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Thank you so much for this. I'm 27 and I spent so much of my 20s wallowing in depression -- not doing much -- just stuck at home doing chores or being online. That inner critic was never happy with me…

Start Here: Essential Resources & FAQs — The idea for this post came up in [this thread](https://www.reddit.com/r/Wordpress/comments/1cpme25/mods_can_this_subreddit_implement_a_minimum_karma/) by wiz to avoid the number of similar questions …

Long road to dream job and instant healing. — Bestcub called me to write this, I hope it will be helpful to someone. A story like many others. After years of wandering around shitty loa and other stupid spheres, books and forums I finally start…

Validate an idea for me - a web page recording chrome extension — Couple of years ago there was this extension called Nimbus, people used it take video captures of websites. Since it was hard to capture a smooth scrolling view of a website by just scrolling down and…

Business scaling up - what cloud provider should we use? — Our business is scaling rapidly — we’re currently handling millions of unique requests per week, and this number continues to grow. At the moment, we’re hosted on DigitalOcean, paying approximately €4…

What's new in AI for marketing: YouTube is testing AI reviews, will it reduce clicks? Google discusses search ranking volatility, beyond — Sometimes it’s so hard to keep up with all the AI news. It seems like it's taking over every platform and us as well. But the most important thing is staying updated on everything important. So let’s …

Freelance in SEO or full-time remote job: Am I making a mistake by still applying? — Hey everyone, I’m at a bit of a crossroads and could really use your advice—even if it goes against what I’m currently thinking. Since I was 18 (I’m 20 now), I’ve been building websites just for fun…

Freelance in SEO or full-time remote job: Am I making a mistake by still applying? — Hey everyone, I’m at a bit of a crossroads and could really use your advice—even if it goes against what I’m currently thinking. Since I was 18 (I’m 20 now), I’ve been building websites just for fun…

How to Wreck Your Career: a cautionary tale from someone who has 5 years of experience.. — Context:- I am a 31 year old UX designer with a masters degree in industrial design from one of the top design schools here in India. I have almost 6 years of experience on the paper of which I hav…

Is lovable.ai good? — So i tried using lovable.ai today for a project. I was working on verification as a use case and had all my screens ready. I thought that rather than prototyping, i will rather experiment with lovable…

Ready to Boost Your Business? Our Pro Team Can Help! — hope you’re doing great! I wanted to reach out and let you know we’re currently helping businesses like yours grow faster with our proven organic and paid advertising strategies. Whether you’re looki…

What are the Benefits of AI in eCommerce that actually influence why we buy? — I was reading up on how ai taps into emotions like FOMo urgencye or even guilt to push you closer to a purchase. and it’s not always obvious it’s subtle stuff like “only a few left prompts or remindin…

What Platform Engineering Really Means (and How It Differs from DevOps and SRE) — Hey all, I just wrote a piece breaking down what **Platform Engineering** is — not just as a buzzword, but as a real discipline that’s emerging in many engineering organizations. 🔧 **Key takeaways…

What should i do to earn 10k/month ? — I’m 20 yrs old and in college studying IT, but i’ve been so caught up in everybody my age earning 10k a month and kinda feeling left behind.. i currently run a pretty successful depop business but its…

Tips regarding upgrading Contour — Hey everyone :) We have a Contour (https://projectcontour.io/) and are a bit behind when it comes to version updates. There is a guide on their website here [https://projectcontour.io/resources/upgr…

Small Business Case Study: How We Grew Our Instagram & TikTok with an AI Social Media Assistant (No Ad Spend!) — **Post Body:** Hi everyone! I co-own a small business (a boutique cafe + online store) and wanted to share our experience using an **AI “social media assistant”** to grow our Instagram and TikTok. W…

antidepressants and avoidant attachment — i (22f, FA) came off venlafaxine (SNRI) about two months ago after being on it for 5+ years for depression and anxiety. predictably a lot of stuff is coming up, OCD and BDD symptoms, anxiety is a bit …

I (re)earned my secure attachment this week. What a journey this has been. — I just wanted to share this diary dump with anyone who wants a success story. I believed myself to be FA/A for a long time, and this week I can finally call myself secure. TW: sexual assualt Despite …

Physical Reaction — I will try to keep the backstory short. I had not known anxious attachment was a thing or that one of my coworkers had become one of only a couple people I really felt a deep connection to, until a f…

Success Story: FA/Disorganized Attachment Healing Roadmap, Resource Recommendations — **Hello, fellow Fearful Avoidants! The below post has grown out of almost 3 years of research and healing this attachment style, which in my case was coupled with Relationship OCD (ROCD). ROCD is a vi…

Need advice: Is it possible to be anxious anxiously attached to a specific person? — Good evening everyone! I am 25 M Recently, things ended pretty badly with this woman I was close to with. She was aware I had feelings for her, and well would flirt back sometimes. I was and still am…

Global Policy Journal: “Don’t look up?“ – Why it is past time for serious holistic research into Unidentified Anomalous Phenomena — Karin Austin, Michael Bohlander and Kimberly S. Engels have contributed an excellent article to the Global Policy Journal. Two of these people I've met personally and they are experiencers who are doi…

I’m genuinely confused by the adverse effects since starting to do the programming — Yeah yeah, I’m one of those. I have been on a SP mission for almost three months now. We started in a semi okay place, even though it’s a long distance thing and I’m programming for us to be in a rela…

a song about longing for something that never was - disorganized attachment style edition — lyrics: Who am I without wanting you? A shadow tracing something true There's a part of me that still holds onto you tight To every place you touched in my life I can't tell where you end, and I b…

i feel safe with being almost loved | disorganized attachment style anthem | i want love but i'm scared | (cathartic release) — Lyrics: Love, for me, is just a hallway, Soft light, shadows drifting slow. I see a silhouette approaching Then I turn before my heart can get too close. Sometimes I feel a brush of something ten…

March 2026 Astrology: Transits, Key Dates, and More — **Last month’s write-up, I ended with this,** *“Let’s just say we end the month in a chaotic state of energy. Nothing seems real while at the same time, there is a sense of urgency that something need…

Saw the same man I've been seeing as a kid — I'm sorry about the use of A.I but my drawing skills are bad and I don't know how to explain this but I've seen this man in my dreams ever since I was a child. I remember seeing shows like Tom and Jer…

My girlfriend [20F] has scrubbed all photos of me [21M] from her social media and her room. How do I handle her explanation? — My girlfriend and I have been getting into quite a few "back and forth" fights over the past month, and it feels like nothing is changing. Recently, she started removing photos of me from her Instagra…

Cannabis vs. Mushrooms [My Experience] — So I'll start off by saying I'm not very experienced and have multiple psychotic and/or disassociative disorders plus a medical card But I'm surprised at my take away when using the medical marijuana…

42M. Do these things basically disqualify me entirely? — I'm 42, Male, home owner almost half way paying off the mortgage, university post-graduate education, full time job in retail middle management that I actually enjoy doing, a bunch of mostly solitary …

“You must respect your mom, she’s your mom.” — How many times have I heard this lecture? People who have normal families have absolutely zero clue what they are talking about. When people see a situation or even read a situation they can’t tolera…

How to Meditate (or at least one way to get started) — Intro: There are endless amount of intentions or, in other words, ways to focus your meditation practice. At the end of the day, your meditation practice is \*yours\*, so make it your own. This post …

Married 5 months after 10 years together (M32 / F29) — she started talking to another guy right after the wedding. We’re now on a 30-day separation and I don’t know what to do. — I’m looking for honest advice from people who have either been through something like this or have perspective I might not be seeing right now. My wife (F29) and I (M32) have been together for about …

Why Being Ok With Not Having Your Desire Manifests It Faster — It’s a very contradictory thing in manifesting where you desire something, but you’re told to let it go and not care about whether or not you have it (because in 4D you already have it). But let’s fo…

Ran into my ex today with her new boyfriend and it hit me harder than expected — Earlier today I bumped into my ex in the city, walking hand in hand with a guy. The moment she saw me, she immediately let go of his hand, looked down at her phone, and sort of moved behind him while …

I feel like no one talks about parental co-dependency… — My mother and I are thick as thieves and have been ever since I was born. I grew up in a household full of boys and men, my mother being the only consistent woman in my life. I had many ups and dow…

I feel like I am probably wasting my potential because of family and not making a decision that I should?! — Today I was just enjoying the day. The weather felt quite warmer than few days ago. Love the spring season! Then I started wondering... Started thinking like how I feel that I am at a stage where i sh…

My (26/M) Girlfriend (26/F) Of 6.5 Years Emotionally Cheated and I Don’t Know What To Do — My (26/M) girlfriend (26/F) and I met our first year of college and started dating shortly after. We went through Covid together, graduated together, and started living together about 2 years ago. We…

I just need to rant, Y'all. I'm so angry!!!! — My 83YO Ndad is selling the farm/family business Emom left my brother (48) and me (52) in an irrevocable trust. Dad is tickled pink with himself for installing legal loopholes to fuck us over. His IQ …

Divorce isn’t all it’s cracked up to be — I miss coming home and kissing my wife. I miss coming up behind her and hugging her, kissing her neck, caressing her breasts. I miss her laying beside me in bed at night. I miss the conversations bef…

Leaving your CR self behind — My main reason for shifting isn’t mainly because I want to experience in my DR, it’s because of what’s happening in the world currently. That being said, when we shift we still leave our previous CR s…

Does anyone else watch nostalgic content to regulate their nervous system? — As a millennial, I've discovered that watching nostalgic videos more so from the 90s has really helped me to regulate my nervous system. I don't understand the psychology behind it but it makes me wi…

How do I get over this desperation ? — I am a 24 year old student for a professional course which requires me to stay at home and study for it as there is no college or an institution for its qualification. One thing which overwhelms me is…

Friend said something that shocked me and explained everything... — Edit: added an extra story to the bottom since this post seemed to resonate with people so much. Be strong folks, you're no one's NPC. You can go back and find a lot of my story on my page, but essen…

What if manifestation is actually people waking up inside a simulation? — I’ve been thinking about something and I’m curious if anyone else has had this thought. I came up with a theory that reality might be a simulation or something similar to a “matrix.” If that’s true, …

Getting married soon help me pls — We met in high school and I have spent my entire adult life loving her. I’ve (30m) moved across the country for her (28f) career 4 times, leaving all my friends and family behind. I’ve worked 60-70 ho…

Random lucid dream after I stopped practicing? — I stopped practicing lucid dreaming about a month ago. No reality checks, no dream journal, nothing. Yesterday before sleeping I was talking a lot with an AI about lucid dreaming and how I wanted to m…

OKAY LISTEN Y'ALL. — I don't know which tag this would come under but I just have to say this because the amount of 'im gonna give up' , 'its not working' ' what am I doing wrong' posts am seeing is insaneee. First of all…

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THE PHOENIX LIGHTS 29th ANNIVERSARY This is what I saw that night March 13, 1997. It was a totally solid piece of machinery not just lights. I could see the bottom of the UFO clearly by two light sources illuminating the bottom of the craft as it flew over my head — I posted this also in UFO sub. March 13, 1997 I was working in East Mesa, Arizona in a 10 bed Hospice inpatient unit as the Charge RN. We worked 12 hour shifts getting off at 7:30 PM but that night t…

The secret to manifestation — I posted here about a year ago about an experience I had with the I AM state. Since then, my life has changed completely. Manifestation became absolutely natural, to the point where it became a questi…

Correction: Neville taught to “feel as if”. There were many New Thought authors that taught their students to “act as if”, but Neville primarily taught how to impress your subconscious mind using slee…

>Correction: Neville taught to “feel as if”. There were many New Thought authors that taught their students to “act as if”, but Neville primarily taught how to impress your subconscious mind using sle…

Ok- I dunno how to approach this. My parents did *not* talk about feelings. Still don't-- small town German-Irish silence. I never once witnessed conflict resolution-- just behind the back bottling an…

I do try but it just doesn’t happen, it turns into a lot of colours and strain behind my eyes regardless of how relaxed my body is.

Hmmmmm you know I recently only learned the word astral travelling but I have been doing it for years. I did have a question about folding space, is there anyone else here able to fold space in their …

I want to Ap but as a kid I watched a lot of sci fi demonic movies and my mom would study Wiccan culture so I’m like ehhhhh what’s going to happen to me will I get stuck there will something else tak…

Aww im sure you would be able to find a partner that love you despite your autism. My ex is autistic too. He broke up with me and didnt even explain the reason behind the breakup. It hurts so much. …

I believe its driving my ex crazy that I've had no contact since I left 7 months ago. Saw him on the highway, he kept changing lanes and stayed behind me. I got off of the next exit.

Omg I relate SO much to what you are saying. When my ex's affair was discovered he was remarkably cruel to me. He wasn't sure he wanted to continue in our marriage and refused to cut things off with h…

If you left your ex then don’t go back because you’ll look like a chump… admit your mistake, move on and grow… if your ex dumped you then face it… you got dumped… examine yourself, grow and move on… …

"I was accepting her for her more and more every day. She was doing the opposite" This! And not just this, really liked your whole post. Where are you now? Did you leave that relationship behind …

PLEASE READ IF YOUR LOOKING INTO ASTRAL PROJECTING. About 2 months ago I was looking extremely deep into astral projecting, once I seen what it was I was instantly drawn to it and thought it was inter…

I have experienced death before in dreams, many times, and in many different ways: drowning in icy cold mud, suffocating on rust, being electrocuted, having G-forces rip the vitals from my body, being…

From my experience the way he described it was the confusing part, especially considering the dozen translations there are of this book. Personally I think that a few things he is not right about w…

Is there really? At the end of the day, they’re all just scenes you conjured up in your mind. One may feel more “real”, but it’s still just your imagination. I and many other people who left manifesta…

I have many, many personal anecdotes that prove our beliefs create reality. Some goals/desires achieved are beyond the realm of mere coincidence and far exceed a free cup of coffee. My response to th…

You really can't put a time frame on it. There are tons of stories of people who've manifested their ex back in a year or more. I'll say this.. If you lack faith it's going to take either longer or …

I think taking personal time can come from different motivations. Securely attached people love their own time too, especially if they’re more introverted and have hobbies that require undivided atten…

I didn’t like the book attached bc he basically denigrates avoidants & says the only way forward is to be jn relationships w secure people- which js statistically not possible & ignores the vast treas…

Your feelings are valid, AND they are not facts. The above commenter is trying to offer you some wisdom; you can choose not to be reactive and take it personally and look again and ask “what can I lea…

Totally agree with this. Perhaps the mechanism behind "BeeDee" is actually fear. We humans are complex but probably not to the level of this dissection. Some type of wounding creates maladaptive stra…

Interpreters make do. Sometimes agencies will have specialists that are better at technical or medical or legal contexts and send them, but it isn't always the rule. When I was in grad school, there w…

How many companies are using electricity and the internet? If you arnt staying up with new tech you are leaving money on the table and getting left behind. I use AI for templates in writing. To make m…

There’s a No Doubt song called Open the Gate that I recently realized must be about a DA too: “I see you from a distance From beyond the fence you’ve made Hiding all your feelings Behind your barrica…

More interesting would be how to correctly set it up in a (K8s) cluster, especially given that it's recommended to have exclusive usage of the node with the MinIO workers. Not trying to slander your …

I'm sorry you are dealing with this, and I understand that point of desperation. This was me, and some days still is. I still feel invisible and isolated a lot of the time. But me aside, I feel terrib…

This is best description that I've heard, just amazing. My partner (now probably ex, as he decided we'll "take a pause" - of course without saying for how long or what does it mean) accused me of "not…

Thanks for the detailed response. A slight mistake for me is telling me they do not appreciate me going behind their back and doing things and essentially deceiving them. I agree and THEY do the going…

I actually agree with a lot of this. I used to be a completely unaware avoidant. Shut down, withdrew, pushed away people who loved me and then blamed them for needing too much. And for a long time, I…

I think it is ok if you never get over what happened. I do think sometimes it gets murky. We think it’s the person, when it’s really the situation. I’ve found myself in situations I thought I’d never …

Orrrrrrrr.... In the early thaw of spring, when frost still clung stubbornly to the edges of the earth, the apology remained unsent. It lingered like a letter never mailed. Its seal unbroken, its tru…

Understanding the psychology behind it helps

Well, where do I start? I guess for me the foundation was based on 3 pillars. 1st was of course Mindfulness as ability to comprehend that neither thoughts or feelings are our true self, which is in fa…

I understand why you'd ask. In my case, I wasn't abandoning my boundaries as much as strategically relaxing them for the purpose of understanding the situation and her. I recognized early on that her …

I feel this. as a female FA who leans anxious (specifically towards men) I can relate a lot because in my female friendships, a lot of the time you're expected to be an emotional rock all the time for…

Hiding behind the phone. That’s one thing that pissed me off with my DA Ex who discarded me. Do what I plan to do if she ever texts me- Simply reply - “If you want to talk, you know where I live” …

A 2nd time around rarely meets expectations. You’re better off leaving the past behind you. Your precious commodity is your time - don’t waste it on people who don’t deserve a seat at your table. Good…

Yeah, I think that's the meaning I'm putting behind these words. Than you for a word of advice!

I agreed until the part where you said the choosing is just leading to superficial when I made a distinction between investment and interest. Investing to me includes being willing to do that work. Ch…

> But she’s a grown adult. It was way too controlling for you to try to tell her that she wasn’t allowed to come into work because she’s sick. It’s fine to offer it as an option, but to “call her out”…

I agree with opposite action but I also agree with your last paragraph :) I think the idea behind OA is to take baby steps, so that the discomfort is enough to gently push you out of your comfort zon…

Yes, i think this is very common with FA. Try to ask yourself if you are reacting to reality or the past or imagined future outcomes. When you did that, you are going to be still triggered but will fe…

Thank you for sharing. It sounds like you might be describing the 'Drama Magnet + The Citadel' trauma attachment patterns, which often come from emotional neglect childhood experience for you, and con…

Agree with most everyone else who has commented here. I don't know that the act of giving 3-4 weeks of space is either secure or AA. Instead, I'd look at the motivation behind it and what the space fe…

Agree, and people generally don't appreciate how AA/AP behaviors can express themselves in a way that don't neatly fit into a box. Individual variation accounts for a lot and context is everything. Yo…

Hey, thanks for the reply. I'll do my best to answer as precisely as possible > 1. You say you’re in the state of “I could get up, but I do not want to.” This means you’re not fully relaxed or in th…

He honestly just sounds like a huge jerk. He might be avoidant but being hurtful and rude and sloppy isn’t inherently avoidant behavior. I’d do your best to stop analyzing this. You didn’t do anythi…

I’ve also been exploring ways to understand my own attachment triggers, and I tried a platform with surprisingly relatable questions that helped me notice the patterns behind my reactions. I’ve been u…

First of all, I just want to say, I really feel your pain in this. Healing isn’t linear, and even when you’ve made so much progress, nights like this can hit hard. The fact that you’ve gone almost a y…

Fairly common and explains the reason behind anxious behavior strategies in your attachment system. As I’m sure many of you struggle with fully letting go of the past and probably struggle with emoti…