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It's clearly a HORRIBLE character-fault in me that I'm in favor of kindness and not reading things in the worst possible sense. Of course insecurity makes it more challenging to have a good sex-life,…

Girlfriend told me she was going to kill herself on my birthday. My attachment was almost healed or so i thought - all of that is in shambles now. — There were a lot of other red flags I have previously chosen to ignore, but this is what made me wake up. I suppose after hiding from people and feelings for so long, I felt like if I just broke it of…

My father is sabotaging my career and medical treatments through "smear campaigns" and monitoring. I feel like I'm living in a Truman Show nightmare. — ​I (25F) am an Indian doctor currently preparing for NEET PG, and I am living with a family led by a malignant narcissistic father. My mother and brother are complete enablers. I’m writing this becaus…

I almost shifted and i’m TERRIFIED — My friend told me about shifting today, and I decided to search it up on TikTok. I found it interesting, yet I didn’t believe it. I decided to try anyways, and I think it almost worked. I had my DR r…

I Genially Think My (35F) Husband (36M) is a Psychopath — Hi everyone, please I need help. I’m 35F and my husband is 36M. We’ve been married for 10 years and have two boys (7 and 5). I honestly don’t know what to think anymore. About three months ago my hus…

I feel like I am probably wasting my potential because of family and not making a decision that I should?! — Today I was just enjoying the day. The weather felt quite warmer than few days ago. Love the spring season! Then I started wondering... Started thinking like how I feel that I am at a stage where i sh…

My (29F) brother (34M) asked me if he ‘still has a sister’ because I’m not excited enough about his baby. How do I fix this? — My (29F) brother (34M) and his girlfriend (31F) are expecting a baby in May. I’m happy for them because I know they really wanted a kid, but I don’t feel particularly excited about becoming an aunt. W…

I’m scared of everything I love becoming old and I’m scared of the world right now — Okay so for starters I’ve always hated time, I hate it so much and I don’t know why, the thought of years passing makes me feel so uncomfortable and I just want to go back in time to when things were …

Im so scared im feel like im going to theow up please help me — Im so scared about loosing my grandparents, i believe this is because of when my mom died a few years ago and now im like terrified of loosing my grandparents i dont know what to do. Btw my grandparen…

parents found out about bf — i’m indian 22f and my parents found about my bf (same age) who is from a different race and culture (we live in the US). my mom seemed to be open to it but my dad lost his shit. told me to stop it imm…

My cop husband cheated and now I can't trust him when he leaves for night shift. — My husband became a cop in 2024 and our entire relationship changed. We've been together since 2019 and we have three kids. Before this, I truly believed he was loyal and strong. He always told me he…

Is it possible to feel extremely terrified of a parent even if they never hit you or directly insulted you? — My father always seemed to have this kind of “sinister aura.” Being around him felt tense, like walking past a sleeping tiger you absolutely must not wake. Like one wrong move and he’d be ready to tea…

33f. Divorcing, plenty of love, no infidelity, almost 20 years, just incompatible. — I’m heartbroken. Husband and I have been together for the best part of 20 years. Met when we were teens. Truly love one another, deeply. We’ve had a pretty dead bedroom for most of our time together. …

Started gateway this week. I’m confused — Hello! I admittedly don’t have the most knowledge about the gateway tapes. I’ve listening to a couple podcast episodes about them but it sounded like this intense experience where you will astral pr…

My ex-wife tried to kill me a few years ago. She just moved in three houses down from me. — I’m struggling with how to even process this. A few years back, things with my ex-wife reached a breaking point. She was struggling with substance abuse, alcohol and pills, and I had discovered she’d …

Horrified to find myself talk to my baby the way my mom used to talk to me — I grew up with two parents who hated each other but stayed married. They were also emotionally very distant and verbally & physically abusive to me (they'd beat me up sometimes). I don't ever remember…

I don't know the difference between what's real or not anymore — I don't really know where to start other than this experience was over the weekend, and it made me see things in a different way. On Saturday night, I took a gummy, I dabble in it to help with my anxi…

As long as your ex knows you will always take them back, they will never truly want nor respect you — Now how come it is this way? How come you need to walk away, abandon them and put yourself first in order for them realize what they had? And why can’t your ex just put their pride and ego aside, st…

meningitis outbreak — actually terrified 😭 even though its in kent, i’m in outer london ; my health anxiety is awful and im so stressed

Health anxiety returned full force after purchasing a home — I’ve had a tough year to begin with after a family member passed away unexpectedly in front of me, but then I purchased my first home and thought it would be something to look forward to. Instead, I…

My best friend (F35) with BPD has dropped off the radar and I (F30) don’t know if inviting her to my wedding will be too much pressure or not involving her will hurt more. What should I do? — My best friend and I met 8 years ago at work. Our friendship was very full on as we worked together and lived in the same city but even when we both left the city we met in, we stayed in close touch. …

so anxious when alone — i don't know what to do but i'm moving out this weekend with my girlfriend but i'm so incredibly anxious... i got a surgery 3 weeks ago so my girlfriend is already doing some stuff in the apartment wh…

Pulling the trigger but terrified, Male 48 — I'm a male, 48 years old. Married for 24 years to a woman two years older than me. I'm sure my story isn't unique, but here it is anyway. On the outside, we look like a great couple. We have a teena…

I am ruining my life and I feel like i cant stop it — Hello everyone and let me say thank you for taking the time to read and/or respond. Our time is valuable and I want you to know thst I genuinely appreciate you giving your time to a stranger... This …

How do I (39F) forgive my husband (39M) for making a fake vet appt for our senior dog? — My husband and I have been together for 10 years, married for 4, and have 2 kids with another on the way. We have also been best friends since we were in middle school up until we started dating. A …

How do you guys manage? — ... being single with no physical touch, especially after exiting a long marriage? As a woman in my early 40s and actively on Bumble, I made it very clear that I'm seeking a longterm relationship. I …

30 Years in "Functional Freeze": How I mistook Survival for Personality — For three decades, I lived in a state of high-functioning freeze. I was the "perfect" and reliable son, but internally, I felt like a total fraud. I grew up with a mother who used the Silent Treatment…

Has anybody encountered him before? — I don’t know how to start, but this “Purple Ghost,” as I named him when I was young, still plays an important spiritual role in my life. When I was a child, I used to dream about him often, or rather…

change feels really scary — i’m a senior in highschool right now, and as cringey as it sounds, i feel so terrified right now because of how much everything is changing. none of my close friends are going to go to the same colleg…

I (21M) have survived two decades of severe physical, emotional, and financial abuse from my Indian parents. I'm finally exhausted and need to tell my story. I am not free yet. — # TL;DR: I'm a 20-year-old only child in India who has endured severe physical, verbal, emotional, and financial abuse from my parents since toddlerhood. They have beaten me, medically neglected me, …

Really bad random energy all in one day — Hi I just had a really strange and off putting day and I’m in shock. The day started off pretty good, I woke up pretty refreshed, i met up with my friend Chi and we had a good time, then later on I me…

Positive or negative sex energy — I’ve always liked the idea of opening my marriage up. However, the past couple years I’ve been doing a lot of internal work. I’ve done various mushroom journeys and have found that I am a strong empat…

She admits the lies and secrecy, but still denies anything physical — I’m posting because I feel like I’m losing my grip on what is real, and I need perspective from people who understand trickle truth, repeated minimizing, and what it feels like when someone admits jus…

I astral projected to someone's house and they saw me and wet terrified — I have recently unintentionally been astral projecting and most of the time I just be in my room and fly about my area however this time I was flying and ended up in someone's house they were watching…

I (38M) was just sent proof that my fiancé (35F) has a recently active hinge profile. — My fiancé has been acting really distant lately. I'm currently dealing with some health issues and she seems more focused on her work then helping me through my current health struggles. We have bee…

Coming to terms with the fact that I am a stalker, and I'm not sure where to go from here — I met a girl online about 4-5 months ago, and she basically love bombed me. Was super into me, kept pushing to meet, and told me she loved me. I was initially really indifferent about the whole thing …

Divorce is Finalized BUT… WTF is wrong with me? — I’m 56 years old. My divorce was finalized in January. My wife was given three months by the mediator to move out of our home. I should say my home since I bought it and paid it off before we were mar…

I’m 31, but I just realized I’ve been emotionally 4 years old my entire life. — Hey everyone, I’m having a massive breakthrough and I need to put this into words. I finally understand why my life has felt like a performance for 30 years, and why I’m suddenly "falling apart" now …

07/2013 — I may have finally found a place to talk about my experience, but if this doesn't belong here, I'm sorry and please point me in the right direction to another thread. First, thank you to anyone who …

Sleep Paralysis and OBE's — I have had sleep paralysis and experienced some very scary things. I've always been fascinated with OBE's as a result but also terrified to try the Monroe Tapes properly in case I trigger a sleep pa…

My dads been exposed by three siblings and my mom still has done nothing — I was the first to say something. It took me over ten years only to find out my youngest sister had told my mom about him showing her “videos.” Now at 12 a.m. in the morning, the police are in my hous…

I (24F) am pregnant by my (27M) boyfriend after a toxic relationship full of love bombing, lies, and sexual assault. I feel like i have no way out. What should I do? — Hi Reddit, I don’t even know where to start, but I’m at my breaking point and I really hope you can help me. I’m 24, my boyfriend is 27. We’ve been together for two years and have been living togethe…

Apartment — This is something of a long story. I'll do the TL;DR up front. I've finally gotten housing, the apartment is beautiful. It's in the heart of a small city, in an ideal location for myself and my son. I…

Am I doing the right thing? F42, — So I'm 42 female.. been engaged for the last 4 years..to a great guy.. but from day one there hasn't been the intimacy there from my side.. I fell for his caring and funny side but over the years the …

I attached things that were special for me to my ex, now I’m scared of reliving them. — Some exemples: Harry Potter, I love those movies, and they became our comfort films… Now I’m scared of rewatching them by myself cause I don’t know if my feelings about it will come back or if it’ll j…

My horrible mushroom trip by Jimmy Burnt — It all started during an environmental school excusion/protest. I had packed my lunch that day, drank my water, dressed well and expected nothing to happen. To preface I live in Sydney and lived aro…

I can't stop APing on accident and want to stop — Around 6-8 months ago, I was really into the idea of astral projecting. I tried for months with meditations and sounds, but nothing came of it. A few weeks after I stopped trying, I APed and had one o…

Severe loneliness — How do I bring up severe loneliness in therapy. I feel such a disconnect and like I’ll never make new friends or ever find a girlfriend. I’ve often resorted to parasocial relationships with random cel…

Severe loneliness — I feel such a disconnect and like I’ll never make new friends or ever find a girlfriend. I’ve often resorted to parasocial relationships with random celebrities/ characters to try and fill the void on…

Meeting with my ex — Hi, it's been over 3 months since we broke up (over the phone) after 3years of being together. Today marks the day we've been 2 months in no contact. 2 months ago I offered to come over and drop off …

Can't stop thinking I have a tumor - seeking support — Hi everyone, A couple of weeks ago I had a routine trip to my local Opticians to update my prescription and by extention get some new glasses. I have pretty terrible eyesight which usually over a 2 …

There aren't many but as far as I can tell there are a couple which could qualify. 1. Escapism. Just like anything fun, let alone of the "reality substitute" type, there is the potential to use it e…

I want to Ap but as a kid I watched a lot of sci fi demonic movies and my mom would study Wiccan culture so I’m like ehhhhh what’s going to happen to me will I get stuck there will something else tak…

Fuck man I’m so terrified this is gonna be me. My ex cheated on me and messed me up too. It’s been like 2 months and she’s moved on and I’m still obsessed.

PLEASE READ IF YOUR LOOKING INTO ASTRAL PROJECTING. About 2 months ago I was looking extremely deep into astral projecting, once I seen what it was I was instantly drawn to it and thought it was inter…

I’m in the same boat as you. Also an FA, mostly secure but get sucked into anxious attachment with someone who is very avoidant. I’ve also said goodbye to some avoidant friends! I’ve done alot of hea…

He was definitely avoidant and also very emotionally unavailable so maybe I’ve confusing the two! I also like to take things slow, and hate rushing into anything as I’ve gotten older but there’s slo…

Yes. It's the guilt that keeps us ruminating, I think. But, it's important to remember that it really is only partially -- perhaps even only *very* partially -- about us and our actions. The avoidant …

Congratulations on holding firm and not over-extending yourself! I know how hard it can be to not do that. In fact I've never really been able to prevent myself doing that. You have won a major victo…

Ahh, I'm sorry to hear that. I would say just take away from it all that she loved you, but, was too terrified or overwhelmed to go further with you.

You say you want an anxious one until they’re crashing out on you all the time for minor stuff.  Honestly a lot of avoidant aren’t bad people. I too can be both so I know how both sides act and react…

He wasn’t hardly speaking to me at all. He was trying to show up and listen to me, offer advice, etc., but could easily get very irritated and ‘bitey’ with me. He wasn’t doing the things he enjoyed. …

Yes, I understand that. But he didn’t start really triggering my AP until about 2 years in. Please know this: I am not placing all of the blame into his lap. This period made it very clear what…

I do have issues with Sam Altman, yes. He is pushing unregulated technology that perhaps has a great usecase for many but he's pushing it so hard that it's deeply hurting every day people so he can ma…

’m in a really difficult spot with my boyfriend. We’ve been together since late 2021, and recently he’s been second-guessing our relationship. I think im anxious and he’s avoidant. I’m 22 and he’s 25 …

I’ve recently got into a new relationship with a great guy, it’s been about 3 months and before this we were dating exclusively for the previous 3. We are technically long distance but I spend 80% of …

I'm a 51-year-old man, divorced twice, with autism and severe anxiety. I've been completely socially isolated with no friends. I met a woman online 6 weeks ago and we've had 1.5 in-person dates. I'm f…

What I'm going to say is not going to sound intuitive at all and is going to be scary, but it's honestly one of the practices and shifts I made that has led me to being secure. It took a lot of therap…

I'm (23f) currently a few days post broke up and naturally it has been devastating. I broke up with my boyfriend (23m) because after 7 months ultimately because he didn't love me. He said he was …

Dating is one of my biggest struggles in life. I think I am disorganized leaning avoidant attached. I have never been able to date. When I was younger I didn't understand how people do it because of h…

my bf and i have been together for a few months, and recently (past two weeks) we've been getting into quite a bit of fights. i think it's mostly coming from us being stressed - studies and i've been …

I (19M) have recently found out about this whole attachment style thing, and realized that I definitely have an anxious attachment style. Me and my boyfriend (18M) have been dating (long distance) for…

Guy I’ve been seeing asked me over and now I feel repulsed and don’t want to talk to him again. I don’t even dislike anything about him. This happens with every guy I romantically involve myself with …

So my two year relationship ended last month. It sucks. I didn't want it to end, but I can see now that it was ultimately for the best. We both tried our best. I'm trying to be kind to myself and not …

Rave warning. I’ve been dating someone for the past few weeks, our communication styles and expectations match on word 100%. He seems absolutely wonderful and makes me feel positively safe, and most …

Dunno if it's just my city, but I'm seeing a lot of those tiktok influencer/therapyspeak buzzwords on the apps ("intentional", "courtship", "90s love"). Am I the only one mildly terrified when I see a…

That’s huge - so you know he isn’t seeing something else. I would ask about exclusivity. I always assume someone I meet online is dating others and I do not sleep with people who I am not exclusive wi…

SAME -- I already brought this up with her because I'm fucking *terrified* of the dentist. She apologized on behalf of her profession and the other dentists that traumatized me. lmao, also, the ot…

First date this week since my divorce. I’m a curvy girl, and I am terrified he will reject me since i’m not skinny and i have a belly. It’s stupid I KNOW. Terrified anyway. Wish me luck!

Just a vent. I guess romantic relationships are not for me. It never works. When I am single I feel fine, never lonely and never bored. But then whenever I start having feelings for a man sooner or…

I agree about the stakes. But I guess for different reasons. I don't even understand why the stakes are higher but I guess I must feel they are if I am so terrified to lose someone who I don't know al…

Posted this in r/relationshipanxiety but I'm sure people here would understand: I think I just want some reassurance more than anything honestly. I have been dating this guy since November and we bot…

Thank you, yeah it's definitely not lack of motivation but mustering up the courage. I am a naturally anxious person Anyway, so add this on top of that, I feel terrified. I thought when he wasn't mess…

That's really interesting. We are both neurodivergent, which is also why I think potentially we have both been too subtle for one another to pick up "cliues". So far, I have just asked him if he would…

Sometimes! It's a trick of being open and friendly enough, and being aware of social cues. Someone has headphones on, looks stressed or rushed, is staring at their phone, etc. - do not approach. Someo…

Normally people are all "hehe I have a crush". NOT ME, NOPE. Just finished crashing out because I have a crush on someone who I'm not only potentially compatible with, BUT there's also baseline attrac…

Is this love or just the comfort of being chosen? I'm 23M working in Bangalore and have always been the type who never dated or had much experience with girls. To change that, I started attending soc…

I was seeing someone casually which is objectively ideal for me since I do not have very much free time, and am older and not looking to marry again. I have worked on my anxiety a lot and felt like I…

I know when I got healthier I didn't feel a crazy electric spark of a crush at first. My feelings were quiet for my now boyfriend when we first got close and were flirting. I liked him, but I was terr…

32f, went on a first date this weekend. I thought it went well. I texted him after the date, asking if he wanted to meet again. He responded with a very nice, but ultimately a “no” text. I responded k…

Nope. Having kids has always terrified me, tbh. Two years ago at 36, I finally decided to make it permanent and got a vasectomy done, and it has been a huge weight off my mind ever since. I’ve got n…

So he answered this to my "breakup message" (a bit below). His response: "Can we at least call each other tomorrow to settle this up.. I just don’t know what to say anymore". What do I even say? Wh…

>it seems like trying to reason with her about all the things she engaged in with me is futile. YUP absolutely correct she not only will not care but also percieve you as pathethic and desperate whil…

Struggling hard with breakup plans. I feel like this is not going anywhere, approaching 2 year mark and I'm not as committed as id like, there are a lot of incompatible problems being swept under the …

Men, what would you reply if you were texting for around 2 weeks with a woman on a dating app, then she went missing, then she sent you a text apologizing for disappearing and saying she started seein…

How do women typically feel about single dads? I see plenty of love (or at least not minding) for single mums, but rarely much discussion on the dads. I'm 32 and am just now getting back into the dati…

Tired and sort of terrified. :(

Insecurity loves company.  He's terrified people won't think you're cool and as a result wont think he's cool.   Id consider this a red flag. People like this can get in your head. 

I always thought this but idk... my boyfriend is just terrified of psychedelics and I just worry he's never going to be able to have a good trip in his life so I don't push it.

Thank you, you’re so kind! I think you are right, “protecting your peace” is key. And that looks different to different people, circumstances, and can change over time. For years now, not respondi…

Don’t bother talking to him. He’s shown you over and over again who he is. Don’t waste years of your life with a man who treats you like this. Break up and find a real partner but get therapy first so…