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I spent years trying to fix my life with discipline. Therapy showed me why that didn’t work

Thank you so much for sharing. I have been working on reconnecting with my emotions and learning to feel them. I had two teary-eyed moments near the beginning, and when you got to the part just about …

r/DecidingToBeBettercomment3/21/2026
I spent years trying to fix my life with discipline. Therapy showed me why that didn’t work

I spent years trying to fix my life with discipline. Therapy showed me why that didn’t work — **My Journey** I can’t remember not being depressed. I have some memories of the time before, but they are pictures, frames of a child enjoying life. But I’ve struggled with depression almost my enti…

r/DecidingToBeBetterpost3/16/2026
The "and" theory...

Sure! Some happen in conversation Let's take the example of a simple question to which you can answer with a yes or a no Example 1: Question : - " Do you want to go to the movies tonight? " ( You…

r/attachment_theorycomment4/4/2025
I (28F) gave my boyfriend (29M) an STD and I can’t stop feeling so ashamed and guilty

Lmao what the fuck. You suck dude. Yeah, you should have been tested after sleeping around. Dump worthy. stay safe out there everybody.

r/relationship_advicecomment3/8/2026
Today I walked away from my DA

As a fellow AP, I know it’s really hard, but you’re absolutely making the right decision. Cut him out of your life, go no contact, and don’t respond if he tries to get you back because he won’t actua…

r/attachment_theorycomment3/9/2026
Im fucking tired of fake af friends and family who never reach out to me unless I reach out first.

Man life is hard, people suck, i suck , you suck but it will just go on until i change something about it. So far im not making progress significant progress. Good luck my friend, even tho i think …

r/EmotionalNeglectcomment3/15/2026
Divorce really messes with your head.

Just remember the kids are innocent and it’s your job to protect them. My job is to make my kids happy even if I couldn’t make my wife happy. There is no divorce with them. They are what matters the m…

r/Divorcecomment3/17/2026
39M 34F. Partner of 18 months says unless I propose with a 40k real diamond, don't propose at all?

Well, now you know more about who she is… Side rant - lab grown diamonds do not carry the environmental and ethical implications that “real” diamonds do.  I have nothing but a giant side eye for anyo…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/18/2026
My husband (34M) told his friends about my miscarriage as a “joke” and now says I’m overreacting (32F)

Something this commenter said here makes me want to seek more info: what WAS his actual “joke”? That the two of you suck as a unit so much that…. Or was it an insult to *you* specifically like this co…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/19/2026
My husband (39M) is annoyed that I (31F) always get sick after him. How can we find a solution?

Does he know how viruses spread? This is an insane post to read. He gets sick too! It's not like you are out licking handrails in public and the only person in the home getting sick. Getting sick as…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/22/2026
Is it possible to manifest someone after 4 years???

If you dont set straight your self concept,and your love comes back,it will come to vanishing again because your self concept cannot sustain it It has to be an alignment between who you feel you are…

r/Manifestationcomment3/24/2026
Why does it take years to realize you’re traumatized? And why does "standard" therapy often miss the point?

This is relatable. Like "Hey, I'm paying you to be here. So obviously I got to make you feel good, even if you're obviously bad at your job" Instead of: "You're fired, you suck as a therapist!"

r/CPTSDcomment3/28/2026
I (f 22) tested positive for an std after years of being clean and consistent testing and my bf (m 24) of 2 years says it’s “impossible” it’s because of him despite not being tested for 5 years and now we’re not okay.

Why do the urgent care facilities near you suck so bad? I’m sorry that you’re going through it. Regardless of what the second test says, it sounds like he cheated.

r/relationship_advicecomment3/30/2026
Psychiatrist said "We all have some form of trauma" and she also said "blah blah" when I was sharing my trauma

There are levels of people. Just like how doctors used to believe plague masks prevented disease and we now know more specifically about why that's kinda technically true but not really for the reaso…

r/CPTSDcomment3/30/2026
Anyone else disinherited by their parents?

My emotionally volatile & physically abusive father just passed away. He traveled 5 out of 7 days of the week & was a nightmare to me growing up. As an adult, he (didn’t apologize, he was frequently w…

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/31/2026
My partner (23M) makes it extremely difficult for me (24F) to sleep

What happened to woman? How did we only get more pathetic and submissive. You need tough love, this is pathetic. Letting a man treat you like this is pathetic. He kicks you out of the room? Say "no." …

r/relationship_advicecomment4/2/2026
How to indicate to women that they shouldn't background check me before I can explain the situation?

Nobody is saying that OP "sucks," he is getting pushback because he came in here saying that there is no reason these women wouldn't want to go out with him again except that he shares a name with a s…

r/datingoverfortycomment4/2/2026
Cbt is humillating

Should have told him "you suck at this, genuinely" and asked him what he thought you were saying then.

r/CPTSDcomment4/3/2026
My (25f) neighbor (29f) believes she is miraculously pregnant

So... i bled HEAVILY during my last pregnancy and thought I miscarried every time (happened 3 times). My "miscarriage" just turned 9. She needs to see a doctor. And since this doesn't concern yo…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/3/2026
Conflict about 3rd kid after an affair (36M/36F)

Im so sorry man. Youre FD and she's stupid. I have no idea why you would ejaculate inside if a woman you dont want more kids with...but here you are. Is the baby yours? Honestly...break up. You think …

r/relationship_advicecomment4/4/2026
Why Don't Quality Men Seem To Want To Be With Me?

I know right? I’m not saying that attraction isn’t important but man personality holds the key. If you suck as a person I don’t want to be intimate with you regardless of what your face looks like

r/datingoverfortycomment4/4/2026
I told my wife, 26F, that our baby is mine and that I 25F, did not consider her the other parent. But I don't know if that was a good call?

Also just remember that Reddit is judging this incident as an isolated incident and likely can’t put themselves in your shoes and see the relationship through your eyes. Reddit didn’t see the abandonm…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/5/2026
Is it finally time for me, 42M to leave her, 43F?

She need a strong hand , they treat you like you tolerate , it's crazy but they are opposite, treat them good you suck treat them bad they chase you!!! Stupid but it's facts

r/relationship_advicecomment4/6/2026
How to call out white liberal racism

Next time just be like “Not my problem you suck at pulling out.” And laugh at him for having noodle arms. 

r/AsianAmericancomment4/6/2026
Breaking up with my Gf might ruin her life

He’s 25, she is 30. Family approval is likely tied to cultural things (inherent bigotry based on differences in religion, race, color, age gap, financial background… etc). I’m also willing to bet t…

r/relationshipscomment4/6/2026
What would be the best way for me (M38) to approach my wife (F37) of 10 years about separation and divorce?

Why are you still letting her homeschool them? Why haven't YOU brought your child to the doctor for their vaccinations? And your plan is to leave the kids with HER? Why are you more worried about ho…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/6/2026
Realized I don’t want to be married while my husband is deployed

IMO you suck it up, stay loyal, and wait until he’s back and see if you can make it work. That’s what the marriage vows are all about. I’m sure it is really hard to be lonely and separated (I’m sure b…

r/Divorcecomment4/8/2026
My (22F) boyfriend (26M) got very upset when I unexpectedly started my period

Girl when your friends tell you that you need to listen. This dude sucks, the way he treats you sucks, and the way he's worn down your self esteem so you're questioning how to communicate with him ins…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/9/2026
I feel like I, F19 might've messed up my first ever date by giving the guy, M23 a BJ?

You sucked his dick on the first date. He's not going to be upset with you at all. Don't sweat it. I had a girl puke on my dick giving me a BJ. We laughed about it. I wasn't upset, I was getting a B…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/10/2026
boyfriend (M31) canceled my (F26) birthday dinner reservation because of ongoing car issues

He's 31 too! If you suck at being an adult at that age at least be better at covering it up & not admit that your mommy still bails you out. At least he signed the card I guess? Lol

r/relationship_advicecomment4/11/2026
33M Fiancé (32F) told me she feels regret with me but our wedding is in 2 weeks

I went to a family member’s wedding earlier this year. I’m neurodivergent (AuDHD) and don’t enjoy crowds, loud music, I’m not a huge fan of travelling and I like to sleep in my own bed, I can be a bit…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/11/2026
I (M23), girlfriend (28F) together for 5 months. I may be in my head about our sex.

Oh say that youve never done this because you havent been certain but that youve never wanted to go down on anyone more badly than HER. And that you might not be perfect but that youre willing to lear…

r/relationshipscomment4/12/2026
I (23F) was recently told by my bf (27M) that my downstairs looks like roast beef

My husband said mine taste like cracklin 🤦🏽‍♀️... In his defense, he loves cracklin. He even explained that it's a little salty and when you suck on crackling it gets soft like the lips. So yeah, no…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/13/2026
ramble about community

There's enough stories on another sub about how their NPD-parents or in laws behave to know that you don't have to be beating someone with a stick every week to qualify as abusive. One man talked of…

r/CPTSDcomment4/13/2026