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I went through a divorce 2y ago and felt like that was the end for me, romantically speaking. Like my soulmate had just walked out on me, on us, not a care for what he destroyed ( he had an affair wit…
I'm deactivated right now and not sure it's worth trying to save my marriage — I'm DA (40M), my wife FA (41F), 3 children. Together 17 years, married 13 years, very distant 11 years (due to my earlier long-term deactivation) with no affection or intimacy at all, working on recon…
I meditated for 10 years. Here is how life changed — This is a personal anecdote of daily (99.5%) meditation practice spanning 10 years. I hope this will be helpful for those looking for motivation for their practice. Personally, I found external motiva…
My mom cheated. She refuses to understand why we are upset at her — # Trigger warning for suicidal content My mom cheated. Looking back, I’m not entirely sure I’m surprised that she did, but I was still so shocked when I got the news. For most of my adult life, my …
MDMA after effects after one month, is this normal? — Hey everyone, I’d really appreciate some advice or similar experiences. About 31 days ago I took a pretty high dose of MDMA (around 400 mg, which I know was very high) and also used 2CB. The last tim…
I just feel done with the world — It’s been a year and a half since discard. I was broken. I ruminated all day every day for the better part of the first year. The hot and passionate anger that was part of what I originally felt has …
Success Story! — To anyone in the thick of their Divorce. I know it's hard, but realize the pain will pass. I got Divorced back in September 2024. My Ex Wife and I def weren't doing well and had a bad blowup fight a…
How to keep manifesting what you want in bad days? — Hello there, I recently started my manifestation journey toward something REALLY big. Since I began, I’ve been feeling really good overall, because visualizing myself already having that thing that w…
How Am I Supposed To Feel? What Am I Feeling? — So I (26F) just got out of my first real relationship with someone (25F) who I really liked - the day it happened (a week ago from tomorrow) I was devastated and begged her to stay, and about the same…
Realizing at 57 that I’ve been the family scapegoat my entire life — Hey everyone, I’m 57 years old, and I only recently learned there’s actually a name for the role I’ve lived in my entire life—the family scapegoat. For most of my life, I believed I was just too sen…
Realizing at 57 that I’ve been the family scapegoat my entire life — Hey everyone, I’m 57 years old, and I only recently learned there’s actually a name for the role I’ve lived in my entire life—the family scapegoat. For most of my life, I believed I was just too sen…
I (22F) broke up with my ex (23M) after he cheated and said he was never “excited” about me… but I still believe he loved me and that’s what’s messing me up — I (22F) broke up with my ex (23M) two months ago, and I feel like I’m stuck between two completely different truths that I can’t reconcile. For context, we’re both medical students and were flatmates…
How often do you still have bad days? — 102 days of NC as of right now, after four years of hot and cold phases of emotional, mental and at rare times physical abuse by my covert narc ex wife. Still traumabonded, I think, still struggling,…
Intense trauma externalisation integration experiences? Gestalt chairs — I have started with gestalt so it is still my preferred trauma coping tool subset, it's pretty aligned with how I feel and with ig how I work in general. I have been going to psychodrama workshops und…
infidelity — unfortunately me 28f found out my soon to be ex husband of 32m was having intimate messages with a female probably way younger for him... I am a nurse i have been working my ass off to have what we ha…
Lover girl to never love again? — I feel like ive always been a hopeless romantic, like give all yourself to someone. Be all consuming. I know it sounds so dramatic but seriously I feel like I’ll never be in love like that again.. I’m…
I (21F) can’t get over my ex (21F) while also being in a relationship (21F) — Okay so this is my first post…. I just need some unbiased advice!! I (21F) have been in a relationship with a girl (21F) who we can call L for about 8 months. I met her on hinge and we immediately hi…
I [24 F] Have Really Good Luck and I Think My [32 M] Boyfriend Hates Me For It Sometimes — Hey guys, this is pretty much as the title says. I \[24 F\] have really good luck and my boyfriend \[32 M\] always makes comments about it. It was harmless at first, surprise and awe at how wild my lu…
I'm just so tired. — * I'm sick of life, and sick of trying. Every single minute of every single day is exhausting. Even if I'm doing everything I'm supposed to I'm still so tired and full of misery. I have good days that…
I feel anxiety in regards to whatever harms my "peace" — I can have good days where I feel free and energetic but thats always when im free from social interaction and having to be near my "triggers" or anything that makes me feel out of place or uncomforta…
A question for anyone who’s breakup was a long time ago and it was a painful breakup that ended on bad terms — Does the pain ever go away? my breakup was almost 2 years ago and we were together for 5 years. Still to this day I have days I feel low and cry but then I have good days when it doesn’t cross my mind…
What kind of therapy or tools recommended for my problem — Hello everyone, I'm trying to keep this short, I believe I've identified a problem I have that I would like help with. That I cant solve on my own and keeps persisting. I'm aware there are different …
I feel broken still — I’ve been broken up almost two years now. I have good days and bad days. Just a little bit of details we share a 4 year old daughter and she’s with me most of the time. Her mom works a lot and doesn’t…
after 10 years got cheated on — unfortunately me 28f found out my soon to be ex husband of 32m was having intimate messages with a female probably way younger for him... I am a nurse i have been working my ass off to have what we ha…
after 10 years... — unfortunately me 28f found out my soon to be ex husband of 32m was having intimate messages with a female probably way younger for him... I am a nurse i have been working my ass off to have what we ha…
Update #2 of Wife Cheated on me in Jamaica. — It has been a while since I posted on this forum, or at least about what's going on with me, I feel like I have enough to make an update. To everyone who is new or needs a recap, last year I got marr…
why go back to your ex when there’s 8 billion people you haven’t met? — i know love is complicated, and we get fixated that xyz person HAS to be OUR person. but everything in life (and in love) is about perspective. if you get dumped by someone you really loved, it’s …
I've posted in this sub before about this relationship. I'm dating an FA for about 7 months now. We started off great and he is really such a sweet, sensitive, loving guy. But at around 5 months in I …
Things that have helped me: - keeping on dating, don’t make one person my only option. Or if dating isn’t happening I try and carry on going to queer events and just meeting new people in general to r…
Yes, for 4 months, these improvements sound remarkable. And it looks like this also already has positive effects on your relationship since you said you recently had 3 very good days until it got too …
It's not really the sex itself, but more of me not trusting that she told the truth. If she did have sex, then it becomes, there were no boundaries in your mind at all. I do feel suspicious of her, I …
Wow. We have so much in common. Except the anger issue. OK. I don’t know how ok’d are you but in front of you there are millions of possible future timelines. Basically everything around us will affec…
I know this feeling deeply. I’m still struggling thru it. The idea of what was supposed to be—all of the dreams. What has started to help me is to replace the dreams “we” had and replace them with jus…
Yes, definitely bittersweet. Before I woke up I was confident I was healthier than most folks (bwahahaha!) and smart enough to figure out the secret one day. Obviously, I was delusional, but the blind…
I would also add when I was oblivious, to my traumas, I was constantly filled with rage and anxiety, vacillating between that and numbness. I think my emotional range has definitely improved since I r…
I want to give you the perspective of someone who left. I had basically just proposed to the person who cheated on me. My feelings were the most intense that they would ever be, I was planning our l…
I didn't understand the first sentences sorry for my english Yes it's dirty, reactive abuse as well coercive control. These two nasty things. For reactive abuse it depends on the perpetrator. And…
Thank you Going through a lot right now honestly and nothing seems to be working in my favour Hope good days return someday soon 🙂
I’ve actually used transits in this way a lot. I pay attention to the aspects in my natal chart and how the transits impact them. I have some great days and eventually some days where I’m less product…
Thanks for this. Some parts felt like I was writing. I seem to be in a similar phase like you. And also similar age. And now I am thinking I need to do therapy after having done lots of self therapy…
He ordered takeout even though you cooked and asked you not to speak to him, but that's somehow one of his good days because he was still at the table with you? Genuinely OP, do you hear yourself?
Late to the party but I wanted to add my perspective. I didn’t find the book to be blamey and I agree with many of the other comments here, especially the points about how unhealthy a society many if …
I don't have your exact situation but I know that cycle. The burst of motivation, the plan, the first few good days, and then the slow slide back. And the worst part isn't the slide. It's how much har…
Man you have no idea the momentary relief you provided just from your first paragraph. I felt "okay" for a moment. Like im not destined to continue down this horrible road. So I really appreciate you …
Today is my cake day. That’s because 7 years ago today I made a Reddit account to log in and post something kind of like what you posted here. My husband dropped a bomb on me and my life had fallen to…
I don’t want to believe that but he would hide so much back then that I really can’t put anything past him. He was always adamant that if either of us felt the need to cheat that we would tell each ot…
I’ve read it takes at least 3-5 years to even start feeling like some trust has been reestablished. Even longer for the embarrassment to fade and true self respect to start showing back up when you st…
Not as bad as I thought I would be, I've offered help etc over the past month for various things and she hasn't been fussed at all. So I know in my heart I haven't done anything wrong. But I'm not try…
Back then, it were "difficult days" by common standards - stress at work, friction in relationships, forced to move out from home country due to geopolitical situation, addictions, etc. Now, "diffic…
Found my husband of 20 yrs was having an affair, months of gaslighting and lies. I had to file for divorce because of course he wouldn’t even though he was living with his married ap. Just over a year…
Please stay in therapy, if you're thinking like that you need professional help. I know it's long and hard but it does get better. I've been where you are, dying is not the only way out. I know it fee…
Yes, it does. Grief comes and goes in waves, it's not a linear progression. You'll have good days and bad days, eventually you'll have more good days than bad days. And you'll think about them all d…
This! When I was in my late twenties I would be so despondent about being too young to have "good days and bad days" physically and energetically. When I became trauma informed later I was relieved to…
It will probably be bad for a while. You might feel an immediate sense of relief. You'll have good days and bad days. He'll try to keep messing with your head. You must stay strong and know it's just …
It is not wrong for most people. Realize the possibility that you are making up justifications, because that is what is happening. The most busy man in the world has the ability to make a 10min time s…
The crazy thing is she is so well liked everywhere she goes. She seems so giving, loving, kind, etc. even with me on her good days. She’ll help my parents and siblings and hers and is a good listener.…
Same here. I think you put it well regarding autism. On my good days I am gooood, and I actually have bursts of decent confidence, natural charisma and social flow. But on my bad days? Absolute disast…
Yes. I can get 2 to 3 good days per week but need lots of recharge recovery
It seems when you’re chronically ill, you suddenly lose your right to have easy foods or chill etc. I have fibro and other chronic issues that cause a ton of pain and are hard to manage on a good da…
Also research “betrayal blindness,” “trauma bonding,” and “intermittent reinforcement.” The good days/times were all intermittent reinforcement. Stay strong! I’ve been low-contact for almost 7 mont…
That's scary to hear, and I'm worried about your well-being. A relationship where you're too scared to leave is not a healthy one, even if she's otherwise been nice and friendly on her good days. The…
I'm a few years behind you but I feel this. You're not alone. It's really hard not to let the bitterness take over. I think on my good days I'm really able to lean into being happy, whole, and cont…
I was completely fine during the day. Like completely fine. And then I turned the light off in the evening, lied down in bed ... and cried myself to sleep. The nights are always the worst. He was my f…
I got a notification for this thread just as I was sitting on my bed sobbing. It’s been almost a month. I have good days and bad days. I am angry. I am sad. I am terrified about the future. For him, t…
I think I have grown/glowed up a bit but part of my frustration and fear comes from realizing I’m not that same person anymore and getting irritated with friends and family who worry about my changing…
I had this but we were together for 8 years….. it’s been nearly a year and it still hurts, just take one day as it comes. You will have good days and bad days and the good days will outweigh the bad d…
Mine was extremely charming and was everything I could possibly want in a man a night and shining armor. I knew a lot about narcissism and cluster b people and picked up on signs fairly early in the r…
From Google: Gateway patterning is a technique within the Monroe Institute's "Gateway Experience" that uses focused intention, visualization, and altered states of consciousness to manifest desired ch…
That’s awesome man. I needed this. I am 6 months post break up after a 6 year relationship. I am still struggling and going through the healing process. Still have good days and bad days.
8 months out of a 10 year old relationship, still recovering but there are good days and there are bad days. But I still miss all the good things we had and fear what, if anything the future holds. Al…
It's okay. Moments like that are normal and don't really affect your journey. When you judge yourself, that affects your journey. So it's always important to give yourself kindness, compassion and und…
As someone that is going to school to be a therapist and learning about human psychology, I struggle with depression and suicidal thoughts regularly. I don’t think there will ever be a “cure” for our …
He does. He actually was diagnosed as a sociopath and he is narcissistic. I think that’s why I’m so patient is because I know he’s been through a lot and I wish to give the benefit of the doubt. But I…
Glad to be of help, when all this happened to me I had to do this all by myself, no friends no family. So I am more than happy to pass on experience and yes its hard and you will have good days and…
I never wanted a divorce either. Married 11 years and 51 years young. My first and only marriage. I have good days but the bad definitely outweighs the good days. I have gotten used to being alone and…
Stack good days. Each one is worth twice as much as a bad one. Get rolling love, all you need is you