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Without a Single Joke: 98% of my "Childhood Memories" are TV + Videogames. Tbf, I grew up isolated per se: Edge of a small town. Coined "the weird kid" in school -so any "friends" either got bullied …
Happy New Year and Bye-bye 2024: 6th Kill - $20,000 from Futures Trading — # 6th Kill: $20,000 Money Mission **Mission**: To make $20,000 from futures trading **What I achieved:** I made $20,000 from futures trading **How long did it take:** 5 and a half months **Backgro…
I got ghosted and I feel blindsided — I (26F) met a guy (26M) 3 months ago who was in every sense of the word my dream guy. We spent 1 week together before he left back to his country. Ever since we have Facetimed every single day, and we…
pov - your unc asks what you do on easter — uncle: "so you do marketing?" me: "yes I generate leads for b2b companies" what I actually do: manage 350+ fake female linkedin accounts spamming dms to boomers pass the gravy please
Freelancers – the only person that can evaluate your pricing is the buyer (not Reddit) — *(TL;DR at bottom)* Questions like this pop up on this subreddit every few weeks: > How much should I charge for a basic website? Or: > Is $500 for a single-page Figma design a good price? ...and…
Don't get distracted by lack of experience (I will not promote) — You know the biggest myth people buy into? That you need experience to succeed. It’s a trap - a story we tell ourselves to stay comfortable. Don’t get me wrong, experience is nice, but it’s not the…
I designed an AI-powered path planner, but users lean toward heavy learning goals — need help rethinking the UX direction — Hi UXer! I’m a solo founder & designer, currently building a lightweight learning platform that uses AI to generate custom learning paths and micro flashcards. I designed it to support curious, self-…
[Hiring/Seeking/Offering] Jobs / Co-Founders Weekly Thread — # [Hiring/Seeking/Offering] Jobs / Co-Founders Weekly Thread This is an experiment. We see there is a demand from the community to: * Find Co-Founders * Hiring / Seeking Jobs * Offering Your Skillse…
I built a VSCode extension that shows array sizes directly in your code—would love feedback from other devs! — Hey everyone! I’ve been working on a VSCode extension called **Array Size Extension**, and I wanted to share it with you all to get some feedback or maybe help out others who run into the same proble…
Restart Operator: Schedule K8s Workload Restarts — github: [https://github.com/archsyscall/restart-operator](https://github.com/archsyscall/restart-operator) Built a simple K8s operator that lets you schedule periodic restarts of Deployments, Statefu…
Co-Founder wanted — Me: a decade in acquisition marketing for top brands in Europe. Responsible for P&L, decided if I’m responsible anyways, might as well be responsible for the whole damn thing, and the benefits it come…
Why isn't Firefox respecting prefers-color-scheme? — I use properly contrasted favicons for my site depending on if the user has light/dark mode enabled. I noticed that they display properly in Chrome and Edge but Firefox seems to ignore my \`prefers-co…
Using external files? — I'm tasked with adding a new page to the company's WP website that'll have a small form and and a couple of external lookups via javascript. I worked for four hours and made only slow progress, and th…
Error: Chrome persistently redirecting to HTTPS for HTTP site, code 400, message Bad request version. Need proper solution please. — **code 400, message Bad request version ('...') You're accessing the development server over HTTPS, but it only supports HTTP.** student project with django backend, running on local development. …
Looking for a technical co-founder I will not promote — Hey all, I'm working on a B2B SaaS platform targeting a specific form of fraud that's draining revenue from e-commerce and logistics companies. It's a blind spot for many, but the financial impact is…
UX Management — For a long time I’ve been more interested in design over management. I’m sensing that’s starting change. I’m becoming more interested in a leadership role. Me: I’m a senior with 10 years of UX exper…
I’ve failed at startups, lived on the road, and I still believe I’m successful — I was 19 when I started my first startup. I led a team of 15 people, wanted to change the world. And I failed. At 21, back in 2016, I left home without any money, hoping that traveling would help me …
ELI5: What is TDD and BDD? Also, TDD vs BDD? — I wrote this short article about TDD vs BDD because I couldn't find a concise one. It contains code examples in every common dev language. Maybe it helps one of you :-) Here is the repo: https://githu…
Should I sell my design agency? — Should I sell my design agency? Growing a design agency takes time especially when most of the business comes from cold outreach. It’s a high-volume game: thousands of emails, countless calls, and co…
CKA? Or EKS project? — Here's a bit of context as to why I feel like I need to get out of dodge ASAP... IT Management: "We need **more automation**! Nobody should be using User Data scripts." Me: \*Writes several Ansible…
How are you managing/identifying multiple AWS accounts? — Which tool or extension are you guys using to manage and identify multiple AWS accounts in your browser? Personally i have to deal with 30+ AWS accounts. An old devops team over engineered our AWS la…
For avoidants (and those leaning/earned secure): is this avoidant behavior? Do you really move on—and why no closure? — For avoidants (and those leaning/earned secure): is this avoidant behavior? Do you really move on—and why no closure? I began therapy 4 months into our situationship because of how strong he came on,…
I earned secure attachment in 4 months... — I can't believe I'm writing this. I did this without dating a secure person and without spending money on courses/apps. I promise I'm not selling anything. Big disclaimers: * I am only mostly secure…
Dating someone with a fearful-avoidant style has been unexpectedly… gentle? — I wanted to share a relationship experience that’s been genuinely interesting and surprisingly positive, especially for FAs and anyone curious about FA dynamics. If you are not interested in some per…
Update: Self-help group for anxious attachment — Thank you to everyone who responded to my [**prior post**](https://www.reddit.com/r/AnxiousAttachment/comments/1plm1g1/selfhelp_group_for_anxious_attachment/) re starting a self-help group. (Yes, The…
AnxAtt healing group: Meeting #1! — **Thank you to everyone who joined our first Anxious Attachment Healing Group meeting just now.** I really appreciate it. It was a great conversation with a thoughtful group of people from around th…
Experienced ego dissolution and timelessness while a friend spiraled into a bad trip believing we were communicating through “waves” — I wanted to share a recent experience because the contrast between my trip and my friend’s bad trip was extremely interesting, and I’m curious if others have seen similar dynamics in group trips. We …
My boyfriend and I had an argument over his marriage demands, and now he claims he means none of it... — Tl:dr: My boyfriend of two years has a list of requirements from me after we get married, and after our argument over it, which lead us to break up-- he said he didn't mean any of it and wants to go …
My attorney said "most people don't know what they're entitled to" - so I made a checklist and found $47K my ex "forgot" about — Going through a divorce right now. My attorney told me something that floored me: most people settle for less than they're owed because they don't know all the places assets can hide. So I went throu…
If You Get to the Center Time Stops; Sun as the Center — During yesterday morning's tarot card reading, I received the message, "if you get to the center of the wheel, time stops." My interpretation was that getting to the center means *perceiving* time as …
Day 47 of no contact. Here's what nobody tells you about what happens to your brain. — I didn't plan to go no contact. I just got to a point where I realized every time I reached out I felt worse for three days afterward. So I stopped. Day 1–7 was the worst week of my life. Worse than …
Covert narcissists are drawn to people with a strong instinct to help and care. — I grew up early. Owning Responsibilities that weren't mine. I learned that love was earned through being useful, stable, and selfless. I became the person people brought their chaos to. The one who a…
Become Indifferent Neville says. But it's easier said than done. My Tips. — If you want to be in charge of your creations you have to become indifferent to your own reactions. And it sounds easy until someone triggers the bejeezus out of you. Politics, your mother in law, pe…
"What does it mean to heal?" channeled message from my guides — I thought to share with you all this excerpt from a channeled conversation between myself and my guides. I love this text a lot and return to it often. Perhaps those of you on a healing journey and t…
read this if you are confused — Yes I have shifted, here is the mindset that brought me to this point. If this does not resonate with you move on. For those who follow the Law of Assumption, non duality etc I intend this will make …
Update to my previous post. Tis not a good one. — [https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverforty/comments/1q4sw3v/before\_i\_43m\_delete\_her\_44f\_number\_and\_move/](https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverforty/comments/1q4sw3v/before_i_43m_delete_her_44f_n…
A Lucid Dreaming Technique I Accidentally Discovered (Using Multi-Sensory Daydreaming) — Last night I accidentally triggered sleep paralysis while drifting off, and it made me realize a pattern that has happened during several of my past lucid dream or sleep paralysis experiences. I thin…
Endogenous DMT activation in sleep? Spontaneous breakthrough-like state with fractals, death sensation, head pops, high-pitched noise — [](/r/DMT/?f=flair_name%3A%22Experience%22)So this is going to sound stupidly insane but… I need to put it somewhere for someone who might understand. Background: had a 6g mushroom trip a while back.…
(trip report) Telepathic communication through high doses of psilocybin — Dose: 8g (Myself), 5g (Brayden, first time), others 3–4g Setting: Friend’s house, nearby park, neighborhood walk Time: 3:00 PM – 9:00 PM Participants: 5 friends So a couple years ago me and my …
Finally admitting I have an attitude of entitlement. — Need to get this off my chest: I’m realizing that at 35, I’ve spent a lot of my life operating with a mix of entitlement and a victim mentality. The short version is that growing up, I had a lot of t…
Something from The Four Agreements finally clicked for me today — I was reading the second agreement from The Four Agreements this morning, “don’t take anything personally” and something landed in a way it never has before. I realized how many stories I tell myself…
Older men who lie about their age in their dating profiles — I posted a question yesterday about how surprised I was to find that men who were claiming to be 55 (only 8 years older than me) seemed so old, and I was trying to understand why they would age so fas…
What's the best thing you've done for your brain health? (food, habits, tools, anything) — we spend so much time optimizing our bodies in this sub but how much are we actually doing for our brains specifically? not just 'sleep and meditate ill go first. the three things that made the bigg…
I honestly don't know what's going on with me: feeling oddly good after so many days without using any substances — Hello there and friendly greetings! As per title. I had my last trip on 7 Feb of this year with LSD and ever since then, I feel as though I’ve been living off my "psychedelic savings". I am not rea…
Mom! There's a Flying Car Outside the Window + And Other DR Memories — https://preview.redd.it/qg8vkwaixvpg1.png?width=1024&format=png&auto=webp&s=ddddae1cd2fa8a918133c6c3655c21cd7e63afd6 https://preview.redd.it/am1xwmqjxvpg1.png?width=680&format=png&auto=webp&s=2814916…
I got into medical school but my mother is still ashamed. — I (24f, Filipino) recently got accepted to medical school away from home. For context, I had a conditional acceptance for my local medical school that did not work out in the end. After 3 cycles and 4…
I (21M) have survived two decades of severe physical, emotional, and financial abuse from my Indian parents. I'm finally exhausted and need to tell my story. I am not free yet. — # TL;DR: I'm a 20-year-old only child in India who has endured severe physical, verbal, emotional, and financial abuse from my parents since toddlerhood. They have beaten me, medically neglected me, …
I meditated for 10 years. Here is how life changed — This is a personal anecdote of daily (99.5%) meditation practice spanning 10 years. I hope this will be helpful for those looking for motivation for their practice. Personally, I found external motiva…
The fastest way identify every limiting belief blocking your manifestations. — Hey! I need to tell you something. This past month changed everything for me. Since July, I had been trying to manifest a remote job. I was stressed all the time, thinking about it constantly. At on…
She admits the lies and secrecy, but still denies anything physical — I’m posting because I feel like I’m losing my grip on what is real, and I need perspective from people who understand trickle truth, repeated minimizing, and what it feels like when someone admits jus…
How I broke free from panic attacks — For 3 years ago I was at the gym. I was doing my normal push routine while all of the sudden I felt immense pain in my chest. I laid the weights beside me and sat down, my heart was pumping, it was pu…
Hi, I’ve been lurking for a couple weeks now and finished my first reading of POSM at this sub’s suggestion last weekend and The Feeling is the Secret not long after. The concept is completely underst…
You think you don't owe your partner, someone who's entered into a loving partnership with you, anything? That you can just walk away from that righteously, whenever? Sounds like a paltry, wispy comm…
Okay ignoring that you’re only a week in.. here is how it works for me: Annoyance level. If this person annoys me a lot, I probably don’t like them. But I also have to juggle this with the mindfulnes…
Hi there, i know it's only been a day, but are there any updates? Reading this, i feel a pit in my stomach for you and hope that he's just busy. It's almost like getting the news that someone you love…
So, I don't keep counts of my manifestations. But I swear by scripting. Scripting has changed my life. I am a very rational person myself. I strongly believe in science but I also believe in God/uni…
It’s honestly uncanny, how accurately you have described my own situation - except that it has been a week now and we (me: f34, AP - him: m30, DA) were together for 10, married for 8 years. We were ea…
Hajajaha one of them actually WAS boring from the beginning and i mistook it for safety... After 4 months, all the same:(
It does feel like this subreddit is split into 2 different categories of posts most of the time: experiencer stories & collective discussion threads. As you said, someone talking about their specific …
Have you ever tried mentioning anything about attachment theory or being an FA at the beginning of dating? Or does it feel like it’s too soon and may sabotage things? For me it feels like I’d rather t…
I can certainly identify with this sort of feeling, and unfortunately in my case, the realities of what was happening when my partner at the time wasn't responding were exactly the worst thing. That …
It is confusing imho, that push-pull dynamic that he created. I think honestly he was just overwhelmed with life, he was even prior to me asking how he felt. Or so he told me. He felt his job was beco…
A re-framing that has been helpful for me: reminding myself that I’m not daydreaming about how this other person makes me feel, I’m daydreaming about how I make MYSELF feel. There is nobody here but m…
I 100% felt that when my friend told me they just wanted to give what he wanted to give. I felt wanting to withdraw and argue. But then I remembered how much that would hurt my friend. They were giv…
Sending you all my love and hugs. I know what it feels like, it's taken me so long to get here too. It was a painful journey to have the same thing happen to me: giving all my love to someone else who…
I think the answer to your questions is "not yet"... At least, not in a secure way (because i can always take anything as a red flag and bolt before anything even starts). I think a big reason of…
I have been on a journey after coming off Lexpro after 10+ years, and experiencing all my issues with no meds. Scary. I am anxious and my partner of 10+ years is secure but leans avoidant. Over the…
Thank you for sharing this. Reading your post felt like someone handed me the secret playbook to my own current nightmare. I am on the other side of this dynamic—the anxious partner desperately in lov…
It's a form of emotional burnout. You're emotionally exhausted. And your DA partner hasn't broken up with you yet? They typically deactivate and run for the hills because of their own fear of intimac…
The person I text to told me: ”You can try to keep the messages for 1-2 days instead of thinking *omg I’m too much, I need to delete them*.” Which is great practise. 😄 I tell myself that I’m allowed …
Separation/space/distance triggers feelings of loneliness and abandonment and even though you aren't breaking up, you may self sabotage to either reconnect to feel connected or to breakup first. Here'…
Hi! I suffer from anxiety and recently had a strange dating encounter. And just trying to remind myself of the best way to deal with these types of situations going forward. Quickly, I went on a date …
Thank you for responding to me. Making this post was incredibly embarrassing for me because this entire situation feels absurd and the fact that it’s making me spiral so much has been really confusing…
Text of original post by u/TheOceanTheSun: Thank you to everyone who responded to my [**prior post**](https://www.reddit.com/r/AnxiousAttachment/comments/1plm1g1/selfhelp_group_for_anxious_attachment/…
OP here again: I have picked a time for our regular Zoom meeting. I'd also like your help with shaping the meeting guidelines, format, and content. More details in my update post: [https://www.redd…
You can listen to someone who just admitted they don't even have a paid account and just reads what they see online or listen to someone who's gotten more out of it in the last 30 days than four diffe…
Great for you to have this realization! It isn't easy! I sat on my decision the evening before ending it for many hours, cycling through the data and seeking support. It will be unfamiliar at first wh…
For me: 1. I am more comfortable communicating my needs and wants. I am someone who really enjoys their alone time. In the past, I would sacrifice this to please others (friends, partners( and the wh…
Text of original post by u/TheOceanTheSun: **Thank you to everyone who joined our first Anxious Attachment Healing Group meeting just now.** I really appreciate it. It was a great conversation wit…
Been studying Stoicism for a while and wanted a way to "consult" Marcus Aurelius when working through difficult situations. So I trained a chatbot exclusively on Meditations (Hays translation) plus so…
Very happy to share :) A few years ago I worked with a life coach to work on self-esteem and managing/setting boundaries. I still touch base with her when I need 1:1 support. After the avoidant discar…
I'm also FA and everything you said is the same for me. One of the most healing things I've done in my life is force myself to be the consistent initiator in one relationship that I really care abou…
Hi everyone. I’m posting here because I genuinely want outside perspective and grounded advice, not validation. Background I (male, 22) have known my partner (female, 19) for about 3.5 years. We are…
Things that have helped me: - keeping on dating, don’t make one person my only option. Or if dating isn’t happening I try and carry on going to queer events and just meeting new people in general to r…
I don’t have anxious attachment style, so my input may not be helpful, but I DO experience limerance and can relate to what you’re saying. Here’s what helps me: Recently it dawned on me that for me a…
I relate. I’ve been said this by someone who broke me: “I can’t be with someone who’s the biggest stress of my life”. But in my defence I only asked for some reassurance, not obsession. But yeah eve…
I've been there. I'm sorry your experiencing this and your in a lot of pain right now. I can gaurantee that the pain will end with time. It lasted around 4 months for me, but everyone heals different…
- for obsessive thinking to stop asap, you have to make sure there are as few memory triggers as possible. Also, you have to consciously stop yourself when you feel ready. Find distractions, hang out …
Is this weird to tell a guy? I sent it to the guy in question.... Your reputation/social-influence is far reaching 🤭 this conversation happened at the dinner table: Me: telling my parents about a…
Hope someone can tell me what i did wrong or misread. I’m in my 30s, Mikaylah is in her early 20s. i transferred to her department last July. At first i wasn’t interested in her as anything more than …
this didn’t get any traction in the previous thread so i’m hoping this one might get me some advice. i have to go back to work on friday so any help would be appreciated. Hope someone can tell me wh…
You’re confusing chemistry spikes with compatibility. Healthy relationships are not supposed to feel exciting all the time. If they do, it’s usually because there’s instability, uncertainty, or interm…
Her: "I want to [do this sexual activity to you]" Me: "I do not want you to do that, I don't think I would enjoy it" Her: "I am going to do it anyway because I like it" Paraphrased, and thankfully …
Here is the part that stood out to me: "when I asked what happened? he said ahh busy at work and I know you'd come back to me" He's going to keep doing this. I've been there. I'm sorry to say this, b…
I’m trying to not get too excited but I met someone from the apps I was the most excited to meet and he was even cuter in person. And smart too. And seems to have a solid social circle and career. We …
Oh! Here's what worked for me: * Practice Mindfulness -- It may not be the same for you, but for me it was meditation (always guided) and breathwork. * Get outside -- for me this is connected to mi…
Entering day 3 of my valentine not texting or reaching out to me: I reached out like normal on Sunday and he liked it but did not reply. He usually texts me all day every day from both texting and …
Him: maybe Tuesday? Me: Tuesday definitely works! Tuesday: 🦗🦗🦗🦗 I’m just screaming into the internet void. There’s a lot of nuisance I don’t care to put on the internet and part of that is w…
I’m working on this too. A couple shifts that have helped me: -Realizing that relief isn’t the same as joy. Keeping things in to avoid conflict feels calm in the moment, but it builds distance. -Accep…
I’ve been seeing a man significantly older than me for about a month. He started out very secure and loving, but my anxious attachment and mental health triggers caused a lot of friction. I became the…