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Anyone not have many childhood memories?

Without a Single Joke: 98% of my "Childhood Memories" are TV + Videogames. Tbf, I grew up isolated per se: Edge of a small town. Coined "the weird kid" in school -so any "friends" either got bullied …

r/EmotionalNeglectcomment3/27/2026
I don't know the difference between what's real or not anymore

I don't know the difference between what's real or not anymore — I don't really know where to start other than this experience was over the weekend, and it made me see things in a different way. On Saturday night, I took a gummy, I dabble in it to help with my anxi…

r/Psychonautpost3/16/2026
A couple great tips for easier Revision.

A couple great tips for easier Revision. — Revision is an extremely important yet underrated technique. After going through an event that "future" manifesting just wouldn't solve, I knew the only thing that would fix this situation is to chang…

r/nevillegoddardpost3/17/2026
Anyone not have many childhood memories?

Anyone not have many childhood memories? — Like I just draw blank a lot of the time when trying to remember childhood, what happened at home, what things felt like, etc. My brothers often talk about how aggressive and dominating Dad would get…

r/EmotionalNeglectpost3/27/2026
I hate children so much(tw child abuse

I hate children so much(tw child abuse — I know I can’t say out loud irl and I know it’s unacceptable in society That hating children is a malice of society It’s just feeling it doesn’t lead to any action I named that hatred, discussed fo…

r/CPTSDpost4/1/2026
Has anyone had this experience during yoga nidra?

Has anyone had this experience during yoga nidra? — Started doing yoga nidra recently, mostly to use a sankalpa to recondition my social anxiety. I’ve been noticing something kinda weird though. At some point in the middle of the practice I start gett…

r/Meditationpost4/4/2026
My (42F) husband (41M) grew a mustache that triggers my childhood trauma. He says I should get over it so he can do what he wants with his face. Am I being unfair in asking him to remove it?

My (42F) husband (41M) grew a mustache that triggers my childhood trauma. He says I should get over it so he can do what he wants with his face. Am I being unfair in asking him to remove it? — I’ve been with my husband for thirteen years, and for most of that time, he has been clean-shaven. Recently, he decided he wants to try growing out a mustache "for a little while." The problem is not…

r/relationship_advicepost4/5/2026
Does anyone find it hard to appreciate themselves

Does anyone find it hard to appreciate themselves — I dont have any childhood memories specifically in my home (all school memories are solid). But after growing up and started doing my therapy work, observed that I cant see anything good in me even th…

r/EmotionalNeglectpost4/9/2026
Anyone else constantly mourn the childhood of teens thet didn’t have had?

Anyone else constantly mourn the childhood of teens thet didn’t have had? — Almost every days I think back of my teens and how much I wish I had knew the universes that saved me in my early adulthood at that time. I would have struggled with the same problems, but Drizzt Do’…

r/CPTSDpost4/9/2026
No memory of being validated

No memory of being validated — I tried to think of childhood memories of being validated by parents, but couldn't. I only have memories of either receiving zero attention or negative attention. As for feelings, I feel very blank re…

r/EmotionalNeglectpost4/10/2026
Does this count as emotional neglect?

Does this count as emotional neglect? — I have recently discovered that I might have been neglected by my parents, mostly my dad. I've struggled with my mental health for a long time and I'm slowly realizing that my childhood impacted me mo…

r/EmotionalNeglectpost4/12/2026
Aliens during 1 month patterning

In my opinion? Research first, understand what the phenomena is. It is very broad, and extremely shocking if you ever get to interact with them! There is a mixed bag of a lot of different groups. Look…

r/gatewaytapescomment3/8/2026
It does get better (dumped by an avoidant) (personal advice that helped me)

Hahahaha that’s so fair. I try my best to not label avoidants as evil people since they were also deeply affected by childhood memories. But yeah…..what most of them do is kinda evil

r/BreakUpscomment3/8/2026
Why did it take me so long to realize the neglect?

I didn't have a clue until a therapist pointed it out to me as I discussed my parents and family history. He said there was a "pattern of neglect" and those words changed everything for me. Now any ti…

r/EmotionalNeglectcomment3/9/2026
When the therapist is speechless…

Sometimes I don’t realize how traumatic some of my childhood memories are until I share what I think is a silly memory, only to see the listeners face as I’m wrapping it up 😅😅

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/12/2026
For those who stayed no contact with a parent until they died did you regret it?

I went from the golden child to the black sheep at 14yo. Apologized and went back to the golden child. Back to the black sheep at 16yo. Apologized again and went back to golden child (with caveats thi…

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/12/2026
Does anyone else go into "fawn" mode or age regress when talking to people?

Peep my username, I actually age regress in private, trying to have a sense of happier childhood memories, and often do childlike things in private. I do also fawn though, I try to say things/act a …

r/CPTSDcomment3/13/2026
Did any of your parents purposely scare you?

I have a lot of my childhood memories blocked out, but I do remember my dad purposely scaring my brother and I. The two of us had pretty big bug phobias as children, and I remember once Dad killed a m…

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/17/2026
Anyone else have a parent with an undiagnosed mental illness?

I’ve always thought my mum had bipolar or something similar. I have early childhood memories of her screaming about aliens whilst trying to jump out the window. Then when I was in my teens she didn’t …

r/EmotionalNeglectcomment3/17/2026
What is your earliest memory of being neglected?

It’s wild how many of my childhood memories are me either sitting in a car or my mom dragging me to various stores while she leisurely shopped for hours upon hours, it’s actually disturbing in hindsig…

r/EmotionalNeglectcomment3/19/2026
What is your earliest memory of being neglected?

So, I know that ancedotally, I was regularly neglected in my pre-memory; and it's also such a consistent thing that probably 80-90% of my childhood memories include neglect of some sort or another. M…

r/EmotionalNeglectcomment3/19/2026
Anyone find out later in life the “good” parent was as bad as the “bad” parent?

My enabler parent tried to preemptively bully me into silence in my late forties before i even said I was abused. She asked me what I remember, it was a fishing expedition because, as I later found ou…

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/20/2026
Were you basically surviving your entire childhood?

What I realized was off is that I have no good childhood memories. And I remember pretty much ALL of it. I don’t think I really started having any positive experiences until well into adulthood. I eve…

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/21/2026
the anxiety is gone... but now there's just a massive void. How do you handle the "nothingness" after liberation?

I remember a youtube video on this, and when asked, the therapist said—and I'm paraphrasing—that patients eventually reach a dark place. And he didn't say how it's supposed to be treated. Perhaps he w…

r/CPTSDcomment3/23/2026
Do you get given gifts that prove how little they know about you?

You literally just unlocked one of my childhood memories. I asked my mom why so many of the gifts my family gets for each other are just things the giver would like. She said “that’s just what you do.…

r/EmotionalNeglectcomment3/25/2026
Anyone not have many childhood memories?

Not only do I not have many childhood memories, I don't really remember much from my teenage and adolescent years either (I'm 40 for context). I read autobiographies sometimes and I'm always amazed a…

r/EmotionalNeglectcomment3/27/2026
Anyone not have many childhood memories?

Not exactly the same but when my parents will "remember when" and it's even a happy memory I cringe and feel shame and sadness. The trauma and the struggle I went through to overcome it, it's like all…

r/EmotionalNeglectcomment3/27/2026
For the divorced people. How many of y’all knew before the wedding?

I did (31F). We had an amazing surprise present about a month into dating. I grew up in a(n extremely traumatic and neglectful) household that believed families couldn’t be happy if parents were divor…

r/Divorcecomment3/27/2026
Whats the most hurtful thing a parent/caretaker has said to you?

Most hurtful? Can't remember what had the biggest effect. But the one I'll never forget despite having very few childhood memories: My father. "All women are bitches." And I asked, "even me Daddy?…

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/28/2026
What ACTUALLY helps heal a dysregulated/anxious nervous system?

What. My childhood memories are jpegs not videos cos i guess maybe they werent fully enjoyabl/safe enough to be that present. The memories i replay as videos are the more “good” memories in young adul…

r/CPTSDcomment3/29/2026
Anyone not have many childhood memories?

Yeah I have a huge lack of childhood memories but I also lack a lot of memories in general and I'm not sure what's from dissasociative tendencies, what's from cptsd, and what's from having aphantasia.…

r/EmotionalNeglectcomment3/29/2026
A luminous all-seeing eye has been watching me

Thank you for posting this! I woke up this morning thinking about an experience I had as a child that I was planning to share here today, and yours was the first I saw! When I was 5, in 1978, I woke …

r/experiencerscomment3/30/2026
Please join me in listing things that you discovered aren't normal outside your own toxic upbringing

> -I assumed most families had a private more sinister cruel side to them. This is the biggest one. It is still odd to me to see people post photos on facebook vacationing with their parents, or gran…

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/31/2026
I (42F) want to leave my disabled husband (45M). But; don’t know how.

This. This a thousand times. He is choosing this. He is choosing to make you fund his lifestyle. Your kids deserve better. You deserve better. And when he complains you tell him this is what he ch…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/1/2026
Told my husband (37M) my life (34F) would be easier without him following a disagreement about household chores.

You rightly said he's picked this up from his mother, so you know it's probable that your kids will pick this up from him. But I have a theory about why he's continuing to do it even though you've tri…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/3/2026
"childhood trauma is when a situation overwhelms a child beyond their ability to cope."

Ordinary childhood memories can be fuzzy and disjointed, but you have a timeline of roughly where they fit in your life story, what event/s you’re remembering, and they feel quite distant and long pas…

r/CPTSDcomment4/3/2026
Please help me: My husband did something he doesn't remember

Hey. Sorry that you’re going through this. Your husband needs therapy, as well as his sister. I don’t want to diagnose anyone online, but there are strong undertones of a still-unresolved childhood…

r/CPTSDcomment4/5/2026
10 grams and almost nothing

I am also pretty sensitive compared to others, it always blows my mind to think that people eat a 10 strip at once. At two my soul is leaving my body and I'm relieving childhood memories in the first …

r/Psychonautcomment4/7/2026
As a distraction to avoid obsessively thinking/ over thinking about the situation, let's chat...

Tell me about one of your favorite childhood memories or a day a stranger did something kind for you that stopped you in your tracks :)

r/survivinginfidelitycomment4/7/2026
Feelings that resemble a familiar state of consciousness from very early childhood whilst on psychedelics

Yeah I used to get stuff like this when smoking weed. I had just gone to college and went from smoking rural ditch weed to real medical grade stuff. This was like 15 years ago, so strong weed wasn't t…

r/Psychonautcomment4/7/2026
How old were you when you realised?

It took me 45 years and therapy to be flooded by childhood memories I wished had stayed burried in the dungeons of mu head. Then the grief came. I hope my kids will have better memories.

r/EmotionalNeglectcomment4/8/2026
How do people actually move on from someone they still love?

You will move on when you realise you just love yourself more than you loved him. You will move on, There will be a day when you won't even remember his face. All the memories will be faded. Just like…

r/BreakUpscomment4/9/2026
Have you ever had somebody who knows you have cPTSD try to weaponize it against you?

Yeah but it was as it was actually happening. He was narrating it as I was experiencing it… hours of therapy talk regurgitated to tell me he was traumatised, and i was triggering it and then doing th…

r/CPTSDcomment4/9/2026
My life was taken before it ever got to begin, thanks to her

I feel sorry for you 💔 I'm 16 and I've also got stripped from the normal life any decent person lives, I have no happy childhood memories (all I remember is being locked up in the house crying over p…

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment4/9/2026
What are most men like when they are upset? I (42F) am considering leaving my husband (46M) over how he acts when upset.

He is abusive and your children will have emotional trauma from growing up with this. Please leave for their sake. I grew up feeling the constant tension in the house too and it has pretty much ruined…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/9/2026
What’s something from childhood that hits completely differently as an adult?

Abuse. The childhood memories I have of my mother abusing me are blurry and repressed. The time she abused me in my 30s was the last time she will ever see me. I keep me safe now. I can conjure no exc…

r/CPTSDcomment4/10/2026
My mom told me when i was a kid my dad used to ask her to deflower me.

It's also just something little kids do sometimes. Recovered repressed memories have become kind of controversial in modern psychology. People are very open to suggestion, especially when it comes to …

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment4/10/2026
Were they also enmeshed with their family members?

Mine was the black sheep and his sister the golden child. He has zero childhood memories with her and they don’t talk. Ever. It was weird and awkward when we did see her. She’s very enmeshed with her …

r/NarcissisticAbusecomment4/11/2026
why does being politely corrected make me wanna KMS 😀

If you don't mind speculation from a random internet stranger my guess would be that as a child you either only received love for accomplishment or that you recieved abuse for "mistakes." So your nerv…

r/CPTSDcomment4/12/2026