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You're the same age as my LDR partner, who I met on this sub. We've been together for 14 months. We've definitely had those ups and downs regarding the afterlife of our respective ended marriages. Ou…
DA healing update: searching my true self, my inner child finally seen — Some of you may know me at this point. I'm (40M) dismissive avoidant, my wife fearful avoidant (41F), together 17 years, married 13 years, 3 children. I've been working on my attachment style for 5 mo…
Just trying to gain closure on my own... — This is something I wrote in my journal, trying to process emotions and gain closure. Lori, Since you would not give me the opportunity for closure, I'm going to do what I can to get it here. This…
My ex (F23) and I (M26) came back into contact after a year. I'm still in love with her. — Quick backstory. My ex (F23) and I (M26) came back into contact after a year. We broke up after being together for 4.5 years. We met on a dating app, I was 21 and she was 18. Everything clicked instan…
My ex (F23) and I (M26) came back into contact after a year. I'm still in love with her. — Quick backstory. My ex (F23) and I (M26) came back into contact after a year. We broke up after being together for 4.5 years. We met on a dating app, I was 21 and she was 18. Everything clicked instan…
How do I shake off the feeling of revenge and that’s it’s my loss — I am leaving the city in 2 days I have stayed for last 5 years(even before my marriage) because I can’t take it anymore. I have resigned from my job, planning to travel and find myself. I got a notifi…
Should I just leave my father and move back to my home country with my mom? — Tl.dr Should I(17f) just leave my dad(40sM) and and move back to my home country with my mom(40sF) (who isn’t in this country btw) bcz things are really messed up. My mom is thinking of getting a divo…
How to let go of the fact that abusers get to live happily ever after? — It’s been 4 years since my most traumatic event occurred. Long story short, I (F23) was in a very abusive relationship. He admitted to abusing me and another girl (that I didn’t know about) before me—…
My partner is FA and I am a DA leaning earned secure. He definitely brought out some things in me that I had yet to address. We lived together for 1.5 years. Much of it was tumultuous. I moved out aft…
Hahaha no im not as good looking or tall as him, but i can kinda cook! If they ever divorce i hope her and i meet at a Target in the wine aisle and live happily ever after hahaha.
What’s your honest take on your wife / soon to be ex wife? Did you - honestly - see yourselves living happily ever after? Was it a situation in which you were perfectly happy and thought everything wa…
Make that separation permanent and get the divorce. Your wife is an unrepentant cheater and she didn’t have the decency to end your relationship before you actually got married despite knowing she was…
Holy shit. I'm sorry to hear this happened to you. It's great that you raised your kids completely unlike how you were treated as a child. Wishing you peace and happiness in the future. "....and when…
What a great job you’ve done managing the whole affair, pun intended. You’re far ahead in maturity than many men your age. Being analytical helps. Getting therapy balances the emotions as well. …
First -- it's a man, not a male. It's cringe to talk about women as "females" or about men as "males", don't do that. But secondly -- you have more agency than this. You say that ***"I feel it will m…
I don't know why a part of me feels like they'll live happily ever after. He never cheated before in our entire 12 years together, he was so good to me aside from this last year/year and a half. So th…
Yeah mine did things in the car in public and tried a bunch of different position and wore new sexier bras. Basically came to him when he snapped his fingers and gave it up multiple nights in a row wh…
I know one who called the men she exploits for her own wants “lifejackets”. She detonated relationships on purpose when she thought she found better options (then her current option), eventually ruins…
You are sabotaging yourself and AP's wife by not bringing this all out in the open. Set up a meeting between all four of you so your wife can confess to his wife. The reactions will fix everything. If…
Birds of a shit feather flock together. Your ex is a cheater and your brother is a cheater. This is where you cut them off, you count your lucky stars that it isn't your kid and you move on with your …
Sounds to me like you need to re-read your post and see that this man may not be your happily ever after. The "joke" in and of itself gives off a connotation of someone who doesn't want to be with yo…
Forest and Jenny don’t live happily ever after. She continued to take forest for granted until her dying day! But yes your fantasy is quite common. I’ve had it and still continue to have it even …
1) Kudos for using the correct spelling of "complement". 2) He's absolutely not ready for marriage if he's having all these concerns. It's not like in the movies where the guy is all freaked out abou…
Tell her you’re surprised and saddened she feels that way because that was never your intention. Then leave her alone and never go back. And live happily ever after.
You wouldn’t need it, neither would I because I would never pressure my child to stay with someone that they wanted to break up with…even if it’s my best friend’s child they broke up with. These par…
Here’s what I would do if I were attached somehow to this jerk. After some hard thinking for a short time, id have a bag packed and set aside. Then I’d have a gift wrapped present to give him that on…
Many, many times. Very early in the relationship (maybe about six months in), we were hit head-on by a drunk driver. In the ambulance--that was totally unnecessary, but Mistake was wired to say his n…
OP you’re right, this is a mess but not one of your making and not one you need to fix. You responded to a suggestion you would never could have anticipated with a passionate refusal. Nothing inheren…
i do only because we broke up over circumstances against us/life got in the way. we had a perfectly healthy relationship but since we were long distance that was the only issue. i would totally be dow…
Shocking that most of the comments disregard the girl's choice. It's her choice! She's an adult and she is a free individual capable of deciding how she wants to live her life and with whom. It is wro…
I'll summarize but it is in my post history. I tried to tell her when we broke up (phone call), I tried to explain the red flag and she just said "we never need to have words between us again". I con…
No. There is not a good way to tell a man anything like that. Maybe if you teach him what you like, he’ll find that he likes the same thing and you can live happily ever after. It doesn’t always work;…
If you want to hurt someone with revenge cheating; fuck their relative, friend, boss, co-worker, someone they are jealous towards. This will increase their pain. Revenge cheating allows a person to fe…
I spent the first 34 years thinking I was a thriver! Lol! I was wrong! I have struggled since day one, child of divorced teen parents, I was a teen mom, single mom, racking up debt, minimum wage jobs…
Yes, I was the live-in maid and nanny too when I was young but am 65f now. Let me show you what you could face in your future. I went low contact hoping someday after my n-mom died that I could rebuil…
Just read your update. Just wanted to say I'm so glad you guys are working through this. You seem like a really wonderful match 💜 From one mother to other future mothers, children are so wonderful, s…
Yes, they often say that... A married man that was in our circle of work colleagues was always hitting on my then girlfriend of 4 years. I pulled her up about it and she was like ewww, he's not my t…
I was married for 17 years 19-35 and then divorce was final at 36). My now ex-husband was verbally and mentally abusive and I always dreamed of finding a stable man more like my dad as weird as that m…
Step 1. Stay on the medication Step 2. Divorce dead weight man child. Step 3. Live happily ever after.
The same person who was your support, your foundation, your backbone was also your tormentor, your downfall, the one who killed your spirit that’s the thing about cheaters i’ll never understand wh…
Wow, you went pretty dark. I’d argue the impact on her relationships with our kids, friends and family who know is hardly her not paying a price. She had to change employers and leave behind a job w…
If only you had added a question then you’d be on the path to marriage and living happily ever after.
I am a woman. Who dates women. If I were in a new relationship and this sort of pressure were put on me, I’d clam up to. Your clocks may be ticking but nothing in this life is guaranteed. You may fi…
So I think this relationship is not going to last. Let's be realistic you both are relatively young and tbh the two of you seem pretty unstable as it is. I don't see this as happily ever after. So t…
15 days later? He's not married happily ever after, he's found his next victim and has acted as quickly as possible to hurt you as badly as he can. What you're seeing as happiness and perfection is …
Yeah, I think Disney movies with "happily ever after" makes married life seem like a dream. It's easier to end the fairytale just after the wedding, than 5 years in.
Long term here as well. I don’t even invest my time in short term dating because I date with intention and if someone isn’t in the same space as me, I don’t invest my time or energy. I have reached a …
Everyone wants to believe in love and if they love their ex, they will return and it’s happily ever after but “if it’s meant to be” is very dangerous to hope for and rely on. Meant to be means two peo…
I don’t know about yall but I believe in happily ever after and the whole Disney thing lol it’s not the perfect ending it’s the choosing each other everyday. That’s the dream , I m romantic idk
Yes, choosing each other every day IS the "happily ever after"
Move out. Get your own entire place and live happily ever after. If there’s a next time, dude can live with you and when you’re sick of his sh!t, you can toss him in the trash and still have your own…
While people can and have met, whirlwind romance, married quick and happily ever after, it’s not often. Y’all went straight from the new exciting love phase to married. And it sounds like neither of y…
Sigh, idk how to get over him 😞 how are people able to just find someone they love, get married and have a happily ever after? Why did this have to happen to me
In every relationship I’ve been in the woman regretted it except the ex that brought me to this sub in the first place lol. She got her happily ever after with the man she cheated/left me for. Karma n…
I literally regret it every day of my life. She was the love of my life and now she's remarried and happily ever after while I cant seem to move on a decade later.
Sounds like you’ve already decided she’s a pathetic single woman out to steal your man. Question: you’re clear you confided in her all throughout your marital troubles. But it sounds like, however l…
A) She wants your husband B) She finds your relationship very bad and wants you to get rid of your husband so you can be happily ever after alone