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stop trying to solve the thought. call it "worry" or "mind reading," then put your attention back on what's in front of you. do that 50 times if you need to. that's basically what "noting" meditation …

This is a support sub. Be kind to each other. — Almost everyone who comes here is here because they are going through a very painful and difficult time. We're not all at our best. If you go into someone's topic, remember that they came here askin…

Web Programming Languages Cheat Sheets - JV Codes 2025 — Are you tired of repeatedly searching for the same code on Google? Don’t worry—we’ve got your back! The page serves as a central location to find ready-operational cheatsheets regarding [programming l…

Suggestions are like Forex signals - doing the exact opposite is where the real money is — I was in a Discord channel with 90K+ designers and every time someone dropped their landing page or website, it felt like getting advice from someone selling Forex signals. Doing the opposite would a…

Feeling stuck between a promo and burnout - advice? — I'm approaching 5 years at my current company (2 years as junior, 3 as mid-level) and am submitting a promotion case for Senior. I won't hear back for a couple months - my director feels optimistic, b…

Building My First B2C SaaS Product – Learning, Struggling, and Still Going — I’ve been working on my B2C SaaS app **Gamify** for a little over a week now. It’s a habit-tracking, gamified to-do list app — a mix of fun and structure I’ve always felt was missing in other tools. …

Thought experiment – What if OpenAI had followed classic startup advice? I will not promote — Let’s have some fun with a thought experiment. What would OpenAI’s journey have looked like if it had followed all the usual startup advice from the Paul Graham / YC / generic playbook? Things like:…

Can AI content make your site disappear from Google Discover? — Hello! For the past six months, I've been using AI to help me create blog content, but in a smart way: I write what I want part by part, add context, rewrite some sections, etc. Our rankings remain so…

Is Mobile Performance 70 Acceptable on PageSpeed Insights to START Blogging? — Other Mobile Scores: 92 Accessibility / 100 BP / 92 SEO Not that matters, but desktop is: 97 Performance / 91Accessibility / 100 BP / 92 SEO Before I start banging out blog articles, I wanted to ma…

Duplicate Websites: One Ranks, One Tanks — I own two small‑town dental practices and spun up two nearly identical websites for them. Same structure, images, and copy, just different color schemes and logos. The site for Practice A ranks nicely…

Founders, Seriously, Please Don't Quit your Day Job (I will not promote) — I say this as a lifelong Founder who spends all his time trying to make other people lifelong Founders - **"Please don't quit day job" ... at least not yet.** Seriously, hold on to that steady incom…

Is AI Applicable Everywhere? — Currently working in the tech space for the mining industry. Core product I work on focuses on workflows and tasks for ground and office staff to complete. Such as verifying CAD drawing, sign offs and…

Tech Startup advice required - Hire or equity offer (I will not promote) — I’m a serial entrepreneur—what some might call "very successful,” though success is relative and I just did okay. Over the past 25 years, I’ve had some brilliant tech ideas and a brain wired for archi…

How can I profit from my endless rotating hobbies? — Hey all! I’m a 24 year old who works full time and has five million hobbies. Such as… physical art in most mediums, digital art, animation, multiple instruments, theater, crochet, story writing, singi…

Why is PSP a conscious mind method? Since we're doing it in alpha, isn't it a subconscious mind method? — In my understanding, PSP is a subconscious mind method, since we are doing it in alpha/sleepy drowsy state. But at the bottom of [training task 3](https://www.reddit.com/r/JosephMurphy/s/DP5PadUKql),…

Is detaching the same as telling yourself that you already have what you want to manifest? — I’ve been trying to manifest an ideal job. Every time the thought of lack of money or a job comes up, I tell myself that I don’t need to worry about it any longer because I have what I want.

I have become obsessed with finding someone. — After my breakup in winter of last year, I went through a long period of mourning and not knowing what to do or how to move forward. Now, over the past 2-3 months, I have become obsessed with finding …

Can a FA-DA relationship work? — My partners have been dismissive avoidant or fearful avoidant, so I have always leaned anxious ig. In my last relationship, I felt secure at the start, it was nice, we set boundaries.. till it happene…

Success Story: FA/Disorganized Attachment Healing Roadmap, Resource Recommendations — **Hello, fellow Fearful Avoidants! The below post has grown out of almost 3 years of research and healing this attachment style, which in my case was coupled with Relationship OCD (ROCD). ROCD is a vi…

Mostly healed, but I can’t stop walking on eggshells before I trust a new date (anxious-ambivalent) — Edit: I’m single but I’ve dated guys online. I’ve changed almost all of my symtoms from anxious-ambivalent to secure attachment. When I first start text someone romantically however, it’s all good un…

Stress over him smoking — So I don’t really understand this anxiety either but I really don’t like smoking. I don’t smoke but I’m okay with whoever wants to, unless they pressure me to do the same thing. So I’ve been with my p…

How am I supposed to deal with the "ick" without leading a person on? — I don't get emotionally attached easily, so the early stage of dating is often a long game for me where the other person is trying their best to win me over, and I'm trying to be a good sport and go t…

How do you know what’s secure and what’s not in a partner? — So I am anxiously attached, I’ve done a ton of work and I think I present as fairly secure now (?) but when I’m triggered it’s a mess in my brain. My question for the anxiously attached and those who …

So tired of constantly feeling anxious and worried — I’ve suffered with AA for a few years now. I’m just so tired of constantly worrying that he will find somebody better than me or that he will no longer want me .. before we got married I thought thi…

Did I make my Avoidance worse by pushing through it? — Hi all, I’ve been aware I have issues with commitment/avoidance my entire conscious life, but despite it I’ve always wanted to find love I didn’t meet my first boyfriend until I was 22, and it was l…

FA breakup & prolonged limbo - does avoidance calcify over time or can it still reverse? — I’m hoping to hear from people who’ve been through something similar, FAs, or anyone who has opinions on this. I was in a 2 year relationship with someone I later realized is fearful avoidant (I didn…

Attachment in someone with no relationships? — Wondered this for a long time so it's oversharing hours tonight. I basically don't have relationships. I've overly attached with my mom, possibly even enmeshed, but that's it, and there's a lot of du…

Asking for input from those who are avoidant — (Forgot to add user flair.) Last paragraph has the question. But for context, I have someone in my life who has acknowledged they are avoidant. When I started looking into attachment styles I found t…

What is my core wound when I don't worry what others think about me, I'm not afraid of being alone, but still no boundaries with closest people — I want to heal my wounds and spot and correct the false truths that I have about myself and others, but I'm finding it quite difficult. It is because it seems to me that I lack some essential traits o…

Dismissive - Anxious dynamic catch 22, how could we make it work? — I'm having issues with a relationship that's really important to me. It's someone who I dated last year for 6 months. We have very intense and wonderful attraction and connection in a way that is rare…

Deactivation or undisclosed breakup? — I'm a FA woman...in a relationship with a dismissive avoidant....all was good, until past Christmas holidays , his bday and all situations when they deactivated.. he was the one who planned being wit…

I want to to start healing so badly, how can I? — I recently posted here my journey of realizing I have a fearful avoidant attachment. I used to think I was anxious but I realize I'm fearful avoidant and I don't want this anymore. I want to stop push…

what do i do? my anxious attachment is getting REALLY bad. — i haven't been like this since i last had a really close online friendship w someone 2 years ago, but i recently started talking to a new friend online and we've known each other for only a few days. …

One month of Neville’s teachings and I finally feel at peace about money — I’ve been in this community for about a month now mostly reading, learning, and celebrating everyone’s wins. I have to say, it’s been a real game changer for me. I’ve always been someone who worried …

Feeling alone because my partner lives in his own Fantasy World — Recently I discovered I am a Codependent. I've been with my boyfriend for about six years, and he has this habit of always engaging and interacting by talking a lot about marvel or superpower fantas…

I (28F) cut off my in-laws after how they treated me before and during my wedding, but I get anxious when my husband (27M) still talks to them. How do I move on? — TL;DR: My mother-in-law and sisters-in-law insulted me, fat-shamed and color-shamed me before our wedding and caused major drama during the wedding itself. Now they act sweet in front of my husband. I…

Experiences With Cosmic Entities. — Hello everyone! This post will be a little bit different, as i wish to dive into odd encounters that i had with different beings, that surprisingly helped me out a *lot* - more than i could have possi…

Coming to terms with possible childhood emotional neglect - curious how others turned out — As I’ve gotten older and started reflecting on my life, I’ve slowly worked backwards and realised that I might have experienced childhood emotional neglect (CEN). What’s funny is that it actually sta…

I found 2 tricks to help focusing on my breath. Beginner + Adhd here. — H56, overstimulated by screen (shows, movies, youtube podcast, chess online), stimulants (amphets like), and since my childhood, overthinking (the worst addiction ever). Sorry my English is not perf…

Does anyone else feel like this fixation on "trauma dumping" stinks of toxic positivity? — It literally feels like the onus is on people with really challenging life experiences, to hold that all inside and only talk about good things, for fear of burdening people who have objectively bette…

The day has come! — For more than 50 years, the Monroe Institute has been quietly pioneering a systematic way to explore human consciousness — beyond meditation, beyond belief, and beyond theory. I’m excited to share tha…

Be honest ladies, how much does being bald impact your interest in a man? — I'm sure in our 40s and over, there's plenty of men who are losing their hairline or just shave it off. I'm newly single after finalizing my divorce and worry about how I look. I've lost 30 lbs so far…

Block them. That's all I have to say. — So, in July last year I went through this HORRIBLE heartbreak. And when I say it was a really awful breakup, trust me, it was. Almost four years of a strong relationship ended in a 5-minute call. My e…

What is the best starter psychedelic? — Probably sounds stupid, i know. But i want to know wich type of psychedelic can give me the most neutral hallucinogenic effect without getting into a journey/giving me mental effects like with shroom…

I'm sorry, I just want to get out of this mental hell — I'm sorry if I keep making these extreme venting/screaming posts.... i'm just tired of all the bad news in the world I'm a graduated artist and animator looking for a job and goes to therapy, but I c…

How to permanently stop feeling romantic love for anyone? — wasn’t sure I needed a TL;DR here, but I’ll put it anyway: how do I turn off my ability to feel love for anyone, ever? hi all, I (M,33) have not had a whole lot of luck with dating. I try to stay s…

I (21F) Am losing feelings for my (22M) boyfriend. Any advice? — Throwaway account. I (21F) and my boyfriend (22M) have been together for a little over two years. It's been good for the most part, and i can tell you that my boyfriend is one of the best people i kno…

They just want results immediately and don’t want the work it takes to get there — This is something I have noticed with my APs as of recently in that they want results and only good results immediately without the work to get there. Like they want me to have a nice physique yet ove…

A strange period of brain fog that lasted months — A while ago I went through a period that honestly scared me. My thinking felt slower than normal. Sometimes I would read the same sentence three or four times before understanding it. Other times I’d…

how do I stop being codependent with my bestfriend? — I think I might be dealing with codependency and I want to work on it before it damages my friendship. I have a bestfriend who I’m extremely close with. We’ve built a really deep emotional bond and …

A simple 3-minute journaling method that helped me reduce overthinking at night — I used to struggle a lot with overthinking, especially at night. My mind would keep replaying conversations, worrying about tomorrow, or thinking about things I couldn’t control. I tried different thi…

If you're asleep but your awareness truly becomes conscious at the same time then that is great; that is what is meant by the popular affirmation in this community as, "Mind Awake, Body Asleep". It i…

Personally? Depends on my life situation but on average maybe 4-8 times a month. The amount of time that passes is usually not too different from physical time, but it can definitely differ - anywher…

a) law of assumption, not law of belief. And where did you get the other descriptions from? I've been on Neville sub for a while, literally noone describes the law in those words or speak in a spiritu…

I’ve read few posts that are as “loser”-ish as this one. I’ve yet to study either in depth, but for anyone to not only BELIEVE that they are better than a very large group of people (all of whom are v…

So I just wrote a comment today on another post that might help too: You’re being too hard on yourself. Your divorce is completely fresh and you need to give yourself grace and allow yourself to feel…

At first there are signs, then with practice you just know. The signs vary from person to person can occur during a session and not occur during the next. So the only way to know is to do your researc…

Just believing is one thing, subconscious faith towards your desire (not LOB particularly) is another thing. You lived your entire life based of your default beliefs without even knowing the Law. I sa…

“If it’s isolating me, that would be my own doing” lol. You are brainwashed and in a cult. You sound exactly like the people in Jonestown did before they drank the kool aid. Cults have nothing to do w…

Uh oh…better get to affirming and visualizing before your man runs away! Imagine not being able to enjoy your time with your partner because you always need to check your thoughts and assumptions? Wha…

It's not relevant what anyone is telling avoidants if you're not an avoidant... to think it is is slipping back into this competitive mentality where you're dissecting whose fault it is. It doesn't ma…

Take time to actually get to know someone, go slow, keep things light at first, don't jump into a relationship. Instead think about true compatibility in things like communication, lifestyle, values, …

Just read the replies and imo there's nothing wrong with asking. It's great that you did. My opinion is that if I'd only had one date with somebody and they text me saying "good morning handsome" I'd…

Lmao, no, don't worry about it. I have daddy issues as well, and I have friends with BPD that have pointed out that I may have it too (I'm not diagnosed and have no need to know though atm). And I tot…

Have you ever considered that your alarm system is skewed and the other person might not be toxic? Do you worry about that? 

I've been in this exact situation when I was an FA in a LDR with another FA in another country. And our f2f time was very little like yours but we spoke daily, intensely and talked and had plans. I kn…

ok so i typed up a hypothetical example haha let's say i have a coworker/acquaintance who seems like they'd have a lot in common with me, but we don't know each other well. i want to become closer to…

No, my statement has nothing to do with validation. I find when someone says 'that's invalidating', they haven't sat down and thought about what they're saying. And why would I need to constantly vali…

Wow, that’s… I mean, that’s seriously sociopathic behaviour. I can’t even imagine how you felt. It’s such a mindfuck. I hope you kicked him out and never looked back. What a toxic piece of bovine excr…

Don’t worry, I understand that my phrasing was a bit strong. What I meant was that ‘removing autonomy’ can also go under being abusive/unintentionally toxic (for example, making them feel like they ar…

Have you costed up the Grafana Cloud? We're a small organisation right now, but we're using Grafana Cloud and it's very cost effective for us. Our plan will be to eventually selfhost once we're at the…

This is BS. This scream Micromanagent. Productivity is not about how many tickets you closed. If you want to be productivity try to automate (20/80 rule). If you find yourself doing the same sort o…

Being in IT for 30+ years, I lived the transition of what matters from servers to services. Eventually they run in servers, but what you should worry about is in services, and the systems that are bui…

I started out when everything was one app on a physical server. I don’t miss those days. I couldn’t tell you the amount of sleep and free time I lost due to hardware failures. Plus the begging finance…

Don't worry man, just jump in. Most people in IT are figuring things out as they go! No one really knows exactly what they're doing.. trust me

I recognize this disorder because I suffer from it myself! :-) It's commonly known as controlfreakism. Don't worry, though. You can use it to your advantage. The good news is there's a way out. Much…

american here who worked in a majority Indian org for almost 3 years. I'm also very opinionated and not afraid to speak up. Its gonna vary a lot so you have to sort of feel things out. This might be…

You are such a sweetheart and I'm so proud of you for this. It will be hard. You will worry about them seeing as you have such a big heart but good on you for choosing yourself in a difficult situatio…

Every two weeks for nine months sounds more like a red flag to me. You need to protect yourself from these fallouts and give him a lot of space without asking questions or prodding. My partner is th…

Don‘t worry, I will manually approve all new posts. It might just take a few days. It‘s definitely not lost.

Well, if you're into them, that's the first sign. It'll be tricky to differentiate between DA and secure for you because they'll both feel like they're moving at a reasonable pace at first, but a DA i…

Mostly because the information isn't necessarily what the person needs or may even be harmful or untrue. From all accounts people say it "tells them exactly what they need" and doesn't challenge them,…

How would you feel if all of this is handled for you? Relieved? Trust in the power of something higher? Ask yourself these questions . Just let it linger, don’t answer right away. If you’re try…

That’s not what I’m saying at all since I don’t think there is a thing such as “fully healed”. Neither my bf or I would consider ourselves healed but I would say “unless they’re aiming to give you th…

They might have been more hurt that when they didn’t come in, you didn’t call to check on them, after they called to check on you when you were sick? So - I would think maybe it would be good to apol…

Its all good! Dont worry about it. You didn't have to be more careful!

There’s no perfect partner, the grass is green where you water it. A good relationship is one that is nurtured over time with two people making a decision to commit to each other, without worrying abo…

Yes, I understand that. But he didn’t start really triggering my AP until about 2 years in. Please know this: I am not placing all of the blame into his lap. This period made it very clear what…

Major props to you on shutting down that anxious worrywart bullshit from the commenter here.

Turn off the active status. I also turned off read receipts and disabled notifications. I like the delaying worrying thing and scheduled worry time.

So I’ve been talking with a guy for just over a week now. And we have at least talked a little every day. Not a lot but a little. He lives around 2+ hours from me and we met online. So texting and on…

Wow, you have done a significant amount of research. I am just now learning about these Avoidant Attachment Styles. I'm not real sure what my SO has, and I'm also not sure which attachment style I hav…

I (F37) started casually flirting and texting a colleague (M29) a while ago. In the beginning, we wrote often and a lot, especially right before we met in person for the first time. Then, overnight, t…

Hi everyone, I’m in my early 20s, and recently I went through my longest relationship so far — almost 2 years — with someone who is also my age, and has BPD. I have AuDHD on top of everything. Our rel…

In order to overcome my anxious attachment, I wouldn’t say I’m fully healed yet, but I’m so much better compared to earlier this year. One thing I want you to understand is that there’s nothing wrong …

In order to overcome my anxious attachment, I wouldn’t say I’m fully healed yet, but I’m so much better compared to earlier this year. One thing I want you to understand is that there’s nothing wrong …

In order to overcome my anxious attachment, I wouldn’t say I’m fully healed yet, but I’m so much better compared to earlier this year. One thing I want you to understand is that there’s nothing wrong …

Text of original post by u/nintendonaut: After my breakup in winter of last year, I went through a long period of mourning and not knowing what to do or how to move forward. Now, over the past 2-3 mon…

The second to last paragraph here is so important. I didn't truly start healing until I realized that I was treating relationships like they were something I could react correctly to rather than corre…

Um...I guess with this friend, I pushed for us to talk more, and when she showed interest, I became ambivalent because what if we talked more and she realized I was boring or not cool to hang out with…

Thank you so much for this detailed reply. It honestly feels like you are in my brain because every single thing you brought up is just so accurate. I truly feel heard and seen, so thank you. Just rea…