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You mentioned coming to terms with your gender identity, well my ex is also a trans woman, she came out in 2014, not even one full year into our marriage. But it was triggered by her dad's sudden deat…

Trying to navigate a "casual" relationship — Hi everyone, I (30F, trans) have been talking to/seeing a woman (24F, cis) for about 5 months. The chemistry is legitimately the strongest I’ve ever experienced - emotional, intellectual, creative, s…

Tired of people asking me for stuff... — I don't know how else to put this but I'm tired of people asking me to do stuff for them all the time.. it's at work (that's different, it's fine it's work.) But like my mom, my roommate, my friends..…

Wanting to fix my life — I want to start my self help journey tomorrow. I am tired of being lazy and having no discipline. My life has been terrible so far I'm doing bad in school, I'm poor, I'm ugly, and I'm bad at socializi…

I feel like I am probably wasting my potential because of family and not making a decision that I should?! — Today I was just enjoying the day. The weather felt quite warmer than few days ago. Love the spring season! Then I started wondering... Started thinking like how I feel that I am at a stage where i sh…

Considering divorce from my husband. I need perspective. — Hey everyone, I've been lurking, but it's my first time posting, so sorry if this is inappropriate. For starters, I'm not asking for advice, as in "what to do", but more like perspective in case I'm …

Is it possible to be too grounded? — Like, my whole life I lived in my head. Fantasizing, philosophizing, theorizing, imagining, visualizing. Feeling my body and my surroundings always was a struggle. But I was very mental. Thanks to t…

Married almost 10 years — me( m36) wife (f43) looking for advice in what to do. following my mother-in-law's passing last year, ( she passed away in our house) I shut down for a couple months. I didn't know what to do or say…

8 Months No Contact — It's almost 8 months no contact now. I still have a deep sadness - I was hurt like I've never been hurt before. But I'm overcome by a deep sense of injustice. For all her cruelty and betrayal. And the…

I'm in a depressing place mentally — I've been badly depressed for at least 10-15 years. I don't know what it is, I just can't seem to find a spark in my life. I don't know what I want to do with myself. I've had a couple of failed rela…

Eating with chopsticks — I went to an Asian restaurant (in a non-Asian area) with a white colleague. Everything seemed alright but I noticed she had some issue with me using chopsticks. Ok, I'm not the greatest at chopsticks…

Meeting up with ex — It's a follow-up to my previous post about meeting with my ex to hand over her stuff after she texted me to meet and get them back. (We were together for 3 years and she broke up with me 3 months ago,…

My divorce and a warning to everyone that is seeing red flags — In 2024 I found out my wife of almost 13 years had been, at the very least, emotionally cheating on me for at least two years. One day I woke up to her being in a bad mood and treating me just awful, …

Have you ever seen a place like the Dream core thing in your Experiences? — **Have you seen places like this? i mean.. i saw it multiple times and when i see it i feel so nostalgic, you know what i mean? i heard someone saying it exist in the in-between astral or something li…

Please help me: My husband did something he doesn't remember — I want to start by saying I love my husband I'm just so lost and I don't know what to do for myself or for him. When he was young he was sexually abused by a kid in his neighbourhood. He was around …

Am I deactivating? — I'm still new to attachment theory and romantic relationships in general, so I'd like to hear other people's thoughts. I (20F) was dating one of my college friends (22F) "Clara" up until last month, …

Hi, - I dislike my parents, at the same time, and, I don't know if this is controlling or abusive : I'm F(16) turning 17 this September, I live in a place where Privacy is a luxury and kids are investments to your parents. My parents...have high hopes for me, but they force some things on me. — # Hi, - I dislike my parents, at the same time I love them, and, I don't know if this is controlling or abusive : I'm F(16) turning 17 this September, I live in a place where Privacy is a luxury and k…

From when I was younger, my mother ruined my life and turned my into an ungrateful bastard. — ​ the peak of everything is my mother, where she has always been the one trying to hold everything together, (and didnt accomplish. So, its all her fault.) She works at a shoe store. From whe…

how to distinguish panic attacks from emotional flashbacks? — basically title. it was a rough night for me, but i don't know if it was a panic attack or something else... i didn't feel like anything was about to happen, i felt like i was reliving some moment rn,…

From when I was younger, my mother ruined my life and turned my into an ungrateful bastard. — ​ the peak of everything is my mother, where she has always been the one trying to hold everything together, (and didnt accomplish. So, its all her fault.) She works at a shoe store. From whe…

How do I (21F) tell my partner (21M) that I'm feeling slightly unfulfilled/unprotected in our relationship? — (Throwaway acct). The title sounds incredibly harsh, but I didn't know how else to say it. My fiancé and I have been dating for 6 years and I love him more than genuinely anything. We started dating o…

From when I was younger, my mother ruined my life and turned me into an ungrateful bastard. — ​ the peak of everything is my mother, where she has always been the one trying to hold everything together, (and didnt accomplish. So, its all her fault.) From when I was really small, she’d…

asked for divorce, but now second guessing — hello all, a few days ago i (27M) asked my wife (30F) for a divorce. we have only been married 1.5 years but have been together for 5 years. the week of Christmas 2025, she told me she had spent mos…

How do I break the loop? — Hi all, I know this isn't the place for actual medical help but I've been on the waiting list for support for 15 months and I'm at the end of my tether. background: U.K. based Male in my late 20's. I…

Reading about people being able to leave abusive situations without any support brings me much closer to ending it because how come I failed to escape my mother, despite having less worse circumstances? — TW- SI, csa I'm sorry for the self pitying nature of this post, I am just not doing well. Please let me state that I am NOT jealous of those people, I am glad that they got out and wish them the be…

Should I do something? — It's a long story, but we officially ended things yesterday. We were on and off a week before too. Right now, we're still in contact because I'm returning all their stuff. Now, they specifically sai…

Meeting with attorney tomorrow to understand what separation process looks like - how much should I tell her — Hello folks, My wife and have a relationship that's been deteriorating for a while, and she's been resistant to couple's therapy. I told her point blank a couple of months ago that if nothing changed…

Surviving the aftereffects of constant infidelity in a 7-year relationship — I met her when I moved to another country to study. We grew close, and we eventually moved back to my home country towards the end of our 7-year relationship. Despite feeling like something was off fr…

Is taking photos of your child while in only underwear, naked or sleeping normal?? amongst other things — for context, my mother was abusive, though she was never physically sexually abusive or physically abusive, i'm away from her now and im older, also I am a woman for context, when I was from like 5 to…

I think i'm going about this healing stuff the wrong way. Relationship struggles... — ​ i regret ever opening up about my trauma, even to myself. but i think ignoring it for so long was the first mistake i made. im weird about sex and love. sometimes something goes wrong in my …

I(M36) cheated, I want to come clean. What's the best approach? — My therapist advised me to reframe from mentioning the new person and instead have a conversation with my girlfriend about my lack of commitment and let her go that way. I think it's meant to soften t…

how can I 20F help my bf 19M in this situation? — i 20F and my bf 19M hv been together for 4 months now. everything was fine between us until mid/last week of March when I suddenly felt him pulling away from me. There were less texts, the text messag…

I'm not suicidal anymore! — hey guys, I'm a 35 years old guy, who was constantly traumatized until I was 18/21. I tried 2 times to kill myself. it was shit. now the good news, a couple days ago my brain started to create a "wh…

my ex broke up with me nearly three years ago and i'm not over them and i'm so frustrated — Come next month, it will have been three years since my ex broke up with me. We dated 2.5 years. We were friends for a year before dating. We dated in middle school/high school. It should not be this …

Discovering even more aspects of neglect that seemed good at first. — Hi everyone. First time sharing progress here. It's not that big of a progress, but still relevant. It's about aspects of emotional neglect that I didn't quite grasp at first. For a bit more backgrou…

So, I'm really confused about well....everything — I recently had an exam, and well....It did not go well. It's not like I didn't study for it, I DID! That's what making me feel really bad, because I listened to study subliminals while I studied and…

How to spot "fake" practitioners/medical intuitives? — Hi everyone I'm bed ridden with sickness and thus, very desperate and vulnerable. I know energy work is real as I've had direct experience with it. However I just decided to try a medical intuitive t…

I need to move on please help — I feel like I'll never know anyone like my ex again. He broke up with me to be with someone else after two years of dating, enduring the challenges of going to two different colleges, and being friend…

I haven't talked to my friends in months and I don't understand why; but it hurts them regardless and I want to change. — I've been ignoring and putting off any form of conversation with my closest friends for months on end. I make promises that I inevitably don't keep, I hurt the people around me, and then I sit in my o…

I think I'm TAH for breaking no contact — I (30f) finally cracked last night and broke no contact with my ex (30m). There was just this built up pressure of longing, missing and loving him that wouldn't go away and so I broke no contact... at…

AITA for not seeing my mom when she's sick and not bringing my kids to see her — AITA for not seeing my mom when she's sick and not bringing my kids to see her When I cut ties with my mom a lot of the rest of my family seemingly sided with her. She's a narcissist with a victim co…

From when I was younger, my mother ruined my life and turned me into an ungrateful bastard. — ​ the peak of everything is my mother, where she has always been the one trying to hold everything together, (and didnt accomplish. So, its all her fault.) From when I was really small, she’d…

I like when there’s tension in my home — This sound weird, but All my life, I was used to unstable environments. I was used to my mom coming home angry every day. I was used to my parents fighting every day. The only thing that was stable wa…

Telling the "full truth" only when there's no other way out — I'll keep this short. (NOTE: This happened about 3 years ago, but still comes up, hence me posting about it now. We've generally worked through it, I've intellectually forgiven them and emotionally to…

A little confusing — Hello everyone! I've been reading Neville's lectures, and what he said here really caught my attention. As many of you know, he wasn't a big fan of manifesting S.P. An example of this was the story h…

My (33M) partner (32F) revealed something about herself in a moment of vulnerability that feels like more than I can non-judgmentally accept... — A couple nights ago I (33M) and the woman (32F) that I have been seeing for about 3 months were having a deep conversation about things we're ashamed of that we usually hide from others. We really lik…

I (30M)need advice on my friend (30m) — I flew back to the country I grew up in after 3 years and was staying at my brothers gf apartment and to my surprise one of my best friends was living in the same building but never bothered seeing me…

I want to get my parents out of here. — Hello! Ugh... I'm desperate. To sum it up: We live in my paternal grandmother's house,I have a super awful family on both my mother's and father's sides (with very, very small exceptions, as always).…

Just a simple note about improving myself (Why I have decided to stay single) — Why have I decided to stay single? (if anyone even cares) See what I know is that, there is something fundamentally wrong with the way I love. As in, I love too much. And no, I am not tryna act l…

How do you "just let things go?" — I know this is a me-problem and that not everyone holds onto stuff to the extent that I do. And it may be stress, nervous system dysregulation, hormones, a lot of stuff, I don't know. But, I let thing…

Umm.. I think your % is off and there are way more lurkers here and some real people out there. I thought about doing posts, a podcast, or a book as an entrepreneur about how hard it was for years ru…

I actually understand this OP. For me it's to do with them being so so wild. Like no context. I just want to meet people as if time and space put us together. We liked the same bar. Whatever. I don't …

I'm sorry you are dealing with this, and I understand that point of desperation. This was me, and some days still is. I still feel invisible and isolated a lot of the time. But me aside, I feel terrib…

I understand your point, however what I really don't understand about all this is besides this weird thing she is otherwise pretty positive abou reconnecting with me, so I guess that's what's strange.…

What I would say is that you should decide if you can deal with this long term. In my case, this is the second time we've had an explosive fight like this, where he goes into a full on defensive spi…

I am feeling lonely. Like I am not a priority to my partner. Yet? Or any more? Who knows? I know this is mostly her communication style over text/online. But in the beginning, we would call every da…

Relating to what seems to be your attitude during dating, I've known people that probably feel like this and it drives me away from wanting to get close to them because it feels like they're desperate…

I am so scared to date again. I don't know if I can open up after my last relationship. It sounds so stupid, but as a lover girl, I don't wanna lose it. I wanna stay a lover girl, stupid & naive. But …

Hi, I would strongly recommend not labeling other people's attachment styles. We really don't know. I don't know. I know that I have an anxious attachment style. That's all I can speak on. Sorry.

My partner is FA and I am a DA leaning earned secure. He definitely brought out some things in me that I had yet to address. We lived together for 1.5 years. Much of it was tumultuous. I moved out aft…

I don't know. Heartbreaks make me not want to date. I actually delete apps. I would say what helped a lot was therapy. My therapist refocused me back to myself. She showed me you can't outsource self …

My relationship is still less than a year old and is long distance. I love my girlfriend very much and I know she loves me and she has put up with various of my problems and supported me and has been …

I didn't say anything because I was busy writhing in pain. I couldn't say anything because I was busy trying to find a position that didn't feel like I was getting stabbed then I managed to find one a…

He's really good at taking care of me in literally every other way. I think if I was recovering in a hospital bed, he would 100% be reliable and be the best person I could ever ask for. He'd probably …

I think I wrote a "list" mostly just to demonstrate what he could've done instead of nothing. I'm fine even if what he did weren't any of those things, as long as it was something. You're definitely…

I'm a guy of 50M and am in a relationship with a woman who is 46F We are 2.5 years in a Living-Apart-Relationship. She lives with her childs, I live with mine. We see eachother once a week for one, t…

More often than not, my partner is understanding of my anxious attachment behaviour (i.e., When I act out on impulses and blow up the situations). But I still doubt his intentions because he is able t…

I think I really do. I made my peace awhile ago that we will not get back together, but she helped me get through a tough time in the summer. So I consider her someone I value a lot and a dear friend.…

I'm struggling so much with dating because I'm almost never (99% of the time) attracted to someone on the first date. So I continue seeing them because maybe attraction will grow. But even after a few…

I didn't know what else to do 🙁 I kept trying to offer my reasoning and opinions as calmly and openly as I could, but people like scotch_please were relentlessly accusing me of whatever. This has ha…

Hmmm... I don't know. Here are some thoughts. There should be no debate about the fact that he's been chasing you, I don't know how else you can interpret his actions after you stopped responding. Y…

Just curiosity on my part: those cases where it didn't improve, did you talk about how you like your kisses or were you hoping it would improve without having to say anything? I've been told I'm a go…

Answering "Just asking" to that prompt lacks personality, creativity, shared responsibility, and effort, so I usually swipe left as well. I don't think I've ever used that prompt, but if I did I'd tr…

I haven't had the best luck with dating since we broke up. I had that one night stand. There was one girl where things were going well with after a few dates but then she realized she wasn't ready to …

I should say since he said no to the movie marathon he has been in the group chat inviting the group to hang out (like I'm just going to do x if anyone wants to join). I definitely could have joined i…

I was afraid of losing the friendship and it never felt like the right time. I do regret not saying it sooner now though. He did talk to me and ask if I was interested in dating (not him specifical…

I don't know. I have decided not to initiate that conversation because I didn't want things to change. It's his thing so it's his conversation to start, and he isn't starting it with me.

I talked about my current guy situation in therapy today and my anxious activation to him has now gone away. I'm wondering whether I should end things or wait or what. I don't know. We have insane phy…

The first time it was "haha" and the conversation carried on, nothing major, but when I joked about it the second time on a different day, it wasn't the same reaction - not necessarily offended but it…

Third date with 38M tomorrow. Had a great 8 hours second date last Saturday. I'm so excited, and nervous. I am always nervous. But he texted that he's looking forward to seeing me again ☺️ i don't wan…

Thank you for your words. I don't know... I don't expect the other person to solve my problems, but I want them to be there for me. That I can share with them what I am going through (instead of writi…

Huh. This is an interesting take. Yeah, she may have been pretending to be someone she is not in the first months. That version cared about me. The version afterwards was just nostalgic about the vers…

I don't know. My gut says she would have eventually stopped it because part of the reason I was able to find it is because she was noticeably acting as if she was in turmoil. That caused me to look an…

I do really understand where you're coming from. I agree with a lot of what you're saying. Being attractive doesn't fix everything. Being attractive also comes with it's own set of struggles, traumas.…

Not OP but having a very similar experience, and my goal is explicitly to find a long term partner. I don't know about instant and fiery, but it doesn't seem like asking that much to come away from a …

THIS. Why is everyone on the internet so goddamn horny?? Like the other day there was a post of someone who, and I quote, "humped an elephant". How is this even not autofiltered by Reddit, I don't kno…

I guess good point. I don't know. I'm struggling at this point.

Oof that can feel painful for the State that feels rejected. Here's what I would do. I would acknowledge the disappointment AND if I felt like crying I would also cry. There is nothing wrong with emot…

Bro -- I don't know where I go with this. Chatted on the phone with this guy, well video call, we talked for like an hour and even more amazingly this is the first time I've EVER showed up for a first…

I don't know. I've been in situations where I thought I spotted it early and was wrong, and some where I was right. I think time is the only way to tell. The tricky thing is to not assume it's not the…

That's a good question, I was wondering that myself. I'd rather not guess or assume things I don't know. I would have to ask Paul or Emily. Later on I'll compile everyone's questions and send them all…

I mean that is what part of the denial comes back too for me. She sad when she cheated it felt great, she had butterflies and was all excited. It could be that because it was a woman but also, cheatin…

An aquaintance of mine is also a Libra Rising and he also has his Sun and Mercury sitting in the 8th house in Taurus. His Mars is in the 4th house in Capricorn and Pluto is in the 2nd house (the only …

It is so weird even to me. I don't know how to really describe it and I know it sounds crazy, I don't even fully believe myself. All I know is, I have had some strange experiences. And I remember t…

>I also have an advanced degree in social science May I offer a humble suggestion? I don't know you , so I don't know your personality , and I will always give someone the benefit of the doubt on …

My dad seemed kind most of the time and when mom would go off he would tell her to knock it off. He died when I was 13. Mom only had use for me when she could simper and preen over my accomplishments.…

How much kid free time do you have? I'd be perfectly happy with communicating every day but only getting together a few times a month. Maybe I'm the exception, I don't know.

Yup, and she threatened me with a restraining order because I kept trying to reach out to her due to how bad the discard was. She fell out of love with me, saying it was a feeling she didn't have anym…

Gratitude hasn't worked for me either, so I don't know... 😐 has anyone found a way to make it work? Still not sure if we're supposed to be grateful for our current, undesired circumstances (I cannot …

I think I missed your comment or Reddit didn't give me a notification or something. Either way, I agree with what you're saying and for some reason (autism) wrote a bunch of paragraphs about my though…