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Many people hear voices now and then, usually a voice says their name, and nothing more. It's normal. Possibly, it's the brain generating another "self". Possibly it's the subconscious finding its vo…

I Genially Think My (35F) Husband (36M) is a Psychopath — Hi everyone, please I need help. I’m 35F and my husband is 36M. We’ve been married for 10 years and have two boys (7 and 5). I honestly don’t know what to think anymore. About three months ago my hus…

Cheated on after 10.5 years together, divorced at 11 years together. — Hi Everyone, This is half venting and half hoping for advice or people to listen. I'm at a low point right now so I thought reaching out to a community might be beneficial as opposed to holding it…

I (28F) care deeply about my fiancé (28M) but feel like the romantic connection has faded after years of imbalance. How do you know when it’s truly over? — From a burner account. I’m looking for some perspective because I feel like I’m at the end of a long internal process and I don’t know if I’m being unfair or if this is just the reality of where my re…

I (34m) have been with my partner (34f) for 8 years. I have supported us financially for 8 years but want her to contribute and I'm made to feel like the bad guy — She had just quit her job when we met and dated for a few months before she moved in and I agreed to support us until she was able to find work. She has had a part time job here and there over the yea…

She cheated after 14 years — This is my first ever post on Reddit and it’s a long one so apologies in advance for any formatting errors. I have been with my fiancé for 14 years, we have been engaged for the last 4. Our relations…

I (40m) found out my wife was having an affair. Confronted her. Now she has ghosted me. — It is still very early days, I'm currently staying with my parents, trying to navigate this very fresh wound. I don't even know where she is anymore, I thought she was at home with the cats, but I can…

Kinda Proud but Missing Support — It’s been 8 months, I have read so much here, now posting for the first time. After 32 years it was a blindside. He left to get “a fresh start”, “ just want to be happy”; this was all after he me…

My progress to a position of strength — I haven't posted my story in this sub mainly because it's far too complex and I felt compared to other people in this thread my betrayal may not have been as catastrophic. A summary for context - I w…

Feeling cast aside — My husband of almost 20 years has told me that he would like a divorce. I’ve asked him to go to marriage counselling but he doesn’t want to do it. I’m devastated and we have teenage children who still…

UPDATE: I (32m) found out my partner (32f) cheated on me while she was away on holiday. She doesn’t know that I know. How do I navigate this? — Here's some context from my previous post: [https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship\_advice/comments/1s6r5cv/comment/od55fnc/?context=3](https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/1s6r5cv/…

Looking for support/therapeutic counsellors for my parents — 30M, Mumbai, India Looking for support/therapeutic counsellors for my parents I've relocated to a new city and my parents are back in Mumbai, and my mum is taking it especially hard. It's a full bl…

20 years and want out — Ive been married to my wife for 20 years, and we have 2 grown up kids, 20 and 28, both of whom live in different countries now for study and work. My wife and I run a family business, so we have spent…

25M, Ex-situationship keeps breaking no contact, advice needed — Hi I’m 25M, Bi and live in London, UK. I met “Tony” (same age and also Bi - might I add we’re both discreet/DL) in 2022 via Snapchat (lol). This “situationship” (I don’t even know if I can call it t…

Turbulent year. Opinions on the worst year of my life? — I got into a relationship at 16. Within the first two years of our relationship I discovered he was cheating by having sexual chats and sending explicit pictures online to other women. I forgave him a…

How can I do better — My Story — A Journal Entry Where It All Began I grew up in a joint family — grandparents, cousins, relatives all around. On the surface, there was warmth and togetherness. But my immediate family wa…

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I 39F don’t think I love my husband 48M anymore — I 39F work full time and I’m a mother to what feels like two but is actually 1F and 48M. The latter if you have done the maths is my husband. He wanted a child, I was hesitant because he’s unreliable…

I’m 32F and my partner is 37M, been married for 3 years and together for 6. I am looking to separate due to no physical intimacy from his end. Anyone been through something similar? We have tried communicating. — Hi everyone, I’m looking for some honest advice and perspective on my situation. I’m currently married, but things haven’t been going well for quite some time. One of the main issues is the lack of a…

Exes response to me saying I'm in therapy — i ended a relationship back in March as the effort was a one way street and he was giving me less than bare minimum. During one of the times we broke NC I told my ex that the way be treated me had d…

Bio father is in hospital — **TL;DR:** I stopped speaking to my biological father in 2019 after he refused to respond to a letter confronting his abuse and other issues. I went no contact with my mother in Dec 2021. They are sti…

me and my partner have split — my partner has ended it, moved out with our 1 &1/2 month baby, she says she needs space to heal and says she has tremor from when the baby was born, saying i wasnt there for them, we have been to coun…

My mother can't apologise. — I (F21) have a really close relationship with my mum. My dad's not in the picture anymore. So I really rely on her. She's supportive, she does so much for me. But she cannot apologise for anything. No…

Do I write a email to my NM? — Hi, I’ve been NC with my NM for over 10 years now and it’s taken a lot of counselling, deep inner work and self help to be at the stage I am now, I also now have 3 children and my own family. Recently…

A different kind of suffering in marriage - you have tips how to solve my situation? 28F and 33M — We just got married after a year of intense planning for a large wedding that I ultimately did not like and that was far too expensive for my taste. Of course, I did enjoy some parts of the wedding, b…

The universe literally pays me to stop my self-denial of psychology as coping mechanism — *Throwaway as my main account is geographically identifiable* My nMom used to brag that I earned an MA psychology with her because she finished the nine-month conversion programme while pregnant with…

The universe literally pays me to stop my self-denial of psychology as coping mechanism — My nMom used to brag that I earned an MA psychology with her because she finished the nine-month conversion programme while pregnant with me. She was rejected for clinical psychologist licensure progr…

I'm in a love marriage and am facing a separation phase more than an year now. — I'll be honest, coming from an anonymous account feels much safer than being direct about it as I've seen people to just hunt for justifications which prove their side of the story even if it is an ut…

19M just broken up with abruptly by 20F — I (19M) and my now ex (20F) were dating for a total of 1.25 years. We began dating in January 2025. We met on hinge and were long distance "friends" for around a month before she first told me she lov…

Every major life event rips the scab — It‘s been 3 years since I found out that my ex has made the decision to end our marriage. No counselling, no ”I’m unhappy with us” talks (though of course she was, she was carrying a lot). She hasn’t…

Found out my (54F) ex‑husband (52M) died alone - struggling with guilt and perspective — TW: suicide I’ve never posted a question on Reddit before, although I’ve been a long‑time reader and almost religious observer. I recently found out that my ex‑husband died around Christmas, but his…

Disagreement between me (F43) and husband (M49) over lunch invite — We have been together 16 years and married for nearly 7. We had planned to spend the day together on Sunday. On Saturday morning I suggested two activities to which he said no (which was fine). On Sa…

Overthinking, Negative thoughts, Loneliness. Please give some advice or help. — Hey all, I genuinely need some help and suggestions I have a bad childhood, where I am my mother was abused by my father a lot. I survived with him for nearly 16 years. Next we left him and living wi…

The trauma and CPTSD — Nearly 7 months separated, NC for at least 5 of those! one child (17) and no financial ties. 22 years together, 20 of those married. it's just come to light that she has had a kik account for 13 yea…

parents forcing me to break up with bf — i’m 21 (f) and my boyfriend is 20 (m). we have been dating for 3 years. he is a white man and i’m indian. i come from a strict conservative family. when i moved abroad 4 years ago my parents made me p…

How do I (14m) convince my mum to send me to get therapy — A couple months ago I went to thing counselling thing (to help with understanding emotions) and at the end me and my mum were told I should do therapy and how long they recommend the gap from what I w…

How do you know if you want to be a therapist? — Hi, I’m a 23F who’s been considering going into counselling and psychotherapy for the past year. I haven’t pursued this idea yet for multiple reasons: 1. What if I’m not cut out for it? - am I too em…

Does couple's counselling actually work? — Has someone tried it? If so, did it have a heavy impact in your relationship? Thank you!

Is my therapist innapropiate or am I overly sensitive — Im 29F, hes in his 50sM. Okay this may be long but please bear with... a year and a half ago me and my partner were on a break and started seeing a couples counsellor after 4-5 months he suggested due…

My (28F) boyfriend (25M) is too scared to have sex. Where do I go from here? — Hi reddit. Throw away account. I’ll use fake names for the sake of the story. I, 28F, have been with my partner John, 25M for 2 and a half years now. The beginning of our relationship was more emotio…

My wife has started a trial separation with me — Reading the Reddit threads about trial separations doesn't fill me with hope of reconciliation from both parties. My wife (36), and myself 36 with two young kids (a 4 and 7 year old) have just started…

My wife of 8 years has been cheating on me for 4 months — We have been married 8 years together 12 total. ive always tried to support her the best i could. when she wanted to go full freelance illustrator a few years back i tried to make it work by switching…

I need support and advice. Feeling worthless, like Mum and Dad were right to treat me like rubbish for all those years. — I don't know where else to turn. Please I need support and advice, just kind words. i'm in such a mess and I don't know what to do. The last year has been so awful. I do feel worthless and useless. …

I was neglected from birth till, well, now, and have CPTSD for 28479227392 reasons related to my parents and to other experiences. I don't think focusing on blame is useful. I can't blame my one paren…

What you have said mirrors almost exactly what I felt and went through, including me explaining to her briefly at the end about attachement issues and asking if she wanted to know more, and whether sh…

Hi, with all due respect - I'm formerly disorganised, and with some secure-leaning (work in progress). This being said, I have been in therapy with regularity for 11 years (I had seen therapists and …

I really feel for you my friend. I was in a relationship for nearly three years and a quick spiral due to work burnout ended the relationship that was otherwise loving. I’ve felt the same as you for n…

Get to counselling asap. Being after only 5 months of knowing each other is moving pretty fast and you can’t have seen everything about who your fiancé is.

It's pretty hard to connect with someone who "doesn't say much" due to anxiety. Have you ever done any counselling and/or considered meds for it? 

Sorry that you're going through that. Everyone's different but I've used meds temporarily in the past to get the gumption to work through what I need to work through in counselling. Sounds like you're…

It doesn’t seem like it’s going to improve any time soon. The solution is hiring someone to share his workload but that hasn’t been approved by the finance dept and will take time. It will probably ge…

No im not. I just finished counselling though and its not really helped. 

You were 18 when this started, right? I'm sorry OP. Sounds like he groomed and took advantage of your naiveté. Trauma bonding is probably part of the on-off cycle. I'd get some counselling to help pr…

Aaahhh mate this scrap. So sorry to read your story. Stay strong, it takes a lot of time and will power to continue to be the person you need. Don’t hold your emotions in, my coach had me focussing…

Ok, I’m just going to give quick summary before I sign off. First for those believing he cheated, even with all this I can’t imagine him ever doing that, he has always been the most kind and loyal per…

You can’t fix a marriage if only one person is working on it. It’s not compromise if you’re not both negotiating. At some point, even if you believed things would last forever, even if you did your b…

I find myself being very sceptical that he’s telling the truth about this ‘test’ to see if you’ll initiate. No high libido person can go three months for the sake of this experiment. A couple of weeks…

Psychotherapy is an umbrella term, CBT is a type of psychotherapy. Are you by any chance in counselling?

I found out in my early 50s that my stbxw had cheated multiple times throughout our marriage, culminating in a 2 year affair with my best friend. Just about destroyed me when that came out and blew th…

A therapist in New York who does a couples counselling TV show charges $800 an hour makes me sick 🤢 and she isn’t ain’t all that either from what I saw

Men like to feel like you're attracted to them and now your husband knows that if he doesn't maintain your sex life then it won't happen, and instead of trying to work on it you just throw your hands …

Yeah I’m under 5.5 and I weight a tad less. I do not carry the weight well. I’m also on steroids for an illness. Had a baby like you. I have a moonface often from steroids. My spouse has never said an…

Don't get pregnant. Stop the couples counselling and get out. End this relationship. The secret folder is weird. As is the jobless period.

Even with couples counselling he won't change his personality. You will be there only one initiating things. He doesn't sound mature. You will always carry him on your back. .choose yourself

Your boyfriend seems to have a very big mental hang-up/fixation on the issue. I think you should urge him to seek counselling, frankly. Is he pranoid? Afraid? I feel that if he were just negg…

He is almost certainly continuing the affair. They never break contact the first time. No matter what they say. That phone call and text to her was an act. And he slept with her more than once. And …

From your edit, it sounds like therapy/counselling would probably be a good idea if you can afford it or have coverage for it :)

Why? He should go to counselling. Not worry about her response but do it to see if he can continue the relationship. It has o ok for 18 years does mean a lot

This is really helpful, thank you. The fact you felt the rage but didn't act on it abusively says everything she's choosing to take it out on me rather than managing it. And the gaslighting is what fu…

I'm sorry you're going through this, OP, but with respect, this feels like displaced anger to me. If someone wants to be polyamorous, who cares? They can live their life however they like. The issue i…

Do you have a fulltime job? Alot of Employers as part of their benefits packages have an EAP (Employee Assistance Program). EAPs can provide free counselling for X amounts of visits per incident.

Speak to counselling at your college while you still have access. They can start assisting you with study skills help.

I feel ya on this. With time and counselling I'm learning I can be more authentic versus so concerned how I'll be perceived or how something I say might cause a reaction from someone. And better stren…

From a relationship standpoint, why are you still with someone who put you and your child's roof at risk? He blew family money without telling you or discussing you when he's financially very vulnerab…

Okay. So.... You two are 20 so I'm gonna be gentle, and I'm not gonna say this guy is irredeemable for thinking this, the way I would view if he were much older. But let's be realistic here. You had …

Hey buddy, while everyone is asking to leave your spouse. Since you have been cool so far. I would recommend stay AWAY from alcohol. Ask her what is going on and the reason behind it. If she is really…

For me (F), this is a huge breach of trust that wouldn't fly and would be a serious warning sign that I'm not being respected as a partner. For it's not about the procedures - it could have been a ho…

You might be right. My problem would be raising the subject of therapy/counselling without coming off as “this is all your fault” sorta thing.

Hey, I have been where you are right now. Keep going, there is light at the end of the tunnel. It took me 4 and a half years of working, raising my kids on my own and documenting everything for family…

Absolutely. At first, I spent my marriage treating my spouse the way I wanted to be treated—hoping he’d learn from example. Then did a lot of counselling and therapy to learn to ask for what I wanted …

Thank you. I had to go to the emergency room one night myself. I had a very bad breakdown near the 4 week mark. I felt so bad for my kids. I'm mostly 100% now. I had an unexpected cessation of my SSR…

Sounds like he's burntout. It's a thing, called caretaker burnout. You may not officially take on the role of a caretaker but when a loved one or family member or anyone in the household is impaired i…

i agree, but it's been proven that women do seek psychological help much faster then men and as a result of widespread psychology and counselling through internet, women are just levelling up and heal…

You sound like one of those single married people Did he want a child? Meal times are one of those special times that you can all interact, share, & smile, why would he not want to spend those preci…

The only advice I’d give at this point is to hold off on having a second child until you manage to get that counselling together. But overall you both seem to have put in the effort and rebuilt your r…

Firstly move to a seperate room of the house,no if’s or butts. You can ask her to move ,but sometimes it easier for you to move. Next get into individual counselling to work through this major betra…

Yeah, that sounds tragically familiar. Cuts you like a knife in the heaviest of ways! I'm also doing counselling at the moment, as well as domestic abuse support work stuff, while waiting for more spe…

I did the exact same thing as you! I attempted reconciliation, went to counselling individually and as a couple, did big work to replenish my own self confidence - only to result in his behaviour reoc…

I too want to know what his intention was with that comment, because i can't imagine any way that the intention was any better than the joke. The one takeaway you can take however, is that judging fro…

No excuse but people sometimes joke about stuff to hide the fact they are crying inside. Blokes are taught to man up and don't show emotions. He maybe struggling with this. Maybe a spot of counsellin…

You guys need marriage counselling asap.

I see. Maybe we can call it as 'Hey, you need counselling' if the reasons are close to being academic and career oriented. This way he might feel like it's not a mental health therapist, but a counsel…

Hi OP I'm sorry you're going through this. This is clearly a betrayal and he didn't just move on within a week he was actively emotionally cheating on you during your relationship. Secondly this isn'…