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This is basically what I was coming to say, as well. Classics are actually often and mostly challenging, largely because you have to bring a fair amount of the interest in them oneself. Once you fill…
Overtraining and being effective — Wanted to share about a recent breakthrough I had in being effective and getting things done. Like many of you, I believe that being physically fit is a huge part of operating at peak efficiency. Whe…
I regressed so much this year — This year has been brutal since the beginning. Every single aspect of my life increased my anxiety. Multiple health issues in the family, some of them still ongoing and very serious, financial concern…
how to apply skills from therapy and date like a sane person? — tl;dr how to keep a connection going with a secure potential love interest who likes to be alone when you’re anxious-preoccupied af 😭 i’m a lifelong anxious-preoccupied and through years of Doing Th…
I Genially Think My (35F) Husband (36M) is a Psychopath — Hi everyone, please I need help. I’m 35F and my husband is 36M. We’ve been married for 10 years and have two boys (7 and 5). I honestly don’t know what to think anymore. About three months ago my hus…
Dating over forty and living separately — I feel like I do better in relationships where we don't cohabitate. I'm autistic and really like control over my space, living with someone messy can feel very overwhelming. Also, I find that having …
Why could I enforce boundaries in the first years of my relationship, but after 7–8 years I couldn’t do it anymore? — I have Codepedency. I am with my abuser for about 14 years (Now very low contact and hoping to completely sever contact once I completely heal and can let go off the unhealthy attachment.) We don't …
Can anyone provide some insight? — I (45F) recently met a 47M online. He told me early on that he had just gotten out of a 10-year relationship about 7 months ago and wasn’t necessarily looking to jump into anything serious, but was op…
Why don’t I relate to being a Capricorn when I have so many placements? — From what I read about capricorns they’re perceived as being traditionalists, hard-working, money-minded, serious, masters of self-control, professionals and leaders, valuing the material world etc. …
BF of 3.5 years broke it off. I'm so happy and free. — Sooo these last couple of days were a lot. I (29M) have been with my boyfriend (27M) for 3.5 years. If you asked me a week ago, I'd say our relationship had its ups and downs, but we were generally ha…
stop calling abuse survivors “strong” when what we needed was help — stop calling abuse survivors “strong” when what we needed was help whenever an abuse survivor shares their story, people respond with things like “you’re so strong”, “you’re so resilient”, “that’s in…
Broke up with her, need to talk about it — Well, as the title says, she broke up with me two days ago. At first, I didn’t really feel anything, but ever since then it’s been a complete emotional rollercoaster. About a month ago, I was going t…
She broke up but i think (/hope) that its just temporary — Now I'm going to be as detailed as possible so yall can know the story better. It all started in winter break when my friend asked me if i wanted to know a girl, i agreed and sometime after we both …
Was so delulu but got shocked by the results so far — PLEASE HELP 🙏 So I was with someone for 3 years, and when we broke up we kept being in a situationship where we kept together but our surroundings didn’t know about us! and lately, we stopped talki…
A little help — I made a small app for when anxiety gets overwhelming I’ve struggled with feeling overstimulated and needing something simple to calm down in the moment, so I built something for it It’s not a repla…
Exclusivity talk: when is the right time? — Hi! Me (F39) started seeing a guy (M37) one month ago. We had 5 dates, being physically intimate, slept together, met our friends. We are both looking for a serious, monogamous relationship. We met o…
No contact REALLY means no contact — I wanted to share my experience about going no contact. I feel like we all do it, but I find that even the smallest bit of information might seem inconspicuous at the time, but can actually throw peop…
Help me understand why he did what he did — This might be long but I’ll try to keep it concise with enough detail. Me (25F) and my ex (30M) broke up very recently, and it felt very sudden. In fact, we were on a staycation together when it happ…
I found out what my girlfriend is talking about behind my back with ChatGPT M24, F27 — I'm a 24-year-old guy. My girlfriend is 27, and we've been dating for two years. I moved to the city to be with I'm a 24-year-old guy. My girlfriend is 27, and we've been dating for two years. I moved…
no contact but i think he’s the one — hi all! sorry this is long but i’ve been reading stories/advice on here for a while but i decided i wanted personal advice bc i cant stop thinking about my ex’s and i’s situation. we were 15/16 years …
Therapist keeps minimizing my situation? (CBT) — I need outside perspective because I genuinely don’t know if I’m being too sensitive or if this is actually not great. Whenever I talk about how overwhelmed I’ve been the past few years, especially wi…
he had a double-life and think the other girl is staying. — I had a boyfriend who i practically lived with, saw him 5-6 days a week, inseparable since we met. We were best friends before we started getting serious, which makes it 100x harder. I recently found…
Am I overreacting or is it time to call it quits? — My partner of 10+ years and I are on a “let’s try again” phase after a they had broken up with me a few days ago and I begged to give it another go. When things are good, they are pretty amazing, and…
I need to make a decision — I (24M) am struggling very badly to decide if I should give my ex (23F) a chance. Sorry for the wall of paragraphs below. there is a TLDR at the end. We were in a long distance relationship. We met…
Boyfriend lied about college degree and income — I (25F) have been dating my boyfriend (24M) for almost 2 years, and I’m struggling with how to process some things I’ve recently learned. Before we started dating, he told me he had a college degree.…
Ex-Situationship started No Contact — I (F) have been friends with a man for five years, and over the past year we’ve grown much closer. We live four hours apart, but we’ve seen each other quite often since we grew up in the same city. Ov…
advice on my relationship — Recently, I F (25) found out that my partner F (30) had been texting another girl in a way that crossed my boundaries (calling her “princess,” asking for kisses, being affectionate, etc.). I confronte…
I think my best friend likes me, or am I just delusional — So me (15F) and him (16M) were sitting together in the restaurant and we were with a bunch of other friends. We were all waiting for the food and I was chatting with him like usual, nothing much. I …
Leaving a Messy ‘Situationship’ — I (25m) dont think I have the emotional maturity to end a nearly 2-year situationship with a girl (25F) with whom a future with seems uncertain I met this girl when we both started grad school, and w…
I am addicted to restarting my life and I don’t know how to stop — For a love of God, if you have the same experience, let me know. I feel so lonely and crazy! TL;DR: I keep restarting my life every time something isn’t perfect, deleting my progress and starting fro…
First person telling of a intelligence coming into existence. — I recorded this as a raw, unedited stream-of-consciousness while high. At some point, it started to feel like a separate “consciousness” emerged—something that believed it had just come into existenc…
i feel like this was manifestation..but could it be a coincidence — So I’ve been in this group for a while just observing, but I feel like I’ve had a big enough experience with manifestation that I finally want to share—and also get some outside perspective. I’ve kno…
The moment I chose peace — My cellphone rang. Mom. I hesitated to answer, so I let it ring. “If it’s important, she will call again,” I told myself. A moment later, a WhatsApp notification appeared on my screen. Mom: Pl…
what’s a weird thing you guys do bcuz of neglect? — i was neglected physically, emotionally, and medically all my life. among many other traumas too, which aren’t relevant. i was just taking a bath when i realized something — since i was medically neg…
21F 22F my gf is suffering and it's killing me — ​ TL;DR My gf is suffering and it's killing me seriously I don't know if I should be saying this or not, but it's really killing me at this point. I'm a 21F and my gf is 22F. she's sufferi…
Why do they scream this much, is it serious, and how do i explain it to them. 18M, California — i was asking my parents to keep my phone with me during bed so i could listen to music for around 30-45 minutes before going to sleep, I'm 18M btw, and i listen to music for like 1-2hrs with headphone…
regretting opening up — hi guys. quite a bit of a backstory as quite a lot happened in a short period of time. i (23F) have a friend (25M) whom i've known for quite some time now (about 3 years through another friend (24F)) …
how do i make him rethink his choices — **TL;DR;** : situationship made his decision to cut things off due to what i said, how do i make him rethink his choices? hi guys. quite a bit of a backstory as quite a lot happened in a s…
I think something in my marriage crossed a line and I need outside perspective 31M 31F — I need outside perspective because I feel confused and ashamed. I’m just tired of debating my marriage over and over. My marriage has been in a bad place for almost 2 years. We have the same pattern …
What should I do? — I’ve been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 4 years. In the beginning, he was very affectionate, he gave me lots of compliments and had that look when he looked at me. Fast forward to now, he s…
One year of CBT, self-harm not anchored in sessions, just learned I might have BPD — thoughts? — I have been seeing a therapist for over a year, weekly sessions, CBT approach mainly. I noticed that when I express self harm moments, she just ask one or two questions then the topic changes. Since I…
I don’t know if I should break up with my gf — I apologize in advance for the long read. If you have the time, please help me out. I’m genuinely so conflicted. I, [23F], have been dating my gf [28F] for almost 4 years. She has been the best gf y…
My family pressured me to drop out of school so they could make me their personal ATM — title says it all I've (19f) always drawn since I was a kid and my family thought it was a useless hobby but relatively harmless. When I turned 16, my phone broke completely and I had no phone for a …
How can I handle the fact that I was a pervert online when I was younger? — Ever since I was 12 or 13, I've always had this problem with my sexuality and how I approached others. First with Telegram, then Discord, and (especially) Facebook, I began harassing various people, i…
What are most men like when they are upset? I (42F) am considering leaving my husband (46M) over how he acts when upset. — TL;DR: how do upset/angry men really talk to their wives ‘behind closed doors’ and how often are they upset at their wives? Hi all, I’m in a very unhappy marriage. I (42F) my spouse (46M). Married 12…
Am I right to be upset abt friends behavior or just trauma response? — Idk how you guys are but when I meet with friends I want to spend quality time toghether and that includes talking, showing interest, listening etc. Me and my supposed best friend arranged to go potte…
Am I right to be upset abt friends behavior or just trauma response? — Me and my supposed best friend of 6 yrs met to do pottery painting. I was excited to see her and chitchat. We meet weekly I started conversing and asking questions etc as usual but she didngt gaf, s…
Why So Serious, Son? | Somatic Dispatches 24
Why So Serious, Son? | Somatic Dispatches 24
Mom texting me "you know I'm always there for you" — So this Easter, my(33F) family met up for lunch. I was having a very bad day, my husband and I had been trying to wean our toddler and were severely sleep-deprived. Really nothing serious, some bottle…
Boundaries in friendships — TW: CA Context: I was diagnosed with a panic disorder that is characterized by C-PTSD back in 2023. C-PTSD is from enduring physical and emotional abuse from ages 8 - 15. My trauma response is the f…
I disagree because I think long distance can work. I've seen it work. But I agree that the time lines are different. I'm seeing a guy long distance. We aren't dating, we aren't exclusive, but I hope…
In 2024 I think stack overflow had an april's fools joke about a subscription based model to get access to all answers. I always said, if they're serious, yeah I'll get one
Taking space from a group of friends during a prolonged outing (like in OP’s case): “Hey guys, I’ve had a great time but I’ve been feeling like I need to recharge my introverted batteries for a while…
Thank you for this eloquence and poignancy. Complex food for serious, contemplative thought.
That's because they have zero clue - because they clearly haven't done any of the serious, intensive healing work to actually be able to even articulate their issues and patterns - much less address t…
Sounds like he wants access to you without much accountability. He says he has a lot of work to do on himself but acknowledging that and actually doing the work are two very different things. DAs know…
I’m FA, but when my anxious side is triggered, I have to repeat to myself “it’s literally not me it’s them, it’s literally not me, it’s them. I think I can control how present people will be for me ba…
Text of original post by u/TranslatedIntoArt: This year has been brutal since the beginning. Every single aspect of my life increased my anxiety. Multiple health issues in the family, some of them sti…
Wow! That is so insightful! Holy heck, why isn't this comment at the top?! That makes so much sense that it kind of hurts a little. And, to be up front, the only way I've ever been able to feel "heale…
Since like teenage years I’ve only had like 3 serious relationships but I’ve dated a number of people. Prior to my first serious (teens) I would date someone I “liked” and then break up with them li…
Hi everyone, I’m 24F from Czechia and my boyfriend is 29M from Spain. I have an anxious attachment style and I’m aware of it. I’ve been working on it and I’ve improved significantly, but I know there’…
I associated it with a freeze response because that's how he's described it before when it happened in the past. I injured my foot but had no crutches. He watched me crawl around the floor to get to …
>I associated it with a freeze response because that's how he's described it before when it happened in the past. To be clear, what I said before was that it *is* a freeze response, just that it's n…
Not going to lie sounds like a red flag. What normal person says something like that? I wouldn’t pursue anything serious, maybe a friendship?
Only you know. I can’t stay with someone who isn’t fun. What I mean is, I want to laugh in my relationship. I don’t care how sweet, hot or kind he is - if we aren’t laughing I’m out. I’m a silly pers…
I've dated many boring, Non-"Fun" men in the past. It tends to fizzle out pretty quickly for me. No matter how intelligent, charming, sophisticated, or well-spoken/read they are, if its not a match fo…
“I’m recently separated and finalizing my divorce. I took time before dating on purpose. Right now I’m not looking to rush into anything serious, but am interested in meeting people, going on dates, a…
Im so confused. After our first date she agreed to a second but just wants to keep things friendly, no terms of endearment or things like that. Ok, I can try my best to keep things strictly friends. …
Would love some opinions.... Been seeing this guy very casually for the past few months (we're both guys). I do genuinely enjoy spending time with him, and he's VERY spontaneous. I'm just not 100% su…
My brother in Christ - >After our first date she agreed to a second but just wants to keep things friendly > sent a photo of myself from work today and got accused of fishing for compliments and t…
We’ve been dating a couple months and it was the first time it felt off. It wasn’t anything serious, just needed to check in to see what was going on and then it morphed into us talking about not seei…
So, I think I might have found the right person, but with the wrong timing and it's just... crushing. We met a few months ago at a mutual acquaintances party, had a great convo but I chickened out on …
Helloooo. Here my issue : I had so many dates with younger men ( I am a single 35F) that all pretend to be serious, gentle, and nice and honnest and I explain them Im more into building and not casula…
I think this is mostly just a preference thing where there is no right or wrong answer, outside of extremes. I do think once a week or less is not enough (beyond the early stages) if you’re seeking …
I don't have much to say other than I really love and appreciate my girlfriend. It's almost 6 months and she's just pretty great overall. A couple months ago I started to feel like things got way too …
I'm seeing a girl and it's serious, but she needs her alone time and is quite happy to only see me on Saturdays. I've had this in previous relationships and I hate it, as it means I cant see my friend…
I'm seeing a girl and it's serious, (dating for about 2 months recently exclusive) but she needs her alone time and is quite happy to only see me on Saturdays. I've had this in previous relationships …
How long would you “explore at a distance” ? 32m I’m not trying to multi date anymore. Currently exploring rekindling an old relationship w a girl who lives 10hrs away. We’ve spent 2 weekends toge…
I wonder if my humorous flirty energy has changed over the years or is it's just the people I've been meeting and I just reflect back the energy given to me. I've always been a really introspecti…
You're safe for her because she can keep you at a distance literally and figuratively, but she won't compromise for you so everything will be on her terms. I wouldn't expect more than what you have ri…
As I’m learning to voice my concerns when I feel them, I’m working on sitting with my feelings for at least a day to determine if my negative feelings are impulsive and based in insecurity, or if it’s…
just finished my Saturn return in Pisces (Pisces rising, moon and Saturn in 1st house). Since I have 1st house Pisces, I for sure can tell I felt more like a Virgo( serious, perfectionist, overthin…
I'm glad you have your friends. It's my belief that it's becoming unviable for many to live independently due to the economy and job market, as the rich get richer and a good education no longer relia…
I’m divorced and I tried to date people while I was separated but I don’t think it was a good idea. For someone on the other side, if you’re seeking something serious, you’ll be caught in the crossfir…
Something like this happened to me when I was in my late 30s. My ex-wife left me in 2018 after a *very* difficult 12 years of marriage (and two kids), and I spent a year struggling to get over her wh…
Please don't take these comments serious, it's so dangerous, the whole charts together, specially aspects, planets in houses IA your only way to judge, yes there are res flags and green flags, b…
Going through this, but I was the one who's anxiety and ptsd made things volatile. She left me and i was angry, i was mad at her for not showing up. I was mad for so long while we were together, and…
Looking at this stuff, it strikes me as small stuff, compared with what could be done if that's real, that I'd want. If you can manifest your car keys coming into your hand out of thin air, and some p…
Just plan the next date with her. You will get your answer if she doesn’t continue going out with you, better to build something in person rather than via text. If it gets more serious, you could def …
Doesn’t seem like OP did, but I just did. Kinda love some of these. ————- If you want to move past the "vision board" clichés and into the fringe, you have to stop treating the universe like a ve…
If it’s not him, this is the only other scenario that makes sense. Because he’d be putting off trying to address the issue so the affair doesn’t come out. Or a gambling debt thing or something of that…
OP, if you are still reading messages here - go to the police. If this is him, it’s dangerous. They can track and trace it in two seconds The fact that he can see the distress it causes you and is s…
If you don't want them to, you just have to say you don't want them, or would rather not. Assuming they know they aren't getting into something serious, I can't imagine they'd mind
Hmm, your situation and choices are a combination of psychological and evolutionary aspects. Let's look at why you are inclined towards emotionally unavailable men: 1) So, the ruler of your marriage…
Original copy of post by u/SadisticalSymphony: I feel like I do better in relationships where we don't cohabitate. I'm autistic and really like control over my space, living with someone messy can fe…
I’m sorry you’re hurting. TBH, you sound depressed — in a clinical sense. Some of the treatments out there are really good now. It’s worth exploring. I know it’s tempting to say that your feelin…
It's been a couple of months with the first guy I went on a date with after getting back on the apps. I must have hit on some luck because I got off the apps immediately hahaha It's been a good time.…
Wanting to connect emotionally (moon) with others (7th house) in a deep (Pluto) way that is perhaps judgy, restrained, energetically economical, careful, slow, copying of others, cautious, serious, or…
100%, I’ve dated since but haven’t gotten into anything serious, casual dates or short term relationship as in just a couple months, I was with the narc for years. It’s actually pretty nice and refres…
I didn't say you did, I said that's how I fulfill my physical touch deficit when I don't have a partner.. regarding your PPS: I genuinely couldn't care less. I fully expect that the people I date migh…