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Wow thank you so much for sharing, I'm really sorry you went through that as well. The part about you painting his house, cleaning it, helping with the rental, doing all the real life stuff while he …
Who else was "the lost child" in their dysfunctional family? — I just came to realize that was my role in our family. So hard, I check all the boxes: - fundamental loneliness growing up - escaping into books, - develop creativity as a mean to escape (love this …
One day I’ll vanish & never speak to them again. — I’m so over being treated like shit, like an outsider, like everything’s my fault within my dysfunctional ass family. My mom sits around high as fuck off prescriptions all the time shit talking me &…
What do I do with the Gift? — We were 11 years together and just recently she broke up with me out of nowhere 3 weeks ago. Randomly called me annoying prior to the breakup for asking her repeatedly to tell me when she would be bus…
I'm going to see a psychotherapist soon, and I'm scared — I'm going to see a psychotherapist soon, and this is the second time a doctor has referred me to a psychotherapist. I'm afraid that some of my concerns will be confirmed, and my parents will find out,…
19f feelings of cheating and disillusionment — I got out of a pretty serious relationship in Jan 2025 which affected a lot of relationships i had. I had cheated on that partner and then later in a very emotionally tense scenario got with one of hi…
Time to let go… — A final sort of love letter… My 2-year relationship ended in September, shortly after our anniversary. I’m still heartbroken as fuck. I’ve recently learned he’s already moved on. And I have a feel…
When you know you know — So all this started when my ex finance stated working at a drilling company he was working outside in the field and then he got transferred to like the lab where he meet let’s name her Emily they stat…
Do Men Regret Breaking Up With The “Good Girl” — I know I shouldn’t care and that I shouldn’t tie my healing to someone else perception of me or the realization of their loss. I just can’t help but wonder if my ex will regret this. We were together …
"Mom wants to visit you with baked goods, do you mind?" — This morning I woke up and first thing I've seen was a message from my grandma. She sent me a fb link, I thought it would be some Happy Easter card, that's what elders do. But it was some sugary sweet…
Is it bad that I (18F) am sick of my boyfriend (18M)? — TL;DR: I am annoyed of my boyfriend always complaining and whinin Me and my boyfriend just had an argument and yes I was in the wrong, I won’t go into detail about it, but I am honestly just so sick …
Have you ever been close to someone who also had CPTSD and it made both of you worse? — I didn’t know anything about CPTSD until last year. My first relationship was with someone who had BPD, but now I think she had comorbid BPD with CPTSD. It lasted 5 years and it was super toxic by the…
How to move forward after a traumatic relationship? — TW: SA, emotional abuse I know this might be a long post, but this has been weighing on my mind for the past year and a half and I just found this community and thought someone may have some advice. …
My gf cheated on me after five years . — Hi, I’m Daniele, an Italian guy living in Australia. I’m 33 and my ex-partner is the same age. We were together for five years. We met five years ago, but after about six months I found some messages…
I 19F feel like I’m not a good girlfriend, I’m constantly causing arguments with my boyfriend 21M — Me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 and 1/2 years it will be 4 in August. We got together in 2022 when I was 16 and he was 17 and now I’m 19 and he’s 21. tl;dr For the whole first year of ou…
I am self-loathing, deeply jealous of my partner, and it’s affecting my life and relationship. How can I be better? — Hi all. I (F22) have hated myself, very deeply, for most of my life. I’m not really sure what catalyzed it or when it started. I have a good family and have always had a decent time making friends, bu…
My ex just broke up with me of 3 years. — my ex and i have been together through highschool and the first year of college. i admit throughout our relationship i wasn’t the greatest bf at times i was insecure and jealous. we took a break a yea…
Hi All! I need some advice. My post has not gained any traction anywhere else. I am here to understand what is happening because I feel clouded a little bit in my relationship. We are opposite attachm…
Hi, I am 29f and he’s 30m. Hi, how do I seek reassurance that doesn’t come off as manipulative or toxic? I’ve always been a needy, clingy girlfriend due to emotional neglect in my past. One of my b…
Tomorrow I’m going to watch the bear and eat pizza and have sex on my couch with my fwb that the jerk from this week had such a problem with me offering a ride to. Can’t keep a good girl down long, ti…
Yes… something about these Americans acting like Asian-Americans *owe* them for having citizenship. Like “be a good girl” for them lol. How I see it Edit: Like we’re paying taxes going towards those…
My parents were ok with my chorus involvement, though my father was a trombonist and somewhat biased against vocal music. I tried learning 2 different instruments but finally realized music isn't real…
My husband had a good amount of therapy. He should have had it the first time he cheated but we were young and in a new relationship. I’m only with him because he never did cheat in person. Years ago…
Our culture in the US does a bad job of allowing women to own their desire which sets them on shaky ground to own consequences related to sexual desire. A really good, now older, read on this topic …
Not sure I'm following. I don't relate to always being the good girl...
Heavy on the “mom always emphasized I was a good girl”. I was so good and not a problem that no one could be good to me or even nice.
I met a great guy from TL that told me up front he was separated and not ready and a bunch of good girlfriends. I am off apps now for dating as well now
I think you might need to look at (and I don’t know the answer) why you feel the need to always be calm. Because, I know that those of us in the 80s and 90s were conditioned to be the ones to resolve …
I'm going through exactly this. My life has been chaotic and traumatic lately. My ex tried to support me and I was so sad when he became overwhelmed and left. Suddenly, however, I noticed a weight had…
Gym. I got 3x a week on kid free weeks and use an app called Heavy to log my workouts. When kids are home I have some body weight only exercises I do the kids like to join in (they think hip thrusts a…
Yes me too. Well i am intersex too so my private body details have always been "free game" discussion for my family. Including that my father told me in front of the whole family I should quit sports …
Struggling with this rn, where I can’t believe the person I loved and felt so “right” with would be so heartless. She’s been cheated on before and throughout the relationship seems to totally hate tha…
And you had no other issues in the relationship? You’re a dumbass, mate, I’m glad you’re suffering. You threw a good girl away.
i’m also indian, and my parents have been trying to set me up with random proposals for a few years now. even if you are 5% unsure that you want to get married rn, you need to push back. i know it’s s…
Why is the person who's supposed to be the closest to you constantly assuming the worst of you? Is because he WANTS to be upset and find fault in you. Why would ANYONE get mad about being called a goo…
I feel like Im doing that already because my mom can turn anything into annoying "advice" like: Where are you going for a holiday? Reply doesn't matter, it will be either "oh it's dangerous there" of…
While I understand that some people truly enjoy rough play and have no intention to shame someone who enjoys it, I think it's extremely important to not normalize such behavior and for women to discus…
She’s been hooking up with other people and has shown you the signs of that when she goes on trips. This relationship will never work, keep telling yourself that. It’s not a good relationship. She’s n…
I’m going to say NTA One of my really good girlfriends doesn’t wear deodorant because she is nursing and has been nonstop for eight years, honestly, I can’t hang out with her when it’s warm…. It’s tha…
Thank you for validating what I’m going through :’) your friend sounds like a good girl who also struggles with inner demons
you should be thanking Hod she is out of your life pal, hopefully you meet a good girl soon..
The two main abusers I have had were relatively vanilla in the bedroom and judgemental. One said that dom/sub play in the bedroom was weird and he constantly kink shamed our friend who was into it, th…
If you care about someone and he's not abusing you, I would totally understand wanting to support them through the toughest of times. I also would understand your parents not wanting you to potentiall…
I dated a girl like this that but long distance. She was a good girl at first but her “friends” convinced her to go down that college party path. Knowing how that shit makes me feel and what it does …
Get good girl. Definitely done two in one day. I would often see my FWB then have a date that same day lol. Almost always have one a day on a single girl weekend. Usually these days I have someone who…
This experience was rewarding for her in many moments. After all, she came many times, didn’t she? The only person who truly lost here is you. Unfortunately, you’re the only one who’s going to pay t…
Im going to send you a warning ⚠️ she will very likely (once you find a good girl) try to destroy that happiness and make you cheat with her. once the new girl leaves. she'll cheat on you again.…
Every single guy I have chatted with on the apps basically expects sex on the very first date nowadays...and they have TOLD me this BEFORE even meeting up with me for the date!!!! I'm old school & kin…
By all means I wasn’t the perfect partner, I knew I had my faults, but what was malicious about what she did was, she didn’t tell me until she was convinced on leaving me, it was unfair and she just r…
She's trying to maintain her self image as a good girl while dealing with the fact that she's horny for you.
That’s pathetic! You deserve better, but deserve a serious relationship. It may seem over, but honestly, you have many years of sex left. If he’s truly not willing to g to keep his end of the vows,…
Oh how this could have been me a few years ago. During my first month of medical leave for burn out I was between doing fifteen things a day and crashing energetically speaking. That was 4 years and e…
Nope you are fine! Just do it again and keep up the enthusiasm and you’ll be just fine. You may be a good girl friend.
>You may be a good girl. Stop immediately.
Same i lost loml ik time heals everything but wht if it fails my parents are asking me to just get married to a good girl to fill this void but idk
I can stay with you and replace him please I’ll make you a good girl
You, Miss, are what we're in the guy community like to call a "fucking champion." Good girl. Keep it up.
Always ask yourself... Does this person make my life easier or harder? If they're making it harder, you got to get rid of them. Just because she is your GF, doesn't mean its a good girlfriend. She…
Actually, this is valid. She's a young woman, not a girl. I just got annoyed myself for not being annoyed at this before seeing your comment. I used to practice a martial art and the instructor wou…
My parents neglected me too. I’m 34 and to this day I feel invisible to the world because I learned to always be a good girl. I was the easy child, the mature one. My parents had zero interest in my h…
He loves me a lot, I know he does. I am a really good girlfriend to him and I do feel under-appreciated in a way. I’m supporting everything he does. He would do the same for me but I ask for less beca…