Headspace

Never fully grieved the breakup, struggling years later — Quick background: My ex (25F at the time) and I (25M at the time) broke up June 2023 citing she didn't want anything serious and that everything wasn't evolving naturally. I broke NC in August 2023 an…

Modern web dev has me on the ropes — I'm a FED, and I've been helping build websites for 15+ years. Started on LAMP stack, did some Wordpress stuff, but mostly my bread and butter has been FED-heavy, building UIs with HTML, JS, CSS/SASS …

How to fully be present in my dating break (build momentum at the start)? — You'd think taking a break would be straight forward, but I feel like it's more challenge for us anxious attachment/pure-O OCD types who struggle with rumination or feelings of inadequacy about their …

How to permanently stop feeling romantic love for anyone? — wasn’t sure I needed a TL;DR here, but I’ll put it anyway: how do I turn off my ability to feel love for anyone, ever? hi all, I (M,33) have not had a whole lot of luck with dating. I try to stay s…

Ugh, I contacted the AP — It’s been a long year. I found out about my wife’s affair last year (they ended Jan 2025) and honestly everything kind of tanked for me after that, both personally and professionally. The last few mo…

Even though I am aware of my anxious attachment and dependency in relationships, I don't see the point in relationships unless we are enmeshed — A secure relationship just doesn't sound fulfilling. All my past relationships have been unhealthy, beginning with us spending most of the week together and speaking almost constantly. Always progress…

Sober dating question: does anyone else feel weird making a move if the other person has been drinking? — Sigh…When you’re completely sober and the other person has had two or three drinks, it creates a strange dynamic that’s hard to explain. Even if she clearly likes me, sometimes I feel uncomfortable m…

Avoidance and not being able to access emotions when deactivating — Wondering if this is something other avoidants have felt and how to deal with it. I’m in therapy but I don’t know that it’s helping that much with my attachment stuff. I’m in a relationship with a wo…

She wants to know things, but isnt actually interested — Really just using this post as a sounding board for some thoughts I’ve had recently. My mom and I’s relationship has always been strained and at the core, emotional disconnect was the biggest issue. I…

Dealing with an energy vampire parent? — I'm pretty sure my dad's an energy vampire, anytime i'm around him i get sick, ALL the time. Which never happens on the months he's gone for work. I feel down, lazy, i don't want to get out of bed, ev…

Immense anger after being cheated on.. 8 year relationship. — 8 year relationship down the drain.. I met her when I was 23m.. She BEGGED ME to take her serious. I took road trips frequently for work during that time and she felt like I didn’t spend enough time w…

[RESPONDING TO COMMENT] What my Headspace looks like during meditating while using technique: Meditation to the power of 3 — I’m not done animating this yet, but here is the work in progress. This is the inside of my head, exactly what it looks like when I meditate. This is meditation to the power of 3. 2 other consciousn…

It Worked OVERNIGHT! — I’ve been living the Law of Assumption for years. I’ve seen it play out in my life over and over, growing my Instagram to 85k, TikTok to 25k, YouTube steadily climbing, social media success etc. But…

My parents are forcing the marriage talk only one month after my breakup. How do I handle this? — I (31F) have been living in Germany for the last 8 years, but my Indian parents’ expectations haven't changed with the distance. I’m currently at a breaking point and need to vent/get some perspective…

i broke up with my partner of 3.5 years - advice? — burner acc as i just need to get this out and it’s kinda long, but would appreciate queer perspectives as it’s kinda relevant. but on friday, i broke up with my partner of 3.5 years (basically out of…

My horrible mushroom trip by Jimmy Burnt — It all started during an environmental school excusion/protest. I had packed my lunch that day, drank my water, dressed well and expected nothing to happen. To preface I live in Sydney and lived aro…

did you know that emotions are addictive? — i’ve reached some new grounds in my non-conventional healing journey. and i’ve realized i’m an addict, i never was addicted to substances, but i am an addict. depression, sadness, despair, anger it is…

Which mental health apps have you found to be very helpful? — been trying online therapy after having awful experiences with in-person therapists. honestly it's been way less awkward doing it from home. started with Headspace but it felt too generic. like guided…

My ex (30F) and I (30nb) broke up 6 months ago and I want to vent about it — After dating for almost 2 years and living together for 6 months my ex broke it off and I had to move out. I am a trans nonbinary person (AFAB) and the day we met my ex knew I would be pursuing gender…

Orbs Of Light — My husband died unexpectedly 17 months ago. About 6 months before he died we started seeing orbs of light. They were usually blue or white but occasionally yellow. Most of them were around our house b…

Envy and Despair — It’s been just over a week since the divorce was finalized. The separation lasted a long 15 months. I found out that she had an affair partner during our separation. As far as I can tell it had been g…

I (18M) found a list of pros and cons about breaking up with me in my girlfriends (18F) room, should I bring it up with her or leave it? — For a bit of context, last year we had a bit of a rough patch where we had a few arguments that ended with a pretty big one around the end of the year which resulted in no communication for a few days…

They texted me on my birthday — I posted this previously to this subreddit and posted it to r/whatdoIdo where it gained some traction. This wasn't actually a relationship ex but a friendship ex I was close with. We were very close f…

My gut knew what she was doing, but I trusted that she wouldn’t. — GF & I have been together for 2 years. She’s been straight as an arrow through her entire life, bookish, introvert, straight laced, strong family values, carries a lot of trauma, low self esteem, self…

Never fully grieved the breakup, struggling years later — Background: My ex (25F at the time) and I (25M at the time) broke up June 2023 citing she didn't want anything serious and that everything wasn't evolving naturally. I broke NC in August 2023 and afte…

my girlfriends parents are telling her to break up with me as i don't talk much and it makes them uncomfortable. — My (F19) girlfriend's mum has been talking her into breaking up with me (F18) because I make her and her husband feel uncomfortable when i am in their house. I'm generally just a quiet person and if i…

Back to square one in an obsessive loop — Currently on day 11 of a 3 year breakup I am deciding to use this account as tracking, as venting, and maybe a place to seek advice from the few kind people that reply. I want to be completely ho…

Started Tapes 3 weeks ago for fun and… — Hey all — new here. I’ve always been a pretty superstitious person. I come from a Hindu background from my parents, but I’m more agnostic now (in my opinion, religion is just man made labels and a tru…

I (30M) asked out a longtime friend (30F) and now I’m in a weird in-between phase — I (30M) asked out a longtime friend (30F) recently and she said yes. We’ve known each other for years, and I finally told her in person I wanted to take her out. The vibe was good, she was warm about…

I’m (37f) 25w pregnant with our second kid but can’t shake the feeling that my partner (39m) of 7 years is not what I need — TL;DR: I (37f) am 27w pregnant with my partner’s (39m) second child. Wondering if the relationship is right after feeling strong feelings that I need a more “masculine” and sexually driven partner, or…

I am looking for some practical/ tactical advice — I am almost 4 months post breakup and man this shit is so unbelievably hard and non linear. I am doing better than I was the first couple months, ie not crying all day every day, and am doing all the…

Trying to help a friend through their resurfaced trauma — Trigger warning for rape. This is a post about a friend, so not sure how appropriate it is to post here. On throwaway account, so not sure if I'll come back to this. I'm new to reddit, so sorry if I …

How to get esa letter when depression makes starting anything feel impossible — I know my dog helps. My psychiatrist has said as much. My lease is up in a few months and almost everything in my budget has pet restrictions so I need to sort out documentation but every time I try t…

29F Need guidance on getting over someone 28M or if I mishandled things here. — 29F here. Met a guy (29M) on hinge and we went on 5 dates - we haven’t had sex / slept together yet - but we’ve gone as far as oral. During the 1st two dates, he was ready being extremely physical (to…

In need of cheer — Not been in the best of headspaces recently (work-life crisis-ey) and additional commentary from a family member didn't quite "hit" me until this morning's commute to work. TLDR : A property with a l…

My gf ‘21F’ and I ‘22M’ are taking a break, I need some help? — My gf and I are taking a break. We’ve only been dating for 2 months, but relationships have never felt like this one has and she has said the same. I know I’m young and all that but I’ve had my fair s…

I [20F] and my Bf [19M] are struggling to get over something that happened, what can we do? (Slight TW) — So, I (20F) and my boyfriend (19M) (Who im gonna call J) have been together 3½ years. We started dating when we were 16, and honestly, the relationship itself has been great. There have been ups and d…

Triggered by any kind of emotional distance in relationships – anyone else? — I got diagnosed with CPTSD about a year ago and have gotten a lot of great tips from searching through this forum! But I haven't managed to find anything about the specific issue I'm having so decided…

Need advice please — I’m a bit lost right now and just need some outside perspective on my situation. My ex and I (20f and 21m) broke up about six weeks ago, and the breakup wasn’t because we didn’t care about each other …

advice on how to feel like a person with agency? — when you're alone/lonely/isolated for a long time, what are some ways to feel like a person again? if i go a couple days without a longer conversation with another human, i start to feel kind of not…

How to deal with loss of scene vividity during SH — I'm coming up to a month on my SP mission. This is not my first mission, but it is the first mission I have high attachment to. Because of this, I've obviously found myself more invested, and taking m…

My boyfriend left for the weekend after I had to put my pet down and hasn’t checked on me am I overreacting? — Hi, I’m not in the best headspace right now, so please bear with me. I (28F) had to put my bunny down yesterday. I know it might sound small to some people, but he was everything to me. I had him for…

My partner and I mirror each other's emotions, and it's starting to hurt — TRIGGER WARNING: MENTIONS OF EMOTIONAL ABUSE, SEXUAL ABUSE I'm not sure if this is 100% a vent or a rant, but I def need to say this *somewhere*, and maybe get some advice or tips ? For some context…

Leaving the family business: I’m a high-level professional, but working for my parent makes me feel 14 again. — I spent nearly a decade in high-pressure, corporate environments in a major city. I’m used to intense expectations and difficult personalities; hard work has never been the issue. About a year ago, I …

Apps and tools that helped me through my breakup — Just wanted to share what helped me get through the worst of it. Headspace meditation app was incredible.

Headspace is great. I also used BetterHelp for online therapy and the Calm app for sleep stories.

I would imagine so, but it’s not about doing it throughout the day but rather doing it when you wake up and before sleep, maybe occasionally during the day if you need to get yourself in the right hea…

I've always tested out as secure. But here's the thing. Everyone feels the full range of human emotions. The fact you felt humiliated doesn't make you a broken person that needs fixing. It just makes …

Text of original post by u/wordsworthcrafting: You'd think taking a break would be straight forward, but I feel like it's more challenge for us anxious attachment/pure-O OCD types who struggle with ru…

...because I was busy managing the pain of feeling stabbed no matter what I did? If I lied down and put pressure on my back, it hurt like hell. Then it hurt trying to move to lie down on one side. …

Do you have a problem or some emotional attachment to this issue because you seem very bothered lol. Like I said he had a medical condition which is what caused my thoughts to spiral. I never didn’t t…

I am AA, he is displaying avoidant behaviours. I don't want to speculate on his attachment style, I can only work off of what he says and does. The honeymoon phase was fast and intense, and it ended …

Life for them was exhausting atm but I asked more from them because my needs didn't feel like it was getting met and then boom, they asked for a week to think about whether it was healthy or unhealthy…

Things that have helped me: - keeping on dating, don’t make one person my only option. Or if dating isn’t happening I try and carry on going to queer events and just meeting new people in general to r…

Thank you! I get it, I definitely feel that way sometimes too. I’m trying to keep in mind that if I’m not in a headspace where I can actually be present and engaged on a date then it won’t go anywhere…

It feels like I can't get a full breath, like I'm literally being smothered with a pillow or like a weight is on my chest. I feel like I just need space to be able to breathe again without hyperventil…

Had my first date after ending my first 'situationship' and I was hoping it would help me get over things but instead I'm just re-upset about how things ended. The first date was nice enough, and he h…

On feeld - I'm a little confused about why people are recommending it when the original comment didn't say anything about an interest in kink or polyamory/enm. It's... fine but not really the ideal pl…

Back in October I kind of speed-ran dating, had a good 6 first dates and matched with a bunch of cool people. The problem was I had a major life altering surgery come up. During that time one girl I…

Three methods I know to work besides therapy(seriously). The first is exposure therapy via asking strangers for the time. Just the time. Take your watch off and hide your phone. "Um...could I get th…

I am proud of you! Forward motion! I work remotely, so I understand having more headspace, but that’s no excuse. You are saving yourself from future pain.

Yeah I agee. This experience learned me that slowdating isn’t bad at all. I really enjoy the headspace I have to think clearly and review his actions.

super confuse now, I have a friend who I met on tinder early last year to date he was going through some stuff and decided he wasn't ready for relationship. I had fun hanging out with him so I agreed …

I’m a woman with adhd, and I think you’re going about this the right way! You’re screening out women who want/expect men to pay 100% of the time, and you’re setting a good tone of having open and hone…

That’s a fair point. From what I remember, none of us were in a particularly negative headspace before the trip. It was actually a pretty relaxed setting with friends and music. That’s partly why the …

Are you sure you are in the right headspace to be dating? If that has happened to you on 5/6 dates I feel like there’s more going on.

I was the dumper and I tired everything to make it work. Constant conversations just for nothing to change, the same self sabotaging behaviour would get repeated with no respect for boundaries. I had …

Legally, if your husband is already seeing someone and moving in with them, I cannot imagine any way that this would cause problems for you. Practically, it's *possible* that your husband will be a d…

Would recommend some therapy. As a guy, I can tell you, society tells us we’re “suppose to initiate all the time, it’s in our DNA”. But when the ratio is 10-0 or 9-1 it does get tiring after a while…

yeah i relate. i think this is a form of age regression in a way. where we kind of mentally want to go back so we do things that remind us of that headspace. i do this too. i don’t really know if it’s…

Agreed. Great visuals, clear headspace, and low emotional load. Psilocybin trip can easily abort or end in a thought loop with bad set/setting or if one fails to let go properly. It’s really hard …

2C-B (Nexus) hands-down one of the most manageable psychedelics to start with when you nail the dose 🫶🏼15-20 mg oral hits that sweet spot where you get the best of both worlds: the warm, euphoric, l…

My immediate instinct to this is to tell you, you will not "detach" from your thoughts. Controlling your thoughts is actually just redirecting them. Whether you are meditating or in your day to day li…

I have the opposite, there are things from my childhood I want to rewatch because I liked the story, but I cannot watch those things without breaking down because I get put back into the terrible head…

Miprocin or 4-HO-MiPT for me! (Or plain ole' shrooms!) I know 4-HO-MET gets all the love on reddit, but I find Miprocin similar and superior. If it is visuals that you want, go for Metocin though. B…

Control is a relative thing, you can control how you respond to stimulus but not what stimulus you are confronted with. It might be fun, it might suck, only your headspace beforehand is a litmus test …

I’m glad you found a perspective/headspace that helps you make sense of it and take another step forward. I wanted to offer that those feelings you have may not ever completely go away. Betrayal and…

of course I'm recommending 2C-B at the right doses🛸15-20 mg gives a super manageable, enjoyable experience that's often way smoother and more fun than most other psychedelics, based on my own trips. …

This might sound insane but if you take low dose DMT I think it's a fantastic way to ease yourself into it. 2CB, again, low dose, is said to be good for having nice visuals with little changes to head…

I totally relate, I didn't start dating until I was 28 so sometimes I feel like I missed my opportunity, but that's not true at all. I should have put a caveat that I'm an extremely emotional person…

4-HO-MET or 2C-B are great options their both pretty easy on the headspace and have amazing visuals. Do your own research on them though and remember every substance reacts differently with every pers…

4-ho-met has next to no headspace or body load in the sub 30mg range(in my personal experience). Out of everything I have tried, I would call it the most casual psychadelic. It isn't particularly int…

Well, I think they put you in a different headspace that’s distinct from meditation. I would say it’s more a faith-based practice, rather than something analytical/observational like meditation. You’r…

I’ll definitely get your reasoning. More than once something has come up in my life that doesn’t mean I’m no longer interested in a person but does mean that I just don’t have the capacity right now. …

i think that’s a really good headspace to have regarding dating!

can you go into more detail about the inherent geometry of relationships? i have been experiencing something where the relationships stretch from the smallest particles to the largest, also non objec…

This is me! I’m still working on not letting the fixing thoughts consume me some days. (I have fewer of them now, but they’re not gone completely). Trying to let go when I catch myself in that fixing …

Gemini Saturn 12th is such a mind trap, all those unspoken thoughts piling up. I counter it with quick voice memos to myself - dumps the mental clutter without needing anyone else. Frees up so much he…

Ugh yes. The child like wonder. I’m right there with you - I act very much like a kid when I’m doing things I love. I’m a fellow creative myself (musician incorporating healing frequencies into my mus…

Original copy of post by u/SpeakerOne2427: Sigh…When you’re completely sober and the other person has had two or three drinks, it creates a strange dynamic that’s hard to explain. Even if she clearl…

People in their 40s know how alcohol affects them, if they let their guard down its because they want to. I am sure you wouldnt be dating anyone who drank to the point they couldn't consent if you're …

Actually just caught this in action yesterday. Was around a group of coworkers who were complaining about management, and just being all around negative. It subconsciously put me in a "yeah, they suck…

I tried again another time and I didn't see anything. I think it's hard because you have to be in the right headspace for it, and right now unfortunately I'm pretty distracted. I'm going to keep pra…

He is immature, that’s why. It’s hard to understand that when operating as an empathetic adult. Remember that all he does is for himself, it’s not “for her”. Affairs are a result of selfishness. He …

Do you honestly think I’m not doing that? Lmao Sorry I’m not trying to be rude or anything but I hate being in this headspace and I’m beating myself up about it. I’m seeing him every day despite myse…