accomplishments and other hardships I’ve had to ove…

Ah, the dimples distraction! Yeah, I am in my early 40s and I think it is going to be the best way for me. I try to remember to brush my hair and look presentable. I have a baby, but if I am on my gam…

Interesting. I've been thinking about joining an improv class for ages now... but given how I was overwhelmed by anxiety, grabbed my stuff and fled at the onset of the get-to-know-game the last time I…

I don’t like activity first dates. I want to just sit down and have a conversation with someone the first time I meet them, zero distractions.

I think some level of ruminating post-breakup is normal, and it’s important to process how you’re feeling so you can get “through” the pain. But if it’s rumination that’s cutting into other areas of y…

I dated a divorcing person once and NEVER AGAIN. He was stressed and emotional about it, his ex made our lives difficult, and he wasn't at all ready to actually get serious - I was just a convenient d…

I wasted a year on and off with a man who intentionally hid his married status from me. Married for four years, separated for four, emotionally entangled for all eight. It was a complete waste of my t…

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"Do nothing" is a meditation instruction, not a meditation system. Applied incorrectly, the meditation deteriorates into distraction or dullness.

You need a base of stable attention before working on doing nothing. Ken McLeod who did two three year retreats in the Tibetan system tells a story about doing a retreat where the instruction was “do…

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I do this often. I've been having some health problems and the whole thing can be a distraction. I usually imagine unzipping myself and stepping out then placing my physical form in the box.

It sounds like she doesn't want to see your face right now. She may be angry with you and seeing your face fuels her anger and is a distraction from her school work. She may also be checked out, or …

**!!!!! READ ME !!!!!** The purpose of this community is to explore human energy in all of its facets while stripping away the esoteric language, rituals and distractions that have accumulated over …