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I’m so frustrated!!!!

The person you responded to was talking only about sex when they said "take it slow" and you jumped in to object to them, so obviously your comment was read in that context. Perhaps next time you ca…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/13/2026
Great guy, but after 4 months, there's just no physical touch

Great guy, but after 4 months, there's just no physical touch — I've been dating a great guy for about the last four months and we're a good fit in several different ways. We're both in our 40s, no kids, no previous marriages and have lived all over the world. We'…

r/datingoverfortypost3/13/2026
Has anyone experienced a static electronic crackle?

Has anyone experienced a static electronic crackle? — Hi everyone, I've been doing Gateway for about 6 months now. I haven't finished the tapes, because I'm probably taking it slower than most and re-doing certain ones over and over. I try to set aside t…

r/gatewaytapespost3/14/2026
Ex is back

Ex is back — I’m looking for some honest advice because my head is all over the place right now. I recently met up with my ex again after some time apart. It’s been about 6 months since we ended things, and we’ve…

r/BreakUpspost4/7/2026
Post-quality time cool down? Is this a pattern for DAs?

I’m sorry to hear you had an experience like that. I do think my current relationship is a little more consistent than what you’ve described. We see each other usually at least once a week, more if we…

r/attachment_theorycomment3/18/2025
How to heal avoidant attachment?

I’ve experienced all of the attachment styles in one way or another. What has been working for me is finding security in my friendships first. I’ve become so severely avoidant that im not pursuing a r…

r/attachment_theorycomment3/21/2025
Update

Honestly where did you come to the conclusion you are FA and not AP, you definitely lean anxious and if that "work excuse" gal is secure, then yes she is taking it slow because she senses your insecur…

r/attachment_theorycomment7/8/2025
How do you know what’s secure and what’s not in a partner?

You wanted to see him; he didn't make plans. You didn't like that. It's generally a given that if you're in any kind of relationship with someone, they want to make time for you because they equally s…

r/AnxiousAttachmentcomment12/18/2025
How do avoidant dynamics move forward — and when do they not?

This is often true of avoidants. But they actually can’t force themselves, and they certainly can’t force themselves *for you*. They have to want to be open, be able to communicate in advance that it …

r/attachment_theorycomment1/12/2026
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Last night was a great reminder that overthinking isn’t reality. I’ve been out of town a lot for work and haven’t seen the guy I’ve been seeing much. A few weeks ago, he had a “your most compatible ha…

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/13/2026
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It seems like he said he’s into you but just wants to take it slow? If he really feels that way (and you like him too of course!), nothing to lose by taking it slow.

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/16/2026
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Things going well, but is it too good to be true? About 6 weeks in, seen eachother 2-3 times a week and spent weekends together. Obviously I (F32) did not do a good job at taking it slow…oh well. Am …

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/16/2026
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to some extent it feels like you’re chasing, either he’s not entirely as enthusiastic as you’re or maybe he’s taking it slow.

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/17/2026
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so I met this guy in September, we dated until early Jan when I broke it off. We had had the exclusive chat at some point and all good. we start chatting again and we hook up in February and are meet…

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/18/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 08, 2026

We are taking it slow because I’m going through a divorce! I’ve never been one to rush love either.

r/datingoverthirtycomment3/9/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 11, 2026

Only you can decide what pace is right for you. For me, taking it slow means avoiding obsession over novelty and giving myself time to process. I have to space the dates out. The exact timing isn’t …

r/datingoverthirtycomment3/11/2026
how long has it been since your break up, and do you plan to date again/have you been dating?

They left me in July of last year. I've been on a handful of dates, a few hookups, but nothing seems to really interest me. I have my eye on someone but im taking it slow with her and if she finds som…

r/BreakUpscomment3/12/2026
I’m so frustrated!!!!

> Without measurable progress, people lose interest fast. Since "measurable progress" in this sentence is a euphemism for "sex", all I can say is LET THEM! That is the entire point of taking it slow…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/12/2026
I’m so frustrated!!!!

Taking it slow with sex doesn't mean withholding all physical affection. And again, anyone who thinks sex is the only romantic form of physical affection is exactly who we are trying to weed out. It's…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/12/2026
I'm learning myself

It's great you have self-awareness, that's a big step! In FAs, deactivation can come from both abandonment and engulfment triggers. It may be good to think about what goes through your mind before you…

r/AvoidantAttachmentcomment3/12/2026
Great guy, but after 4 months, there's just no physical touch

Original copy of post by u/Greedy_Flamingo1571: I've been dating a great guy for about the last four months and we're a good fit in several different ways. We're both in our 40s, no kids, no previous…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/13/2026
Great guy, but after 4 months, there's just no physical touch

Whenever I read post posts/accounts like these (of which there are far too many), I inwardly grimace. This would not work for me, OP. 😬 Life is way too short (and getting shorter) to deal with meh or…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/13/2026
Great guy, but after 4 months, there's just no physical touch

Did you ask him why he is taking it slow?

r/datingoverfortycomment3/13/2026
Great guy, but after 4 months, there's just no physical touch

I’d bow out gracefully. I’m all for taking it slow but 4 months as a grown man without so much as a reciprocated hug? I think he needs some kind of therapy or something. Honestly, I think it’s stup…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/13/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 16, 2026

I have my long-awaited fourth date with green-flag guy tomorrow. He's had his kids for the past week, so we haven't seen each other in-person at all... but we had long phone calls a couple times after…

r/datingoverthirtycomment3/16/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 16, 2026

Excited for you!!! I do love the yearning that comes from taking it slow - it's nice to actually feel the desire building rather than rushing into it all at once.

r/datingoverthirtycomment3/16/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 19, 2026

i think this right here is why dating is so fucked nowadays and people are having trouble. it’s really a vicious cycle. i have no problem taking it slow physically with someone if the reasoning is th…

r/datingoverthirtycomment3/19/2026
Am too transparent

I think maybe the best way to approach it is to match the pace of the person/people you’re talking to? Maybe being super transparent to people immediately could make them back off by either being “we…

r/selfhelpcomment3/22/2026
How I finally "tricked" my analytical mind and shifted from AP to Eversong Woods

The second time I had an AP, I was struggling to move and see but taking it slow. And at one point I tried to look around and it was like a light gauze was over my eyes, making everything sort of indi…

r/AstralProjectioncomment3/25/2026
Something I wished I had heard about sooner when I struggled leaving my now nex that would've made me leave a lot earlier.

I can share all of them if you like, the process started about 1 year before the nex discard: \- My psych did a assessment of core childhood wounds (schemas) with me and then started on the ones that…

r/NarcissisticAbusecomment3/26/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 26, 2026

I am dating two people at once and i feel terrible about it and i don’t want to lead them on anymore. I might have to end it with one tonight? It wasn’t intentional, i turned 36 and realised I wasn’t…

r/datingoverthirtycomment3/27/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 27, 2026

Going to be honest, I was physical with B first, then we started taking it slow. I stopped being intimate with him. A month later A invited me to stay over and we were physical. So yeah not simultaneo…

r/datingoverthirtycomment3/27/2026
Boyfriend with a mentally ill ex wife.

OP, I previously replied to your post but I think after some reflection that I need to follow it up. Six months is such a short time. There is a reason why they say not to move in or make any big de…

r/relationshipscomment3/28/2026
Intentionally having bad sex?

Yeah sorry just got through some of the comments, what a strange man, you're well rid of him. Fancy agreeing to taking it slow before him elaborating his views on a healthy sex life. At least you didn…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/29/2026
Breaking Through the Barrier

Thank you for your advice I'm taking it slow by starting with energy sensing first.

r/energy_workcomment3/29/2026
Who wants their ex back?

We spoke today and both admitted that we miss each other and still feel empty and think of each other all the time. It felt good to know that he feels the same as I do. We agreed that we’d need to wor…

r/BreakUpscomment3/30/2026
Me (35F) and I think I found the love of my life (40M) but there's one serious problem.

We are taking it slow, but it was something he brought up during our last date. As of now the next step is meeting each other's kids, and from there we kind of just play it out and see how that goes…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/30/2026
Me (35F) and I think I found the love of my life (40M) but there's one serious problem.

I think the answer you are looking for isn't so much as to weather to move in or not as it doesn't sound like you are at that stage. but meeting eachothers kids. Yes you absolutely should! I think it…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/30/2026
I don’t know what I’m doing with my life

Taking it slow while you sort through your feelings seems way better than leading someone on or rushing into something you're not ready for.

r/BreakUpscomment4/1/2026
Went on my first date in 16 years and I have ALOT of questions!

I think you’re being too hard on yourself like something is wrong with you and you need to “fix yourself by gaining experience “ so this doesn’t happen again. There is absolutely nothing wrong with yo…

r/datingoverfortycomment4/1/2026
Female dumpers, have you ever regretted leaving someone?

OMG yessss. It is to this day one of my biggest regrets because he was and is the love of my life. I left because he was in a bad place emotionally due to a previous breakup having an effect on his vi…

r/BreakUpscomment4/4/2026
Read this!!! you need it.

It’s hard to accept when things weren’t working out we both struggled a lot and I believe it showed sides of both of us that are definitely not who we are so I’m finding very hard to let go and move o…

r/BreakUpscomment4/4/2026
Bf M18 wants to give me F18 head for the first time, how can I prepare?

What I did for me was I buzzed down there because I perceived like to have hair, and I drank a lot of water and ate some cranberry and pineapple. I took a shower before I saw my parter and the biggest…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/7/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - April 07, 2026

Having the realization that the easier route for me is to jump in feet first to a new relationship. I want to text all day and flirt and send cute pictures and memes. I want to be thinking about him a…

r/datingoverthirtycomment4/7/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - April 07, 2026

Tonight’s the night! We both finally got our STI results back so we’re gonna get down. In the past I’ve gotten physical pretty early on, within the first 3 dates, so waiting over a month is new to me,…

r/datingoverthirtycomment4/7/2026
Does a Dinner Date = Sex in 2026? 🧐🤷🏾‍♀️

If you're asking whether a dinner date is code for sex, I'd say definitely not (maybe just in some guys' minds). In my experience as a man almost his age (in the UK), I'd say dinner on the third date…

r/datingoverfortycomment4/7/2026
Platonic friend hangout ended up not being that at all

Biiig hug OP, you did such brave work here. You're safe now, and you got out. You're justified in blocking her and never interacting with her again, if that's what you need to be ok. You can explain t…

r/CPTSDcomment4/7/2026
Do you guys ever feel guilty dating/ seeing people after a break up?

I absolutely agree. I’m not dating this new girl just went on a date with her and Vibin but def taking it slow and seeing where it goes.

r/BreakUpscomment4/8/2026
Exhusted and back to square zero..

I am surprised that you had two one year relationships recently. Could it be that you are stepping into relationship status too soon? I can see that women don’t want to be messed around but it takes m…

r/datingoverfortycomment4/9/2026
My date (24m) of 18 days hasn't replied for almost 24 hours since I (26f) asked him to think about how he feels about me. Did I overdo it?

This is taking it slow?! 18 days; 4 dates; and already gf feels. you fell in too deep too fast. And no, it is not time to be exclusive/ label it. Step back and reevaluate whether yall are actually com…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/11/2026
Protocol on inviting someone back to your place?

It’s sad how many people comment how men assume sex is happening if invited in. I prefer making out and taking it slow. But i haven’t been aggressive enough in my dating life so maybe i should be doin…

r/datingoverfortycomment4/11/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - April 12, 2026

I stopped avoiding the scale yesterday and to my pleasant surprise I'm not as large as I thought. I lost 30lbs but I still have another 30 to go. I've been taking it slowly and I decided yesterday tha…

r/datingoverthirtycomment4/12/2026