the bystander

I'm an avid reader too. As a teenager I read Jack Kerouac, that was life changing. It gave me hope that some day i would escape and meet people who's get me. As a child, my favorite book was titled "…

Normal Life? — People with history of severe sexual abuse, do we ever have a chance at a normal life? I mean those who were abused by both their parents and extended family members in every way one could imagine. I …

happy to have ended it but sad to see them doing the things i wanted. what does this mean? — long story short-ish. we broke up in 2023 and it was me who did it but he was the one who started mistreating me. things like suddenly liking tik tok (bc he met a girl on there… who he started dating …

Now that I’m not there to be her punching bag, my mom has turned all her violence toward my dad. idk what to do — I grew up in a household where 'unfilial' was a weapon used to silence me. Ever since before kindergarden, my mom was physically abusive. holding knives to my throat, pouring buckets of water on me wh…

My experience getting involved in communities for making friends in your 30s is that they run into one consistent, fatal problem: they're full of people who need communities like this to make friends …

Pretty much. I noticed with mine, he is always either the hero or the victim in his stories. Never the bystander.

People love to use the "common denominator argument" without realizing what a pack of hiveminds people can be. The bystander effect has been studied. People will enable abusers, rapists and criminals …

My theory on all the bystanders who said and did nothing is that they enjoyed seeing potential competitors to their own children fucked up rather than functioning. I can't think of anything else with …

We’ve talked and tried that. It’s not terrible. Another issue is that she took a job and moved 2.5 hours away. So seeing each other more than once weekends is difficult. I’m retired and don’t need…

Bc the person doing the pressuring is a manipulative dominant caracter and the bystanders doing the victim blaming and shaming are afraid to stand up to them but not to the pressured one .. obviously