Elementary

TV, Movies, and Novels — While I appreciate a good workbook or self-help book, such as Facing Codependency or Boundaries or the Big Book. I find there is something wonderful about just hearing a healing story and drawing my o…

Children know when they parents don't love them. Children know when their parents resent and hate them. — It's surprising the amount of parents who not only think that their abuse is justified, but that believe that their children "are too young, so they won't notice" or "they'll forget about it". I heard…

Am I (50M) Widower With A 7 YO Just Doomed To Be Alone? — Delete if this doesn’t fit the theme of the sub. I was 35 when I met my wife, she was 10 years younger than I was. Married at 38 and had trouble conceiving. Our miracle/rainbow baby was born in 2018 …

So Called "Punishment" or "Discipline" My Parents Did To Me — Hello fellow Asian folks, I have been lurking here for very long time, and I want to share with you all about some of my early life. (Trigger Warning) I (17M) did have some of happy moments in my…

I think I manifested way more than I thought was possible — Okay… so I think I just came to the realization that I manifested ALOT more than I actually knew was possible…. Whether it was positive or negative. For instance. My elementary/ middle school crush…

Had my first one last night. — Basically I was dreaming of something that happened that same night and I checked the clock and it was 9:41 so I realized I was dreaming because I left the event at 7:53. So then I made myself fly, wh…

How do I deal with self-sabotage if my reasons for it are these — When I was younger, I was at the top of my batch, won about 98% of all the contests I joined in, and was considered conventionally attractive. But that “success” made my elementary years isolating. …

My boyfriend (M25) saw an old video of me(F24) and was disgusted. How can I get over this? — I never thought I’d be making an advice post on reddit, but everyone in my present life is super split on the issue and can’t really relate. I genuinely don’t know how to fix this. So my boyfriend (M…

Friend with horrible mental health and I don't know what to do — Giving a little bit of context, I been friends w this person since childhood. We been through elementary, middle, high school and most of uni together and their mental health has always been pretty ba…

I'm already behind in life at 18 — I wasn't sure which flair to use, because I think I need advice on a lot of things. I also want to preface by saying I do not blame any of this on my parents, schools, mental health, etc, and this was…

Am I over analyzing? — I thought this chat was going well and we were connecting on a meaningful level. We're supposed to meet up tomorrow for the first time for coffee and today this comes in after a few other messages tha…

Constantly angry and resentful — Little back story. Ever since I was little my parents would always criticize me and discipline me whenever I didn’t do something they wanted or I did something incorrect. Additionally they would blame…

Do you ever look back and think maybe you should have been taken away by child protective services? — When I look back from adult view, how my parents were was just so far gone and beyond of anything that could be called normal that I wonder how it was allowed. My first memories were domestic violence…

Talker turn to a listener but not by choice — \[Trigger Warning: Discussion of emotional distress and family stress\] {it's my first time writing in reddit but not new about it and English not my first language too, so... sorry if i write a word…

Where do we go from here? — My girlfriend (F42) and I (M42). Both divorced for many years (her a couple longer), both have kids elementary aged (her 2, me 1). We have been together for about 2.5 years. We travel great, our kids …

How to overcome social isolation? — Long story ahead. If you can relate, let me know. I’m 27 now, and I haven’t had a single friend since elementary school. I moved to a different area at the start of middle school, wasn’t able to quit…

Facing Spiritual Surviellance — Hi there, I’ve been facing spiritual warfare from who I believe are the deceased and was wondering if there’s any advice you could give. I’ve been hearing about 5–7 voices who speak to me nonstop. I’v…

Parents recorded Csam of me - don't know what to do — I'm not sure if this is too graphic but I feel that I need some validation because I keep questioning my reality and if it was really abuse. When I was 10, I was watching home videos with my parents …

For those curious on the possible science of shifting — I have recently been into the topics of astrophysics and neuroscience specifically in the discipline of the human consciousness. I came across a theory thats been thrown around in the science field an…

Parents completely oblivious to how dysfunctional and harmful our relationship is — Sorry in advance for the long post. My latest family drama started at the beginning of this week when I noticed my mother's chronic cough had gotten worse and sounded different and my mother casually …

Mist woods from childhood inside a dream — when I was a kid maby 4 or 5 I got a nice red bunker and i loved sleeping in the top bunk it made me feel like I was someone important i have a few weird storys in that bed all very short exept this…

Dream life mist forest help — when I was a kid maby 4 or 5 I got a nice red bunker and i loved sleeping in the top bunk it made me feel like I was someone important i have a few weird storys in that bed all very short exept this…

What was your Narc diet like? — I was fat kid growing up and my narc parents expected me to figure out how to lose weight in elementary school. Looking back, I realized how lazy and uncaring my parents were with my health. Espicall…

I [22M] don't like the relationship of my [22F] girlfriend with her best friend — so I've been dating this girl I met in highschool for about 2 years now. she's an undoubtedly amazing person who I am in love with. the only problem I have is with her closeness with her best friend. …

Awkward feelings from blocked out past — Hello, I need your help, you ever just get the feeling that there is some form of inappropriate sexual contact during childhood with a parent? Likely between ages 2-4, and severe beltings and spankin…

am i a monster — sorry, idk if this is even the right subreddit for this, and i’m super new to reddit to begin with, so i’m honestly just trying to get stuff off my chest. for context, i’m 16F, an only child with REAL…

Me '23 F' and my boyfriend '30M' broke up for about a day or 2 then he took me to his aunts house and showed me to his whole family, was this just a desperate guilty move to get me back or her actually wanted to? — We have been together officially well over a year now, but grew up 2 houses apart and known each other our whole lives so he been weird about letting our immediate families know, specifically my dad a…

I haven’t Had a Nightmare Since I was 6 — I don’t want to disclose my age, so we will just say I’ve been through both elementary and middle school since then. I genuinely haven’t had a nightmare since I was 6 and don’t know why. The last tr…

Grew up in a healthy home but was traumatized by a “friend” at school, having trouble feeling valid in it. — To elaborate on the title, my parents have been and still are amazing and supportive people, and I am eternally grateful to have them. For instance I’m a trans woman, and ever since I came out they’ve…

growing up, did anyone else have paddling in their school and have constant flashbacks to it? — (TW please read with caution, i mention childhood experiences of physical punishment) it hasn't effected me as much until recent years. because of this an other instances i've always been uncomf…

Being pushed down my throat femininity and my parents basically bullying me — (trigger warning Mention of suicide and child abuse this talk has just reminded me of some memories from my childhood. Sorry for this skip if this triggers you )My mom has always nagged me even in fro…

Discovering even more aspects of neglect that seemed good at first. — Hi everyone. First time sharing progress here. It's not that big of a progress, but still relevant. It's about aspects of emotional neglect that I didn't quite grasp at first. For a bit more backgrou…

Does anyone's parents have unreasonable paranoia and distrust of other people and their intentions? — High levels of paranoia and distrust are something anyone can have, but I'll type anyways. When I overhear my parents talking with loved ones on the phone and just hear them talk to me, I notice that …

Surprised my therapist — I was diagnosed with CPTSD from childhood abuse about ten years ago and have been no contact with my parents for over 15 years. I had been out of therapy for some time, but recently started with a new…

Going no contact after my father's cancer diagnosis has saved my sanity... — I grew up in a dysfunctional family. Alcoholism, being ignored, siblings getting in trouble with the police, having to parent my parents since elementary school. Everything sucked but at least they h…

Has anyone else been through so much that you just have to laugh at the absurdity of it? — I know I have. My childhood was shit. I was the problem child through elementary school. 2020 was when I started declining fully. 2021 was when I was almost in psychosis. 2022 was when I got into drug…

Do jealous immigrant APs like to call their well-adjusted children racist? — As a Chinese American who is somewhat trilingual, I'm curious as to whether anyone else has APs who either a) do not speak fluent English despite living in the US for 20+ years and demand your transla…

Advice? — I broke up with my boyfriend of two years, I have this friend who we will call lily, I have been friends with lily since elementary I would tell her all my problems and cry to her, but after i broke …

Sometimes I imagine being a kids again and raised by someone who actually loves me — It is like a random thought. I always imagine having a person who actually cares about me, in elementary school and high school. This thought shows up less now in uni. I think my life would have been …

Survive or maybe so? I just want to let it out my feelings — You know I beg, I plead, and I ask them if we can talk like adults. Even though I shouldn't be part of this situation, I involve myself because I don't want to lose them. I love them both, but do they…

Sexual trauma without sexual abuse? — I have no memory of being molested or assaulted. However, I have experienced several things in my life that have made me deeply uncomfortable in my own body. \- When I was 8, a neighborhood friend of…

Growing up with a mother who hates the idea of relationships. — I love my mother to death. I would do absolutely everything and anything for her if it meant she was happy. Ever since my siblings and I were young, we were always told not to get married early and to…

I need serious help how should my life should go on? — Trigger warning again for Multiple topics Let me start by Explaining my Life I started my life living with my grandma. As long as I can remember, I was with her. She was the one who raised me, to…

I like when there’s tension in my home — This sound weird, but All my life, I was used to unstable environments. I was used to my mom coming home angry every day. I was used to my parents fighting every day. The only thing that was stable wa…

Oh boy do I love being exploited(Long rant, life story, lots of heavy stuff) — Hi, new here. I'll just go ahead and describe my relationship with my parents and my general environment, cuz I've been stuck in a cycle of depression and toxic optimism since childhood. For conte…

Birthdays & beyond — For those of you who had a parent or parents who have, to put it mildly, made your birthdays challenging and you continue to struggle with birthdays as an adult, what has helped you take back the day?…

Social exclusion by the girls, during adolescence: I can't let it go... — I apologize in advance and I hope women in this sub, who are suffering, don't feel called out, even though it might seem that way. I've been a little bit over this in a previous post, but it's the iss…

Finding the motivation to follow through with divorce. — My husband and I have been married for 10 years and we have two elementary aged (1st and 3rd) children. I am a good mom, work fulltime and am an active member of the community. My husband about once a…

Do i have the right to hate my mom? — After so many people tell you otherwise instead of supporting you, you start to question it yourself. Im m19. This is how it went with my mom my whole life: When i was born, my mom was still work…

Just a few questions here - I'm new to lucid dreaming. I garden quite a bit, so I can grow Artemisia douglasiana and a few other helpful herbs and make a poultice or something. I usually don't rem…

I've only been in a (short term) relationship once that crossed valentine's day, 7 years ago. She didn't get or do anything for me, and we had only started going out a couple weeks prior so I simply t…

nah i'm saying that in this age group, it seems silly that any of this is even a problem in general. and i now realize it wasn't clear who that was directed to. not you! I was relieved to see your com…

Agreed, she shouldn't even be accused of "grabbing the bag" in the first place. Making smart financial choices that benefit your entire family is just about the most normative thing a decent human cou…

I want to ask for advice about reassurance. I have friends who barely talk to me,who i have known for a while, and who even have there daily lives except one. She doesn't work,she doesn't go to school…

I have severe lust for women stemming from porn use since I was in elementary school. I have quit porn as an adult but still have obstacles from it. Whether its a coworker, a friend of a friend or a …

My father graduated high school and my mother barely finished elementary school. We arrived in the US as boat people. I excelled in school because I had strong work/study ethics and a curious mindset.…

Tbh I went there a lot of the kids were upper middle class compared to my elementary/middle school. Majority of the white, black and Latino people lived in households earning more than $250k. It says …

Same here. This was so validating to see. Thank you. I always say, my “material” needs were met, but that was it. Yet I still feel so privileged and guilty for how fucked up I am and how much I’ve str…

I mean just because your kid can sit still doesn’t imply that she was meditating. She most likely was day dreaming or getting completely lost in thought. You are not calming your mind, you are teach…

In addition, the city runs a free test prep program for low income students of any race, and there are some private non-profits offering free test prep for underrepresented minorities. Those who cla…

Hmmm… 🤔 That’s a good question. I guess you could say I kind of forced myself, or cornered myself, into manifesting it. I’ve been trying to do conscious AP/OBE since elementary school, but had no luc…

since elementary school, i didnt know i had traumatic events and i suppressed. im now 25 and finally addressing my suppressed anger, dissaociative, and the trauma i remember. its hard because im …

I'm a 1.5th Gen East Asian American and a Gen Z, Idk if your definition of boy would fit for teenager? Or just kid under age 12? I came to US around 13 so already a teenager, I went to a middle class…

I think the elementary differences dont matter much. The real differences show up in high school. Some people blame tiger parenting, but now as parent I know it is 100% not true. Since my family i…

I also want to add my elementary school sent home letters that they suspected me of severe psychological issues and depression and my mom has kept those letters in a box under her bed an I believe the…

That happened to me as well and stopped until I was roughly 11. I was shamed for having constipation since I was 3 and the enemas were forced to me as well, in very bad manner that I’m not able to rec…

It was a long time ago now but I will never forget it as a turning point that solidified my awful relationship with both parents. Throughout elementary school (grades1-8 terrible little Catholic schoo…

Mine judgemental and would tell the entire neighborhood even though i said spesificly to keep it between us. Since elementary school im a locked safe

I'm so sorry this happened to you. A lot of people become opioid addicts bc the hospitals don't wean you like they should. Talk to your doctor about suboxone now to avoid taking pain killers longer an…

Alex Jones mixes a lot of misinformation in to lead people astray. His lies are hurtful, so fuck him. This liar falsely claiming that the 2012 Sandy Hook Elementary School shooting was a hoax. The sho…

My partner is a teacher in an elementary school. Hearing about how one kid was able to say “I feel joy, as in happy” after having a good day made me crumble. 🥲 after years of abuse and denial it make…

That's what they taught me too. But I'm sadly autistic and I thought beating the other kids in elementary school was how people made friends. After my parents found out that I was hitting the other ki…

100%, some social skills and understanding of “how the world/life works” that my peers had mastered since childhood I had to learn during teenagehood and early adulthood. I also realised this exacerba…

What a childhood to have! I’m curious as to what life was like with your mom when you were really little, because to see a full apparition on your sofa and to shrug it off because “meh, back to sleep,…

I experienced COCSA during elementary. Yeah it starts early.

My first remembered encounter was on an elementary school playground. I was to turn 3 years old later that year. I was taken by a saucer after it landed in front of me by three short grays with big wr…

My mom made me go to school with salmonella because she was apparently too scared to ask her principal (she taught at the elementary I went to) to keep me home. I spent almost a week straight vomiting…

This is gross & triggering. I also have to deal with my NM grabbing my a**. She’s done this since I was in elementary school in front of ppl like a power move. Ppl were uncomfortable & awkwardly tried…

Same, what I been through in my childhood and teen years is nothing but hell. Constant abuse, humiliation, and horrible self esteem. I don't know if elementary or high school were worse. I started get…

Original copy of post by u/HeSeemsLegit: Delete if this doesn’t fit the theme of the sub. I was 35 when I met my wife, she was 10 years younger than I was. Married at 38 and had trouble conceiving. …

You've been through a lot. Please accept my condolences. a woman in her late 40s whose dating range includes 50s, here's my feedback. You having an elementary aged child wouldn't be a dealbreaker. …

Im a 50F widow w/ 3 adult children. I wouldnt be opposed to a similar or same age partner with a child on the younger side and, as you say, doing the elementary school thing all over again. What wou…

I'm in a very similar situation. Widowed and with a young kid about your son's age. A few years younger but not an insurmountable gap. Divorced people on the apps rarely understand the challenges o…

We are out there. Had one at 40. Now divorced. Like you, was interested in meeting men with kids somewhat around the same age as my two because of lifestyle similarities and mutual understanding of t…

I haven't read all the other comments, but I am guessing the majority of them are saying that you are definitelly not doomed. Which is absolutelly true. My situation might be a bit similar, only I d…

Me and my bf were friends in elementary school for 3 years. Then we met again when we were 16 and we still were compatible.  The we met again when we were 21 and we were still compatible and decided t…

I went to elementary school in Chinatown and even there only one of my teachers was Asian (2nd grade). Never really thought about it.

In this case, it isn't anyone I ever dated - just someone I met in high school who ended up marrying someone I have known since elementary school. I would actually say her profile is a great represent…

Ugh yes this. Being groomed by older cousins at age 4. Molested by mom’s boyfriend that she had living with us age 4-11, hoping I’m not suppressing memories and that it didn’t happen more times than I…

Yes. I remember this starting way back in elementary school. We didn’t have a dress code. My class size was a whopping 35 kids. I’m in 1st grade. My friend and I are wearing the exact same top. It’s l…

I had my first child and my dad mailed me all the photos that were in his wallet with a note saying I guess I don't need these any longer. Okay, thanks? Like, they were from elementary, so they were 3…

There will be lots of single mums who can relate and who can't get a load of time for themselves. Obviously this can cause schedule issues, and evolving the relationship into something more involved w…

as someone who's childhood was INSANE I feel you. I just recently told my partner about the time I was homeless due to a hoarding situation in elementary school and he was shocked. he believed me obvi…

Nope nope nope. Ive been into the phenomenon as long as I can remember, ever since checking out that UFO book from the elementary school library. I've never experienced anything and always wanted to k…

💯! There are also plenty of women in their 40’s who have elementary-aged children. OP’s negative outlook, lack of friends and hobbies are the main deterrents here. My condolences to you, OP. I’ve bee…

I was young. Probably in early elementary school. I didn’t have the words for it, but I knew I had “family stuff I don’t talk about.” I probably learned the word abuse applied in my early 20s. Got th…

Mid 20s. I realized I don’t “love” my family. I kind of cared for them I suppose but saying I love them has felt so fake since I was in elementary school. And even that realization didn’t make me thin…

Poorly written fiction by someone who doesn't even understand how money and inheritance works with children. No small child in any civilized country is just given a massive inheritance without a legal…

"Oops -- look what happened!" Sounds like an elementary student, not an adult, and definitely not someone capable of marriage. I couldn't trust someone like that. And without trust, you're going nowhe…