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"From my perspective, the situation was more complex than that. I did love him and there were many times I was genuinely happy to be his wife. But over time I started lose my attraction because I fe…
Jobsites to lookout for as a Product Designer. Need help. — I'm currently in the lookout for a job change and I would like to know if there are any specific sites/channels/spaces/groups to get a job alerts. I'm aware of fee and actively on top of it, but I cou…
Looking for a technical co-founder I will not promote — Hey all, I'm working on a B2B SaaS platform targeting a specific form of fraud that's draining revenue from e-commerce and logistics companies. It's a blind spot for many, but the financial impact is…
Death by a Thousand Subscriptions: Is anyone's SaaS bills higher than their Ad spend? — I've been watching several eCommerce businesses in my network, and it's fascinating how many are drowning in subscription costs for essential software. One store owner I know is paying nearly **$500/m…
What are your pain points? — I have been in the business world for many years, usually putting out fires for the businesses I have worked for. Over the last few years, I transitioned into Functional Business Consulting and foun…
I (re)earned my secure attachment this week. What a journey this has been. — I just wanted to share this diary dump with anyone who wants a success story. I believed myself to be FA/A for a long time, and this week I can finally call myself secure. TW: sexual assualt Despite …
Success Story: FA/Disorganized Attachment Healing Roadmap, Resource Recommendations — **Hello, fellow Fearful Avoidants! The below post has grown out of almost 3 years of research and healing this attachment style, which in my case was coupled with Relationship OCD (ROCD). ROCD is a vi…
Unsent letter to a prior ex, in the midst of a current breakup. — I am in a crash course on my own nervous system while in the midst of a breakup with a dismissive avoidant man I've loved for almost five years. I'd known about the anxious-avoidant trap for some time…
Global Policy Journal: “Don’t look up?“ – Why it is past time for serious holistic research into Unidentified Anomalous Phenomena — Karin Austin, Michael Bohlander and Kimberly S. Engels have contributed an excellent article to the Global Policy Journal. Two of these people I've met personally and they are experiencers who are doi…
chronic depressed and sad — I have been suffering from chronic depression for many years. Despite many attempts, it still persists and has become part of who I am. Sometimes, I have been able to cope with it. I used medication f…
Mission success (progressive goal structure for social media growth) — Hi everyone, I just reached my first success story which was reaching 10k followers on TikTok. I used the progressive goal structure process and initially started with 5k and then moved to 10k. Li…
I’m 20 and my mom still asks for my phone and laptop every night or there's consequences — I'm 20 (F) and turning 21 in a few months. My mom recently started asking me to surrender my laptop and phone again. "Again" because she did this to me as well when I was 13-18 years old. Before, she…
Will I ever not feel so lonely? (Seeking input from older folks on this platform) — I am nearly 47 years old and the emotional neglect I suffered as a kid and still suffer at the hands of my parents, still has such a profound impact on me. I know there are people of all ages in this …
I have been trying to astral project for 12 years but nothing works — I’ve tried pretty much every method. Even the Monroe tapes didn’t work. Idk why I can’t do it when so many others can. I first learnt about it when I was 15 and I am now 27 years old. I can meditate v…
Permanent Enlightenment — I’m curious about something and would love to hear from people with long-term meditation practice. Many traditions talk about enlightenment or awakening as something that can stabilize. But in my own…
People underestimate the power of connections that were formed during childhoood — And I dont mean positive connections only. Negative connections also seem to stick around till we die. And since our parents chose to form negative bonds with us, unfortunely that is what lasts up…
Why did I always have such a hard time making and building solid connections with people? — Ever since I was school-aged, I've known myself to have issues with connecting to people. I could get along decently, but never really had a "best friend". So no one paid attention to me or wanted to …
I (32F) trusted my partner (34M) completely until I discovered he lied about a “friend” he talks to daily and that they were texting very appropriate. I’m shaking and feeling lost — I’m a 32F and my partner is 34M. We’ve known each other for many years and have a long history together. We were apart for a while in the past but recently decided to try again because we both felt th…
Overarching Energy of the New Moon in Pisces on March 18th, 2026 — Even if you are not an artist, philosopher or feel things deeply, the New Moon in Pisces could give you an open, dreamy quality, where you want to dig into more abstract subjects. You may be thinkin…
“EASIEST AP TECHNIQUE IN HISTORY!” (Update) — “History’s simplest projection technique” (Tweaked and updated for better results!) I posted the 30 second head lift technique a few months back and I wanted to update it hopefully to add to y…
Calling AM on her bluff, even if it means she becomes homeless — \*\*\*\*Warning this contains Abuse, this is not for everyone if you’re under 18 please do not continue reading this. I’ll try to make it brief. My AM was a single parent of 5 kids. That’s where he…
My therapist made a sexually ambiguous joke that unsettled me, triggering a transference reaction in me. — I am a 21-year-old woman, and my therapist is 45. I had never been interested in him before, even though he is a good listener and an empathetic person. I tend to become interested in people who show …
Leaving my relationship for the right reason — Me (m30) and my partner (f39) have been together for 8 years. We have two kids below 4. She has been diagnosed with different mental health issues. She has also had two very rough childbirths. During …
Let's try astral projecting with eachother — if you want tell you're techniques how you astral travel I'd very muchlike for many of us to meet I can hear the astral plane so like if you give me you're name I'll contract you by reaching out to yo…
Processing my NDE and the paranormal experiences that followed — I can’t sleep and i’m feeling the need to document a sequence of experiences I had from February 2019 through 2020 that forever changed my life. I’ll try my best to keep each section somewhat brief, b…
Admitted to Stanford but at the cost of my childhood — I am a high school senior who has spent the past 18 years growing up in a middle-class Asian family in the Bay Area. My parents constantly complain that they have no money, no connections, and no adva…
I've met the 'angel of death' and it is not what you might think it is — During a "mini NDE" induced by a ketamine overdose, the following happened: As I was laying on the couch, feeling my intestines grinding to halt, I felt an entity approaching. it wasn't visible, but i…
Do you think narcissists experience "variable empathy" or do they simply pretend to experience empathy? — I was recently watching a Dr. Ramani video in which she talks about the confusion survivors of narcissist abuse feel when they think about their experience with the narcissists. For many survivors, at…
I made the post about breaking my mind for shifting - here’s how I did it ⛓️💥 — Hello radiant soul! 𓂃˖˳·˖ ִֶָ ⋆🌷͙⋆ ִֶָ˖·˳˖𓂃 ִֶָ I made a post on Reddit about how I reprogrammed my brain for shifting (and spiritual practices in general\*) and many of you requested that I make…
Frank Kepple Archives - Astral Projection Truth — Many here have probably heard about Frank Kepple who was previously active on the AstralPulse forums. But if you haven't, it's worth taking a look. I have read many books and resources about astral pr…
April 2026 Astrology: Key Dates, Weekly Forecast and Mundane Astrology World Events — April is one of the most active months we’ve seen. Not one planet is in retrograde. Aries fire and cardinal energy sets the stage for initiation, assertion and spontaneous energy. There is a bit of na…
Anyone also childfree because you havent had a childhood, or you have gone through too much stuff....and just want a different / more healing and peaceful second half to life? — I am childfree for many reasons, but one of the big ones has been i was made to be the parentified caretaker child for my much younger siblings, but also our home was just chaos, lots of abuse, neglec…
Ex spinning narrative — He keeps posting passive aggressive things on his social that are seemingly aimed at me and my character. He’s told mutual friends all the reasons why I was a bad partner, but I was one who broke up w…
Sharp pain around heart during metta meditation, not sure how best to approach it — Hey! I've been practicing around ten years intermittently but in the last 300 days, for the first time, I've managed to consistently practice every day. Averaging like 45 minutes a day following TMI …
Anxiety tips you might not have heard of — Hello, I've had crippling anxiety on and off for many years and I have developed coping tools that has helped me alot. This Mostly is for people who have GAD and panic disorders but can help for almo…
lucid dreaming to escape reality? — i've tried to lucid dream for many years now but i've never been able to do it. i don't even know what i'm doing wrong anymore because i've tried so many different methods and ways to lucid dream. i f…
Feeling conflicted after he confessed — My boyfriend and I were together for a little less than a year and a half. I thought we had a really healthy relationship. I never felt jealous or insecure and genuinely trusted him completely. I love…
How to deal with resentment about past behavior that is no longer present? — My ex (30f) broke up with me (30m) about 2 years ago after a boundary violation on my part. The distress I experienced after the breakup is what first led to me to read about codependency and to under…
(25M) I feel extremely anxious about taking newly prescribed medication (ESCITALOPRAM OXALATE10MG) — Please don’t mind my grammar. I have never taken medication like this before and i feel really anxious about what will happen next. I’m worried it will negatively affect me. I have been experiencing …
My sister (36f) and I (28f)are fighting because she didn’t tell me that mom died and I really feel like she crossed a line. How do I fix this? — TL;DR: my sister was told about my mom’s death, but intentionally withheld information from me. After I confronted her about it, she became mean and made unhinged and unsubstantiated claims about me, …
Paying for therapy is anxiety inducing. — It's a huge gamble imo. It takes about 8-12 sessions to get an idea if this therapist is a great match for you, because you don't want "good enough" for mental health help, you want "very good" or "gr…
Saved by Aliens! Twelve Benevolent Encounters — [**Saved by Aliens! Twelve Benevolent Encounters**](https://youtu.be/aPMjZJDOfis) by Preston Dennett https://preview.redd.it/78ywlpbo7zsg1.jpg?width=1604&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=bac3d50493e2b7125956…
My boyfriend hasn’t had a job in months and I’m now the sole provider. That’s just part of it. — Chase (35M) and I(30F) have been dating for close to two years. For the first several months, we had a great sex life and honestly moved way too fast–I moved in with him after only dating for six mont…
Anyone else wish they were adopted by decent people? I dropped out of high school due to mental illness when I got older I asked why they didn't care they said my education something I was suppose to care about, mind you they dont believe in mental illness. — Im in my 20s and its so painful knowing I have to grind the school system out for many years to even begin making above poverty money. Much of my life was straight up wasted. I also got brain damage…
Where do we go from here? — My girlfriend (F42) and I (M42). Both divorced for many years (her a couple longer), both have kids elementary aged (her 2, me 1). We have been together for about 2.5 years. We travel great, our kids …
Guilt for saying no — My boyfriend (M51) and I (F49) recently ended a tumultuous two-year relationship. He’s a recovering addict and most of our relationship was focused around that and we both developed some unhealthy cod…
Anyone else ever become obsessed with getting into your body? — When my therapist told me that i have to work on getting back into my body, it didnt really make sense to me. We did work on things like body scans and deep breathing, but it didnt really amount to m…
Should i give up on shifting? Is it possible that I'm just not meant to do it? — I know this question must sound super annoying by now, so I expect a lot of people will just skip over this post and that's okay, I don't want anyone to feel like they "need to help me", not at all. H…
Manifasting the “wrong way” worked. — For many years a used to have gratitude/manifesting notebook before even knowing what manifastation was. I got the idea from a video on Yt. On the right pages i would wtite things I was thankful for.…
Mist woods from childhood inside a dream — when I was a kid maby 4 or 5 I got a nice red bunker and i loved sleeping in the top bunk it made me feel like I was someone important i have a few weird storys in that bed all very short exept this…
Dream life mist forest help — when I was a kid maby 4 or 5 I got a nice red bunker and i loved sleeping in the top bunk it made me feel like I was someone important i have a few weird storys in that bed all very short exept this…
There aren't many but as far as I can tell there are a couple which could qualify. 1. Escapism. Just like anything fun, let alone of the "reality substitute" type, there is the potential to use it e…
Hi Ralumarian35 On Moonbeam's instructions, the mod team has decided to ban you for 4 months. From your post history, it is clear that you've read, thought about and understood the posts in the index…
It's very easy to debunk everything as a fluke, even if it comes knocking on your door. And beginners often succed in any bigger mission they set to as a first timer bc they have no expectations of it…
Whoever is telling you that you took the easy way out has no idea what they’re talking about. You built a successful business that someone wanted badly enough to pay you for. The goal for many peopl…
DevOps has in my opinion always been trial by fire where for many technologies you learn them when you need to learn them. Picking up foundational concepts helps with this greatly, particularly networ…
The advice to not discuss negative aspects of your personal relationships with others is good advice. It is also good advice to not jump on the bandwagon against someone else's SO because when they re…
I own a business. I started with zero. I had a job, but then through interesting circumstances ended up being a business owner. I worked hard for many years. Last year I made 380k. The year prior…
There’s a world of hype, starry-eyed optimism and straight up false promises out there. But AI systems are running in the background for many businesses and saving them a lot of time and money. We b…
*" I am VERY familiar with the law and with NG's teachings, so no need to reiterate basics and quotes please - I'm asking about your real experiences. What made you actually believe and know? "* Repe…
I totally get it, I’ve seen corrective experiences work wonders in the moment. My background is in building real-time frameworks for clients and practitioners who deal with collapse or shutdown, espec…
I went through a similar thing with a DA for 18 months. He always made me sleep in the guest room. We didn't even get as far as making out. He had told me up front that he moves slow, but damn...it wa…
Could very well be. I had another friend who I think was FA and I was close to for many years but part of me knew I had to walk on eggshells to a degree because she would suddenly end close friendship…
I do have issues with Sam Altman, yes. He is pushing unregulated technology that perhaps has a great usecase for many but he's pushing it so hard that it's deeply hurting every day people so he can ma…
You deserve to feel proud, as a man, as a father, and as someone who chose to evolve rather than repeat themselves. Thanks for sharing: for many here, your path is a map.
This might be due to a lack of internal confidence perhaps. I know that when I was younger and would get involved with someone with an anxious attachment, they’d internalize almost everything while tr…
I personally did not have help with medication. But if you want to try it you should :) It can be a great tool for many people. I benefitted a lot from going to therapy + doing the exercises in the …
Text of original post by u/f1rstpancake: I am in a crash course on my own nervous system while in the midst of a breakup with a dismissive avoidant man I've loved for almost five years. I'd known abou…
Follow up question to your reply. If the answer to everything is go back to not bring any of their boss I’ll take that. It may be hard for many people to imagine giving up 40% of your pay but try hav…
I understand. I can relate to these feelings *a lot.* I understand not wanting to label someone you love as an abuser, I think it can prevent so many people from actually healing because… I mean I cou…
Hi, with all due respect - I'm formerly disorganised, and with some secure-leaning (work in progress). This being said, I have been in therapy with regularity for 11 years (I had seen therapists and …
Thanks! > Am I understanding correctly your wife said she would stop engaging with you if you go to therapy for yourself? Yes :( > I give you genuine kudos on working on this for the sake of your c…
Sure, here is a portion that resonated with me a lot and made sense on what attracts me to the avoidants or unavailable or troubled people. Shall share more if you are interested: The need to be need…
I reflected on my future because I finally realized I don't want to spend the rest of my life in a distant marriage. Before that, for many years I guess I lived in some sort of fantasy world where the…
Parenting is a “little to no alone time” endeavor when they are young. It’s not that all children are all clingy all the time, it’s just that they have a lot of energy, a lot of needs, and take up a l…
(Tried to post this as a solo post, but couldn't due to not enough karma) *Does Thinking About Death Really Help Us Live Better?* In this post, I want to question the practice of Memento Mori, becau…
Hi there, I was recently thinking about a friend who I had a large falling out with 10 years ago. She and I both have very strong anxious attachment styles but we had a really close friendship. We had…
For me, awareness came first, repair later. I actually know the exact dates. I'm not sure what the exact trigger was though. Our situation has been stabilizing, as the youngest has gotten settled into…
Great for you to have this realization! It isn't easy! I sat on my decision the evening before ending it for many hours, cycling through the data and seeking support. It will be unfamiliar at first wh…
Yes! I'm also DA and I worked on myself because my marriage had been very distant for years. I now realize that for many years I didn't really feel anything around my wife, and in my mind I minimized …
What you should keep in mind about all attachment styles is that, those are the basis for those individuals to form any kind of attachment relationship. So no, behaviors are not limited to romantic re…
\- You can absolutely fully break down in front of someone. Yes, people are fully breaking down in front of the people close to them - just not, like, all the time. Most people cry a little bit regula…
I think there’s a spectrum to fear starting with a general sense of unease/anxiety and progressing all the way to full-blown paralyzing/mind-numbing terror. For me personally the avoidance tends to m…
i keep isolating from everyone i know and staying up late to maximize alone time. i want really badly to be seen and be known but at the same time i feel suffocated. i’m scraping together every idea i…
No it's not a boundary at all for me and same for most avoidants I've known. It's only annoying if it's so much when I'm not answering that it's an overwhelming pile up. Or if it's a lot of "are you o…
There are two possibilities: 1. You are not entering alpha during your sessions. 2. The LOB is not working, or this method is not capable of changing your beliefs. I hate this option, but I am in a …
Your two examples are both involving coworkers. Do you have any friends or acquaintances, maybe people you interact with during a hobby or other activity? Even online? I ask because I am many years i…
I did in fact worry I’d be permanently jaded from it. In our case, it wasn’t so much a situation of anxious/avoidant cycles, it was just the abuse cycle. She was extremely controlling, jealous, would …
i have gone to many events out in the wild, and the single people i meet are more likely to be out of my age range (typically much younger), and those who are, they are partnered. i dont like the apps…
Have you read the book “attached”. You mention avoidant attachment style. I was caught in the avoidant/anxious attachment trap for many years and it was very painful. Why did I settle for so many unst…
Feels like commitment is a minefield because for many it is, endless loop of finding someone new rather than building a relationship. I mean even if I find a perfect human with all attributes from my …
I'm surprised to hear that you know only one other gay trans man. Is the trans population in London smaller than in other major cities? Is the mainstream queer culture there less open to trans people …
I do agree with what you’re saying but as an FA, and I’m sure it’s the case for many other avoidants, I do crave intimacy and closeness while also being afraid of it. That is what I mean when I say ge…
She doesn't sound ready for a relationship. While I don't think grand declarations and gestures are necessary, and calling someone the LOML after 7 months is too much, everything you feel and want is …
I agree about the stakes. But I guess for different reasons. I don't even understand why the stakes are higher but I guess I must feel they are if I am so terrified to lose someone who I don't know al…
Politics right now is more than just “opinions” such as believing in “higher or lower taxes.” It is about human rights… and Trumps presidency has shown he zero interest in the sort. There is nothing t…
I've been single for many years and I am genuinely so happy with my life. But man, the minute I start dating someone new, my self-esteem plummets to oblivion and I'm crying over men I have no busines…
It sucks but keep trying! Good people do still exist and you will find them. While I can’t personally relate (31 and never been in a relationship) I have good examples around me. I have two friends th…
That will be perfect for many people, it's definitely not what I'm looking for in a relationship long term.
Most of my more amicable breakups I have stayed in contact at least for a while though for many that faded over the years the same as most friendships that aren’t properly maintained. For ones that en…
You may never feel ‘ready’. If you’ve been working on stuff for many years, you are probably more ready than you think. Maybe push yourself in little ways to test the waters and figure out what you th…