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Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men

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I think I’m a female narcissist and it’s ruining my relationship

Therapy is your best option, you can also read books like "Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men" by Lundy Bancroft. Staying in the present is hard after you've survive…

r/DecidingToBeBettercomment3/26/2026
My husband (36M) told me (33F) that I don’t deserve love until I’m 140lbs again?

You being healthy, happy, and confident is so more important than numbers on a scale. This is not how someone who genuinely loves and respects you would ever speak to you. Please check out the healt…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/12/2026
I (26F) told my boyfriend (26M) I sometimes miss the freedom of being single and he broke up with me on my birthday

> I begged him not to give me the silent treatment > I often feel like I’m walking on eggshells around him. He can be very strict and when he gets angry he sometimes gives silent treatment or holds …

r/relationship_advicecomment3/15/2026
I 27f pregnant can barley eat and my partner 31m didnt sleep because I ate McDonald’s

As a trauma therapist with a lot of experience in abuse dynamics, my alarm bells are going off. Controlling men rarely truly change, because real change requires specialized intervention programs, ove…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/24/2026
30F My 30M keeps commenting on what I eat with a magnifying glass. How do I go about telling him how this makes me feel?

You would benefit from this free copy of Lundy Bancrofts [“Why does he do that? Inside the minds of angry and controlling men”](https://ia800108.us.archive.org/30/items/LundyWhyDoesHeDoThat/Lundy_Why-…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/26/2026
Is this a valid reason to cheat?

Everyone's already said it, but he's just a jerk. What happened in your life to make you think being treated this way is what you deserve, that it's acceptable behavior? If your mom was being treated …

r/survivinginfidelitycomment4/3/2026
My(20F) boyfriend(19M) says our sex is bad and has made me insecure beyond repair

I’m a trauma therapist with extensive training in abuse dynamics, and I’m going to be very direct: this is abuse. What you’re describing is sexual degradation and coercive control. He is targeting one…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/5/2026
What are most men like when they are upset? I (42F) am considering leaving my husband (46M) over how he acts when upset.

Hi. You are in an abusive relationship. You would benefit from this free copy of Lundy Bancrofts [“Why does he do that? Inside the minds of angry and controlling men”](https://ia800108.us.archive.or…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/9/2026
Please help me (33F) make my boyfriend (35M) realise this isn’t normal behaviour and isn’t ok?

My god. Have you not considered that he’s making your health issues much worse and you wouldn’t be in such bad shape if you weren’t with a literal enemy combatant? Free copy here of Why Does He Do T…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/13/2026