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I just realized that I might be a victim of munchausen by proxy — I'm realizing that my whole life was a lie and I am feeling waves of shame, regret, anxiety. I'm a young adult female stuck in severe isolation still at home with just my mom and sibling. I think I ha…

I had a breakthrough tonight! — Hello! Brief backstory here. I recently got divorced, and dating has been an interesting experience since. I went into one relationship very quickly with another anxiously attached person. It didn't w…

I did it!! I did the hard thing!!! Even though they were a good person, even though I knew they cared, our relationship was hurting me, despite my best attempts at healing myself. At the end of the day, an asymmetrical dynamic hurts. After 2 years of hoping and hurting, I chose myself. — I have been in anxious-avoidant dynamics before, but this was the first relationship where there were genuinely...*good* things about my the person I was seeing. They were emotionally intelligent, had…

For those hurting, advice for your 2026 and my story — Hello everyone, **Preface** I am an anxious attacher, so my experience by-and-large is with dismissive avoidants and fearful avoidants. It is not my intent to villainize these attachment styles; thi…

Specific Person (SP) Manifestation: No Magic, No Supernatural Forces. Just Proven Science — Hi everyone, It’s been a long time since I last posted, and honestly it was overdue. I keep seeing the same recycled LOA bullshit everywhere. Endless manifestation porn, more unqualified people calli…

I want to to start healing so badly, how can I? — I recently posted here my journey of realizing I have a fearful avoidant attachment. I used to think I was anxious but I realize I'm fearful avoidant and I don't want this anymore. I want to stop push…

Septile vs Novile — Hi friends 🩵 so I've been digging pretty deep into astrology recently, I had been messing around with it lightly for a couple years but now going in headlong. Not to make a career out of it or act li…

Why Manifestation can FEEL Forced and Unrealistic (Success & Guidance) — Today I came upon a realization that many people do not have for most of their lives. It was the realization that our feelings and the meanings that we attach to them are also affirmations. Right no…

Any clue what could have happened? — I took a heroic dose of dmt last year. I had every intention to communicate with whatever I may have seen during the experience. I hit my rig until I couldn't anymore, I had been sitting on my brother…

DA healing update: searching my true self, my inner child finally seen — Some of you may know me at this point. I'm (40M) dismissive avoidant, my wife fearful avoidant (41F), together 17 years, married 13 years, 3 children. I've been working on my attachment style for 5 mo…

Why Manifesting From Desire Creates Anxiety — I had a realization while trying to manifest a new job. I noticed that every time I get a notification or an email, I feel a wave of anxiety. Which is strange, because I’ve already done the “work.” I…

My mom called my son’s birthday party “f***ing embarrassing” because she cares more about what people think than celebrating him — **UPDATE:** Thank you to everyone who commented and shared advice. A lot of people suggested going no contact with my mom to protect myself and my son. I understand why people said that, but I want …

The day has come! — For more than 50 years, the Monroe Institute has been quietly pioneering a systematic way to explore human consciousness — beyond meditation, beyond belief, and beyond theory. I’m excited to share tha…

First Acid Trip (2 tabs) — This happened like a month ago and sorry if it comes off corny: At first, I was just lying in my bed, nervous. My roommate wasn’t back yet, and the walls slowly started to breathe and layer with col…

Dissociation and disorientation to the year: people with CPTSD ever struggle with realizing how many years passed in survival mode? — Sometimes when I try to be present, I suddenly realize how many years have passed since the trauma. A lot of that time I was dissociated or just surviving. That realization can feel overwhelming. It…

Cheated on after 10.5 years together, divorced at 11 years together. — Hi Everyone, This is half venting and half hoping for advice or people to listen. I'm at a low point right now so I thought reaching out to a community might be beneficial as opposed to holding it…

My new home — Hello everyone, Since May 2025, I’ve been practicing the Law of Assumption regarding owning a home. I started out affirming for a 2-bedroom, 2-bathroom house and even began viewing properties and att…

Realized in a lucid dream that my brain was generating both sides of the conversation — Guys, it was an mind blowing experience for me in the exact dream, It went crazy but I still didn't end the dream and I kept it on (basically I can wake myself up anytime I realise it's a dream, but I…

Unable to forget what I (20F) saw on my bf’s (24M) phone — I 20F was unfortunate enough to run into my bfs 24M porn collection on reddit (lol). Although, this not being the main issue. For context, we’ve been together for about 2 years now and met through …

My ex-wife tried to kill me a few years ago. She just moved in three houses down from me. — I’m struggling with how to even process this. A few years back, things with my ex-wife reached a breaking point. She was struggling with substance abuse, alcohol and pills, and I had discovered she’d …

Finally Got a Lucid Dream... So I Tested your Queries in it — Hey guys, this is gonna be a bit of a long one lol. \[CONTEXT\] For a while, I've been trying to lucid dream, but was too lazy to consistently do training, write in journals, or set multiple alarms …

All is now. Be Here Now. — One of the biggest misunderstandings about manifestation is the idea that you are trying to create something in the future. Neville’s teachings point to something deeper. Creation is finished. Every…

Feeling genuine disgust when my parents seem proud of me/brag about my accomplishments — Is it just me that experiences this weird psychological twist of sorts? My parents only seem proud of me when I conform to their “ideal” image of me. Mind you, when that was the case my depression wa…

codependency quiz wrecked me - turns out my "helping" was actually controlling — I took a codependency quiz last week on taro's tarot and i genuinely feel like the floor dropped out from under me. I've always been the person everyone comes to. The fixer. The one who drops everythi…

I Know I’m Awake Without Checking. Why Not the Same for Dreams? — I know I’m awake even when my eyes haven’t opened yet. I don’t need to check my surroundings to know I’m awake. I want it to be the same when dreaming. I shouldn’t have to notice the weirdness of the…

Persistence isn't effort. It's RETURNING — Persistence *is not effort.* Persistence is RETURNING to the state of authority. You are not persisting by trying harder, in fact you are persisting in a state that suggests you do not have what you w…

My Dearest Love, — This is my goodbye. I have kept the door cracked and the light on for you since the night we said goodbye. Sadly, I have come to the tragic and hollow realization that I am the only one holding on to …

Can aspects to houses that represent the external ever represent internal changes ONLY? — Can aspects (in transit or solar return, not natal) in houses that typically refer to actual physical things, people, etc., ever represent internal changes in the way someone relates to those things, …

I just realized my desperate craving for love was actually "Emotional Hunger" from childhood neglect. Now I feel free, but empty. — Why does nobody tell us that an intense, almost obsessive longing for love and containment often stems from deep-rooted psychological issues? I’ve recently had a grounding realization: my lifelong th…

When in doubt, return to I AM — When we have doubts or moments of fear about the "What if" or "How would', we must return back to I AM. I AM is not a word or affirmation. I AM is a present tense feeling of being. The awareness that …

Chasing that high after trauma bond — I’m eight months out from a highly toxic relationship and significant trauma bonding. I find myself chasing that high, only to crash and burn. Then, I reach clarity and feel good for a couple of month…

1.5 Years Update 💀 My predictions became true — No, I do NOT want my ex back—like ever 😭 but I do have a story + some lessons from how everything played out. So basically, about 1.5 years ago, my ex randomly broke up with me out of nowhere. Like……

My second OBE was just... Magical!! — I got up in the middle of the night and went back to sleep. I tried to fall back into sleep but instead I shuffled, twisted and turned about. I was awake, with my eyes closed trying to sleep. So to ma…

Realizing there is caretaker codependency happening in my relationship — My own journey with codependency has been a lot. My previous relationships were abusive. I’ve been in intense talk and EMDR therapy for a very long time and made lots of progress, but it feels as thou…

Immense anger after being cheated on.. 8 year relationship. — 8 year relationship down the drain.. I met her when I was 23m.. She BEGGED ME to take her serious. I took road trips frequently for work during that time and she felt like I didn’t spend enough time w…

I’m 31, but I just realized I’ve been emotionally 4 years old my entire life. — Hey everyone, I’m having a massive breakthrough and I need to put this into words. I finally understand why my life has felt like a performance for 30 years, and why I’m suddenly "falling apart" now …

What's your post divorce update? (Positive stories only please) — Would love to hear from people who came from a very dark time with a divorce and are doing better now. I'm sure a lot of us could use that today. I'm still in the muck right now but I have a friend w…

I thought I died last night. — (For background) In college - about ten years ago - I took an interest in lucid dreaming for a few months. During that time and since, I've had a few lucid dreams. Not often at all, but enough so that…

You're not trying to text them. You're trying to soothe yourself. There's a difference and it changes everything. — Every "just checking in" text. every perfectly worded message rewritten 20 times. every "I just want closure" conversation you've rehearsed in the shower. it was never really about them. it was about …

What Happened? — Just looking to gather perspective from someone else. I (M34) matched with someone (F36) on Hinge back in December. Got along really well and had two dates in January, which went really well. We kiss…

How to handle envy? — I am new to stoicism and maybe do not understand it completely so apologies in advance! Recently I cant help but been feeling jealous of another person who is dating a woman i liked. Initially I rea…

Religion might be trapping people in their own hell 💀 — We know that assumptions and beliefs create our reality. Think about people throughout history who did absolutely horrific things, yet genuinely believed they were doing the right thing in the name o…

Good idea? Advice wanted — I’ve recently came to some deep realizations about the past 7 years of my life. Since I was a child, I’ve had questions that I couldn’t quite find answers for, however I was raised southern Baptist an…

I think I manifested way more than I thought was possible — Okay… so I think I just came to the realization that I manifested ALOT more than I actually knew was possible…. Whether it was positive or negative. For instance. My elementary/ middle school crush…

One psychological shift that changed my perspective on growth (and why I'm writing a book about it) — Hi everyone, I’ve spent a long time diving deep into the mechanics of the human mind, trying to understand why we often feel "stuck" despite having the tools to grow. One thing I’ve realized is that…

Don't take, but give. Don't want, but be. — **“Do not waste one moment in regret, for to think feelingly of the mistakes of the past is to re-infect yourself. Turn from appearances and assume the feeling that would be yours were you already the…

My 10 yr relationship just got ended tonight at 9PM — I am writing this but I am still in shock and couldn’t process that on a random night, my 10 yr relationship just got ended. I cannot post in a wlw subreddit so I will be asking mg fellow women. For …

Fiancé ended our 12 year relationship after meeting a new guy — Caitlyn, I'm sorry, and I miss you and still love you. I can't function. I can't sleep. I don't know what to do, and I don't know how much of this was me, and how much of this was him. Everyone has to…

When I Let the Devil Back In — I feel like I can't speak this to anyone in my life so I will try here. What people don’t understand is that this didn’t just happen in some clean, simple way where I got hurt and then walked away. I …

He drifted away… and I finally saw why — I trusted him so easily—without questioning, without doubting, just believing he wouldn’t hurt me. But for the past couple of months, something didn’t feel right. Our conversations became shorter, ni…

am i childish for not being able tolet go? — its a little complicated we didnt just date and break up, i mean we kinda did but there was a lot before that. im gonna start from the beginning. i will skip a bit of unimportant stuff just keep in m…

I realized after I read my initial response how much I repeated myself. Sigh, this shit is hard. Brain not firing on all pistons. The reason I asked for compassion is because he is acting like it’s a …

Yeah, and if any of you from this sub are on Year 3 with nothing to show for it but some stranger on Reddit screaming at you about how you're doing it wrong (when they themselves haven't manifested an…

Now I am sitting with the realization of how much I have victimized myself and made things worse than they really are, like when I take another person's behavior towards me personally when it isn't, i…

OP, some helpful advice for once: start focusing on enjoying your life and loving yourself first and foremost. It's a sad reality but a reality nonetheless that most people in life -- in fact probably…

You always saw her as something more than a friend, it's just that now you need to realize it because she is out of your reach. Since she was always available before, you never bothered and was part o…

Agree with most everyone else who has commented here. I don't know that the act of giving 3-4 weeks of space is either secure or AA. Instead, I'd look at the motivation behind it and what the space fe…

I totally get it. I was usually the one to process his emotions and fix things when the relationship crumbled because of his doubts. This time, I am not around to do that for him, he has imposed 'No C…

Text of original post by u/DaniT0n: Hello! Brief backstory here. I recently got divorced, and dating has been an interesting experience since. I went into one relationship very quickly with another an…

I would like to share my story too. An FA myself, I got into a relationship 4 years ago, and that too with an anxious type. I got highly triggered by her needy behaviour and fear of abanoment. She wou…

https://youtu.be/9l5ALCPEBkc?si=i3VKUlg3rHPJem1n She’s got tons of fantastic talks on everything around this topic. Also: knowing you can give it to yourself. For some reason, realizing that I was t…

Me (24F) and my boyfriend (24M) have been together for over five years, these last two long distance. We see each other once a month and I asked early on if we could text each other everyday - nothing…

I love the realization. Some narcissistic people only blame others completely to protect themselves while a smaller minority are able to realize both side's faults. You are very mature and im glad you…

This is such an honest and important realization... and honestly, something a lot of people don’t talk about enough when it comes to healing attachment wounds. When you start working on yourself, espe…

Thank you. ♥️ I think you're right that this is coming out of sudden realization that her experience might have been worse and contributed to by me more than I understood.

Going to therapy is a great step, but therapy doesn't work unless you do. Consistent and considerate effort has to be put in in order to undo the habits we've formed and her giving into the habits (pu…

Wanted to shape some of my thoughts for you and add to ThrowRA_patata3000. 🤞 It could be my two cents: but it might be that deep down, your feeling an intuition that’s trying to pull you out outward…

I feel like I could have written this, word for word. I completely understand! Like you, I came to a realization that I was probably always going to live with my avoidant attachment and so, had to f…

Great for you to have this realization! It isn't easy! I sat on my decision the evening before ending it for many hours, cycling through the data and seeking support. It will be unfamiliar at first wh…

For the avoidant, what was the chain of events that led to the realization you are avoidant? Did that coincide with a recognition that counseling is necessary?

I totally understand. It's so incredibly lonely coming to the realization that there's not a single person in the world who truly knows me (not even my parents). And I'm to blame for pushing people aw…

Wow, this is so insightful. I'm so impressed by this realization about yourself! Seriously. That's not a small thing you just unearthed. Way to go!  One thing I do to flex my self trust muscle is re…

Hi, avoidant aplspec aroace (the quadruple a!) here :) It's important to differentiate a trauma response with sexuality but it can be tricky. I think first things first, you should acknowledge whic…

Hi everyone, I’m curious if anyone here with an anxious attachment style has experienced something often called a "phantom ex" (intrusive thoughts, emotional pull, or idealization of a past partner l…

Yes!!!!! This is the most important advice for insecure attachment styles. It took me years to have all the same realizations as a now secure leaning FA. Thanks for sharing!

One of the key insights that I gained when I went through a bad breakup once is that for me, I value coherence. I value understanding what happens, what I did, what they did, and what it all meant. No…

I agree that he was hoping to develop given my other great qualities and our emotional connection. I’m just the type of person who can’t even stomach kissing someone im not really attracted to, so I c…

Holy shit! This post definitely resonates with me! I just learned today that I dissociate, particularly derealization, where my surroundings don't seem real, like I'm in a dream. I wonder if your link…

I got dumped via text yesterday morning (when we had been planning a date for yesterday evening for a week plus) It never really crossed my mind but my brother, my best friend, AND my therapist all ha…

I have dated non-monogamously in the past and came to the realization that it wasn't for me. I tried my best to make it work, but ultimately, I only had the bandwidth for one person. One person I date…

I think just being honest with yourself about how you feel with your partner is really important, at least speaking from my experience. We dated for 5 months and I just broke it off after a month of r…

Man, I've been trying to think of a supportive take here but like... It just feels like you're in the wrong mindset. Being together with someone that truly is a good match for you makes your life in…

Unfortunately come to the realization that if I ever get into a relationship again, it will have to be the man who shows interest and makes the first move initially. (When I am dating/in a relationsh…

Hey. I went down the attachment theory rabbit hole for a while after my guy dumped me last year, looking for a reason why I wasn't good enough, what I did wrong. We had a couple chats after our breaku…

It's going to sound a touch insensitive, but one of the most eye-opening realizations for me was when I was helping my sibling through a breakup and realized in talking with them that we both had very…

I'm amazed at your memory! You are 100% correct. I was overly infatuated with her. In hindsight, it was an unhealthy level of obsession and it created unrealistic expectations for anyone else. That s…

Yup I think those were two recent realizations I had as well, which is why I chose to step back. I also realized that I was always anticipating/accommodating, but he wasn't necessarily meeting me wher…

Wow. Really interesting to read this, especially about you and your wife coming to realizations and conclusions together. Thank you for sharing. Do you have any books, literature to recommend? Or did…

Yes, after I had my kids, I came to the shocking realization that, no, she did NOT do her best. Not even close! It actually made me feel even more horrified at my treatment as a child. Society is so…

McKenna describes going without sleep for weeks @ la chorerra in True Hallucinations. & I’ve experienced it myself for shorter intervals. Has something to do I think w the reconciliation of the intern…

Not good maybe. You mentioned she had asked you in the past about you reciprocating postings of her on your own page more often. By her bringing it up she was asking for reassurances of your relation…

Realization and embodiment of peace are the foundation from which you know Divinity and manifestation becomes effortless. The layer underscoring all of ACIM is that your will is God’s will and you ca…

You nailed it. I already know I will never be able to not love them. I highly doubt any connection at all, romantic or otherwise, will ever come close. I will be stuck loving someone who doesn't want …

In my opinion? Research first, understand what the phenomena is. It is very broad, and extremely shocking if you ever get to interact with them! There is a mixed bag of a lot of different groups. Look…

Sorry for the late reply. My post was automatically removed initially I think due to low karma, and it must’ve been approved afterwards but I haven’t opened Reddit until now. Thank you for the respons…

This usually happens because he was already detaching long before they breakup, and rather than having the decency to communicate this with you he instead decided to walk away when he's finally detach…

I feel this so much. I lived my life in a fantasy and in constant collapse for 25 years. Dissociation and derealization. Psychologically and emotionally a child. There’s a lot of grief for the life …

I (41M) went on 4 dates with a girl (29F). All of them went well. She even came home after dates 3 and 4, and we were physically intimate, and she stayed for many hours. But outside of the dates, she …

I think there’s a strong tendency for some people to mischaracterize how forgiveness works. As I understand it, forgiveness is a protection against becoming bitter. It never excuses the abuse or the a…

Love your realization! She will be fine :) as long as you and ur ex care about her well being and do your best to be present, that’s what matters

Over the past few months I’ve kept getting contact dreams that depersonalization/derealization is not only something that’s necessary, but something to be welcomed or deliberately brought in. I think …