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The person you responded to was talking only about sex when they said "take it slow" and you jumped in to object to them, so obviously your comment was read in that context. Perhaps next time you ca…
Great guy, but after 4 months, there's just no physical touch — I've been dating a great guy for about the last four months and we're a good fit in several different ways. We're both in our 40s, no kids, no previous marriages and have lived all over the world. We'…
Has anyone experienced a static electronic crackle? — Hi everyone, I've been doing Gateway for about 6 months now. I haven't finished the tapes, because I'm probably taking it slower than most and re-doing certain ones over and over. I try to set aside t…
Ex is back — I’m looking for some honest advice because my head is all over the place right now. I recently met up with my ex again after some time apart. It’s been about 6 months since we ended things, and we’ve…
I’m sorry to hear you had an experience like that. I do think my current relationship is a little more consistent than what you’ve described. We see each other usually at least once a week, more if we…
I’ve experienced all of the attachment styles in one way or another. What has been working for me is finding security in my friendships first. I’ve become so severely avoidant that im not pursuing a r…
Honestly where did you come to the conclusion you are FA and not AP, you definitely lean anxious and if that "work excuse" gal is secure, then yes she is taking it slow because she senses your insecur…
You wanted to see him; he didn't make plans. You didn't like that. It's generally a given that if you're in any kind of relationship with someone, they want to make time for you because they equally s…
This is often true of avoidants. But they actually can’t force themselves, and they certainly can’t force themselves *for you*. They have to want to be open, be able to communicate in advance that it …
Last night was a great reminder that overthinking isn’t reality. I’ve been out of town a lot for work and haven’t seen the guy I’ve been seeing much. A few weeks ago, he had a “your most compatible ha…
It seems like he said he’s into you but just wants to take it slow? If he really feels that way (and you like him too of course!), nothing to lose by taking it slow.
Things going well, but is it too good to be true? About 6 weeks in, seen eachother 2-3 times a week and spent weekends together. Obviously I (F32) did not do a good job at taking it slow…oh well. Am …
to some extent it feels like you’re chasing, either he’s not entirely as enthusiastic as you’re or maybe he’s taking it slow.
so I met this guy in September, we dated until early Jan when I broke it off. We had had the exclusive chat at some point and all good. we start chatting again and we hook up in February and are meet…
We are taking it slow because I’m going through a divorce! I’ve never been one to rush love either.
Only you can decide what pace is right for you. For me, taking it slow means avoiding obsession over novelty and giving myself time to process. I have to space the dates out. The exact timing isn’t …
They left me in July of last year. I've been on a handful of dates, a few hookups, but nothing seems to really interest me. I have my eye on someone but im taking it slow with her and if she finds som…
> Without measurable progress, people lose interest fast. Since "measurable progress" in this sentence is a euphemism for "sex", all I can say is LET THEM! That is the entire point of taking it slow…
Taking it slow with sex doesn't mean withholding all physical affection. And again, anyone who thinks sex is the only romantic form of physical affection is exactly who we are trying to weed out. It's…
It's great you have self-awareness, that's a big step! In FAs, deactivation can come from both abandonment and engulfment triggers. It may be good to think about what goes through your mind before you…
Original copy of post by u/Greedy_Flamingo1571: I've been dating a great guy for about the last four months and we're a good fit in several different ways. We're both in our 40s, no kids, no previous…
Whenever I read post posts/accounts like these (of which there are far too many), I inwardly grimace. This would not work for me, OP. 😬 Life is way too short (and getting shorter) to deal with meh or…
Did you ask him why he is taking it slow?
I’d bow out gracefully. I’m all for taking it slow but 4 months as a grown man without so much as a reciprocated hug? I think he needs some kind of therapy or something. Honestly, I think it’s stup…
I have my long-awaited fourth date with green-flag guy tomorrow. He's had his kids for the past week, so we haven't seen each other in-person at all... but we had long phone calls a couple times after…
Excited for you!!! I do love the yearning that comes from taking it slow - it's nice to actually feel the desire building rather than rushing into it all at once.
i think this right here is why dating is so fucked nowadays and people are having trouble. it’s really a vicious cycle. i have no problem taking it slow physically with someone if the reasoning is th…
I think maybe the best way to approach it is to match the pace of the person/people you’re talking to? Maybe being super transparent to people immediately could make them back off by either being “we…
The second time I had an AP, I was struggling to move and see but taking it slow. And at one point I tried to look around and it was like a light gauze was over my eyes, making everything sort of indi…
I can share all of them if you like, the process started about 1 year before the nex discard: \- My psych did a assessment of core childhood wounds (schemas) with me and then started on the ones that…
I am dating two people at once and i feel terrible about it and i don’t want to lead them on anymore. I might have to end it with one tonight? It wasn’t intentional, i turned 36 and realised I wasn’t…
Going to be honest, I was physical with B first, then we started taking it slow. I stopped being intimate with him. A month later A invited me to stay over and we were physical. So yeah not simultaneo…
OP, I previously replied to your post but I think after some reflection that I need to follow it up. Six months is such a short time. There is a reason why they say not to move in or make any big de…
Yeah sorry just got through some of the comments, what a strange man, you're well rid of him. Fancy agreeing to taking it slow before him elaborating his views on a healthy sex life. At least you didn…
Thank you for your advice I'm taking it slow by starting with energy sensing first.
We spoke today and both admitted that we miss each other and still feel empty and think of each other all the time. It felt good to know that he feels the same as I do. We agreed that we’d need to wor…
We are taking it slow, but it was something he brought up during our last date. As of now the next step is meeting each other's kids, and from there we kind of just play it out and see how that goes…
I think the answer you are looking for isn't so much as to weather to move in or not as it doesn't sound like you are at that stage. but meeting eachothers kids. Yes you absolutely should! I think it…
Taking it slow while you sort through your feelings seems way better than leading someone on or rushing into something you're not ready for.
I think you’re being too hard on yourself like something is wrong with you and you need to “fix yourself by gaining experience “ so this doesn’t happen again. There is absolutely nothing wrong with yo…
OMG yessss. It is to this day one of my biggest regrets because he was and is the love of my life. I left because he was in a bad place emotionally due to a previous breakup having an effect on his vi…
It’s hard to accept when things weren’t working out we both struggled a lot and I believe it showed sides of both of us that are definitely not who we are so I’m finding very hard to let go and move o…
What I did for me was I buzzed down there because I perceived like to have hair, and I drank a lot of water and ate some cranberry and pineapple. I took a shower before I saw my parter and the biggest…
Having the realization that the easier route for me is to jump in feet first to a new relationship. I want to text all day and flirt and send cute pictures and memes. I want to be thinking about him a…
Tonight’s the night! We both finally got our STI results back so we’re gonna get down. In the past I’ve gotten physical pretty early on, within the first 3 dates, so waiting over a month is new to me,…
If you're asking whether a dinner date is code for sex, I'd say definitely not (maybe just in some guys' minds). In my experience as a man almost his age (in the UK), I'd say dinner on the third date…
Biiig hug OP, you did such brave work here. You're safe now, and you got out. You're justified in blocking her and never interacting with her again, if that's what you need to be ok. You can explain t…
I absolutely agree. I’m not dating this new girl just went on a date with her and Vibin but def taking it slow and seeing where it goes.
I am surprised that you had two one year relationships recently. Could it be that you are stepping into relationship status too soon? I can see that women don’t want to be messed around but it takes m…
This is taking it slow?! 18 days; 4 dates; and already gf feels. you fell in too deep too fast. And no, it is not time to be exclusive/ label it. Step back and reevaluate whether yall are actually com…
It’s sad how many people comment how men assume sex is happening if invited in. I prefer making out and taking it slow. But i haven’t been aggressive enough in my dating life so maybe i should be doin…
I stopped avoiding the scale yesterday and to my pleasant surprise I'm not as large as I thought. I lost 30lbs but I still have another 30 to go. I've been taking it slowly and I decided yesterday tha…