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The person you responded to was talking only about sex when they said "take it slow" and you jumped in to object to them, so obviously your comment was read in that context. Perhaps next time you ca…
Please guide me in learning infrastructure automation — I currently manage a few servers running some ecommerce sites (WordPress) and some custom PHP based applications (Vanilla PHP, and Laravel) on DigitalOcean. My setup is pretty basic and consists of *…
How do you end an engagement when you both live together, share a lot of expenses, and the wedding is less than a year out. — i’ll start this off my saying i truly feel like a horrible person. I (22M), have been engaged to my girlfriend (23F) for about a year now. I rushed into the engagement in our first year of dating and …
Just trying to gain closure on my own... — This is something I wrote in my journal, trying to process emotions and gain closure. Lori, Since you would not give me the opportunity for closure, I'm going to do what I can to get it here. This…
Thank you — Thank you for coming back into my life. It’s been almost two months since we broke up and (I) went no contact. It’s been so hard for me. I think about you everyday first thing in the morning until I c…
Just got discarded and could really do with some emotional support. — I met my FA over a year ago and we started out as friend. Within a month he started signalling attraction and a month after that we stated making out. We shared soo much stuff with each other and spok…
Ex is back — I’m looking for some honest advice because my head is all over the place right now. I recently met up with my ex again after some time apart. It’s been about 6 months since we ended things, and we’ve…
My 41F Partner 42M wants us to work on ourselves, and our relationship by making us start from scratch and I am struggling. Do I keep going? — My 41F Partner 42M and I have been together for just over a year. we started off very fast and just got into long term relationship habits very quick. within 6 months it spiralled and we have been …
What to do now? — Oky,so I was trying to do Astral projection and I personally take it slow and want my body to adapt to situations and NOW after 1 month finally I started to feel vibration of my soul can any body tell…
Im 25F just met a 35M, Need advices on how to make it work — Hi. I need advices. Im 25F, I just met someone who is 35M. We’re like 10 years apart but I kinda like the idea of him being my boyfriend now. I know I shouldn’t and I just know the guy only for a mon…
My date (24m) of 18 days hasn't replied for almost 24 hours since I (26f) asked him to think about how he feels about me. Did I overdo it? — So at the beginning, we both said we wanted serious things and wanted to take it slow. 18 days, we have had 4 dates. I slept over at his place twice for around 5 days in total. I kind of felt like we …
broke up with my ex about a month or two ago, felt like sharing it — preamble: i had known this person for around 6 months beforehand, we went to school together and kind of just knew each other. let's call her Lica(not her real name). now, lica was very much obsesse…
I (19F) can't define my feelings for my fwb (18F) — I am at college and me and this girl became friends and basically yadda yadda we decided we like making out. So we have this for a while but we never actually "do it" mainly because i was too anxious …
You might want to look into relationship attachment styles, love bombing, and whether you're mistaking the slow burn as boring because it's stable and consistent. The excitement ppl often feel is actu…
My ex came back 4 times in 2 years. Every time the cycles were the same but condensed, like at first it was long nights of processing our breakup over text and finally meeting up and saying I love yo…
Take it slow. Your breakup was recent so let it breathe and give yourself space to come back to yourself. Pick up a new hobby or reconnect with old friends - just something to fill your time so you do…
I need to vent and word-vomit my story, in this community, as I just found it and it might really help me. Can someone tell me what they think? My avoidant attachment gf broke up with me (anxious att…
I've been working through my anxious attachment tendencies with my therapist, and I've been putting myself out there and going on dates. One thing I'm realizing I'm struggling with is needing to go sl…
First of all, I’ve known him for years we’ve only been dating for two months. Also for context he has a medical condition that if he isn’t drinking enough water his body shuts down. Hence why I though…
I think its cause of the constant messaging before meeting that gave me a false sense of closeness. She messaged me again yesterday saying that she would like to take it slow for a bit. So, I also don…
I (22F) have been in my first real and committed relationship for a month now. And I think I’m having anxiety over it and overthinking and thinking ahead way too soon. My boyfriend (24M) have known ea…
I hope you had a wonderful new year and that we can turn a fresh page for this year! I mean, we met online and I assumed it would be platonic, but sometimes he says things that feel so close. I gues…
That person, and actually everyone who replied to you, is bringing their own personal feelings into their assessment of your relationships. You and your two people aren't doing anything wrong as long …
Thank you, this sounds like a good idea! He is also post-divorce (2 years) and broke up with his most recent gf in December, so he might be wanting to take it slow too.
Thank you for this. It's a good idea but I don't think he's oriented that way. One of the reasons we wanted to take it slowly is because his life is a mess and on top of that he's very independent, on…
you really like him you say, and he was explicit in saying he wants to take it slow, but youre getting tired of his slow responses, want to see him more and difficulty planning dates - if those are de…
It seems like he said he’s into you but just wants to take it slow? If he really feels that way (and you like him too of course!), nothing to lose by taking it slow.
Having this insight is a great start. Many never do. Consider therapy if that is an option for you to help you understand and address it better. Tell him about it. Communication is huge. You may need…
Thanks. =) it does make me feel better to know there are single guys out there my age who are willing to take it slow. I dont want my life to feel like it’s on Hold anymore. I’m ready to do things hah…
Thanks. The music does help with my social anxiety, but even then, it's still hard to calm my nerves and think straight when talking to a woman I'm attracted to. I don't really know if it's a good ide…
No one is EVER complete. Humans evolve and change their whole lives. The important part when it comes to dating is that you are working towards personal goals related to your own "issues" like caring …
Personally I think you pushed too hard too fast for this woman. I am a woman also so I know the psychology . She already told you that she didn’t want to get serious with you “because of long distance…
Can you invite her over your place after dinner? It can be awkward to kiss in public. If not, go for a walk and find a bench somewhere. Touching might make you feel more comfortable if you guys aren't…
Second date last night went really well! We did make out at the end of the date and it was very fun :) I've always jumped immediately into very physical relationships so it's nice to take it slower (f…
Just to add to some of the excellent tips here: don't be in a hurry. I've meditated irregularly for decades. Part of the process for me, especially for the first few years, is/was experimentation. T…
You're not a horrible person, and what you describe sounds very consistent with avoidant attachment. You also seem to be aware, which is a huge step. Attachment style is something you can work on and …
My ex and I started talking again recently, after two years. We both have an understanding of what went wrong with the relationship. Our faults. And that they are going to need to be worked through if…
Here is a scenario. Imagine you met a fantastic guy who you really liked personally and as a prospective LTR. From the get-go, you advise him that you're not exclusive right now. Would you take it sl…
Agree! After a toxic whirlwind relationship I am now dating slowly and telling the guys I need to take it slow especially when it comes to sex. I believe sexual chemistry is important but at this stag…
Any advice on dating someone fresh out of a relationship? I recently met a cute, sweet woman and asked her out after talking a few times. She agreed and still wants to give me a chance, but she said t…
Well, I don't entirely know what the situation of her breakup was. Some people recover quickly, and others take longer. She at least seems pretty enthusiastic about seeing me, aside from that one fact…
Remember, ontological shock is real. There is *much* to integrate and if you feel overwhelmed, just take it slow. Protect your peace and clarity.
Before I fell well below the poverty line I couldn't afford therapy either. Now I'm sweating at every medicaid announcement but that's neither here nor there. I got ONE appointment before I lost my…
Casual dating (with or without casual sex) is the precursor to ENM or monogamy in my experience. Until a relationship becomes more emotionally meaningful and established, I don't classify it as anythi…
I went on two dates with this guy in Dec/Jan, both were great dates where we stayed out late. On the second date I asked him how he was feeling about our vibe, and he said he felt felt a connection, b…
I should have went instantly no contact but the way they broke up with me was brutal not only thag we talked about a 90 day break no contact no this or that but the whole time i livdd with them esp si…
I have been on and off it a few times for anxiety. I’ve never had an issue but I tend not to get side effects. Try it when you have nothing to do and nowhere to go. Make sure to have your comfort item…
yeah this part sucks fr, you not just losing a person... you lost a whole routine just take it slow, build your own vibe again, don’t isolate too much. it gets easier with time, promise
Dipped my toe into dating after 7 years single. Chatted online with a few guys, hit it off with one. Talked for a couple weeks as I had a trip coming up. Had a really great first date when I got back.…
You can tell her honestly and simply when it feels natural, without making it a big dramatic reveal. Focus on sharing your situation and values, not just the money, so she understands who you are. Tak…
Hey, you didn’t do anything wrong to begin with as far as running her off, so I hope you can let go of anything about that. Obviously you will be more true to yourself in the future, and have more h…
I don’t need a partner; I want the right one. I’m financially stable and live a pretty awesome life. I don’t need someone to show me how to live. I want someone with shared values who is capable of ef…
I think the photos are good, but when I read your profile, I have no idea what your looking or who you are. If I was a woman who was looking for a long term relationship, I would swipe left because …
Take it slow and discuss it in therapy. This is a great learning experience and you can navigate it with professional help!
I am dating two people at once and i feel terrible about it and i don’t want to lead them on anymore. I might have to end it with one tonight? It wasn’t intentional, i turned 36 and realised I wasn’t…
Yes kundalini awakened but from following a path of service to other and embodying Christic principles. Thankfully it has been a slow and gentle opening. My mother had a full blown one and was diagnos…
Sleep paralysis is the main way I project, but don't try to get it, if you get what I mean. Like I get it naturally when I nap, so I do it then, and that's okay, but aiming to get it all the time can …
M/over 50/no kids. Always wanted some but I have learned that if she is not a benefit to my life that exceeds the responsibility of the children then I should not get to know the kids. Stepping into …
Sounds like you are well on your way to build something solid! I like it! Take it slow and enjoy every step on the way! I’m rooting for you 🍀
There's a lot to sort out in this. Kids and jealous ex-wife. Take it slow, there's no need to rush into anything. It's far harder to get out of a situation once you're in it and things go sideways.
Either keep your baby or don't it's your choice and yours alone. Do what YOU want! I if in your shoes would go no contact with your cheater ex and tell him nothing about it. He will make your life ho…
Then if the apology is genuine enough just take it slow and if you feel your hearts in it, then give it a shot and be happy :)