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Do narcissists know what they're doing - an answer.

Do narcissists know what they're doing - an answer. — A question victims of narcissistic abuse often ask is, "does the narcissist know what they're doing?" This is a completely reasonable and understandable question. From my own lived experience with a …

r/NarcissisticAbusepost4/4/2026
A Procedural Update for the Continued Health of Our Subreddit.

A Procedural Update for the Continued Health of Our Subreddit. — Hey everyone on r/NarcissisticAbuse.  We get it, we really do– the U.S. political situation right now is a bloody mess with further escalation, rather than some kind of stability, on the horizon.  W…

r/NarcissisticAbusepost3/10/2025
Discharged after a 3 star Google review

Discharged after a 3 star Google review — Hi! I have autism so I sometimes have a hard time figuring out how I come across . But I was at a practice that provided both APRN services and therapy . I posted a three star Google review saying I …

r/therapypost3/13/2026
Anyone else here develop a brutal inner critic because of trauma?

Anyone else here develop a brutal inner critic because of trauma? — Not sure if this is just a me thing or if other people with CPTSD deal with this too my brain can be exhausting sometimes like after a normal conversation i'll get home and suddenly my brain starts re…

r/CPTSDpost3/31/2026
does anyone else feel like they’ve been stuck in their own head for years and can’t get out

does anyone else feel like they’ve been stuck in their own head for years and can’t get out — idk how to even say this but I feel like I’ve been stuck in my own head for years like everything turns into overthinking without me even trying I’ll replay conversations in my head over and over th…

r/CPTSDpost4/4/2026
my mind knows I’m trying to “trick” it

Internal Family Systems (IFS) is an approach to [psychotherapy](https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/therapy) that identifies and addresses multiple sub-personalities or families within each pers…

r/JosephMurphycomment4/24/2025
my mind knows I’m trying to “trick” it

Internal Family Systems (IFS) is an approach to [psychotherapy](https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/therapy) that identifies and addresses multiple sub-personalities or families within each pers…

r/JosephMurphycomment5/9/2025
How to shift focus when anxiously attached

I think that is healthy for the most part. How would you ever have anything new to learn from each otherr if you are not out living your purpose? What are you doing while he is out doing? Here are s…

r/AnxiousAttachmentcomment10/21/2025
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 03, 2026

Attachment styles are different from attachment disorders… of course they aren’t in the DSM, it is not a mental health disorder. However, [researchers do use it](https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/…

r/datingoverthirtycomment3/3/2026
Anyone else ashamed of how they were neglected but also spoiled?

What if… laziness wasn’t a real thing? Also if you’re being lazy are you having fun? If not that’s not being lazy, it’s being out of spoons. Aka tired. One psychologist perspective: https://www.psych…

r/EmotionalNeglectcomment3/12/2026
EMDR therapy fail

I found my EMDR therapist on psychologytoday.com I looked for people who accepted my insurance and did EMDR in my area and sent like a dozen emails before I found someone who had availability. I've be…

r/CPTSDcomment3/14/2026
32 years of marriage, but I'm still unsettled by an affair from 2006. Is it too late to ask for the truth?

It seems quite obvious her therapist gave her the idea of shelving the affair. Not all therapists are good at their job and who knows what your wife may have told the therapist. Likely some version o…

r/survivinginfidelitycomment3/14/2026
My girlfriend tells long, detailed work stories every day after I get home exhausted. 25M-23F, 6 months.

It's called external verbal processing. Both men and women do this (in particular a lot of people with ADHD). With friends and loved ones, I find it both endearing and exhausting. If I am stressed or…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/17/2026
My girlfriend tells long, detailed work stories every day after I get home exhausted. 25M-23F, 6 months.

Bro I’m not the one that coined the term “the male loneliness epidemic”. https://news.gallup.com/poll/690788/younger-men-among-loneliest-west.aspx There’s also research supporting men tend to be hap…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/17/2026
Something mentioned but not talked about, Serotonin.

Serotonin is not a hormone. It's a neurotransmitter. The theory that depression is connected with low serotonin has been debunked: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/your-brain-food/202207/eviden…

r/Meditationcomment3/19/2026
The Gift of Fear by Gavin De Becker

>She said nothing even related to what you just said. She said "I love how he writes when a man says no it is a complete sentence. When a woman says no it is up for negotiation." I was merely pointi…

r/CPTSDcomment3/19/2026
REVISE

You’d experience the same thing through therapy, just with a trained professional so it doesn’t get out of hand. They just call it by another name: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/flipping-ou…

r/nevillegoddardcomment3/25/2026
I really hate me so much

I looked at your past posts. You are not worthless. You have tried to work but you are experiencing health problems that you haven't gotten to the bottom of. And your "wonderful" husband's reaction to…

r/survivinginfidelitycomment4/2/2026
Can’t find a therapist anywhere. I’m scared I’ll have no choice but to die

First of all I just want to say that no matter how hopeless you feel, there are always options. You matter, and you deserve help and treatment. Many of us have been there and feel/have felt this too. …

r/CPTSDcomment4/5/2026
My mom gives me silence treatment all the time. what can I do?

This IS abuse though. It is the definition or emotional and psychological abuse. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/invisible-bruises/202411/stonewalling-as-a-form-of-emotional-abuse I know its…

r/EmotionalNeglectcomment4/5/2026
I have a serious aversion to meditation and being present in general. And I don't know how to overcome it.

I relate to this a lot. Going to go straight into it… * **Cultivating mindfulness attitudes** such as patience, non-striving, compassion, etc. Sometimes we need to approach life and our practices wit…

r/Meditationcomment4/7/2026
I developed BPD, cPTSD and many other severe problems. Please, if you know it’s narc abuse, leave. It gets worse ❤️

I’m so sorry this happened to you. I also developed even worse cPTSD because of my narc ex. I also developed an autoimmune disease. Narcissists destroy people and their lives. Also if you have a…

r/NarcissisticAbusecomment4/8/2026
BF (22M) fell for a phone scam. I (22F) don’t know how to feel about it, as well as my response. What would you guys do?

So many educated, fully grown adults have fallen for this same scam. While I understand your disappointment, it’s like very difficult for him as well. Try not to say “I told you so”. This is an arti…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/8/2026
Finally seeing the realities of my mother's "silent treatment"

Look up the term “stonewalling”. That’s exactly what this is, and it’s emotional abuse. Full stop. Once you understand exactly what she’s trying to do, you can feel more control over your own feeling…

r/EmotionalNeglectcomment4/9/2026
2+ years on, still haven't gotten over my breakup

How did you choose these therapists? There's a site called 'Psychology Today' where you can sift through different mental health professionals by education background, years of experience, and area of…

r/datingoverthirtycomment4/11/2026
i (22f) feel nothing after dates with (23m) advice?

Kink aware professionals guide https://www.kapprofessionals.org/ Psychology today listings, filter by "Sex positive, kink allied" https://www.psychologytoday.com/us Again, therpaists can suc…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/12/2026
Stimulating the vagus nerve and/or parasympathetic nervous system with acupressure points. The fastest path to relaxation and deep meditation.

Best way to stimulate the Vagus nerve is meditation of loving kindness. https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0149763420304437#:\~:text=There%20is%20now%20considerable%20evidence…

r/Meditationcomment4/12/2026
You can’t control others. Only yourself.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/a-different-kind-of-therapy/202506/when-boundaries-cross-the-line Is this helpful?

r/therapycomment4/12/2026