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As a psychologist that does NOT sound like a psychosis, at all. Psychosis would be disorganized, those are very deliberate actions, ones we observe in psychopaths. It fits the pattern very well - mask…

Bootstrapped Turkish Food Brand Exploring Global B2B Expansion – I will not promote — Hey everyone, I help manage a family-run pistachio butter business based in Gaziantep, Turkey — a city known for producing world-class pistachios. Since 2007, we’ve been selling a premium, all-natur…

How to get Millions of $$$ from ANY government for your business (I will not promote) — Experienced founder & CEO here. I'm gonna tell you how my business got straight cash (like literally millions) from the gov and how you can do that too. I've bootstrapped my last german education bu…

Solo founder here—bootstrapped a travel startup, no bookings yet. Influencer model failed, paid ads feel too risky. What would you do? — Hi everyone, I’m a solo founder of hopmytrip.com trying to build a travel group tour platform—basically fixed-date trips to places like Bali, Thailand, and Vietnam, where people from any country can …

After raising for 7 startups, my pitch decks have fallen into three categories (I will not promote) — Over the years, I've raised funding for 7 startups. I've also raised for startup funds and stare at a hundred pitch decks a month. Based on the patterns, I've realized my pitch decks have fallen into …

I (re)earned my secure attachment this week. What a journey this has been. — I just wanted to share this diary dump with anyone who wants a success story. I believed myself to be FA/A for a long time, and this week I can finally call myself secure. TW: sexual assualt Despite …

aromantic, avoidant, or both? — recently i discovered i'm definitely on the asexual spectrum and this lead me to also wonder about whether i was aromantic or not. looking into my romantic feelings (or lack thereof), i found out abo…

I finally realized my fear of closeness is really a fear of being known — I've been working to understand myself better as a DA, in part with the help of Reddit. I now feel the last puzzle pieces fell into place and I finally have a coherent story of why I am the way I am. …

Does anybody else get upset that you were set up to fail. That you didn't even get the opportunity to start on the same foot as everybody else. — My brain structure is literally disfigured from trauma, I'm socially stunted, my physiological responses are wired for stress. I feel trapped, I know that these things can change and I can heal, but t…

DA healing update: searching my true self, my inner child finally seen — Some of you may know me at this point. I'm (40M) dismissive avoidant, my wife fearful avoidant (41F), together 17 years, married 13 years, 3 children. I've been working on my attachment style for 5 mo…

How do you stay present even when you are feeling the pressure to run? — My bf and I are long distance and he's very very very loving and sweet. The best bf I could have ever asked for. He understands and accepts my feelings even when I'm feeling avoidant, but right now I'…

My (18F) girlfriend told me she is taking 5 days to think over if we should break up. What should I (19M) do? — TL;DR my girlfriend has reached a breaking point and told me she’ll consider being together but as of now we aren’t. Me and my girlfriend have been together for nearly 2 years and met our senior year…

No one understands the effects of being trapped inside for years with an Nparent. — As flair said, its a vent. So please excuse my weird formatting. I'd also really love to know if Im not alone on some of these things. 1. Not being given the support or permission to learn how to …

I (21F) Am losing feelings for my (22M) boyfriend. Any advice? — Throwaway account. I (21F) and my boyfriend (22M) have been together for a little over two years. It's been good for the most part, and i can tell you that my boyfriend is one of the best people i kno…

please, take your time to hear my story, because no one else ever did — My mom gave birth to me when she was 41 years old, I have a sister and a brother, my sister is 27 years old, but she has mental problems and behaves terribly immature, so she is always making screamin…

Did anyone else leave a good partner because you just werent in love anymore —  Ive been with my wife for almost a decade and shes genuinely a good person. She loves me deeply, supports me, and has never done anything wrong. But I dont feel the same way anymore and havent for a …

My wife got pregnant and immediately turned into a completely different person. It’s like she’s trying to destroy me. — Alright lads, need to get this off my chest. Been with my missus 6 years, married 3. We planned the baby, dead excited. The second she got the positive test? Complete personality transplant. Swear dow…

Why can’t I vocalize the way I feel, but can write it out when alone? — Hey everyone 22F here. I’ve been in therapy for a little over a year now (doing CBT AND ERP). I was briefly put into counseling in my younger years, but nothing substantial. My problem is, even afte…

I am 18F and I’m exhausted dealing with my Indian mom who practically worships her narcissistic, manipulative younger brother and lets him control my life while treating me like garbage. — My mom (44F) has two younger brothers. The one I’m talking about is the middle child. He’s married and has a 10-year-old daughter. In my opinion he is one of the most narcissistic, selfish, and arroga…

Mugwort & Lucid Dreams — Let me start off by saying, you can take this as a “how to” guide or a warning, honestly either way works. So in 2020, I was obsessed with having lucid dreams. I did the YouTube meditations, never w…

Farewell — In the last two years, I have posted to this group a few times. Last year, I posted ([“Here’s the thing: you’re dying, too.”](https://www.reddit.com/r/Stoicism/comments/1ifz1cr/heres_the_thing_youre_…

I did not handle the breakup well and became obsessive. Never again. — This is gonna be long and messy, so just a warning. My ex ended things with me on text, without a call or meeting me. I requested her to give us proper closure in person, but she had asked for time, …

i have to fly 5 hours across country almost to see my boyfriend — i have somatic ocd and the overall fear of being stuck or trapped. traveling is something that’s really hard for me, especially lately and by myself. my boyfriend (we are long distance) flew up for a …

Admitted to Stanford but at the cost of my childhood — I am a high school senior who has spent the past 18 years growing up in a middle-class Asian family in the Bay Area. My parents constantly complain that they have no money, no connections, and no adva…

The illusion of fighting your bad habits — Many people define their relationship with a destructive habit by the fact that they are "fighting" it. But the simple act of trying to stop usually fails because it keeps you trapped in a dependent s…

I (20M) haven't slept in my own bed in almost 2 months because of my (19F) girlfriend — We have been together for almost 3 years and both go to the same college. We live in dorms on opposite sides of campus. Lately I feel like I don’t have any time to myself anymore. If we’re both free, …

Message to victims who are considering to stay. — 3 years ago I found out my wife had affairs earlier. It all came out one dramatic day and over the weeks other items came out. Trickle down truth (the worst) I was devastated. Couldn't eat. Could…

She turned sunlight into homework. I left her house years ago. My mind still hasn't. — The sun came out today. And the first thing I felt wasn't warmth. It was guilt. A full-body, immediate, almost chemical reaction: *you should be outside. You should be using this. You're wasting it.*…

The chains your parents put on you (that you don't even remember) — My English is not native, sorry if I write a bit imperfect. I want to share something from a recent session that might help someone who feels stuck in their love life. Tina came to me feeling stuck. …

I (24F) am pregnant by my (27M) boyfriend after a toxic relationship full of love bombing, lies, and sexual assault. I feel like i have no way out. What should I do? — Hi Reddit, I don’t even know where to start, but I’m at my breaking point and I really hope you can help me. I’m 24, my boyfriend is 27. We’ve been together for two years and have been living togethe…

Breaking Through the Barrier — Greetings I'm new to the whole energy work thing so I have something to ask about. I was surfing some forum till I stumbled upon a post there for a guy claiming that there's a vibrational barrier…

I (M31) lost the best person I'll ever meet (F26) — tw: depression, suicidal thoughts and self harm I was trapped in a horrible relationship I felt I could not get out of. I posted about that here recently. tldr: 6 years of constant crises in which I …

emotionally unavailable mom, but i am very dependent on her. — i guess i just don’t know how to move forward. i struggle with anorexia nervosa and am living at home as i try to recover. problem is, i only have a few safe foods. they are pretty expensive and my mo…

Life Happens — Recognize patterns of being controlling and possessive: You’re not allowed to visit family, or friends. Because they restrict you from going. They cling onto you and always accompanying you in everyth…

I still miss her after months of bettering myself — We broke up at the end of November. She (22) left me (21), and I couldn’t let go. For a full month, I kept trying to win her back, texts, calls, the works. Then I booked a flight to her city, determin…

I really need Help. — idk how to even explain this properly but i feel like i’m slowly losing it at home. every single day it’s the same pattern. the moment my mom comes home, i already know what’s about to happen, she’ll…

How I finally hacked meditation with an extremely loud inner monologue — I've been practicing meditation since 2019. Traditional techniques never worked for me because of my extremely loud inner monologue (a phonological loop due to dominant introverted thinking), so I had…

why do i keep sleeping w dudes on the first date ?? 😩 — basically just that. i (24f) love it in the moment, but once its over i feel so empty and wonky. last night i literally walked home because i just had to get out of there. the guy was nice and all but…

I(M27) don't know what to do about long-term relationship I'm not longer feeling like I'm 100% into with girlfriend(F25) lately. — Lately I (M27) have been feeling like I'm just not into the relationship with my gf (f25) anymore. We argue a lot and she has a history of being very jealous even though I've never given her a reaso…

800-1000ug+ FIRST acid trip complete ego loss most terrifying thing ive ever had — Before I get into this, I want to make something clear right away. I am not encouraging anyone to do this, and I am definitely not presenting this as some cool or impressive story. This was not enjoya…

Frecuency shift teory (Anyone who wants to help me complete them or come up with new questions is welcome.) — I’m new to making theories, and I’d be happy if anyone wants to help me expand or refine this one( by the way, i haven't shifted yet) Frequency and Radio: We are like radios that transmit and receiv…

I just realized that I might be a victim of munchausen by proxy — I'm realizing that my whole life was a lie and I am feeling waves of shame, regret, anxiety. I'm a young adult female stuck in severe isolation still at home with just my mom and sibling. I think I ha…

Anxiety isn’t in the head it’s stuck in the body. The somatic trick that rewires it — I tried something that felt absolutely ridiculous during an anxiety spiral and it worked better than anything else I have ever done. I stood up put on a heavy beat and just started shaking. Full body …

nex continually breaking nc — I left my narc ex over 3 months ago now, and despite telling him I do not want any contact he continues to break it. for reference, I moved to a new country while all of this was going down, so thankf…

Ramblings of a lunatic (me) — This is gonna be extremely long so I don’t blame you if you don’t want to read it but I’ve been writing about it for a while and struggled with meaning and found this Reddit and thought I’d seek out s…

About to leave a long-term codependent enmeshed relationship and wondering how others handled talking about it with soon to be ex. — I’ve been reading here for a while but this is my first time posting. I’m not asking for advice, but I would really value hearing about others’ experiences in similar situations. About two years ago,…

Overgiving Advice for a healthier mindset — Hello everyone, Im not sure if this is the right subreddit but I genuinely need help with general relationships with people. ​Im very thankful to whoever gives their experiences and advice. I am an o…

I [28M] am afraid woman I'm dating [26F] is about to back out of relationship after reluctantly agreeing to exclusivity. — Me \[28M\] and Lea \[26F\] have been seeing each other for exactly 3 months now. We met through hinge back in the first week of January and had an explosive first date which ended in us sleeping toget…

at what point am i supposed to know if a therapist is for me? — ive had only 2 sessions with this therapist and im very on the fence about continuing with her. im lost on if i should trust my gut or not because its my first time ever seeking professional help, so …

To a younger me - it’s not your fault — You couldn’t have known. You couldn’t have stopped it. You are pretty enough, you are smart enough, you are enough. I am so, so sorry. The whole thing was a trick - I think he even tricked himself. He…

I found out that my abusers lost everything because they k*lled a child and I don't know how to feel — I'm an institutional child abuse survivor and lived in an abusive boarding school for \~1 year (felt more like 5 years) when I was 13 yo. It was a terrible environment in which every aspect of our liv…

I've asked two different entities, and they gave me partly conflicting answers. The self-proclaimed deity said most humans and all animals go to an enormous astral...warehouse waiting room thingy. Th…

DevOps evolves around 3 key principles: 1. Automation 2. Monitoring 3. Integration The rules are simple: # Automation Don't ever do anything by hand. The only allowable manual action is configurin…

I just want to say, I’m am so happy to have found this sub! Oh how I’ve created so much in my life, with LOB (unconsciously) and more so just belief and the movie the secret that started it all. Then …

The same way I did. You take it one day at a time and realize this says alot more about her than you. It’s gonna hurt but at least you don’t have kids with her. You get to move heal and find someone g…

People are everything. They're fickle, they're stupid, they're disagreeable, they shove you away at times, they're not solid...but they're also beautiful, and dependeable, and deep like the sea, and e…

This might not be the exact comment that you are expecting but i would just like to say that it’s understandable that you’re confused you’ve done so much honest reflection already :) From what you sha…

My partner is FA and I am a DA leaning earned secure. He definitely brought out some things in me that I had yet to address. We lived together for 1.5 years. Much of it was tumultuous. I moved out aft…

I feel that this is a good sign! I see it that way too - behind the dismissive walls sits an anxious little kid who's been trapped for a long time and gone a bit feral. Once we let that kid out, we …

This is it. OP please listen to your gut feeling, things won't progress with this guy. I've been trapped in a relationship with the wrong guy for over 2 years and my attachment still makes me miss him…

I feel trapped and I don’t know what to do. I been talking to this guy for 2 months, and within the first week we started dating. We broke up later on but he confessed to me a few days ago that he che…

I relate having tended to attract chaotic or traumatized people for some reason. It’s so much better on the otherside with someone stable, secure, etc. At first I was like “me, really? Don’t you want …

I feel this. I’m in my first relationship after five years of being single, and we’ve only been dating about five months. I’m definitely no expert here, so take my advice with a grain of salt. I turne…

Good point! “I survived” is what I’ve been telling myself. I notice I get trapped in idealizing the other person without realizing I’m doing it, which I think makes it hurt more when the fantasy comes…

Avoidants typically harshly assert distance when their subconscious feelings are coming the closest to being exposed though. They will also often keep people they have genuine feelings for in their or…

It's not really specifically an anxious attachment issue. Sure, attachment styles can manifest in different ways, and yes, you can be preoccupied with your own feelings when your attachment issues are…

At the root, it is fear. Even if we don't consciously feel it, it's more reflexive. How I feel it is I sometimes view intimacy as a grotesque thing. I always feel it in my stomach, it makes me physic…

It's like my whole spirit recoils...the internal "me" screams to get away, and if it's not something I can physically or literally distance myself from -- like an emotion I find uncomfortable, or a si…

I think that this is kind of missing the forest for the trees. Working through attachment patterns doesn't prepare you to be able to tell if someone else is insecure/secure. Most of the time, someone…

Flight/fright. Adrenaline. Feeling like I’m completely on edge. Can’t relax, nervous system is in overdrive. Like everything is just “wrong”. Angry. Angry because that’s the only emotion that can come…

He said he needed space for his life to change. I accepted this and was happy because I assumed it was going to be a few months. Nope, it was about all of a week. I feel frustrated because I've litera…

I'm 18. I'm barely an adult and these feelings I don't see myself getting rid of. Yes of course I crave that love, because no one ever gave it to me. Everyone that was supposed to, and everyone that I…

Hi, avoidant aplspec aroace (the quadruple a!) here :) It's important to differentiate a trauma response with sexuality but it can be tricky. I think first things first, you should acknowledge whic…

Facts. Apps are rough because so many people are stuck in the "grass is greener" mentality. It's by design and keeps people trapped in the apps for years. For women its especially bad because most me…

Has anyone had/is having serious misgivings about monogamy? I have flipped back and forward on it and the older I get, the more I worry I will feel lonely and trapped with just one person being my sou…

For APs closeness = safety. The FA feels unsafe in closeness then desires closeness when distance is achieved. And when the FA feels trapped, he/she will escape. The DA then pursues even more. That fe…

Thanks that’s reassuring. I think me actually caring is leading me into thinking overdrive. At this point I’m trapped inside and stuck on thinking lol.

Multi-dating woes incoming. This year I decided to carpet bomb dating and I posted a bit back about loving talking to so many people and feeling abundance, so much so that it makes me question monogam…

I’m working on this too. A couple shifts that have helped me: -Realizing that relief isn’t the same as joy. Keeping things in to avoid conflict feels calm in the moment, but it builds distance. -Accep…

I feel like its a place where if you are interested in a woman and show no interest from the get go. You are trapped there forever. Is that warped thinking? 

diabolical behavior. my god. i’m so sorry he’s spinning this web around you to keep you trapped, unhappy, and alienated. it’s almost as if he’s envious of your achievements in addition to the control …

This is how he truly feels. He sees you (and women, probably) as maids for himself and his parents. If you go back this will be brought up again when you're married and/or after children - once you …

Not that corporate America’s SHOULD exist. But it does, and this will get you eaten alive. If you avoid, that’s preferable. Unfortunately, it’s hard to escape. Being calm is a good trait in corporat…

Hey, I’m really sorry because I know first hand from similar how much this particular flavour of dysfunction sucks. To give you the short version of mine, my father died suddenly when I was on my ear…

The thing that jumped out for me from your post is not any of the things you’ve listed but the sense that you are pretty inflexible about things - the main thing being your finances. Is there a reason…

i’m the dumper. i think it was hard on him too, but he just didn’t see it with you. and he’s allowed to feel that way. let it go. you’ll be happier sooner or later. he wasn’t the one for you. you’re n…

"Is there a reason you have to have your mortgage paid off by the time you’re 50?" Overpaying the mortgage is what I have available for emergencies from redraw. Financially I have to be completely se…

Also just be careful it's getting to the point where you start to pack slowly cause if Ai tells him, your gf is making things hard for you, she is the reason your being trapped..... Bruh

>*you* are the one deciding you are not "good" and *you* are the one deciding that your partner doesn't deserve what you are offering. I did not decide this. After 5 years of saying "I love you" to e…

I could easily see myself cheating if I found myself in your situation. I will also give you some sympathy. You felt trapped, and normal people your age tend to have high sex-drives. Your husband soun…

What happens is they control the shit out of you using the guise "but we're gonna be together forever" and "if you truly love me and wanna marry me then you will do this" and its always things put of …

I gotta say, subliminals have worked wonders for me. I’m not some arrogant jerk, but I don’t fall apart anymore when I “feel unworthy” I say ok this or better and move on. I’ve listened to “bring my S…

Most people move through their lives without a moment's pause as to whether they are content and at peace. They feel trapped and yet complain. Like eating bread, which is not good for you. No matter …

As familiar as my own life, I have only realised the truth after I stepped out of my role around 29 back then I had only realised many of the lies that I was told to keep me trapped but as I became in…

37M and just going through that. Unlike you I dealt less with abuse and more with neglect. For the longest time I didn't realize I had capital T trauma - I thought I just had bad social skills, not e…

I get exactly what you mean, for me it was wanting to exist outside this family or being the truth-teller, my whole reality was not only rejected but framed as arrogance selfishness disdain etc (just …

Yes I totally get your point, I think that it's very different from say depression or actual illnesses when you don't know what you're doing and you're experiencing phases of dementia. Actually my mot…

I broke up with my ex after 3.5 years and there have been plenty of days I regret it. He is still on my mind 24/7 a year after the breakup, 8 months into no contact. He is still the only one I desire,…

Our family narcissist is my husband's brother. As well as their dad, but his brother is worse. He has a pattern. He meets someone, impregnates them, tricks them into marrying him, abuses them. He di…

"I don’t know if I’m making the biggest mistake of my life by leaving the best person I’ve ever known." Even if he is the best partner in the world in every area, but doesn't have sex, none if it mat…

The way you’re writing makes it sound like you’re still with them. You won’t find yourself while you’re trapped in their toxicity. You won’t see who you really are in this relationship because you hav…