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To begin with, actually suppressing emotions is impossible. In ancient texts, Seneca tells this so many times. Another important premise: emotions are NOT a bad thing for a stoic. There are positive …

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FAQs about r/AnxietyHelp — Hi guys, One of the mods here suggested creating a FAQ page for our subreddit to help eliminate confusion. **Why was my post removed automatically?** It wasn't! It has been sent to our mod queue fo…

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Getting rejected every time during the portfolio presentation stage — Hello everyone, I seem to be unable to pass the portfolio presentation phase and now is the fourth time this has happened — Many of these companies are fintech which I have a background in but recentl…

Blog built with “Projects” in Divi instead of “Posts” – Will this hurt SEO? — Hi everyone, I’ launched mta website using WordPress + Divi (still in early stages), and my site developer set up the blog section using **“Projects”** instead of the standard **“Posts”**. Now I’m c…

SEO Basics Done But Not Ranking — I've been working on optimizing a page for a keyword with good search volume and low difficulty according to Keyword Planner, but it's nowhere in the top 100 results. I've done all the basics: * Met…

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Voice-to-text recs for sales professionals — Happy Monday killers! Hope everyone's crushing their quota this quarter. So, I've been in sales for about 5 years now, mostly SDR roles, and I'm starting to feel it. My wrists are *screaming*. All th…

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Hardstuck in Pre-Seed. i will not promote — Hey fellow startupers, I actually wanna hear some advice from you guys. Currently we're in pre-seed, and tbh, last year when we were having money problems I thought once we overcome them, we'd kinda s…

With Updated Reporting, Now Deleted Products are removed from Sales & Tax Reports — I'm struggling to get a clear answer from any of the help team (shocker I know). Previously I could delete a product and still run reports and see the sales numbers, etc. Ran a report yesterday and t…

MySQL Database Quota Reached - Clean database — Hey everyone, I’m currently hosting several websites on SiteGround’s GoGeek plan which comes with 40 GB of web space. Most of my websites use between 1–3 GB, with one around 5.3 GB. However, one of m…

How do I report a Shopify store? — I placed a large order using the SHOP app. Not only was my order wrong but the contact email for the store is wrong and so is the email on the website. It comes back with an “address not found” from m…

Stolen merch — I sell handmade keychains at a local coffee shop. Recently two have been stolen and the owners told me they don’t have cameras. I’m assuming it was a teenager that stole them. My question is how can…

r/AstrologyChartShare Is Being Rebooted - Stay Tuned! 🌙 — Hey everyone, We’re the new moderation team for r/AstrologyChartShare, and we’ve officially submitted a request to Reddit to reopen this subreddit! Our goal is to revive this space as a welcoming, o…

Success Story: FA/Disorganized Attachment Healing Roadmap, Resource Recommendations — **Hello, fellow Fearful Avoidants! The below post has grown out of almost 3 years of research and healing this attachment style, which in my case was coupled with Relationship OCD (ROCD). ROCD is a vi…

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Successes - this really works — I'm very busy but just wanted to let you guys know, KEEP AT IT. I'll keep some of the information vague to prevent judgements (you never know with some people). The purpose of this is encourage more …

How do i stop the cycle of freaking out when im away from my partner? — When me and my partner dont see eachother for a long time, i just shut down. Everyday were apart the urge to pick apart every message is so strong and eventually when its too much, i just break down. …

Did I make my Avoidance worse by pushing through it? — Hi all, I’ve been aware I have issues with commitment/avoidance my entire conscious life, but despite it I’ve always wanted to find love I didn’t meet my first boyfriend until I was 22, and it was l…

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FA breakup & prolonged limbo - does avoidance calcify over time or can it still reverse? — I’m hoping to hear from people who’ve been through something similar, FAs, or anyone who has opinions on this. I was in a 2 year relationship with someone I later realized is fearful avoidant (I didn…

My Experience Being an Avoidant Woman — I 27(f) am a lesbian who has a fearful avoidant attachment style. I have almost no control over my attraction; I can be really into/attracted to and excited about someone but then something happens/th…

Why Manifestation can FEEL Forced and Unrealistic (Success & Guidance) — Today I came upon a realization that many people do not have for most of their lives. It was the realization that our feelings and the meanings that we attach to them are also affirmations. Right no…

The post-abuse life is rarely worth it — Losing your youth to abuse, coming out extremely fragmented and almost disabled when it comes to forming relationships, chronic illness that prevents you from work that prevents you from money that pr…

SELF-CONCEPT BLOCKS MANIFESTATIONS! Here's my quick fix — Feeling unworthy of receiving what we want is the dominant vibration even though we've affirmed 300 times "I am worthy!" It's our self-concept silently preventing our greatest desires! Even though i…

Effective ways to get lucid dreams 80% — A way that you might think is contrary to the ways on the internet, but this is actually the most effective way according to me, how? This is the way. The first way, this method often allows you to h…

Is it possible to manifest a better world — If it's my reality how do I prevent ww3 from happening. I don't want to die, I just want to pursue my dreams as an artist. That's all I want. There's a lot going on, if it's my reality why can't I sto…

self concept got me my dream life — This is a rant, but this is a confirmation that self-concept is real and it's what changes your life. Self-concept is something that you shouldn't convince yourself of. Self-concept is something you b…

Some men have questionable hygiene and it has made dating even more challenging than it already is. — Dating is already challenging enough. I (43F) am completely exhausted from conversations about hygiene before a date - because I don’t want something like hygiene to prevent us from getting to know o…

Persistence isn't effort. It's RETURNING — Persistence *is not effort.* Persistence is RETURNING to the state of authority. You are not persisting by trying harder, in fact you are persisting in a state that suggests you do not have what you w…

How do people become emotionally immature? — I was raised by and surrounded by emotionally immature adults my whole life, while living in a toxic and abusive household created mainly by my father’s abuse towards my mother, and her compliance and…

I Stayed For WAY Too Long — I just found this sub (after watching the Ben Affleck movie *Deep Water*, which was super triggering), so I thought I'd tell you my story. Maybe someone here can relate. My ex-wife struggled with a …

Want a bf but scared and I feel unattractive — I want a boyfriend but I believe I’m unattractive because I was bullied a lot in my childhood. I had some horrible interactions with men when I was young. These things are preventing me from going out…

I told my mom my deepest darkest secrets and now the whole family knows — My dad strangled me and for years I tried talking to her about the pain and she ignored me over and over telling me to forgive and forget. I begged her to read about trauma and she ignored me even mor…

A complicated (online) friendship [vent?] — Hey everyone; I don't know if this fits here or relates too much to codependency, but I can try posting it and see what people's thoughts are. People usually talk about proper IRL relationships so per…

People are always shocked when abuse happens in "good families"...... but that's kind of the point. — I saw the latest news about the Duggars & how the mom was recently arrested and charged with child endangerment. What really stood out to me wasn’t even the charges, it was how many people were shocke…

I meditated for 10 years. Here is how life changed — This is a personal anecdote of daily (99.5%) meditation practice spanning 10 years. I hope this will be helpful for those looking for motivation for their practice. Personally, I found external motiva…

Energy house cleaning — Yesterday I did energy session for my friend and later on helped him clean his house of bad energy (previous locator, his friend, died of cancer there, he couldn't sleep and started to have health iss…

the anxiety is gone... but now there's just a massive void. How do you handle the "nothingness" after liberation? — Hey everyone, First of all, thank you for the incredible support on my last post. It’s been overwhelming. But I need to be honest with you today: while on the outside it looks like I’m finally "winni…

Question for AM: did your parents encourage you to socialize / date early? If you are a father, what's your opinion on early socialization / dating? — I think I was too harsh on my parents growing up but I realize now that my mom went out of her way to find me a Chinese girl to be my playmate which sort of was pretty radical by Asian American standa…

How do you approach talking about sex in a new relationship? — I (23F) have recently started dating someone (25M) for around two months now, and we recently had a conversation explicitly about us being exclusive. Our sexual chemistry is definitely there, but we h…

SF to name street after Chinese-American woman who saved thousands from human trafficking — I was happy to read this news about a street in San Francisco being renamed after a brave Chinese-American woman named Tien Fuh Wu who saved thousands of women and girls from human trafficking. With r…

BF of 3.5 years broke it off. I'm so happy and free. — Sooo these last couple of days were a lot. I (29M) have been with my boyfriend (27M) for 3.5 years. If you asked me a week ago, I'd say our relationship had its ups and downs, but we were generally ha…

Sitting with emotions. — one of my biggest challenges in life has been sitting with uncomfortable feelings. I've done everything to avoid them pretty much all my life. I've looked for distractions in drugs, people, and work. …

I've had headaches for 3 days now since I did 3 audios in a row. Help, advice. — Three days ago, in the afternoon, I listened to three audio recordings in a row: Focus 10 Pre, Advanced, and Libre. I read here that someone said they could achieve an OBE (Out-of-Body Experience) eve…

First provoked exit from the body, Raduga method, smart band analysis — Yesterday afternoon I received a smart band with a vibrating alarm on my wrist so as not to wake my partner. I had previously experienced two spontaneous OBEs within a 2-3 month period, but I had neve…

Shrooms vs. LSD Explained by Experienced Tripper — **WARNING:** All information provided is based off of my subjective experience from my use of psychedelics over the years. Experiences will vary greatly, do not take this as factual or gospel. This is…

Don’t seem to understand which goals to prioritize and work on first because all seem critical — I keep going back and forth with my mind about the things I need to work on but all I’m doing really is just wasting time breaking promises and procrasnating. I feel like I need time to be ready or be…

How does a partile Saturn-Venus opposition act when sitting right on the ASC/DSC axis? — https://preview.redd.it/pllk211r6urg1.png?width=700&format=png&auto=webp&s=b55183f3a90c146a6bf7f65246a631ea0ee0503b Posting again with the correct house system. I’m seeking interpretations of this s…

I don't understand something, if that is a real thing and you are actually doing it, what prevents multiple people from meeting each other in "planes". Else it might just be the Brain telling itself a…

It doesn't prevent people totally, but there are complexities to this practice, it is not as simple as it seems. Astral projection is inherently a spiritual practice and not always easy to control. Lo…

I haven't recalled my dreams for a long time, but when I did I could easily tell I was dreaming. The problem I had was that as soon as I realised I was in a dream, it would start to end and I would wa…

The best advice I could give is to envision this, if you are having a hard time holding on to this vision for hoping the future will lead you to back together and you will not let anything happen to p…

Hello, I'm Kale, and Im 34. I was just married 3 months ago after being in a loving 8+ year relationship with the kindest person I've ever met. Three days ago she told me she had developed a relation…

She’s the one that started it. It is true that it’s preventing her from progress, and she needs to know it.  As of 2025, there is no irrefutable proof. If you’re going to call something “daft,” call …

I cannot lucid dream on purpose yet, but if i dream specific dreams(Like me driving) I can realise that im dreaming. Then I say to my self, you re dreaming, great im now going to control this dream. T…

It's not. It's actually preventing them from reaching a point they can tolerate intimacy. The more they run, the more their brain rewires (via Hebbian learning) and becomes more efficient at switchi…

24 hours makes sense when you consider their infrastructure scale. Rolling back ML models isn't like deploying a typical web app - you're dealing with massive distributed systems, model weights, and c…

I am a FA learnt secure, and I'll say almost half of the women I have dated are avoidants. Ken Reids and Dr Sarah Hensley have given lots of advice on this. I'll paraphrase them: 1) Ask them early,…

>Ask them early, even before the first date, how have dating been for them and what they have learnt from it. DA has an entrenched self-defense mechanism that will prevent them for seeing relationshi…

Some thoughts - this is rushed, so not nicely written: \- Anxious-preoccupied: preoccupied with attachment figures and attachment relationships, anxious about possible unavailability of attachment fi…

Congratulations on holding firm and not over-extending yourself! I know how hard it can be to not do that. In fact I've never really been able to prevent myself doing that. You have won a major victo…

I'm not suggesting that sub is 100% bad (nothing is all bad or all good). But it's absolutely an echo-chamber that frequently becomes toxic and dehumanizing, conflates every negative behavioral trait …

I can’t tell you that your experience isn’t real. I can just go off of my experience dating someone who was avoidant and hearing other people’s experiences. The fact that you didn’t let yourself care …

From the purely bystander's perspective, ie. the rational and adult brain perspective with 0 emotions involved, him telling you to "act normal" was yet another of his defense mechanisms. From the po…

I think out of all OP’s signs of AA this is like biggest one and kind of the only one. I mean cmon now, you’re being ghosted by a DA. You already know this is unhealthy, you know it’s time cut your lo…

Do you really think telling her things will change anything? Are you expecting something out of that? She will learn from this (from you), and the next person (if she wants it) will enjoy her best ve…

Have you ever tried mentioning anything about attachment theory or being an FA at the beginning of dating? Or does it feel like it’s too soon and may sabotage things? For me it feels like I’d rather t…

You are unconsciously putting distance between yourself and others and it's tricking your brain into thinking love isn't possible. You probably need therapy to learn to be vulnerable, as avoidance sys…

I completely understand this. What if it is possible to experience these simply as junk thoughts that are running on an error from past conditioning? For me, for a while, I thought the thoughts migh…

Fairly common and explains the reason behind anxious behavior strategies in your attachment system. As I’m sure many of you struggle with fully letting go of the past and probably struggle with emoti…

It may sound weird but I tried to write my deep feelings and thoughts about my anxious attachment on ChatGPT and it helped me a lot on some precise points, like particular situations that are triggers…

Hi! Sure, this is my own healing journey, nothing more, nothing less. Everything here comes from sources that I have listed, I relied on their status in the scientific community and didn't go as far a…

I just got out of a 10yr relationship, we still talk and have talked since we broke up. We broke up due to distance and needing to become our own people after having been in a relationship for so long…

That's ok if he's sad about it. It sounds harsh, but people get dumped and have to move out every day. Pain after a breakup is normal and natural, not something to be prevented. He's allowed to be dis…

I can relate. I think for me it wasn't about feeling like they couldn't care for me, but my own overviligant need to prevent preventable things paired with being in an overfunctioning role with someon…

I understand. I can relate to these feelings *a lot.* I understand not wanting to label someone you love as an abuser, I think it can prevent so many people from actually healing because… I mean I cou…

Text of original post by u/Local-Focus-4252: When me and my partner dont see eachother for a long time, i just shut down. Everyday were apart the urge to pick apart every message is so strong and even…

Kudos to you for doing recovery work. I was in a long on/off relationship with a DA until recently, and the biggest thing I learned is that secure attachment is only sustainable when both people activ…

Made an Interactive App for Reading "Meditations" Like re-reading Marcus Aurelius' "Meditations" and find Gregory Hays’s translation good and accessible, but in my view Meditations was meant to b…

I am earned secure. When I found attachment-styles, I was already on the healing journey, so I cannot say with accuracy what my untreated and unconscious attachment style was; probably FA leaning DA. …

Him being online doesn't mean anything. You're different as you are/were in a relationship. It's much more emotionally loaded. It's very possible he doesn't have the capacity for that even if he has o…

> Thank you for this perspective. It actually helps more than you probably realize. Happy to be of help! > Looking back, I don’t think he’s trying to punish me or manipulate the situation. This is …

>This is consistent with my first person experience. I did this when I didn't know to respond to her emotions, as a way to "prevent" conflict and preserve peace. >Again, this is accurate. Myself, bac…

That actually makes sense. When we became friends and I asked why he wouldn’t be serious with me when dating if we get on so well, he said because he liked me as a person a lot and if we dated he’d be…

I have recently become a master in this arena (not really but honestly so much better after 2 yrs of therapy). What I did to help myself was to slowly tell him what was triggering me. At first (probab…

Look up the "neuroscience of breakup". It's totally normal to ruminate during the first days/ weeks, as your brain si trying to make sense of what happens, in hope that udnerstanding can help you avoi…

By the way I tried googling this phenomenon since AI gave you a handy name, and the google AI gave me the answer you described in the post but cited your post as the source. There is no other place wh…

I mean, if it’s someone that you text with a lot, some context goes a long way. If I’m texting someone a lot and have a busy day where I’ll likely be away from my phone most of the day, I tell them up…

Yes. I asked ChatGPT to make a concise summary: Anxious-Preoccupied (AP): Dwells, Replays, Ruminates APs are the most likely to: • Replay conversations over and over • Analyze what went wrong • …

That's very interesting, thank you so much for sharing your experience! I'm curious what else I will find out. I could also imagine that shame plays a significant role in this, particularly the sham…

You can do it. I feel like being blocked is easier. Because then you know there's nothing you can do presently to change the situation. I went days texting my ex and spiraling relentlessly. It defin…

I really believe you can't mess up what's meant for you. There's a quote from a Stephen King book that I love: "Ka (which is his version of god/fate/destiny) comes like a wind and your plans stand bef…

If a pretty woman agreed to go on a date with me, there is no amount of rain that would prevent me from showing up to the date.

This might be a silly question, but I always thought you need both condom and birth control (pills) for better combo at preventing pregnancy. Or is a condom only always enough, unless we noticed a lea…

> tendency to weirdly label AnxA as fundamentally more manipulative or to psychonalyze us as having nefarious intentions without knowing it I would guess that this is because convincing people to do …

It does sound like his idea of what love is could be quite different, and maybe he really does feel the same way about you, but for him “love” isn’t the right word yet. However, it’s definitely a vali…

Well, with the suicide threats, you have to be firm that if they say they are going to self harm that you are going to call emergency services. This prevents them from using it as a manipulation tacti…

Tell her before she gets pregnant.  Save her from the sad destiny of becoming a single mom with 1-2yo in her hands and then having to have to keep that cheating man in her life forever because of the …