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Hey, it's good that you're recognizing the incongruity between your beliefs and your actions and trying to make a change. It sounds like you're really lonely and AI has been a crutch for you to replac…
Manifesting New Skills and Knowledge with the Law of Belief– Is It Possible? — Hi everyone! I’m reaching out to this amazing community because I’m diving deep into the Law of Belief and want to explore how powerful it can truly be.🙏❤️ I keep wondering—can this law actually he…
Can we talk about how bad the current Shopify Admin UI is? — How has this continued to be a thing, and how did this get approved internally? The Shopify Admin UI is a complete mess. It's genuinely hard to believe this shipped — and worse, that it's still the c…
Sick of Spam? Use the Report Button! — Annoyed by AI-written posts full of stealth promotion? We are, too. Whenever you see it, hit that report button! The majority of spam that makes it through our ever-evolving filters is never reported …
Question for the template flippers out there - where’s the real money? — Genuinely curious - for all the devs who “custom build” sites that are clearly just recycled templates from ThemeForest or whatever the latest place is nowadays. Where’s the *actual* money coming fro…
Pouncemonial: 7th Kill - Disciplined Trader — # Here's how I achieved my 7th mission! **Mission**: To become a disciplined trader **What I achieved**: Mastered stop loss and trading discipline **Background**: After my 6th kill, I was eager t…
SEO Results in 2-3 Months — I run a small business and am looking for someone to help transform my website through SEO, which up until now has had very little traffic. In the past I have mostly relied on word of mouth and target…
Why am I losing keywords? — I'm a bit lost. For the past 6 months I have been working on improving the rank of my website. When I first started, I just left an agency that wasn't doing a great job. When I switch from them, they …
how much coding should i learn — hi im an aspiring ui ux designer and i saw that a lot of employers look for designer who has background or basic knowledge of html, css, js. but im not in IT/CS. i dont know about coding, sooo if i wo…
Freelancers – the only person that can evaluate your pricing is the buyer (not Reddit) — *(TL;DR at bottom)* Questions like this pop up on this subreddit every few weeks: > How much should I charge for a basic website? Or: > Is $500 for a single-page Figma design a good price? ...and…
My co-founder decided to quit: I'm stuck and could really use some advice | I will not promote — Hey All, A few months ago, I shared my story here (original Reddit post in comments) about starting an IT consultancy business in the Netherlands with a friend right after graduation. At that time, w…
How can I get credible backlinks for my mental health startup website? — Hey everyone, I'm building a mental health awareness and support platform called *Trusme*, and I'm trying to improve its SEO through quality backlinks. I'm not looking for spammy directories or paid…
Upwind's Cloud Security CNAPP. Is it viable? — Can anyone share their real-world experience implementing Upwind's "Runtime-Powered" Cloud Security Platform? The promise of using real-time runtime data (I think they use eBPF sensors?) to focus onl…
Success comes to those that can manage 4 innovation risks (I will not promote) — As a startup, your role is to strategically manage innovation risks to unlock your business’s financial potential. To achieve this, focus on addressing the following key risks: • Desirability Risk: …
🧵 UI/UX Designers & Developers — Do You Actually Buy UI Kits? — Hi all ???? I'm a designer creating some Figma UI kits (dashboards, mobile applications, and landing page templates spring to mind) and I'm conducting some market research prior to launch. I'd appre…
🧵 UI/UX Designers & Developers — Do You Actually Buy UI Kits? — Hi all ???? I'm a designer creating some Figma UI kits (dashboards, mobile applications, and landing page templates spring to mind) and I'm conducting some market research prior to launch. I'd appre…
Personalized marketing: Questions about segmented waitlists for eCommerce (based on McKinsey Article) — I've been building on Shopify and came across this interesting McKinsey research about personalization that got me thinking about how store owners manage their waitlists in their stores. **Some key i…
Personalized marketing: Questions about segmented waitlists for eCommerce (based on McKinsey Article) — I've been building on Shopify and came across this interesting McKinsey research about personalization that got me thinking about how store owners manage their waitlists in their stores. **Some key i…
Why ex-tech creators are bad fit for conferences? — I haven’t been to many design-related conferences throughout my career, but I decided to give a CoCreate Conference a shot. I won’t go into the event organization here – just the speakers. From what I…
In job postings on LinkedIn with over 100 applicants, do companies even review all applicants? — Or is this initial filtering mostly done using AI tools in which case my question would be do I write a more genuine cover letter that stands out or something that hits all the buzzwords that the AI w…
Warning: Aggressive Tactics from Paperstack – A Cautionary Tale for Store owners seeking funding — Hey fellow builders, I want to share our recent experience with [Paperstack](https://paperstack.ai/), an e-commerce financing provider, to caution others who might be considering their services. We …
Rejected in the final interview after a month long process — This is honestly just a rant post, because I feel completely deflated at this point. I’ve been actively looking for a job for over a year now, moved to Spain three months ago to start a new life, and…
Aspiring Dance Studio Owner - First Steps? — ~ TL;DR: Aspiring dance studio owner (currently in school). Active in the dance community and planning ahead. Looking for first-step advice, financial tips, and mindset guidance from other small busi…
Created a website completely using firebase studio and gemini 2.5-pro — I'm primarily a Machine Learning developer with about 8 years under my belt. I've always wanted to build my own web project but had absolutely no prior experience with front-end or back-end web develo…
How I built a digital toolkit for side hustlers with ₹0 starting capital — I’ve been working on a side hustle framework that helps anyone get started with no capital. Documented everything into a simple toolkit: 10 ideas, execution plans, planners & trackers. Not looking to …
Advice with how to deal with problem customer (aggressive) — I recently opened my local game store and the community has been great. The other day a customer came in and was rude and combative right out of the gate. I was polite back but that seemed to make no …
How do you actually feel safe believing and knowing when it comes to an SP manifestation? — Brief context: I've studied the law on and off for 6 years. Tried to manifest 2 old SP's with varying success, then eventually having them both try to contact me, but I realized that I was shooting so…
Update — Saw her again at the Social Club — not much to report. She came over, sat next to me, and we had a nice chat the whole time. We’re actually planning a spa date since we share the same birthday. Befo…
I despise myself for having avoidant tendencies. — I'm dating someone right now, and things are actually going well. She moves a bit slower than I'm used to, but that's probably a good thing—my last relationship moved way too fast; we slept together …
DAE feel like they want to be in a relationship but don’t really know how to? Intimacy problems? — I mean in terms of intimacy. When I think about being in a relationship, the concept of having someone in my corner that I can cuddle with, do things with, nurture and support and generally love—that …
Women I’m dating is afraid I’ll lose interest when I learn who she really is. Seeking FA perspective. — I’m ramping up my dating efforts because I’m doing well—both financially and mentally. Things have been going really well with a new woman I’m dating. We shared a nice moment on our last date, and I’m…
Seeking self-closure — To give a brief overview. Had a multi year situationship with someone I had fallen for, a fearful avoidant. Much pulling and pushing until it ended by her pushing everything away. A year later she st…
The most painful relationship and breakup I've ever had, but it cracked me open so that I could heal. I created a text message llm analysis tool that revealed insecure attachment. — EDIT - TLDR; 8-month, high-intensity relationship. I was DA-leaning; she showed a lot of push–pull/negative lensing. We loved each other and still couldn’t repair, so we went NC. Post-breakup I focuse…
For avoidants (and those leaning/earned secure): is this avoidant behavior? Do you really move on—and why no closure? — For avoidants (and those leaning/earned secure): is this avoidant behavior? Do you really move on—and why no closure? I began therapy 4 months into our situationship because of how strong he came on,…
how to deal with an avoidant's freeze response in hard times? — my partner is FA, I've known him for a long time. He has made a lot of effort and has changed for the better. He's the more secure one between the two of us honestly, and he's pretty good at fighting …
Recovering DA trying to reconnect with FA wife — For context: * I (40M) am a DA, my wife (41F) an FA. We have three children. * Together for 17 years, married for 13 years, distant/no-touch for over 10 years but stable and no deep conflicts. * Cont…
I want to believe in LOA so badly, is there any small experiment I can try to regain my faith? — Hey everyone, I’m writing this because I’m honestly at my wits’ end and I don’t know where else to ask. I *want* to believe in LOA and manifestation. I really do. I’m not a skeptic or a hater, I’ve…
How do anxious attachers know when they are truly ready to date again, rather than just trying to soothe anxiety or loneliness? — I was talking with a friend recently and we were comparing how hard it is to get an honest gauge on your own readiness to date again when you have anxious attachment tendencies. Everyone tells you to…
Dating someone with a fearful-avoidant style has been unexpectedly… gentle? — I wanted to share a relationship experience that’s been genuinely interesting and surprisingly positive, especially for FAs and anyone curious about FA dynamics. If you are not interested in some per…
I did it!! I did the hard thing!!! Even though they were a good person, even though I knew they cared, our relationship was hurting me, despite my best attempts at healing myself. At the end of the day, an asymmetrical dynamic hurts. After 2 years of hoping and hurting, I chose myself. — I have been in anxious-avoidant dynamics before, but this was the first relationship where there were genuinely...*good* things about my the person I was seeing. They were emotionally intelligent, had…
I’m genuinely confused by the adverse effects since starting to do the programming — Yeah yeah, I’m one of those. I have been on a SP mission for almost three months now. We started in a semi okay place, even though it’s a long distance thing and I’m programming for us to be in a rela…
How do avoidant dynamics move forward — and when do they not? — I’m trying to understand where the line is between someone genuinely moving slowly due to avoidant attachment, versus someone who just doesn’t have the capacity (or intention) to move forward. I’ve b…
Is casual sex compatible with secure attachment? — I feel like I have a solid grasp of attachment theory after reading a fair amount of the literature over the years, but there’s a philosophical question I can’t quite resolve. Can someone who is secu…
How do you respond to people who are very quick to think that you’re angry at them? — I’m a DA and I’ve been in friendships and romantic relationships with people like this, where if I’m delayed in replying (due to being at work or similar), they’re quick to think that I hate them or t…
8+ Months of LOB practice ( Update from my 1st post ) — Hi everyone, Some of you may remember me from my last post where I did an update of my situation at 4 months in, practicing LOB. After that post, I decided as was recommended to lower the progress g…
What is my core wound when I don't worry what others think about me, I'm not afraid of being alone, but still no boundaries with closest people — I want to heal my wounds and spot and correct the false truths that I have about myself and others, but I'm finding it quite difficult. It is because it seems to me that I lack some essential traits o…
"Love bombing" and anxious attachment — At tonight's Anxious Attachment Healing Group meeting, we read the following reading: **1. “Love bombing” and anxious attachment** “Love bombing” is a pattern of excessive, intense affection and at…
A Splash of Cold-Water for you — **Background** Hey everyone, I'm a contributor to this subreddit, and spend time lurking from time to time. I'm quite familiar with every attachment style. I, myself, had to earn security from my ow…
A letter to my fearful avoidant ex — 31st December 2025 So here we are. Another night, another thought. It’s been nearly 25 days since Eddie left me. Recently, so many emotions have been running through my mind. I never thought I would…
Letter to my ex — **7th February 2026** “You will find me, right?” That sentence is the last sentence. The one that always stays with me. Every single day I think about it, and I think that’s why I know what I have t…
I'm so tired of people. — For reference, a couple of years ago, I was in an abusive relationship that kinda changed who I am. I won't go into too much detail, but let's just say that I used to be outgoing and fun, but also I h…
This is a great read, thank you for the effort put into it. As someone who sort of knew they were emotionally neglected but never really understood it was a real thing before I discovered this sub, t…
Hi there - you may want to post this as a new thread (a toplevel post) or as a comment in the weekly check-in thread since not many people are going to see it here. I think basically all parents who …
You are right. Saying they left because of our flaws isn’t completely right, they left too because of their flaws. The most important thing is to recognize our own flaws for the purpose of self-accept…
I’ve read few posts that are as “loser”-ish as this one. I’ve yet to study either in depth, but for anyone to not only BELIEVE that they are better than a very large group of people (all of whom are v…
Hey, I am an overconfident twat that lacks any real creativity. I tend to just jump in on anything to feel included . Sometimes it's confusing cause I don't even understand what I'm trying to shit on.…
idk your situation, but generally do you feel like this is cruel if that person genuinely did nothing wrong to be treated as an annoyance?
This is so god damn eye-opening, I am genuinely speechless.
Yeah, it's fucking hard. I don't think I'll ever get closure because she's never been the sort of person to really make an effort to give that to me. I obviously can't be inside her head and speak for…
Much better at dealing with my emotions. I think of her every hour and it's been 11 months. My birthday was 2 days back and she didn't wish me. Sucks how easily replaceable/forgettable iam ,did I not…
Definitely true. My parents in law have been together for 40 years, married for 32. They started dating when she was 16 and he was 24! Something that's literally illegal in most places now and situati…
Omg twins. Hi! Yeah I hadn’t been in a romantic relationship at all for six years before I finally tried with this FA guy. In my last real relationship I was targeted by a psychopath and it fucked me …
What’s the equivalent for posts/comments about anxious attachers? I’ve noticed the theme if an AA posts or comments, the replies are all “why does it matter the reason the person is doing it? What y…
For sure, but we can still complain about shitty exes, and it’s still totally within our right to be upset that someone doesn’t want to have any intimacy when that’s all we want. I’ve done the work on…
But why is it then relevant for non anxious folks to tell anxious folks stuff? That happens here all the time. I mean genuinely it’s really fascinating to see the dynamics of these types play out in…
To the more anxious person everything is seemingly logical, reasonable, genuine & considerate, but to everyone else it’s exhausting & screams over-pursuing (e.g., “hey just checking in to see how your…
Thanks! Crazy how we are conditioned to think this anxiety and nervousness as genuine attraction and love. I've calmed down since then and getting to know this person with clear mind. Yes, the wrong…
What frustrates me is that I’m aware I’m not good but my body’s need for safety overrides anything the therapist tells me. I feel awful for wasting her time when half the session is me too shut down t…
Your feelings are valid, AND they are not facts. The above commenter is trying to offer you some wisdom; you can choose not to be reactive and take it personally and look again and ask “what can I lea…
Thank you, I have learned a lot from your comments here, and I agree the index answers so many questions that I genuinely get confused how people ask questions that are answered in the index.
I think all these time‐tracking systems in IT are absolutely useless and only justify the work of those who implement them. No offense to efficient managers. If the company were like a factory produc…
I would say run away, but you said you want the job. In that case I would tell you to prepare like other people did, but also remember, this is your chance to be interviewing them too. Make sure you a…
The biggest issue for me is that people who share genuinely useful insights about anything often go unnoticed because they don't understand how to optimize their content for visibility. meanwhile, the…
>am I dealing with a DA/FA or this man is just making a fool out me? Por qué no los dos? He is textbook FA and he is absolutely bsing you. You are well off not participating in those hot and cold ga…
Hey there, first off, I really feel your burnout. I've been in that same spot where you have something with potential, but just don't have the energy tank to push it forward. It's brutal. A few thoug…
Hey, love the initiative! I work with a lot of entrepreneurs (I help ADHD founders scale their businesses) and having an accountability partner is genuinely one of the most underrated success hacks. …
I wouldn't waste time on building something that nobody wants. You would just be shooting yourself in the foot. I would track and analyze what is being shared and discussed about on social media about…
I’m not a DA, but I have dated several and I also have a long term relationship with a securely attached introverted person. When my DA exes wanted space, they didn’t just physically distance themse…
Look, I do understand where you're coming from. And I can tell you're only looking out for me. But think about it this way. Things have been really good, really stable and I do feel genuine connection…
What if one of you would genuinely miss a day? End of relationship? I feel like I would unintentionally forget on some days
I think you should market this... I probably would have used this. I had a situationship I was desperate to hang onto. I gave so much space, barely pestered, got on his same wavelength of taking the s…
That is a great point, very true. I think you're looking for the answer as a whole, not just "therapy." And you can try this question as a follow up (sort of along the lines of what you said): "What…
The above post was initially removed by the mod team, as it is of the usual crap that populates the ngsub even till today, but has been reinstated to make a simple point that was touched on here : […
Thanks for your answer. I am somwhat between anxious preoccupied and Fearful Avoidant. For example I know I feel insecure when some friends I cherish wont answer at my text for long time, I will feel …
I literally felt the same, and so needed a second opinion. Here's what Claude Opus 4 had to say (after copy pasting it): Why does this reddit post feel like an ad? My spidy sense is tingling: Yo…
Thank you for your kind, comprehensive comment. I don't know, I feel I'm in such an odd place. I am legitimately intelligent, extremely emotionally open, & reflective. But, I just cannot get close to…
I relate mostly to being anxiously attached or AP and tend usually to score most in that category. But I really relate to everything you described still despite not being DA so perhaps it’s a sign of …
>The no contact has been brutal. As if none of it meant anything. Especially when all you hear is so much “if they wanted to they would” and “they always come back” rhetoric. For me it was confusing a…
100%. I think narcissism seems to have become this, honestly quite toxic, fad label that gets thrown around all over the place these days to label anyone who has hurt them I feel. The way I see it bei…
also, if your encounter was as brief as you say, I would urge you to challenge the belief that you got close to actual genuine love with her... obviously, I was not there so I can't say for sure, but …
Indeed, this is a great reply. The answers people get online are rarely precise. What is more, I bet plenty of people lie to themselves to protect their self image or because they genuinely believe th…
You've received a lot of feedback on this post that should have prompted some self-reflection. I'm curious: do you genuinely not see how telling a stranger about your expectations for a relationship…
Absolutely. This, and the wider context that she was crying about her past relationships. If I was crying about another guy, and the stranger who was listening started telling me about his expectatio…
Very helpful explanation. Makes sense. So its rather genuine sharing at the esrly stage your visions of future you are excited about to have wit the person (that eventually is unable to be met as def…
I’ve a real question, when things are really negative, bills are on your head and fear freezes you … how to stay positive, calm and think, feel all day that you have it ? genuine question
I think this is actually protest behavior and low key self abandonment? I did this too, interpreting things I saw and drawing to the conclusion that “we’re better as friends we’re not looking for the …
I honestly thought the same thing, but on our date, our goals seemed to match up. When she relaxed she told me about her struggles at work were so bad she's been thinking about switching careers. For …
This is so tricky and difficult for you to manage, because the message itself appears genuine and heartfelt. But remember the bigger picture here, beyond the words...this is someone who just pretty mu…
Healing DA here, and my best advice: don’t wait on her at all. She’s losing interest due to ur availability and her lack thereof. You waiting only makes her lose respect and even more attraction. Not …
That’s not what I’m saying at all since I don’t think there is a thing such as “fully healed”. Neither my bf or I would consider ourselves healed but I would say “unless they’re aiming to give you th…
What you might be able to ask is what the pause will help her do. Sometimes DAs can feel like they’ll let you down if they have to maintain the relationship while a bunch else is stressing them out. S…