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I've only ever met with my current therapist via teletherapy. I've been with her for four years now and it's the best therapeutic relationship I've had. I do sometimes wonder what it would be like if …

Long road to dream job and instant healing. — Bestcub called me to write this, I hope it will be helpful to someone. A story like many others. After years of wandering around shitty loa and other stupid spheres, books and forums I finally start…

Hosting Company Gaslighting Strategy? — I work as a sub-contractor for a marketing company and their biggest client uses a niche hosting company that is more paranoid than Elon Musk in a bunker. I have to install Wordpress manually, do manu…

Question for the template flippers out there - where’s the real money? — Genuinely curious - for all the devs who “custom build” sites that are clearly just recycled templates from ThemeForest or whatever the latest place is nowadays. Where’s the *actual* money coming fro…

Is there a better way to create posts that actually match your brand? — As a solo builder, I’ve been working on a small idea I think might be useful — especially for startups and B2B teams trying to stay consistent with branded content on instagram. The problem: Creatin…

Freelancers – the only person that can evaluate your pricing is the buyer (not Reddit) — *(TL;DR at bottom)* Questions like this pop up on this subreddit every few weeks: > How much should I charge for a basic website? Or: > Is $500 for a single-page Figma design a good price? ...and…

[EU] Can't get suppliers as a new small business — Every decent supplier I've contacted basically says "we don't care about your small shit business", only ones willing to sell are some small companies that sell random junk and surplus nobody wants to…

Looking for solid affiliates (not random IG girls) — We run a women’s journaling brand with a strong psychology/wellness angle. Our affiliate program’s been live for a while, but most signups so far have been low-quality and not serious. We offer 30% c…

Domains & Buy Buttons — I already have a domain for my retail business - is it possible for me to use shopify to host a store on my website (at a link like MYDOMAIN .com/shop) using shopify without "transferring" my domain t…

The whole I will not promote in post titles thing is just silly (I will not promote) — Seriously, what kind of weirdo implemented this rule. Feels like being in a first grade classroom with a strict teacher. Long time reader of this sub but it’s just such a random and weird thing to imp…

Seeking Technical Co-Founder for Fantasy Football Punishment Platform (I will not promote) — Hey everyone, I’m in the process of building an exciting startup focused on **fantasy football** and I’m looking for a **technical co-founder** to join me and help bring this idea to life. The core i…

Passive FTP into Kubernetes ? Sounds cursed. Works great. — “talk about forcing some ancient tech into some very new tech wow... surely there's a better way” said a VMware admin watching my counter FTP strategy😅 **Challenge accepted** I recently needed to r…

How do you keep track of costs across your (AI+SaaS) stack (I will not promote) — We’ve been working on an AI product that touches a ton of different tools: OpenAI, Midjourney, Claude, ElevenLabs, Google Cloud, etc. Recently, we started noticing these random billing spikes, $300 h…

A customers perspective of those horrible cart conversion emails — Usually a website does a poor job of informing me what shipping will be. I must add items to a cart and hit checkout and type in an address to see what shipping would be. However, this process results…

Any experience running and managing many locations on POS? Switching from Square and I’ve got questions — Shopify POS as a refreshing breath of fresh air over Square on many points. However, they seem to fall short on some really obvious things. That make me think maybe I’m the crazy one and just don’…

How target my viewers in my own country? — I am posting ig reels here in Canada but I am getting a lot of viewers across the globe from the random countries. How do I make it so I only get viewers in Canada. (My content is in english) do i ad…

Small Business Case Study: How We Grew Our Instagram & TikTok with an AI Social Media Assistant (No Ad Spend!) — **Post Body:** Hi everyone! I co-own a small business (a boutique cafe + online store) and wanted to share our experience using an **AI “social media assistant”** to grow our Instagram and TikTok. W…

how do people get their product in stores? and how do they manufacture it from scratch? — I just saw a cnbc money video about a random guy that started selling plain old peanut butter and made million. crazy thing is I recognized the peanut butter brand and it just started showing up all…

I don't know what to do about my giveaway — I own a super small online jewellery business as a hobby, as I'm still in school. Since Mother's Day is coming up this Sunday, I decided to host a little giveaway for my few followers, expecting at mo…

This Jetpack bug is so frustrating — Exactly what the title says. I have been with Wordpress for about a year and a half. Great platform for blogging. It's not perfect but I really have nothing major to complain about when it comes to t…

If I could just stop deactivating!! (FA) — Follow up from some of my previous posts. I’m deactivating again. I think? Or maybe lost feelings for my partner and I’m just lying to myself and not wanting to let go. The thought of that makes me cr…

Starting over — Heya, I don’t want this to be a negative thread— looking for some positivity and hope maybe? I (34F) am recently out of a one year relationship. It was my first secure relationship in my entire adult…

I (re)earned my secure attachment this week. What a journey this has been. — I just wanted to share this diary dump with anyone who wants a success story. I believed myself to be FA/A for a long time, and this week I can finally call myself secure. TW: sexual assualt Despite …

Sp related question — I have been try to manifest ex sp for a while now . Which is 2 months to be precise And we have been friends in the whole process. Selectively calling but texting twice daily for random catching ups…

For avoidants (and those leaning/earned secure): is this avoidant behavior? Do you really move on—and why no closure? — For avoidants (and those leaning/earned secure): is this avoidant behavior? Do you really move on—and why no closure? I began therapy 4 months into our situationship because of how strong he came on,…

Friendships — Hey, super random, but a while back, my friend and I had this conversation. I was just sort of thinking about romantic relationships as friendships. It occurred to me that I was no anxious when it cam…

does anyone know of any meditations that focus specifically on calming/healing anxious attachment? — sometimes i feel like ill get my attachment issues triggered by something random and then spiral. im trying to not do this or at least handle it better. i also wanna get back into meditation. does any…

Stress over him smoking — So I don’t really understand this anxiety either but I really don’t like smoking. I don’t smoke but I’m okay with whoever wants to, unless they pressure me to do the same thing. So I’ve been with my p…

Specific Person (SP) Manifestation: No Magic, No Supernatural Forces. Just Proven Science — Hi everyone, It’s been a long time since I last posted, and honestly it was overdue. I keep seeing the same recycled LOA bullshit everywhere. Endless manifestation porn, more unqualified people calli…

Did Saturn in Aries correlate with the “heroin chic” era of the late 90s? Wondering about parallels with today. — I had a random thought earlier today while watching some video on YouTube, and I’m curious if more experienced astrologers see anything in it. There’s a lot of discussion right now about the return o…

My father is sabotaging my career and medical treatments through "smear campaigns" and monitoring. I feel like I'm living in a Truman Show nightmare. — ​I (25F) am an Indian doctor currently preparing for NEET PG, and I am living with a family led by a malignant narcissistic father. My mother and brother are complete enablers. I’m writing this becaus…

Update: My mom actually showed up at my friend's home to get my therapist's contact info. — First post: https://old.reddit.com/r/raisedbynarcissists/comments/1qgkzxj/mom_threatened_to_go_to_friends_house_to_find_my/ A month ago she threatened to do it, at which point I told her the truth: n…

Are these early signs of narcissism? — So I met this guy on Hinge a couple of weeks ago. We do know some random people in common. Here are the signs that I find strange: \- He’s absolutely grandiose - have a ton of projects, ideas, storie…

Has anyone noticed becoming extremely aware of people’s energy or reactions over time? — I’ve been smoking occasionally for about 4 years now, but around 3–4 months ago I started noticing something strange. I began feeling much more aware of people’s vibes, expressions, and body language.…

I have done absolutely horrible things. I might be the worst human being to ever live. — 20M. This might be the longest post you'll ever read. I believe I have OCD and do nothing but ruminate 24/7 about my past. I have been in isolation for the last 3 years. It started as a fear of adult…

Coming to terms with possible childhood emotional neglect - curious how others turned out — As I’ve gotten older and started reflecting on my life, I’ve slowly worked backwards and realised that I might have experienced childhood emotional neglect (CEN). What’s funny is that it actually sta…

Honestly? I enjoy lucid nightmares. — Is anybody else like this? We've all had out fair share of absurd random chaotic dreams, but I actually prefer nightmares to those. While I'm having them, they suck, but when I wake up I love thinking…

I doubted and spiraled for weeks. It happened anyway. — I manifested something exactly as I had imagined it. The strange part is that before it happened, I spent weeks convinced I had ruined it. I was manifesting spending a specific holiday with someone. …

Has anyone else experienced something very feeling strange ever since the election of the current American President?? — Hello everyone. This might be an unusual post to make at this time. However, I am looking forward to see if anyone has experienced anything similar or exactly what I have experienced. Before earlier i…

Six Months of Dating in Europe as an East Asian Guy — Honestly Better Than I Expected — Today marks my sixth month living in Europe. Looking back at the past half year and all the European girls I’ve interacted with, I thought it would be fun to do a little reflection—what I did well, wh…

My boyfriend (M35) and I (F27) have not said i love you, over a year of dating — TLDR; My boyfriend (M35) and I (f27) have been together for over a year, he hasn’t said I love you despite having talked about marriage, kids, future together. In a conversation he said he was apprehe…

You can reality shift just by washing your hands — Hey everyone, I’ve been obsessed with this idea lately and I can’t stop thinking about it: what if the simple act of washing your hands, when you actually slow down and get fully present with it, bec…

What are your social lives like? — Recently I saw a few comments here like “I have weekly activities scheduled every day of the week” and “this guy could only meet me one a month because of social obligations” and… I know I’m more of a…

Has this happened to anyone in a lucid dream before — So to make this short, I don't ever lucid dream becausei don't know how to trigger it. In my dream I just became aware I was in a dream randomly I was in an unknown city in an unknown shopping mall wi…

"What does it mean to heal?" channeled message from my guides — I thought to share with you all this excerpt from a channeled conversation between myself and my guides. I love this text a lot and return to it often. Perhaps those of you on a healing journey and t…

I found 2 tricks to help focusing on my breath. Beginner + Adhd here. — H56, overstimulated by screen (shows, movies, youtube podcast, chess online), stimulants (amphets like), and since my childhood, overthinking (the worst addiction ever). Sorry my English is not perf…

Where to go from here — Just to warn you, this is a long one... For context, my partner (F39) and I (M40) have been together for 17 years, have two kids together. This all started in early January but seems to have been goi…

Effective ways to get lucid dreams 80% — A way that you might think is contrary to the ways on the internet, but this is actually the most effective way according to me, how? This is the way. The first way, this method often allows you to h…

is this common — i get a random gusp of tiredness like say i was on the train then feels like i close my eyes for a few secends and have a really realistic dream for a few secends with like voices and things

You've Tried Manifesting Them Back Multiple Times - Here's Why It's Not Working — **"I've manifested my SP back multiple times but it never works. Now it just feels draining."** **You're not failing at manifestation.** **You're failing at creating coherent field states.** And th…

Does anyone else just not tell their mother anything — I have too much trauma to write here but in short I stopped telling my mum anything from about the age of 16 (now 31) because I learnt the hard way that anytime I was brave enough to share my true tho…

Before you ban me, please understand that I’m not trying to argue with you, I was just pointing out that claiming people can’t think critically is not a wise move because it can easily be said of you…

>Before you ban me, please understand that I’m not trying to argue with you, I was just pointing out that claiming people can’t think critically is not a wise move because it can easily be said of yo…

thank you, very interesting insight, i guess is still down to our concious self to still understand whats what and whos who on the other side as well. Sometimes i do wonder, if on a higher dimension …

Random question...has anyone asked an astral being what happens when we die? Because if our consciousness is tied to our body when our body fails...what happens to the consciousness?

I had a really concerning dream just now and fear of my boyfriend didn't wake me up something bad was going to happen to me.. It started off in a house I've never seen before the kitchen was upstairs…

I sometimes question though: was it good that we would have stayed with them forever? If they were that disinterested? Wouldn’t it be a bad choice on our part to stay with them? I know what you…

I’m trying so hard to let go but he was the only person who treated me nicely and loved me until he randomly dumped me via text. No one ever asks me out and when I ask people out I am rejected. I am a…

Omg that’s horrible. I was ghosted to, that feeling of no clarity hits. You get so desperate that you reach out in so many ways in the beginning just to get an answer onto why?. I was never able to mo…

I am a 40yo male with a partner who experienced emotional neglect. How can I be a better support person for her without sacrificing my own mental health? We have been together 5 years and we still br…

Late reply, but FYI for anyone reading this from here on...every two hours will change your rising sign and rotate your whole chart another 30 degrees. So while all the planets will still show up in t…

Anyone else have random lucid dreams about the exact way to start a flying sequence. Some kind of 3 step jump and then a somersault and then you take off and fly for ages if you control your arms prop…

Absolutely wrong name for that sub. I read a few random posts with comments and what do we have here: affirmations, sublimals, self-love and mental diet.  So they are not criticizing Neville's teach…

That was an instant example I was giving as of today. Well, on bigger stuff: getting into Harvard with shit gmat scores on a full ride scholarship (miraculously some rich dude donated to the school, a…

Exactly. This is one of the reasons why all the old exes or random flames pops back up in your life when doing an sp-mission. Old unbeleifs being unraveled as you sit there feeling loved as fuck.

No 5. Think positive or negative, it doesn't matter. Be a depressed ahole or whatever - you can be whatever you want, and also still belive sp loves you til death do us part. I can feel much worthy …

You’re not being rude. You just don’t understand. I won’t explain it either because I want to gatekeep it. Why does my sp come only when I want them to or work on myself? and leave exactly when I ha…

\>Daydreams and dreams serve a similar function. Neither involve looping a specific scene. Both involve a sort of mind wandering. Except one you are unconscious and the other you are awake. So I disag…

Take time to actually get to know someone, go slow, keep things light at first, don't jump into a relationship. Instead think about true compatibility in things like communication, lifestyle, values, …

Thanks for posting this. It's been 6 months post break up and I have been having random peroids of ruminating on the good times even though I know they treated me badly for a couple of months leading…

He’s going to leave you. I’m sorry. I can guarantee this. He’s extremely immature, and you are trying to be his mother and his therapist. It will backfire on you spectacularly. He needs professional h…

Whenever I try lucid dreaming, WILD method, I get the funny purple patterns when I close my eyes, but then they randomly stop and I have to restart. What do I do?

Brush up on the company, what they do, their market, etc. Why do you want to be there specifically. Have that answer solid. It’s really important to convince them you’ll like it and therefore try hard…

another question about a random amount of money. So you don't want to hear the story of the guy who is making $200k in profit?

I am new to it for sure, often I realise I am dreaming near the end or at some random point, it is somewhat hard to realise from my perspective as I think how sleep works it just makes me tired during…

I have personally found the Yoga Sutras of Patanjali, an ancient Indian text on consciousness training, most helpful in setting up and controlling my lucid dreams which typically started randomly. I h…

The first example is so hard. I feel like there’s no kind way to be like “I’m not interested in that [getting together]”. I don’t usually ignore people if they reach out, but I’ve definitely forgettin…

Gave me what I wanted? Lol I didn’t ask you for anything, I merely stated my different view. Whether u agree with me or not is irrelevant. It’s Reddit and ur a stranger. Ur desire to “give me what I w…

Why would an avoidant push me away, but then orbit me for almost 2 years — even while committed to someone else? I feel ashamed for being stuck on this.. I (32F) had a short but intense connection wi…

That’s kinda how I started, then I looked into different theories to try to explain what I had seen. I found the simulation theory, that led me to the matrix, which lead me to PP(he who shall not be n…

Text of original post by u/DaniT0n: Hey, super random, but a while back, my friend and I had this conversation. I was just sort of thinking about romantic relationships as friendships. It occurred to …

There are a lot of people who don't understand trauma and vulnerability.  Then there are people who have some understanding but do not understand how to interact in an appropriate way that is empathet…

Also, practice being a respectful and polite human being. Avoid projections of your own bs on random strangers online 😊

You’re right. First, I want to say the mods here can be toxic, rude, arrogant, and biased. Anyway, back to your question. Most people who believe in the LOA only learned it from The Secret or some mod…

I’m a year late but let’s be real, this is facts. The people bashing manifestation or New Thought teachings are just mad it didn’t work for them. They got half-baked info off TikTok or Abraham Hicks, …

Text of original post by u/begoniapansy: sometimes i feel like ill get my attachment issues triggered by something random and then spiral. im trying to not do this or at least handle it better. i also…

Okay, that makes sense. I think your husband might need to be more gentle and respectful with how they ask for space and how he sets your expectations for it. Ignoring you is flat out NOT GOOD. Anyon…

The function of anxiety is letting you know that something is wrong. The thing about us anxiously attached folks is that our anxiety malfunctions when getting to know someone we like or when in a rela…

Yeah I feel I can't win with anxious attachment. If someone usually replies fast and then randomly takes hours one day, I wonder if the break in pattern is because they're upset or lost interest. But…

Personally I dont say I missed you too unless it was true, I would just organize a time to spend time together, start a meaningful conversation, and maybe say “sorry Ive been mia <3 how have you been?…

I'm not anxious, but feeling drained by a random "I miss you" from a friend sounds very weird to me. If anything, I'd be glad to hear that they think of me and miss me, not drained. And no, I wouldn't…

Don't send it, you don't know where they're at in their life or what they're doing and it could be disruptive or painful.  I've had bad relationships and I don't think I would want a random unexpect…

I have these random moments where all my feelings come to surface almost all at once which push me to want to break no contact. I feel the same regret and anxiety when there’s silence even after tryin…

About a year ago, we got new seasonal hires at my job. One of them ended up being this woman. I usually chitchat with new hires if they have questions regarding the job and that’s about it. I would ch…

No one is born good. It requires knowledge of good and application of good to be good. It doesn't just happen randomly, just like medical skill doesn't just happen randomly.

I am needing some advice, I am an anxious (duh LOL) attachment who is long distance dating an avoidant (at least to what i believe, based on the hot and cold). I recently had my feelings hurt by him a…

I don’t have an answer to your question but, you’re not alone. My relationship history and upbringing are very similar to yours. My therapist told me I’m a fixer and need to be needed by people to fee…

ANXIOUS 24/7 Even though my fiance is mostly present, texts, and calls (once per day sometimes a bit late because he is at work) I am always anxious and I hate myself for that. If he gets one tick …

I’m hoping someone will say it’s not bad and it’s not a big deal and it’s just my anxious attachment style. But I also want the truth. She apologized for this type of behavior years ago. She told me …

Text of original post by u/InternationalPlum288: So I don’t really understand this anxiety either but I really don’t like smoking. I don’t smoke but I’m okay with whoever wants to, unless they pressur…

Your first two sentences are a little opposite of each other. You start by saying how much you don’t like smoking….but then you soften that by saying that it only matters that you are not pressured to…