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whyss I felt like I was watching some kind of Ben Stiller movie while reading this, so I think it's okay, just a weird moment in the "sweet" sense. I smiled while reading.

I got ghosted and I feel blindsided — I (26F) met a guy (26M) 3 months ago who was in every sense of the word my dream guy. We spent 1 week together before he left back to his country. Ever since we have Facetimed every single day, and we…

How to decide cache lifespan (cache expiration time) — Hello technical SEO experts, im a newbie to WordPress seo. I just want to know if you're using a page optimization plugin like WP Rocket or LS Cache, how much time is the sweetspot for cache expiratio…

Shopify Store, removed Theme — Hi together, I was testing a theme and wanted to buy it. The theme was from a new developer. Now you can no longer find the theme in the Shopify store apparently it has been removed. This would be t…

E-commerce Industry News Recap 🔥 Week of May 5th, 2025 — Hi r/ecommerce \- I'm Paul and I follow the e-commerce industry closely for my Shopifreaks E-commerce Newsletter. Every week for the past 3+ years I've posted a summary recap of the week's top stories…

This Week's Top E-commerce News Stories 💥 May 5th, 2025 — Hi r/Shopify - I'm Paul and I follow the e-commerce industry closely for my Shopifreaks E-commerce Newsletter, which I've published weekly since 2021. I was invited by the Mods of this subreddit to s…

How to get Millions of $$$ from ANY government for your business (I will not promote) — Experienced founder & CEO here. I'm gonna tell you how my business got straight cash (like literally millions) from the gov and how you can do that too. I've bootstrapped my last german education bu…

This is what happens when your FA ex comes back — This is my personal experience for those who are curious. Of course everyone will be different but I thought it might help those who are waiting or wishing (APs I'm talking mostly to you) Firstly the…

APs what would you want to hear in response if someone doesn’t feel the same as you? — So I’ve been noticing the way a few friends reach out, feels mismatched with how I’m feeling. Usually this is my more anxiously attached friends/most unhealed ones. Often it will be something sugary…

Is deactivation the real her? — When my FA and I started dating, she said, “I’m afraid you won’t like me when you get to know the real me.” She was sweet, caring, thoughtful, and made a real effort to be part of my life. We were i…

For having struggled with an anxious attachment in an earlier relationship, how does it feel for you to become more secure in a much different or more compatible relationship you are in now? — I am quite curious to hear if there are others who are at a place in their life still in their own "wound care" (healing) of being outside of an anxiously attached situation or of a previous unhealthy…

Feeling conflicted, I don't know if I don't love him and I am settling or if I love him and the "cons" are avoidant deactivation? — I 33F have ve been dating this guy 32M for 8 months. He's chased me for years and eventually recently I started to feel attraction back, he figured it out and kissed me. For some months I didn't feel…

Trying to navigate a "casual" relationship — Hi everyone, I (30F, trans) have been talking to/seeing a woman (24F, cis) for about 5 months. The chemistry is legitimately the strongest I’ve ever experienced - emotional, intellectual, creative, s…

Found out he has a wife back home. Now what? — Went on a couple of dates with this guy (31M) who travels to my country every few months for work. Told me he’s single and hasn’t been in a serious relationship for the last 3 years. Dates were good, …

The way trauma shapes your attachment system... — I'm FA and I was reminiscing on what my love life was like as a teenager and young adult. I remember the feeling I had when someone showed interest in me, it was very much of disgust and suspicion. …

Please help — Hey there! Found this community a few days ago and I seriously need advice on how to push thru the panic/ anxiety. I know I'm an avoidant. All my life I've never wanted people to see me. All my life…

Did anyone else use chatgpt during the end of the relationship because they were desperate for answers ?? 😭😭😭 — I remember I was crying when writing everything but now I'm just laughing my ass out 😭 the dude had me hooked even tho it was clear he didn't like me anymore but since he cut communication (refused t…

I (28F) cut off my in-laws after how they treated me before and during my wedding, but I get anxious when my husband (27M) still talks to them. How do I move on? — TL;DR: My mother-in-law and sisters-in-law insulted me, fat-shamed and color-shamed me before our wedding and caused major drama during the wedding itself. Now they act sweet in front of my husband. I…

My boyfriend and I had an argument over his marriage demands, and now he claims he means none of it... — Tl:dr: My boyfriend of two years has a list of requirements from me after we get married, and after our argument over it, which lead us to break up-- he said he didn't mean any of it and wants to go …

I (28F) gave my boyfriend (29M) an STD and I can’t stop feeling so ashamed and guilty — My boyfriend and I met on tinder a couple of months ago and everything has been so great. We get along wonderfully and we have such a good time together. I was sexually active with a couple of people …

Am I crazy? I feel like a stalker. — I (26F) don’t understand how my ex (31M) switched on me overnight, and I’m struggling to cope. We dated for almost a year. At first, he was obsessed with me. He talked constantly about our future mar…

My Fiancé kicked me out with only a few hours notice — This is the situation I am in. About a week ago my fiancé (25 M) brought up how he has some problems with me (25 F). We have been together for almost three years. He said he cant bring up sensitive to…

How do you stay present even when you are feeling the pressure to run? — My bf and I are long distance and he's very very very loving and sweet. The best bf I could have ever asked for. He understands and accepts my feelings even when I'm feeling avoidant, but right now I'…

I (31M) have a situation with an aunt (70F) where she thinks she is my handler, she won't back off whenever I tell her to knock it off. — I'm just curious if my pushback is the only solution, or if I need to rethink my approach with this aunt, I'm going to use my sister's wedding night to paint the picture of what I've dealt with all my…

A woman complimented my aura. — One time I was working in a second hand store, it was a very busy store so I was constantly on the go, putting things back, helping customers, etc. I was called over to help a lady who was looking a…

Update to my previous post. Tis not a good one. — [https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverforty/comments/1q4sw3v/before\_i\_43m\_delete\_her\_44f\_number\_and\_move/](https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverforty/comments/1q4sw3v/before_i_43m_delete_her_44f_n…

Most absurd bridge of incidents yet — Hi everyone 😁 **Background:** So context, my mom is in a phase in consciousness where she's into organic, 100% natural, homemade, no 'chemicals' etc. Lately I've been missing some store products, …

Quick bit of sadness I need to get out... — My cell phone needed a good cleaning. It's been a while. Definitely longer than six months ago when my wife left me after three years of marriage. I took the phone case off and realized I still had …

17 months post being discarded by my husband for the other woman. — On 03/20/2026, I will be 17 months out from the night that my husband left me forever and went to his affair partner of a few weeks. I was shattered. On the verge of losing my excellent job because …

Does anyone else go into "fawn" mode or age regress when talking to people? — Hi! Just wanted to check if there are others who feel they are going into age regression (feeling and or acting younger) when getting triggered talking to people, or go into fawn mode? And how does f…

Sexual Vampire — I have no idea where to turn- and I never thought I would posting something like this. But here we are. 5 weeks ago I met a man at a bar. He was a bit younger than me, the same age as my first love. …

Self scrying on Ketamine — Are there any others out there who use ketamine alone, lay still and let the open eye visions overwhelm you till you get in touch with your deeper self ? After a couple of lines over time to get to a …

New Partner Has Never Used Condoms — I (41F) am newly dating a guy (41M) who is recently divorced from his high school sweetheart. Bc he was with the same women since high school, he has never used condoms. I'm the opposite - I've nev…

why are they able to put in more effort with the affair partner than in their own relationship? — In December, I found out my partner of 12 years was having a 3 month affair with a coworker 5 years younger than us (we're 28). We were high school sweethearts and only ever had been with each other s…

Finally Got a Lucid Dream... So I Tested your Queries in it — Hey guys, this is gonna be a bit of a long one lol. \[CONTEXT\] For a while, I've been trying to lucid dream, but was too lazy to consistently do training, write in journals, or set multiple alarms …

How to deal with an avoidant person — As I've read it's really normal that me and her would have an intense connection deep talks future talks like all good she's deflective me being sweet but she joins in just light jabs but she has alwa…

Horrified to find myself talk to my baby the way my mom used to talk to me — I grew up with two parents who hated each other but stayed married. They were also emotionally very distant and verbally & physically abusive to me (they'd beat me up sometimes). I don't ever remember…

My husband [M31] let slip in a compliment that he thinks his ex was prettier than me [F28] and I can't stop thinking about it. How do I let it go? — EDIT: I have made an update to this post for everyone, see here: [https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship\_advice/comments/1rwh3g2/update\_my\_husband\_m31\_let\_slip\_in\_a\_compliment/](https://www.r…

My mother is super affectionate now that I'm an adult and she has dementia. It disgusts me. — My mother doesn't remember the screaming, my mother doesn't remember her calling me stupid everyday, she doesn't remember her telling me to get out of her house. She talks to me now in a baby voice, s…

You are God. — you can manifest anything and everything. I say this as someone who has been into this community since i was 10. I used to try manifesting height, weight loss, friends, parents to stop arguing, everyt…

I finally moved away from my partner of 13 years. Fuck it's painful — I say finally but I have actually done this one and a half times before. But both times, we were still talking as if we were together, and were soon reunited. But this time, I literally forced myself …

How do I (39F) forgive my husband (39M) for making a fake vet appt for our senior dog? — My husband and I have been together for 10 years, married for 4, and have 2 kids with another on the way. We have also been best friends since we were in middle school up until we started dating. A …

I Want to Make Something CLEAR. Manifesting is easy. — Manifesting is easy. It really is. The bridge of incidents and how long it lasts is actually UP TO YOU. And how long it takes for you to manifest something is also UP TO YOU. What do I mean? I mean e…

What’s the sweet spot for your BFR (body fat rate)? — I feel like my face looks best when my BFR is sub 15% or even less, whereas my body looks best (with or without clothes) when it’s 15-20%. I appreciate bulky build more. So the intersection is extreme…

I'm so sick of laying in bed — don't know what to do. I work a regular 40 hour office job that's not even that difficult or stressful. But as soon as I'm home, I end up in bed. Even showering feels like a chore. Getting out of bed…

My "Alzheimer technique" worked on my NMom again but I almost chickened out — About a month ago I shared a [post](https://www.reddit.com/r/raisedbynarcissists/comments/1qyh9x9/at_age_40_i_finally_found_what_works_with_my_nmom/) here how I visited my NMom after 3 years of NC and…

Processing my NDE and the paranormal experiences that followed — I can’t sleep and i’m feeling the need to document a sequence of experiences I had from February 2019 through 2020 that forever changed my life. I’ll try my best to keep each section somewhat brief, b…

Art and study of the Gateway tapes and general connection to the Universe (with my own experimentation) — \- I WILL BE UPDATING THIS POST EVERYDAY. LINKS WILL BE AT THE BOTTOM OF POST WITH LOG NUMBERS AND DATES - 🌠 Log. 00 \[Tuesday, March 24th, 2026\] So far, I’ve been repeating the same first 3 tape…

Are my "corrective emotional experiences" all fake? I've developed a deep attachment to my therapist, but I feel so lost. — I'd love to hear your thoughts or see if anyone has had similar experiences. As my therapy goes deeper, I find myself becoming more and more attached to my therapist. I feel like the baby monkey cling…

I finally stopped begging my toxic Mom. Her "Extinction Burst" over my sister's wedding is insane. Has anyone else experienced this? — Hi everyone. I (M) and my two sisters have spent our entire lives tiptoeing around our emotionally immature, highly controlling mother. She uses guilt, silent treatments, and the "I'm a terrible mothe…

Writing about my experience with Iboga medicine 🌱 — Earlier I made a post and someone commented that they didn't want to watch a video. Understood! Here is an account of what I saw during my time with ceremony number one with iboga. It was not what I i…

About point a, moonlight, oh, sweet, old memories, I actually hallucinated about 1 year, trying to act as if. No, it was not rough, it was hell, but I did it. And it kinda worked, but I don t recomme…

Also there seems to be an overreliance on arbitrary "rules" like "age gap bad" (obviously some age gaps really are bad but five years in your 20s shouldn't be such a big deal IMO) or "high school swee…

Definitely true. My parents in law have been together for 40 years, married for 32. They started dating when she was 16 and he was 24! Something that's literally illegal in most places now and situati…

Yes, I do this myself and see this happen with the guy I'm dating as well. I think it's triggered by positive feelings/increased connection or vulnerability. For me, when we get closer, or when he tel…

I get it. As sweet as that sounds, if somebody is moving fast after one or two dates by buying presents then I'd say the onus falls on them to read the room better and take a step back. At that point …

lets go this is sweet. you should put this data on bittensor and get paid in tao for it

Thanks for sharing your perspective :) no we didn’t really break up yet, I first accepted to still see him casually cause I do like him and thought that maybe it would work out fine being casual for a…

You're so sweet. Thanks for cheering me. 💙

You are such a sweetheart and I'm so proud of you for this. It will be hard. You will worry about them seeing as you have such a big heart but good on you for choosing yourself in a difficult situatio…

This is incredibly sweet, Im wishing the best for both of you :) What comments are missing is that love and safety is often the best medicine, for everyone. Im not a DA (avoidant leaning FA) but I sta…

Agree with these. With mine, there was just a general lack of sweetness or playfulness. Anytime anything veered to something romantic, he’d say something casual and offputting to change the moment to …

Orrrrrrrr.... In the early thaw of spring, when frost still clung stubbornly to the edges of the earth, the apology remained unsent. It lingered like a letter never mailed. Its seal unbroken, its tru…

I think people may be projecting a bit. Yes, FAs do tend to come back around and if they haven’t changed then the cycle can repeat and much faster than the first time. But you don’t need to just blo…

Hmm I would totally think that’s the case if it weren’t for him also slowing down communication. Sporadic days of silence or only 1 or 2 responses a day while he’s being over the top sweet. Maybe it’s…

These are the kinds of things you think with fearful avoidant attachment, and when you get to the point where you want to try and start dating again after working through a considerable amount. I’m da…

He wasn’t hardly speaking to me at all. He was trying to show up and listen to me, offer advice, etc., but could easily get very irritated and ‘bitey’ with me. He wasn’t doing the things he enjoyed. …

I feel this. I've been seeing a DA off and on for 3 years now. We had a fight a few weeks ago and I don't know where we currently stand because he's gone quiet. He has admitted to having major trust …

I am feeling lonely. Like I am not a priority to my partner. Yet? Or any more? Who knows? I know this is mostly her communication style over text/online. But in the beginning, we would call every da…

Sweet lord that’s crazy 😭It’s 100% okay to take breaks and the fact that they’re just spitting that weirdness out is gross :/ From my own personal experiences I always feel really good about shifting…

Have you ever tried mentioning anything about attachment theory or being an FA at the beginning of dating? Or does it feel like it’s too soon and may sabotage things? For me it feels like I’d rather t…

As you might have not seen, I pulled the plug on it. She's already begging for new chances. I'm already living with zero residue and interference. It's kinda sweet.

How do you feel secure after pushing a boundary and hurting your partner? Even when they seem to accept your apology? Partner and I are in a rough patch, we are still repairing after a big argument. …

How do you feel secure after pushing a boundary and hurting your partner? Even when they seem to accept your apology? Partner and I are in a rough patch, we are still repairing after a big argument. …

I think i fucked up.... So I (32F) just ended things with a guy (33M) that I've been seeing for 2 ish months. I cant tell if my anxious attachment style got the best of me or of there were genuinel…

Text of original post by u/BornEducation4428: I am quite curious to hear if there are those who are still in their own "wound care " (healing) of being outside of an anxiously attached situation or of…

I've posted in this sub before about this relationship. I'm dating an FA for about 7 months now. We started off great and he is really such a sweet, sensitive, loving guy. But at around 5 months in I …

ive been with my boyfriend since about july, and we made it official early october, things typically are really good, but any time he gets upset with me i freak. i believe hes more avoidant, when ther…

Thank you so much for this reply! I’m glad to hear that the consensus is to stick through the ick and I love that sharing has made you feel better! I have communicated that I need space sometimes, t…

My advice is that maybe spend some more time to yourself or apart. Not break up, but just doing your own thing. Go out by yourself, get some alone time, or take walks. Space is invaluable. It can help…

FAs can be so sweet and strong. I bet your family adores you. Sending full encouragement.

Thats sweet of you and self aware 🐞

Sweetie they won't change without admitting they need therapy you're just gonna be hitting your head against the wall life is too short for that 

he has accepted that you will never be his, that he will never be loved loudly by you, but he remembers how close he almost got and for a minute it seemed like you might actually let him love you and …

I type out messages with vulnerable content so that I can send them to my SO, but I end up deleting them because it feels icky and unsafe. Even if he's been supportive in a way that is both caring and…

I've heard (and taught) all this stuff so many times. I just...have a lot of snags around it all. Let me go through each of your points. I have other hobbies and interests, but it's hard for me to ac…

That is the sweetest story! And so awesome that you’re making an effort and actually feeling the positive emotions of progress. This post needs little gold stars 🌟 I wish I could make the object of m…

I carry so much shame because of my avoidant attachment. I recognize how it interferes with emotionally connecting with my partner. In 2025, I was dealing with my dad's death, unemployment, and changi…

Oh absolutely. And an additional layer: they *think* they can predict everyone's needs and fit perfectly to fill every niche and that it's so kind and sweet and good of them to encroach on everyone's…

I'm not sure if your person is FA or DA but I'll add my view as a healing fearful avoidant. If you have lighthearted things to share, the best way to share them is to just send them to the person. Giv…

>I think another expression of this is the insistence that a relationship can never be ended except by mutual agreement. Oh God, I had an ex like this. She spent all her time laying around the hous…

yeah if the group is too big i find it difficult but there is a sweet spot

I think you may be trying to control things that are many times uncontrollable. New relationship energy (NRE) is a thing. It’s normal to be excited by a new person. And inherently fantasizing is not a…

I used to be like this but I started dating my boyfriend after nearly a decade of being single and my only anxiety now is seperation lol. hes so sweet and always has been that i didnt feel anxious at …

Only you know. I can’t stay with someone who isn’t fun. What I mean is, I want to laugh in my relationship. I don’t care how sweet, hot or kind he is - if we aren’t laughing I’m out. I’m a silly pers…

Over time, it does seem that the guy I am seeing is operating very differently from how I am used to. He is not really talkative but seems more to be about solution orientation. If there is something …

My ex of 3 years ago reached out after the turn of the year. She sent a sweet text and I’ve been exploring getting to know her again. She lives 2 states away, but I’ve even had the opportunity to see …

Yeah it sucks because she is sweet and very kind but I wouldn’t be able to adapt to that when that’s never been my thing before. It actually would’ve been easier if she mentioned that the moment we s…

Hello, the questions I have are mainly about me and not really about the relationship itself. Any advice would be appreciated as I'm struggling a lot with this. The Situation/How I feel: The relati…

💜💜 you are genuinely very sweet and your words have touched me more than you can know!

Hmmm. That makes it hard. I think the cupcake idea is well thought out and would be perfect. I think if she doesn’t want sweets than a small plant or a small thing of flowers could be good alternativ…