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It sounds like what you enjoy with your husband is security. Not who he is, but what he brings and represents. And I say that without negative judgement; it's just how it reads. He is not the one for…
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the narcissist catchphrase bingo list — edit 1: jesus christ my initial 32 I wrote already look like they arent a lot lmao (the comments in total added 45 UNIQUE PHRASES HOLY JESUS) , okay heres the updated list (most of the updates will be…
I don’t know what to do anymore. — M17, neurodivergent. Ever since 2025. I’ve fell into an endless hole of bad behavior. I keep losing people I genuinely liked and increased more of the hateful stuff they make of me. I’m at my lowest. …
Helped and loved a girl who was forced in her past relationship. Now I am facing the consequences. — We were college mates, but didn't speak till the end of the 3rd year. And I replied to one of her stories on WhatsApp and that's how our conversation started. She used to tell me about her days, life …
People who say ‘that’s just how I am’ to justify bad behavior. That’s not personality, it’s a lack of willingness to change. — People who say ‘that’s just how I am’ to justify bad behavior don’t want acceptance, they want permission to stay the same. Growth requires self-awareness, and hiding behind personality is just an eas…
Take time to actually get to know someone, go slow, keep things light at first, don't jump into a relationship. Instead think about true compatibility in things like communication, lifestyle, values, …
Right, and then if you do say “it’s fine, that’s not true, we can work it out” and then every time you ask for anything in a relationship they do heinous stuff or pull away and then pull out the “well…
What does it serve you to hold onto this hurt? You are repeating the same narratives about the break up with you as the victim. You have not healed if you cannot reframe this break up without you as t…
I understand that. I've already started with therapy and acknowledge that I put up with a lot of bad behavior. Even before this happened I've shifted my perspective on a lot of what I put up with in t…
Mine was similar. An avoidant that never did the proper inner work his entire life. His mom practically abandoned him so there was some residual damage he wasn’t willing to explore and work through. M…
An excellent point. Instead of her gorgeous body beimg admirable, it's instead a ticking time bomb that she should be ashamed of. Undermining something that makes her special and unique, and at a time…
I did this, too. I had to learn that I had s tendency towards being cruel (it's a trauma response and defensive it turns out for me) and I had to create a reflex to counter my own bad behavior. The …
You are worried about your mom and your mom is worried only about herself. Please don't let her manipulate you. Consider this might be her punishment for her bad behavior.
I had an ex try and pull this on me because we hooked up 3 weeks after I broke up with her. She tried to claim that I convinced her to hooked up with me on a pretext that wasn't true, so she withdrew …
recovering from codependency is not tolerating bad behavior. it's stating the boundary then actually following through. "i feel upset when i see you following xyz on ig" - no change or acknowledgement…
What about if you caused the breakup? I didn't ask for it but she dumped me because of my bad behavior. It was a character flaw that im actively working through but she simply said she didn't want to …
I could see fugue states EXCEPT that his mother engages in the same behavior. I googled and found that there is a genetic component. Leaving important mail under a cat bed is mean or sign of dementi…
A bad person would not recognize, or would recognize but not care that this is bad behavior. You seem to care, and know you must not continue. You must not continue. It is scary, for her. That is 100%…
131. Why do you always pretend you don’t understand what I’m saying to you? 132. I’ll leave you on the streets if you don’t stop crying. 133. Here’s a really racist one I used to hear all the time…
You have to teach your mother that you can no longer be manipulated and you have made a great start. When you start to waver remind yourself that every time you give in you are reinforcing her bad beh…
23 is old enough to know this is bad behavior. He’s a misogynist. At 23 I DOUBT he’s going to change. More likely he’ll get worse (especially with all the easy access to the red-pilled shit online).
>The dishonesty is always clear in retrospect after a long period of crazy-making deflection and other manipulation. I haven't tried it myself, but I hear keeping a journal while dating and then per…
Instead of dealing with his insecurity, he’d rather be poor and control you. In order to make himself feel better he needs to tell you what to do. And he’s trying to coerce you into doing it and guilt…
1. You'll never be able to teach them anything because it's beneath them to take instructions from you, a social inferior. It's narcissism. This attitude caused my AM to crash a car. Her brain glitche…
You can do both. The 3D is already here. It's based on passed beliefs. Even children who are normally good and well-behaved still get punished/corrected when decide on the rare bad behavior. That doe…
I don't see anyone else mentioning this, so I'm going to add another perspective. Landlords and management companies are people, too. If you tell them the stranger you signed the lease to live with us…
Unfortunately the apps are, mathematically, your best option. People have this wierd belief that meeting people "organically" prevents bad behavior. Nope - the "usual scumbags" exist in reality and …
This is important. You are a wife but not a therapist. I appreciate that you want to help your husband and I think the best way to help him is to encourage him to go to therapy on his own to talk abou…
My dad was this way. Chased me with a kitchen knife begging me to kill him but really he wanted to report anything I did to my mother and the police to the police. I was in the 7th grade. This is af…
I don't because it helps me remain grounded and not get ahead of myself. Plus dating multiple people gives you better perspective on good and bad behavior. I might focus more on this person, and stop …
We divorced when all of our four of the kids were technically “adults”. That was hard because I—I don’t know if I was right but it’s what happened—shielded them from his bad behavior. We never had fig…
More than likely she is already cheating and is trying to fabricate reasons why it isn’t ‘her’ fault. She treats you like this 2 months in, it will only get worse. Her outlook on your ex is either jea…
N moms tend to get more nutty when theres a significant other in their child’s life. It’s toddler behavior, straight on jealousy. Accuse you of letting other people control you- because only she s…
Google infidelty 180 method. It is a playbook to turn away from bad behavior.
It's important to value yourself and take care of yourself. Take care of your money, your time, your energy, your emotions. You can say, "no, I can't do it." Don't offer detailed reasons or explanati…
I've seen the language surrounding this and will bounce from any space that calls abuse victims ableist for calling out NPD abuse. To me, it's just an excuse to allow bad behavior. It's not a neuro di…
We’ve all been there. And having dealt with abuse from diagnosed narcissists, we’ve fallen into that trap. They weaponize therapy terms in order to get away with their actions and justify bad behavior…
They are enabled by society at large. There is no accountability. Bad behavior isn't like being black or being gay or any other minority identity. It isn't a handicap like paralysis that would warrant…
not me personally. its what i have witnessed. for myself, if ive got to harm anyone in anyway. (which i dont want to and will actively avoid if at all possible)#1. they have to have put me in a positi…
Don’t call her. That’s enabling bad behavior. Some distance is good for you. She sounds toxic & exhausting. Even when you do talk later. Don’t apologize. Say just like she feels right to talk about y…
Haha you are SO NOT the problem here. You sound remarkably mature for 20 years old. You see right through their hypocrisy and double standards. It's normal to doubt yourself a bit, that's actually a…
I totally agree with the first paragraph but when are we going to put the responsibility on the manipulators to stop the manipulation? Seems like we're tiptoeing into victim blaming waters when it's a…
He says you're picking a fight when you bring up something he doesn't want to discuss so that he doesn't have to discuss it, that's all. And he's successfully done it by making you think it's a you is…
Because you figured them out, and that terrifies them more than anything. They know they used you and they don't want to have to face consequences for their bad behavior. Once they realize they can't …
Sorry you had to learn from them multiple times. Some people are so unaware of the damage they are doing. Especially when you wish you could just run to the same person that was hurting you. Then …
I would not be in a relationship with someone who treated me poorly for an entire week each month. It's one thing to have some sympathy and understanding for her if she has difficult, painful periods…
Thank you for clarifying, that makes sense to me and I agree with you. One of my younger sisters parents very similar to how our mom parented me, and it broke my heart hearing how she spoke to her bab…
I think it was manipulation to get you to ignore any ugly/bad behavior. I think he wanted to get your "buy in" to the relationship so you would feel beholden and unwilling to fight/argue/break up beca…
Is commendable that you want to help him. I see that you realize you owe him nothing. He is in the situation he is because of his choices, and it's not your job to take away the consequences of his ch…
This is a super confusing post. You draw boundaries then you break them. Sounds like the trust can never be rebuilt and you’re certainly not helping by re-introducing the idiot back into your lives.…
During the early days with my husband, we got some Nerf pew pews and were chasing each other around the house. He accidentally shot me in the eye and I was blind in that eye for 3 days. If I told you…
A lot of times we pick up behaviors from other people. Anyone in your family quick to anger? How do people respond when you have strong emotions? How mush would you say you bottle things up? Whe…