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A complicated (online) friendship [vent?] — Hey everyone; I don't know if this fits here or relates too much to codependency, but I can try posting it and see what people's thoughts are. People usually talk about proper IRL relationships so per…
FA Ex who semi-ghosted me sent me this message 2 months later — I had posted in this group at the time when things between me and this guy who I really really care about sort of deteriorated. After that post he did come back and tried for about a week to reconnect…
Reflection on over friendly therapist? — Hi readers. This is something that has been on my mind for months and I don't know how to wrap my head around it. Some professional insight might be helpful. I left therapy a few months ago. I had …
Men who've been with narcissists - what was your experience like leaving? — I'm curious about men's experience specifically because I'm sure there are some gender differences with these experiences too. I'm looking for these perspectives as a I navigate a situation of my own.…
Immense anger after being cheated on.. 8 year relationship. — 8 year relationship down the drain.. I met her when I was 23m.. She BEGGED ME to take her serious. I took road trips frequently for work during that time and she felt like I didn’t spend enough time w…
I caught my dad cheating, told my mom, and now feel resentment and guilt for their divorce. — My \[F25\] parents have been married for 30 years. My father has engaged in physical infidelity multiple times throughout their marriage and has engaged in several sexting relationships. My parents br…
I broke up with my college girlfriend when she lied about having cancer — I dated this girl from sophomore to junior year of college. Things started off seemingly great, but by the third month in (I know - it gets juicy FAST) she started accusing me of sleeping with other …
My ex lied about having cancer — I dated this girl from sophomore to junior year of college. Things started off seemingly great, but by the third month in (I know - it gets juicy FAST) she started accusing me of sleeping with other …
Am I crazy I feel like a failure — I feel like I failed in my last relationship. Neither of us was perfect throughout the year and a half we were together, but somehow the final straw was him telling me he never wanted a dog. He knew …
Broke up with my girlfriend and now meeting we’re meeting in a few days. What should I expect? — I (24m) recently went through a breakup with my girlfriend (21F), and I’m trying to figure out how to handle things moving forward. We had a really good relationship overall. She was someone who genu…
AITAH for cutting my mother off and finally refusing to tolerate her behavior? — AITA for cutting my mother off and finally refusing to tolerate her behavior? For context, I (29F) have had an on-and-off relationship with my mother (48F) my entire life. She is technically my stepm…
Has anyone else’s nparent had a psychotic break after abusing GLP-1s? — My nmom proudly admitted to lying to her doctor and shopping around to get her GLP-1 dosage increased. She also admitted to taking more than that high dose. As a result, she lost a lot of weight at an…
How do I stay friends with my ex when I have no trust for her and know that I'm a last choice for? — For further context I met a girl who was friends with a couple of other people in my friend group about 8 or 9 months ago, and we had gotten along well. After a while she eventually admitted that she …
I’m re-explaining my situation after everyone on this subreddit said I was the shittiest person alive — Hi everyone I know this is super long but please read all of it. So yesterday I posted this: “I need honest opinions because I’m really conflicted and don’t know if I crossed a line or if this break…
He told me "Happy Birthday," but... — it was his ex- wife's birthday today. Mine was March 6th, and of course, he ignored me that day, just like he did last year. Last night he messaged me how much he missed me and wanted me to come to hi…
Dealing with losing family over nmom — So I recently had a baby a few months ago and it was my final straw with my nmom where I was done dealing with her behavior and would do everything I can to make sure my kid doesnt grow up knowing her…
My(F31) Fiancé(M30) made a post about his gaming addicted ex. Years down the line and he's doing the same to me. — Hi All, A year into my fiance and I dating, I found his Reddit account that had one post on [r/AskMen](https://www.reddit.com/r/AskMen/) that had thousands of upvotes and hundreds of comments on it. …
I think I need to leave — I (19M) have been dating my partner (18F) for almost a year. My partner has severe BPD, Anorexia, and Major Depressive Disorder stemming from a more than difficult early childhood, and also suffers fr…
It's nmom's birthday — Tl;dr., My siblings broke no contact with my mom today because it's her birthday. I've always had issues with the way my mom treated me. It's pretty much a textbook covert narcissist/scapegoat relati…
Just left my husband — I have just left my husband due to years of poor mental health , asking for better and never receiving it . He had a pattern of every time I said I was unhappy or we’d argue he would throw in my face …
Can I vent here? I just wanna get it out my chest. DA ex — My ex ghosted me over and over throughout our 8-year relationship. We broke up around 6–7 times. Back then, I didn’t understand attachment styles. I just knew I was anxious and he kept disappearing. …
Did I make the right choice ending things with my situationship? — I'm writing this post an ultimatum to myself that I won't think about this anymore. I (24 M) found myself falling in love with a (23F) and ended up having a situationship with her which I ended recent…
Consollation for Dealing With Flying Monkeys — I was raised by a narc dad and underwent severe abuse. My mum and most of her family died before I was born. So it was just my ndad and his extended family network (vast). I went NC in my 30s, final …
Thinking about breaking up with my bf(21M) — I (F20) and my bfM21) have been together for almost a year. I really love him but recently I’ve been getting fed up. He hasn’t had a job longer 3 months and for most of our relationship he hasn’t work…
Overwhelming Breakup — My partner and I broke up today, and like any breakup, it sent chills down my spine. I felt cold and clammy, my heart racing as I questioned what had gone wrong and why another chance was not possible…
My (23F) Nmom (51F) is slowly developing a highly obsessive ozempic-induced ego complex. — I’ll give you the basics… I moved in after graduating college and we had an ok relationship until she started taking ozempic. She was pretty overweight before (200+) and now she’s 145 and OBSESSED wit…
Trying again — My ex and I broke up at the end of last year and it pushed me to a point I never thought I’d get to: finally admitting I needed therapy and mental health help. Something I know I needed long before th…
“You have absolutely no right to be upset, hurt, or cry, sweetie” — Just for some context before I start: these events are just the "spotlights" of what I have experienced with them again and again throughout my entire life. 30M Growing up, my parents constantly made…
Partner traded me in for in laws — TLDR: has anyone had a partner go back to their nfamily after going no contact and then blamed you for everything while the nparents refuse to apologise for anything at all and are treating your partn…
Hi I've literally never posted on reddit before but I think I hit my final straw today. I just found out a coworker got engaged. I am one of only two single people at my job. And it seems that most of…
Just wanted other opinions or a read on this. I ended things with someone I went on two dates with. I tend to pick up on small things but I just felt like this was weird, or at the very least showed…
What was the final straw? If you want to share!
A guy I had been seeing for 2 months I dumped after this huge very aggressive male Rottweiler was on the loose and he tried to use me as a shield to hide behind when I was early 20s - it was especiall…
I briefly dated a friend's cousin while in college. He started giving me the ick when I noticed how much he looked like my friend, and I started to see her face when we were kissing. The final straw w…
This was a. Long time ago but winter was ending and we went shopping. She wore open toe shoes and I couldn’t stop looking at them because I thought her feet looked like Ms. piggy’s. I had plenty of ot…
I wasn’t a believer in karma until my divorce. My daughter blew up her moms infidelity at age 13, the second DDay. First was 11 years before. When my kid smoked out her trash mom, I went all in on div…
Yep, both my nparents did me this way for as long as I can remember. From jump scares to horrible pranks. The more my sister and I reacted, were scared, the more they laughed and kept doing it to us. …
Thank God mine wasn’t THAT bad. But the entitlement was more than I could handle. The first thing she said when she moved into my house was that she’s sleeping on my side of the bed. I said I’ve been …
You cannot rely on your partner. Maybe they'll tell the truth, maybe not - and you may not ever be able to tell the difference! My experience - it was a few years of doubt (with my partner using th…
The most you can do - and maybe to some this will be even more than he should deserve - is to let him know this is the absolute final straw Basically the paperwork for a new flat is in too so if you…
My STBXW basically immediately jumped into seeing her side piece full time as soon as we decided to divorce. Hell, the final straw was me telling her that I was feeling left out and secondary to him (…
There were two final straws. The first was when she went through my phone and got upset that I still had a conversation on my Facebook Messenger from a girl from 5 years before we even met, and we wer…
Yeah this post rlly was someone’s final straw before a psychotic break 🫤
1. A few months in, I'd had a vasectomy, I flew the day after my surgery to go see her, that was a really dumb thing to do. I had a ton of swelling and pain, and 3 days post surgery she started coming…
How long before ? After i kicked her out How long was it before you saw it for what it was? 3-4 years for me How long after you saw for what it was did you finally leave,? I kicked her out .. i was th…
Since you're not seeing things clearly, let me offer you this: It's a good thing she is pulling back. It's going to make it easier for you to steer clear of further complications. I don't know what…
Yes bro, I'm past the final straw stage, there's no point staying here. I have started looking for jobs, could take a while to find one (I made sure to tell no one what I'm up to), and I'll exit the d…
I feel you brother. Count yourself lucky if it was only once. My exwife cheated on me with a whole online affair. She cam clean on it and we talked and were working through it, but two weeks later, s…
Yeah, I kind of went scorched earth several years ago... a close friend Ive had since I was like 15/16 pushed my boundary for the last time. I felt so obligated cause we knew each other so long, had b…
I've been there, done that. The final straw for me was in 2009 after my mother threatened suicide, knowing damn well that I lived in Honolulu and she lived in the Midwest. I went no contact with her …
Look, I did this - except not with the intent to "just not be alone". I thought it wouldn't be a big deal. I ended up his maid and his mother. He "neglected" to pay his car insurance. It got imp…
So many over the years but the last and final straw was yelling at me repeatedly “ you’ve done nothing for me this last year”
Yes. My almost ex wanted to watch me with others and I refused. I was crushed. Last final straw in my marriage
⸻ Yes, it’s common. Not because it’s acceptable—but because some people avoid accountability at all costs. People who can hurt someone deeply and walk away without empathy usually don’t sit with wh…
For what it's worth OP you are a fantastic mum. (mother of 4 sons here). I think you should go ahead with your plan to get another car and make it an amazing project to do with your son. My sugges…
My parents were teens when they had me. They both came from abusive homes, they both tried to be functional people, they fostered kids and did a bunch of charity stuff and were successful financially…
She saw you attempting to rest. I think that's what the trigger was. Narcs have a strong aversion to peace, and if they see others at peace, they have a need to ruin it immediately. Vacuuming and ba…
Prednisone + PCOS is a bitch. I have been there! I ended up diabetic due to long-term prednisone use (though I was going to end up diabetic anyway: I am overweight, I have Native heritage, I have ins…
Little things at first... You are using the wrong pan for this, you have to use this one, "in this house we sit at the table until everyone is done eating" when I got up to put a dish in the sink... T…
I feel for you. I went through something very similar and it was hell. I also have ADHD, which made me blame myself for all my quirks instead of him for his behaviour. Eventually I fixated on the cy…
Unfortunately I can’t afford to talk to a therapist, but i’ve worked really hard to learn about myself with clarity, not emotion or justification. I’m just so exhausted of the cycle and I need her t…
I can't set up boundaries with my parents. I went NC with my ndad because of the way he responded to my attempt to create a boundary. That incident was the final straw - he went from literally begging…
I probably had 10-20 realizations tbh. Not sure any of them individually were actually the tipping point. I remember each of them feeling like “this is how I know it’s over,” but it clearly wasn’t bec…
I’m glad you have finally decided you’re worth more than that scumbag! The STD, incurable or otherwise, ought to have been it. That or the cheating. Or the abuse. The final straw being him texting for…
And you and probably both of you being that agitated means the fuses are pretty short and it's spiralling.... Ya been there. No fun, to add to the mix I had kid's keeping score. The actual final straw…
It was a major milestone birthday and she didn't do anything. I mean, nothing. I knew that day - as perhaps the final straw - that it was over. Waited for my child to finish their last year of school …
This is why I love this sub, because this just came up in my life (again) yesterday. I cancelled a first date with someone who shared with me that a red flag to him is people who don’t have long-term …
Yeah i remember your post and suspected even then I'm sorry, i've also had to deal with this... while i do not casually or lightly say this... The guy i was dealing with was; -baiting kids in front…
It took me 10 years and lots of therapy. Final straw was realizing that if I kept my family in my life it would kill me.
Your post is too vague for anyone here to tell you exactly why you made her uncomfortable. For example, the first time she started distancing herself from you was when you started texting her a lot wi…
Thank you. No I don’t need closure. I cannot fix who they are, nor try to understand them. For years I did but this was the absolute final straw.
I agree with you that media consumption is not morality. It was more his strange excitement around the movies, which I asked about and tried to have conversations about and he couldn’t do it. So, I le…
Agree. It feels like this was the final straw of things that had been building up and she just lost hope that things would ever get better. The pain of life was greater than the fear of death to her …
I have the answer!!!! I'm a success story... And here is the answer- act dumb. I mean it. Don't do it for him, ask him how it's done. Your inner feminist will scream, but seriously pretend to struggl…
I'm really reluctant to say this, but... Yeah, definitely look at your language there, bro. I've not read the book but it does sound like something that'll help, because there's a hell of a lot of j…
Gaming is fine. What's not fine is when someone is married to their video games more than they are to you. Moderation... If he has none of it, then you will always feel in competition with him again…
I always say, it hurts mourning the family you've lost BUT it hurt a hell of alot more having a family and still mourning the family you deserve. Im no contact over a year now and couldnt be happier…
That could be one, but as you said, Was it the last straw ? What else has she done that has made you decide that you already had a whole bowl of straws You have to really debate about this and you …
my ex literally berated me for not wanting to go camping on a 2nd date/put me down in such an incredibly tacky fashion, spam called me when I told him I didn’t want to be with him and then lovebombed …