lost child

If you ask my mom how I was as a child, she'll always say: oh she was always happy and always reading a book. Cute, until I realized I'm a "lost child", my emotions were ignored and I learned to e…

Who else was "the lost child" in their dysfunctional family? — I just came to realize that was my role in our family. So hard, I check all the boxes: - fundamental loneliness growing up - escaping into books, - develop creativity as a mean to escape (love this …

Sadness over lost childhood — This probably isn’t as serious as most other posts on here, but reels about Polly Pocket showed up on my Facebook feed and I was just overcome with sadness. We weren’t poor by any means, my father wor…

Dysfunctional family roles — What causes the dysfunctional family roles (Golden child, lost child, mascot child, scapegoat child, hero child) to be created? Is it because of the narcissist parent, the enabling parent, or a mix?

I'm 57F and only realized the extent of my childhood emotional neglect following a complete breakdown a few years ago. Like you I have a devoted husband. Our kids love us in a way I find hard to compr…

This was my parents. Super Catholic and wanted 6 kids, but ended up having 4. The whole point was to look good to outsiders. - My mom ignored her only son, the lost child. - Was extremely cold and c…

The loyalty really makes it difficult, you doubt yourself. My therapist often repeats: your memory can play tricks on you but your feelings never lie. This really help for me to validate my experience…

Yup. I was the lost child for sure. Out of 7 siblings I was simply forgotten. No one checked up on me. No one asked if I needed anything. I had no identity except to be as quiet as possible to avoid f…

Different person but also an "only child / lost child". I did have friends through 6th grade (11/12 years old). After that, I was still a child emotionally/socially speaking while other kids were actu…

I am the youngest, and there's a bigger gap between me and my next older sibling than between him amd the oldest. I was always (and still am, in my 50s, lol) the "baby." Hell, yes I was the lost child…

I was this too, I only have one single memory of either parent standing up for me. One time I stood up for my brother to my parents, and my dad shoved me and I hit my head. I believed I didn't matter,…

That is me… l have almost no friends, haven’t dated for 10 years after a 20 year marriage to an npd who recreated my family of origin issues complete with (scapegoat,golden child who is a flying monke…

Ok ok I scripted that L was a childhood friend of mine which made a lot of things convenient and meant I didn't have to script as much (y'all L actually has so much power, like I was complaining about…

Dissociation can happen with both. **THE FLIGHT TYPE AND THE OBSESSIVE-COMPULSIVE DEFENSE** Extreme flight types are like machines with the switch stuck in the “on” position. ...They rush to ach…

Not gonna lie, I got lucky in that I was demoted to lost child BEFORE the scapegoat went NC with the family. Even though the rejection stung, it gave me enough skepticism of my dad's motives to loosen…

It was probably me that wrote that. It's true my wh betrayal hurt worse than the death of my children. He stabbed me in the back knowing I lost children and our home was destroyed by the storm Ida. Ho…